i used to be a sad boy that lost his passion for reading and now im a cute dyke with glasses reading books on the train and blushing when pretty girls smile at me from across the car
i used to be so sad and so miserable and so scared. Now i get to be a pretty girl in public and other girls see me and smile and we compliment each other and it's normal and im happy.
im so fucking happy, even when life sucks, im fucking happy.
not gonna lie, haven't posted here since the start of the semester and although it was going really well, this last leg i fucked up really bad.
hit a really bad low last night, after a month of trip ups, and seriously considered just letting myself fail.
i really love learning, god i live to learn - it's why i want to be a teacher. i want to be actively learning and communicating something every single day for the rest of my life.
my screen time is astronomical because i'm usually watching some science or history deep dive, but when i get told to do something, when i have to engage with my interests inside a set of rules, I can't take it.
the worst part is, that i was doing so well. this was the best semester i've done, i was so close to being normal...
today, i'm finishing my final assignment, submitting it seven days late. it's cost me 35% of my grade.
i don't know if i'll pass to semester 2. i hope. i really fucking hope so.
either way i wanted to post this for myself, so wherever i end up in the future i can look back on this post and think "wow, that was rock bottom".
I’ve been gone for way too long, but I think it’s finally time for me to come back here.
A lot of people here probably aren’t really updated on what’s been going on in my life, so here’s a little update.
I completed my first year of university, but in my second semester, I got backlogs in four subjects. So technically, it’s summer vacation right now, but I can’t really enjoy it because I have to prepare for all four exams.
And honestly, things got a little worse because I missed way too many classes in college. They actually warned me that they could stop me from moving forward and make me repeat the year because of my attendance. But instead of holding me back, they decided to give me a huge number of assignments and submissions to complete instead.
On top of that, I also did a compulsory internship a month ago because our college made it mandatory, so now I have to write multiple reports for it, and even make a LinkedIn post about it.
But since I’m finally back home, I also want to work on myself again.
I want to improve my graphic design skills because I genuinely want to get into remote graphic design work if possible. So if any of you know about remote graphic design opportunities, please let me know.
I also want to work on my art, dancing, reading, and a lot of other hobbies that I’ve been neglecting for a while.
So yeah, I’m back.
Starting today (hopefully), I’ll try to post regularly again and use this space to track my progress, hype myself up a little, and honestly just treat this blog like a personal diary..
Yesterday was my last class with The Not-So-Evil-After-All Professor which was my last specialization class too. Overall this specialization was a waste of time, didn't teach me much (save for this professor's classes), wasn't even proper inorgo, and on top of that I don't like the rest of the group (who doesn't like me either). However, these two or so months with this one professor have been so rewarding and taught me so much that it was worth it to go through everything else. No specialization classes next academic year :D Just one more final tomorrow and I'll be able to focus on other things
My days off got obliterated by some sorta virus I picked up from the hospital. I've spent the entirety of my weekend sick. I work the next couple of days. I wasn't as productive as I'd planned to be but it is what it is.
Tasks I've completed:
- All my laundry + bed clothes included
- Dishes
- June's budget
- Set up an ENT appt
- Set up a sleep study appt
- Put together the hammock stand
- Opened an investment account
- Picked my Weeks planner back up and started using it again
- Took my son to the vet
📺 Murderbot, Project Hail Mary
🎧 Twisting The Knife - INK & McKenna Grace, Afterglow - Atreyu, Fourth Wing the graphic audio
📖 I will teach you to be rich - Ramit Sethi, Kiss the Villain - Rina Kent
Inspired by @semperstudiesss ‘s long-post dop update and I really don’t feel like restarting the challenge
Tue 2 Jun 26 ୭\ˊ˗ It was A’s birthday today and I had accidentally created a noodle theme with her gifts. Went out on a walk with the dogs while the weather was still good and just sat around after… then I got the email….
*cough cough*: “The Chem + Chem Eng undergraduate examination board met in June 2026 and as you have failed …”
— 👀… what?!? How do you knoww?? What’d I fail?? How do you know what marks I got and I don’t??
