All forms of polymindence are completely valid if not causing direct harm upon yourself or others.
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but you’re not a bad person for being polymind. You’re not horrible for putting A label on something you experience personally. If someone doesn’t agree with that , that’s probably not someone youd want to be around in the first place.
Take care of yourselves, both mono and polyminds alike ! Love y’all!
saying stuff like this is actually really unhealthy and bad. it’s none of your business whether someone’s polymindence hurts them, a strangers health is none of your business and you don’t get to dictate what’s right for them especially because you don’t know them, and if it does harm them that doesn’t mean its their fault. if someone is being harmed you should be concerned for them, not make them feel bad because they’re the one being harmed. someone’s polymindence could technically have harmful things tied to it if it’s caused by disorders. im not saying this because being harmed is good, im saying this because people shouldn’t have to look for “permission” from strangers on the internet for something that only affects them. that is unhealthy and harms people. they don’t need your validation. this phrase supports the idea people aren’t competent enough to decide what’s best for themselves and a stranger is above them in that regard. the term valid/invalid on the internet has heavy association with being used as “completely allowed” or “completely not allowed” to do something from thousands of people agreeing with it
was gonna add more but i ran out of steam 😔👎 anyway here’s an infographic on how people with complex dissociative disorders are not that different from you lol
how is bro gonna post this while being anti polymind. the projection is crazy, bros so close to being self aware 😭 me when i repost stuff disagreeing with myself
it’s like the mean girl reposting stuff like “be kind, you never know what someone’s going through”
Flags for those who are/are perceived as "insane" while maintaining joy in their active lives.
Some examples may be:
Anyone actively living in their delusions & choosing to continue doing so despite having options to break/escape said delusions.
Anyone with chronic fatigue/pain symptoms who pushes themselves past their limits in an effort to enjoy life.
Anyone who doesn't follow societal standards, only engaging in activities that would bring them joy in some way.
I guess it could be seen as a self harm term. I didn't coin it for that, and the definition of "self harm" is wildly up for debate here. Still, use it however you want.
i see you putting a bunch of bad people in your dni as if you only put people in your dni for being morally wrong then casually putting “polyminds” to make them look bad
me when i subtly defame a group of people for something they can’t change about themselves but they’re not allowed to interact and it’s just a boundary 😭😭
Most endos are not traumagenic systems but just people faking. That's the truth and I understand a lot of folks can't get that because they want to see the best in people but that is simply the case. DID/OSDD1 and any other dissociative disorder are not just disorders that emerge from acute trauma. Dissociative disorders are formed from repetitive complex trauma from ages 3-7. COMPLEX trauma is not related to loss, natural disasters, etc despite commonly believed to be such in the 90s. DID/OSDD1 are often abuse specific.
Most if not nearly all endos are just fakers.
Going to have to partially disagree on you there. While I do believe that there are decent few endogenic systems who are genuinely faking, I also believe that there are many traumagenic systems who have got caught up in the mess that endogenic systems are. Most of whom believe their trauma wasn't bad enough, or have been told that their trauma wasn't bad enough. According to someone who has been in both pro and anti spaces, pro endos are more likely to say that someone's trauma wasn't bad enough, which is interesting.
I don't believe endogenic systems exist in any sense at all, but that doesn't mean by default that more or nearly all of them are faking. I really don't like throwing the "fake" label around as even if they are faking, they do likely still have an issue that needs addressing.
Yes CDDs are caused by trauma, but most of the research I've read says it has to be by ages 5-9, not 3-7, but that is also highly debated on due to it being unethical to cause trauma to a child to see what ages it forms during.
The ICD states that the trauma has to be chronic or severe. It doesn't necessarily have to be extremely repetitive or extremely severe, just one of the both and prevalent enough for the child to deem dissociation as the way to escape from the situation (from what I've read). But yes, it is unlikely to be causes by a singular loss or natural disaster in the child's life, and more likely to be caused by abuse/neglect (whether by primary caregivers or another adult the child sees regularly).
