losing dog

carla. 27. intp.

[catboyllawliet]

i also have a great fear that i just have a really low tolerance for discomfort and i will feel like this at any job i’m ever at, but also the only Real jobs i’ve ever had have been as a barista so maybe i just hate being a barista lol

[catboyllawliet]

i put in my 2 weeks at work and i have 6 shifts left, but for some reason the fact that the end is in sight makes it so much harder. like i’m literally dreading my shift tomorrow and i wish i could just end it now😖

[heartseeker]

me immediately after hanging out with someone: was i Weird and Cringe. do i need to be imprisoned

[seymourworld]

was 2024 a good year for you and do you remember it*

i had a good 2024 and i remember

i had a good 2024 and i dont remember

neutral/mixed 2024 and remember

neutral/mixed 2024 and dont remember

bad 2024 and i remember

bad 2024 and i dont remember

i remember so little that i dont know how 2024 was

Voting ended onJun 21

*determine how much or how little counts as Remembering by whatever feels right. you do not need to remember every waking second of the year or have it completely wiped from your mind to say you do or dont remember respectively

i feel like i know a lot of people who had just a horrible 2024 and/or they dont remember the year at all so i have to see the stats on this

[aomitois]

rb and tag your favorite song that's not in english, japanese or korean

[fairycosmos]

one day i will snap out of it im sure

[abandonedniche]

oh so some people can just listen to a song and understand the lyrics

[abandonedniche]

what if you’re all lying

[abandonedniche]

not even an exaggeration

[constantlyfalling]

the sky through branches @inprnt

[the-most-sublime-fool]

The enshittification antidote list

making a post with info about what kind of switches i've made or intend to make to stop using tech that overenshittified, became evil, etc. 

(i originally included it as an addition to another post, but since i know a lot of people are rightfully pissed off about google right now and looking to make some changes, i thought i'd post it separately too to make it easier to find.)

Replace: Netflix etc.

kanopy - available through public libraries and universities. check if yours has it. if not, ask them what they do have for streaming, and/or ask if they can look into joining kanopy!

beamafilm

hoopla - another library-related service, also with audiobooks and music; suggested by @shiveringsoldier

internet archive - have a look around. there are tonnes of good classic film options! i have some good stuff bookmarked, hmu if you want links

also yeah, do go to your local cinema! 📽️🍿

Replace: Audible/Amazon eBooks

available through public libraries:

libby

borrowbox

cloudlibrary

freely available to anyone:

project gutenberg - the GOAT!!! over 75,000 free public domain ebooks!

gutenberg.net.au - PG's australian sister site, which has books that are still under copyright in the u.s., as well as a wealth of australiana, australian history, and australian records

faded page- same idea as PG. this one is canadian so this is where you can also source public domain canadiana and canadian history.

librivox - the audiobook version of PG (free public domain audiobooks read by volunteers). it's a great concept, but be forewarned that the app's interface is really, truly awful.

Replace: Google search

there are a lot of lists out there, like this post i recently reblogged, so the good news is you have lots of options! remember that google still makes most of its $ from its search function, so making the switch is absolutely worth it even if you still use their other services.

anyway, the post i linked goes way more in-depth, but here are a few i've tried and liked:

qwant - my current go-to

4get- i intended to try this one but forgot, adding it because i think it'll be good

mojeek - it's like using google from 2005 (/pos)

marginalia search - it has a smaller pool of sources so you won't always get results, but you can find older, text-heavy websites, with commercial content filtered out.

Replace: Chrome

i think we all know this one but just in case...

firefox!!! 🔥🦊 with ublock origin installed as an ad blocker

Replace: Google Suite (Gmail, Google Drive, Docs, etc.)

proton - it has mail, docs, sheets, storage, etc. see if you can share a plan with someone or join with your family because there are two-person and family plans that are more affordable.

otherwise, you can split it up and use multiple services, e.g. tuta for email, sync for storage, ellipsus for docs, etc. 

Replace: Google Maps

organic maps

your public transport org's website/app

Replace: Facebook, Instagram, Tiktok, etc.

tumblr, lol. 

"but how will i stay in touch with my friends?"

talk to your friends. message them and say, "here's my email address, here's my phone number, here's my mailing address, what's yours? i'm leaving the app and i'd like to stay in touch." then, do that. make sure to reach out to them and invite them to hang out or just start a conversation using one of the above methods.