So yeah, that’s how I got to know that our results were out 😅. I did really well on my Inorganic, Instrumental Methods and Practical modules, but I got the lowest grade I’ve ever gotten on my Organic one. I’ve passed the class with a whooping 42% but as I failed the actual exam I do have to retake it. So there goes my Bosnia trip which lies right in the majority of the resit test period TvT👍 — but I got my deposit back at least!
I’m really happy with the other grades though, I’m sitting at an overall 76 mark (71 if I pass all of Organic). So my afternoon was then spent with figuring out what I need to do to take the resit, emailing my professor clarifying questions I had, and discussing how my friends had done on their exams!
Planned on making this update the following morning while finishing up cleaning my room, but at about midnight S texted to clarify that the plans were for tomorrow and whether I had my gift for A sorted yet. As she’s been working the past few days, she had no time to go shopping and I offered to go with her to help pick something out and keep company. So those were my productive plans gone 😂 but what’s a little sacrifice to help out a friend.
Wed 3 I prepped for A’s party and got absolutely obsessedddd with the temporary tattoos I bought!! Thought they looked so so fun! I also brought a change of shoes with me, but luckily having kept 👠 them in the freezer with some water had stretched them out enough! (the previous attempts at heating them while wearing 2 pairs of fluffy socks hadn’t worked out that well and I did have to glue back the inner soles a bit)
Drove round to S’s and it was the first time that I actually was in her car! It’s super cute all the pink decor she’s got for it! She drove us to the shopping centre and we actually got sorted really quickly! Stayed in Waterstones for ages looking at their games selection, saying how fun some of them looked and how we need to buy a few more to have for our upcoming trip in July — and also how we just need to play board games more often! We got back to her car just as it started raining again and stuck around talking and gossiping about the friend group’s drama and it’s relationships over the past few years, as well as our future living plans and lack thereof . It was really sweet and I’m super happy that she’s gotten close with some people at her uni and has a house sorted with 1 of them for the next year ^^ 💕
Caught K up on the drama before heading to R’s for the party and so glad I did because whenever we got to the bar THE DRAMA WAS THERE SJAHSJAHDKHAJDHAHS, part of it anyway and it wass hilarious without the rest of them knowing the updates. It actually turned out to be a really fun night and although the pool table wasn’t working, I got to dance with K instead and actually had a few drinks for myself! Was still sore from exercising 2 days ago but 😮💨
I might actually put this in my bucket list now that I’m thinking about it, but I satisfied my slavic roots by getting a shot of vodka and I actually enjoyed it 😂. Been wanting to do that just once for a while, just for the fun of it. Created a ranked list of the drinks I tried as well because I would not be able to remember any of the names otherwise and my friends had a good laugh at me for it lol. Back at R’s it was really funny seeing A and R come to as they have had a lot more to drink and the deep talks, the politics, hygiene, family drama and issues we still have with our high school were great conversation topics. I do regret offering to sleep on the floor though because I though that the
Thurs 4 Bought breakfast for us this morning after urging time to go faster because of the amount of times I woke up during the night and the discomfort of having to try and fall back asleep while being frozen alive (normally at her house I’d be roasting so idk what the floor did to me…). I also spent more on food for everyone than it had cost them to buy me drinks last night 😭 Wasn’t gone long after and it was so nice to freshen up back home afterwards.
My mum had to come home early though because she was unwell and I took her to the hospital for a check with half-done clown make up haha, was an interesting experience. Dad came home early tho and took over the care while I finished prepping before the circus 🎪 and let me tell you just how incredible of a night it was!!!!! I got a video of pretty much every act and everything was so unique, and the crowd work was super!! The little girls behind us were way too brainrotted and pick-me for their own good but we ignored them as much as we could. K and I both had a little bit of make up/face paint for the clown look and one of the workers there absolutely loved it! 💕 I already want to go back and see another show!
Fri 5 The punch cards and this challenge have been at the back of my mind constantly for the past few days and I’m not happy with the progress I’ve been making so far. I need to focus on committing and being there for myself for it more!! 💪 I worked most of the day today and it was an alright shift, did some stretches afterwards but just barely.