Also it's important to remember that trauma is the reaction to an event. Which is why multiple people can go through the same stuff, but not everyone is traumatised by it.
adding onto this it’s really common for people with CDDS to not remember their trauma, or for a specific alter to not remember it, and it’s common for people with trauma to not realize what they went through was traumatic, so it makes sense that a lot of people would identify as endogenic systems even if they’re not
How To If A System Is Faking: A comprehensive guide by Peter [He/They]
1. They tell you themselves they're faking.
That's it! That's LITERALLY IT! "But Peter what if they—" Nope! Don't care what they're doing/not doing that's suspicious! I dont even care if they claim to be non-traumagenic, cause even though being non-traumagenic is impossible, there's still the chance the system is misinformed and doesn't remember their trauma causing them to believe they're endo. (In that case they should do better research)
Unless they tell you themselves that they're faking you have NO way of knowing if someone is faking being a system!
can we say this to people accusing others of faking without claiming to have DID too / saying they’re faking dissociative experiences if they don’t believe they have DID because. ive gotten that so many times. ive gotten told i don’t have trauma because i don’t have DID and im just “purposefully trying to give myself dissociation for no reason” and ill never know what it’s like to suffer from trauma and dissociation like they do and im “copying them” (which is just guilt tripping) when ive literally experienced both of those things myself. and the same people have said “oh well endogenic systems just don’t remember their trauma” but they called me an endogenic system when im aware i have trauma like you’re the only one denying i have trauma 😭
like yeah i might have separation in identity similar to tertiary / secondary structural dissociation but i wanna heal i dont wanna be disordered or struggle with dissociation im not gonna make myself get worse just to appease you by “suffering enough” just because i already had to suffer and im “copying” you for it, and not meeting the criteria for a disorder doesn’t mean im not real
like bro stop yelling at me for “copying my own experiences” you don’t own the concept of dissociation or having a brain 😭
1) What are your genders? Either labels/terms or descriptions :)
2) Describe your pronouns. What are they, and why?
3) How long have you known you were multigender? Or, when did you discover each of your genders?
4) When did you first hear about being multigender?
5) Are there any terms under the multigender umbrella that you identify with? (like bigender, trigender, genderfluid, omnigender, multiflux)
6) Do you identify with any umbrella terms that can encompass being multigender, like "trans" or "nonbinary"?
What's It Like For You?
7) Are your genders more fluid or more static?
8) Are your genders more separate or blended together?
9) Do you "hoard" genders or labels?
10) Do you have any analogies you use to describe your genders?
11) Describe your ideal gender presentation, or physical form.
12) Does your gender influence your sexual orientation?
13) Does your sexual orientation influence your gender(s)?
14) Do you identify with any multigender-specific sexuality labels?
Getting A Bit Personal Now, Are We
15) Describe your names and their significance to you.
16) What are your plans for medical, social, legal (etc) transition? How far along in your transition would you consider yourself to be?
17) Have you faced any barriers in transitioning specifically related to your multigender identity or related goals?
18) Have you ever faced prejudice or hostility due to your multigender identity or related presentation?
19) When in a situation forcing you into one gender, what do you do?
20) How do you deal with such transmultiphobia, external or internal? Do you use any comforts or affirmations to help?
Pride
21) What are your favorite things about being multigender?
22) What multigender-related pride flag do you like the most?
23) What unique parts about your identity are you proud of?
24) Do you do (or have you ever done) anything to express pride, privately or publicly, in your multigender identity?
25) What's your favorite art/music/writing/etc about being multigender? (Things not explicitly written as such are OK too!)
Community
26) Do you have any friends who are multigender?
27) Do you talk about being multigender with other people?
28) Are you open/out about being multigender?
29) Are you open about some parts of your gender identity, but not others?
30) What do you wish more people knew about being multigender?
31) Free space! Share anything you would like about your multigender experience.
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Feel free to share or repost! You can ask me questions from this list, ask your followers to ask you some, or just reblog and answer some yourself. There are just enough to fit in a month, too, so you could even make it into a daily journal challenge! The possibilities are endless...