"how will i find out about what's going on near me?"

genuinely, read posters on lampposts and community billboards. 

see if your city/area has a website that shows upcoming events and keep an eye on it. 

find orgs/venues/galleries/theatres near you that do cool stuff and sign up for their mailing lists. 

ask people for recommendations.

go for a walk through an interesting neighbourhood. have a look around.

"but i need more human connection! i like feeling connected to people i don't know and hearing all kinds of different perspectives."

postcrossing!!! i love it so much! send and receive postcards to and from different people around the world 💌

get a penpal! there are different penpal finding websites and subreddits out there, like global penfriends and r/penpals.

tandem for language exchange

"what about facebook groups?"

i get it, if you're already in a group you want to participate in it's a bit tough because you don't want to ask the group to relocate just for you. but fwiw, meetup and butter provide similar functions. 

"what about facebook marketplace?"

yard sales

charity sales

op shops

whatever website equivalent exists in your area (kijiji, gumtree, etc.)

Replace: Spotify

this is a switch i haven't made yet. but from what i've heard, qobuz or deezer are good streaming alternatives.

support artists by purchasing music through bandcamp

also support artists by buying merch from their websites.

Replace: Goodreads

storygraph - i think it's pretty well-known, but just in case!

Replace: What's App

signal - even if you can only convince a couple people to move over and you still talk to other people on what's app, that's still a couple more conversations zuckerberg doesn't have his grubby little hands on. also, the more people make the switch, the more people will follow.

Replace: YouTube

newpipe - @aximili came in clutch with this one. it's an android app that's basically an ad-free, tracking-free youtube. i haven't tried it yet but i'm stoked about it because i despise youtube but didn't know any alternatives for it.

Replace: General mindless scrolling

ok, here's what i do.

download one of the aforementioned ebook apps (libby, borrowbox, cloudlibrary, or else open up project gutenberg if you can't get those) and take out an ebook.

when you find yourself scrolling endlessly on some social media app and you realise you want to stop but you just can't seem to get off your phone, switch over to your ebook app and read instead. (this will work best if you choose light but interesting ebooks that won't feel like a massive cerebral leap from passive media consumption, at least to start with).

even if it's just a couple of pages, it'll feel more productive and break the cycle of endless scrolling.

Parting words

it's a marathon, not a sprint. don't try to switch a bunch of stuff at once or you're setting yourself up to fail. take it one small step at a time. build new habits. figure out what works for you. i'm currently about two months into transitioning off of gmail/google suite and i've still got a while to go. i have over a decade's worth of files and photos to transfer over, and god knows how many accounts and contacts linked to my gmail. that switch doesn't happen overnight. you just gotta start and it takes as long as it takes. but the payoff is regaining control over your data, mental health, and spare time ✌️

[solitairians]

listening to an album you used to love but overplayed for yourself after a really long time after the overplayedness has worn off and it sounds like it's supposed to again is the closest to being in heaven you can get during your mortal life i think

[heat--end]

i haaaate being avoidant. it makes you feel like the world's biggest jackass whenever someone tries to talk to you or whatever and you just Freeze Up

[heat--end]

Oh sorry i took a long ass time to reply and didnt say anything. I got arbitrarily scared and tired myself out so now i cant say much. Oopsie teehee. it makes you feel like a huge dickhead

[dk-thrive]

Twilight Blue. 5:23 to 5:33 am. 52º F, with light rain. May 14, 2026. Cove Island Park, Stamford, CT. (@dkct25)

[faustique]

there's a special place in my heart for people who made an effort to be my friend regardless of how quiet or distant i can get at times

[santapau]

“Abyssal”, new Secret Knots comic.

[badassdemonsword-deactivated202]

letterboxd really makes me wonder what a lot of these people derive out of watching movies /using this site because they seem extremely out of touch with their own feelings and only care about the dopamine hit when the numbers go up on their ifunny comments. this legitimately means nothing. completely devoid of meaning. its a gray flavorless mush . what am i supposed to do with this. im not expecting a professionally written review by all means but this is a new low. im mad i accidentally scrolled down too far and saw this on the front page. this ruined my day and it hasnt even started yet

[itshype]

Quick question. When someone asks what age you were in a certain year do you give the age that you were before or after your birthday that year?

Do you give the younger or older of the two ages you were that year?

I give the younger (age before your birthday in a given calendar year)

I give the older (age after your birthday in a given calendar year)

Voting ended onMay 15

[bruzum]