you can't oppression olympics your way out of how your trauma affected you.
"other people had it worse" bitch! I don't care! just from looking at you it's plain and obvious that you've had a time of it! a person can drown in six inches of water, it doesn't matter if someone else is drowning in ten feet! you're both still fucking drowning! show yourself a little bit of compassion before I come over there and do it for you. this is a threat
A thing that helped me internalize this was allowing myself to be more private. Being able to accept that "I have trauma" is a full sentence, and doesn't require you to explain or categorize what happened to you. Once I allowed myself to leave a lot more things unsaid, I was able to accept the idea that other people were leaving things unsaid too, and that so many parts of each other's lives are unknowable to each other that trying to make comparisons is very often silly.

