Reblog this post if you want folks to send you asks with emojis corresponding to these questions! You’re also free to just answer the questions yourself as a daily/weekly/whenever journaling exercise, as there’s exactly 31 questions :) Any mind (or multiple!) is free to answer! Have fun!
🌟 - What’s your favorite part about being a polymind?
❤️🩹 - What’s the most challenging part of being a polymind for you?
🪁 - Are there any activities your minds like doing together?
🎨 - What are your minds’ favorite colors?
🌳 - Which mind would you consider the most responsible?
🌼 - What do your minds do that make you feel loved?
🧰 - Does your mindset use any specific job labels or other coined terms? Do you find these labels helpful?
⏰ - Have any of your minds changed jobs/purposes/roles over time?
🦄 - Which mind has the most whimsy?
🧸 - Do you have any agelings? If so, how do they get along in everyday life & cooperate with the rest of your mindset?
🌙 - Are there any other communities you’re a part of that you feel intersect with your polymindence?
🔥 - Have any of your minds taught you some difficult lessons, or made you confront/embrace difficult or repressed feelings?
📋 - If your minds ran a small business together, what would it be?
👤 - Are your swaps externally noticeable? If so, what differences in voice, behavior, body language, etc. do you experience?
🌿 - Have you told anyone irl about your polymindence? If so, what was that like, and do you have any accommodations in place? If not, are there people you wish you could tell?
💥 - If your minds were Pokemon or Pokemon gym leaders, what types would they be/use?
🪐 - Do you have an innerworld or any kind of internal safe place? What is it like?
☕️ - Do your minds help you take better care of yourself? What does that look like for you?
⚡️ - How and when did you realize you were a polymind?
⛰️ - If your minds were Minecraft biomes, what biomes would they be? What would your collective base (or separate bases!) look like?
🪞 - Does your mindset share any collective values?
🎀 - What are your minds’ respective ✨aesthetics✨? Is there any overlap/collective aesthetics?
📺 - Do you have any fictlings? Where are they sourced from?
💤 - Have any of your minds gone dormant/inactive?
🖋️ - Are there any tasks or activities that only one or a couple of your minds like to do?
🐶 - If your minds were Animal Crossing villagers, what models would they use/what animals would they be based on?
💬 - What does communication between your minds look like? Is it entirely internal? Do you ever talk out loud? Do you use any apps, journals, or private servers to communicate?
💧 - Which of your minds would you consider to be the most emotional? Least emotional?
☀️ - What makes each of your minds happiest?
❣️ - What’s something you wish people knew about polyminds/polymindence?
💖 - Free space! Talk about anything you’d like relating to your polymindence!!
💬ㅤVERBALITY MODIFIERㅤ◦ㅤan umbrella term for all forms of verbality or scribal-related modifiers. this includes things like hyper-verbality or selective-mutism caused by neurodivergency or other disabilities- but this also includes other things such as typing quirks, hyper-formality, disorganized speech, etc. anything that impairs ones speech could use this flag. ㅤ⋆
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01ㅤ◦ this was coined with beings who have brain damage, are schizospec/schizophrenic or have any form of speech-impairing disability in mind- but can be used by anyone who wants to define their speech-patterns.
coined for our fiance who wanted one for a speech quirk it has :)
i consent to my terms being put on wikis or reposted on pinterest, even if i upload them myself.
02ㅤ◦ you can find the psd template here, if you want to make a flag yourself.
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03ㅤ◦ tag list: @tvmoqai send an ask to be added to my tag list.
i don’t know if i can use this for identifying as multiple people but i don’t actually experience being multiple people psychologically either, cuz my identity doesn’t align with reality but that can still be considered an internal self i think
An umbrella term for when you don't consider yourself nor refer to yourself as [X], but you are still undeniably [X] in whatever way(s).
An example would be NuconstieAngel, where you don't consider yourself an Angel, but you are still undeniably an Angel.
PT: Nuconstie. (Niu-con-stee). An umbrella term for when you don't consider yourself as X, but you are still undeniably X in whatever ways. An example would be nuconstie-angel, where you don't consider yourself an angel, but you are still undeniably an angel.
█ |✧ NOTES:
Not + Consider + Still.
Image ID needed.
I originally wanted to coin the example I used first, but realised I could turn it into an umbrella term.
Can be used for gender, orientation, alterhumanity, etc.
Here is the template / PSD file for the layers (link) to coin your own Nuconstie term.
Day 6 of Chronically Queer Coining Event (link) by @chronicallyqueercoining2
[otherkin flag id: a rectangular flag with seven straight horizontal stripes. all stripes are equal-width except for the second, fourth, and sixth stripes which are half as thick as the others. from top to bottom, the flag colours are very dark brown, dark brown, brown, light brown, brown, dark brown and very dark brown. in the middle of the flag is a cream circle with a very dark brown outline, with the otherkin symbol in light brown in the middle of the circle. the symbol looks like a seven-pointed star; otherwise known as a heptagram or elven star. end id.]
[alterhuman flag id: a rectangular flag with seven straight horizontal stripes. all stripes are equal-width except for the second, fourth, and sixth stripes which are half as thick as the others. from top to bottom, the flag colours are very dark brown, dark brown, brown, light brown, brown, dark brown and very dark brown. in the middle of the flag is the alt key symbol in light brown with a cream outline. the symbol looks like an arrow pointing to the right, which moves up diagonally in the middle to go over a smaller straight horizontal line. end id.]
[therian flag id: a rectangular flag with seven straight horizontal stripes. all stripes are equal-width except for the second, fourth, and sixth stripes which are half as thick as the others. from top to bottom, the flag colours are very dark brown, dark brown, brown, light brown, brown, dark brown and very dark brown. in the middle of the flag is a theta-delta in light brown with a cream outline. the symbol looks like a a circle overlapped with a triangle with a small straight horizontal line in the middle, or the greek letters theta and delta overlapped. end id.]
[fictionkin flag id: a rectangular flag with seven straight horizontal stripes. all stripes are equal-width except for the second, fourth, and sixth stripes which are half as thick as the others. from top to bottom, the flag colours are very dark brown, dark brown, brown, light brown, brown, dark brown and very dark brown. in the middle of the flag is the fictionkin symbol in light brown with a cream outline. the symbol looks like two large circles overlapped with one another horizontally with a smaller circle overlapping with the bottom of both. In the overlapping space between the large circles is the letter F, aligned with the small circle to look like a key. end id.]
[copinglink flag id: a rectangular flag with seven straight horizontal stripes. all stripes are equal-width except for the second, fourth, and sixth stripes which are half as thick as the others. from top to bottom, the flag colours are very dark brown, dark brown, brown, light brown, brown, dark brown and very dark brown. in the middle of the flag is the copinglink symbol in light brown with a cream outline. the symbol looks like a diamond with a chain link in the middle. end id.]
[otherlink flag id: a rectangular flag with seven straight horizontal stripes. all stripes are equal-width except for the second, fourth, and sixth stripes which are half as thick as the others. from top to bottom, the flag colours are very dark brown, dark brown, brown, light brown, brown, dark brown and very dark brown. in the middle of the flag is a cream circle with a very dark brown outline, with the otherlink symbol in light brown in the middle of the circle. the symbol looks like a chain link. end id.]
[otherhearted flag id: a rectangular flag with seven straight horizontal stripes. all stripes are equal-width except for the second, fourth, and sixth stripes which are half as thick as the others. from top to bottom, the flag colours are very dark brown, dark brown, brown, light brown, brown, dark brown and very dark brown. in the middle of the flag is a cream circle with a very dark brown outline, with the otherhearted symbol in light brown in the middle of the circle. the symbol looks like a heart and a circle overlapping, the heart having a small diamond shape inside it touching the top. end id.]
[transspecies flag id: a rectangular flag with seven straight horizontal stripes. all stripes are equal-width except for the second, fourth, and sixth stripes which are half as thick as the others. from top to bottom, the flag colours are very dark brown, dark brown, brown, light brown, brown, dark brown and very dark brown. in the middle of the flag is a cream circle with a very dark brown outline, with the transspecies symbol in light brown in the middle of the circle. the symbol looks like a small four-pointed star, outlined by a larger four-pointed star with a circle behind it. end id.]
[nonhuman flag id: a rectangular flag with seven straight horizontal stripes. all stripes are equal-width except for the second, fourth, and sixth stripes which are half as thick as the others. from top to bottom, the flag colours are very dark brown, dark brown, brown, light brown, brown, dark brown and very dark brown. in the middle of the flag is a cream circle with a very dark brown outline, with the nonhuman symbol in light brown in the middle of the circle. the symbol looks like a circle with a square rotated 45º in the middle, the points touching the outside of the circle. on the inside of the square is a small circle with a dot inside it; small vertical straight lines poke out of the top and bottom of the circle. end id.]
[quoiian flag id: a rectangular flag with seven straight horizontal stripes. all stripes are equal-width except for the second, fourth, and sixth stripes which are half as thick as the others. from top to bottom, the flag colours are very dark brown, dark brown, brown, light brown, brown, dark brown and very dark brown. in the middle of the flag is the quoiian symbol in light brown with a cream outline. the symbol looks like a question mark without the dot at the bottom, with a small five-pointed star next to it on the right. end id.]
[endel flag id: a rectangular flag with seven straight horizontal stripes. all stripes are equal-width except for the second, fourth, and sixth stripes which are half as thick as the others. from top to bottom, the flag colours are very dark brown, dark brown, brown, light brown, brown, dark brown and very dark brown. in the middle of the flag is a cream circle with a very dark brown outline, with the endel symbol in light brown in the middle of the circle. the symbol looks like an arrowhead pointing down with a four-pointed sparkle touching the bottom right. end id.]
[synpath flag id: a rectangular flag with seven straight horizontal stripes. all stripes are equal-width except for the second, fourth, and sixth stripes which are half as thick as the others. from top to bottom, the flag colours are very dark brown, dark brown, brown, light brown, brown, dark brown and very dark brown. in the middle of the flag is a cream circle with a very dark brown outline, with the synpath symbol in light brown in the middle of the circle. the symbol looks like two diamond shapes overlapped with one another horizontally to create a smaller diamond shape in the middle, with a straight horizontal line passing through the middle. end id.]
saying polyminds are bad because they’re reworded endos is like being anti goodfaith deciding a straight man “acts too feminine” and yelling at them for “being a reworded lesboy” and “just wanting an excuse to be a lesboy without people getting mad at them”
that’s fucking stupid and weird right? then why are you doing it to polyminds
NCWOB — an acronym similar to MOGAI, LIOM and QAI that stands for 'non-conventional/non-conforming ways of being'! it is a label including anyone who has an unconventional identity or lifestyle, including but not limited to:
trans, genderqueer, nonbinary, multigender, gender non-conforming, neogender and xenogender individuals, and individuals with an alternative experience to gender or are nongendered entirely
other queer/lgbtqia people including individuals who experience tertiary attraction, are aspec, are intersex, etc.
alterhumans, human-non-conforming individuals, nonhuman and transspecies individuals
plurals, systems, multiself, polymind, variform, etc.
individuals who participate in sociarchies such as misceverse, pastryverse, fasieverse, etc.
individuals with non-amatonormative relationships such as qprs and nichelinks, being polyamorous, and experiencing attraction to/being in relationships with objects or concepts
individuals who experience atypical dysphoria/euphoria, desirdae, dissodic, intusui, etc.
anyone else who considers their identity or lifestyle non-conforming in some way
it is an opt-in label and should not be used to insult or belittle people.
coiner's note: i doubt this will gain traction, i don't intend for it to replace existing acronyms i just wanted something broader than mogai and qai but still less broad than liom