Stuck on what to make for dinner, a local pizza place came into the conversation and it had a really nice menu so I ordered it. It was not clear however that I ordered the food for a same-name place down in another city though 🤦♀️. So no wonder the delivery option was going to take 40mins… should have just gotten it delivered tbh because they didn’t give us a refund or anything after I called them. Apparently this happens a lot with the local place…
Finished reading Solaris by Stanisław Lem and started Ghost Smith by Nicki Pau Preto
Sat 6 The other week I saw that The Lumineers were having a concert in a nearby city and since I have listened to practically their whole discography and really loved it! Before I have known and loved only a few of their songs. I texted the groupchat if anybody would want to go with me but they either didn’t know them and/or didn’t have the money to go… And as an anxious woman I wouldn’t totally fancy going by myself, however much I’d love to. It’s been replaying in my mind that I could still ask K if he wanted to go with me but he’s already going to a concert the week after, it would be in the middle of our uni-work week, and we haven’t met up a whole load of times and I perpetually fear having awkward conversations — even if my meet up with S, who I haven’t gone out with alone before, was an excellent point against this happening. Still, I have a few other meet ups planned with some others, I’ll probably be seeing K in work, and I can save up for some other (more expensive) concerts which I’d love to go to and know that more of my friends would be interested in.
I’m trying very hard to keep reading but I can only do a few pages because for some reason my eyes are getting super watery and tired/unfocused whenever I try to do so without my glasses — and it’s not like I’m longsighted so idk what’s going on with that :/ So it’s still hard getting out of the slump at the moment.
Sun 7 (Woo we’re on Sunday! Only 3 more updates to go!)
There is a space themed 🪐🔬 event happening at a sort of science centre we have and it seems truly interesting and like a lot of fun especially that no kids are allowed to attend it, but I’ve been in a mood this past week and I really can’t be bothered with it. Normally I don’t mind driving but I know I’ll have to and it’s just going to be annoying with having to go back home after working at uni, have to change and clear up all my stuff on not a lot of time, and head back up again. The last 2 late drives I’ve had back from the city haven’t been real pleasant experiences and I wanted to avoid driving preferably anyone, but especially a large group, for a while after. And since I haven’t been able to drive up or down alone to clear my mind off it... The event is in 3 weeks time so I’m sure I’ll be in a better head space and be more excited for this, but for the moment I really just wanted to skip out on this..
Created a new punch card so that I wash my socks more often rather than throwing them in the laundry and I made the back phm themed upon @nasa’s # MoonJoyJune art challenge! 🚀💥
I also had an idea for something to research! I think punk history 🎸⛓️💥 might be interesting and has a lot of side routes to explore!
Mon 8 Parents left for a little bit so I got a little bit of violin practice done which I’m really happy with! I also booked an F1 themed pottery painting night to do with A and I’m really glad this is something they’re also interested in doing!
I bought some new clay from work and I haven’t seen this brand before, so especially that working with clay was on my punch card, I really wanted to give it a try! And the other clay I normally use also tends to give me some issues…. But I made a little face of my oc/persona and I love how it’s turned out!!!!! Myra is looking real cute already ^^
I did some of the punk 🖇️ research and I didn’t do that much, only done a page of notes but I really enjoyed it and this is exactly what I wanted The Sci Journal to be before I made the too-big plans for it and began to stress myself over it. So I will continue with the research and I also hope that it’ll help motivate me whenever I begin to study for my resit, before I get the site back active again.
Over the past few days I’ve had some really lovely interactions with customers in work! It’s always so so nice seeing strangers be kind and compliment each other 💖
Been keeping my phone gallery to under 10,000 now that I’ve got it down so much
Tue 9 So I’m starting to get sick 😭🤧 and I wanted to start today with a dog walk followed by some exercise at home and then a shower, but I literally barely had the energy to just get out of bed.. Because I think I’ve already used up all my ‘rest’ days that I had planned for for this challenge, I might have to rethink my goal… I don’t want to injure myself again from pushing myself too hard when I’m not normally active; I do need to find a balance for keeping active though.
I emailed one of my previous art teachers again because I put away all of the art stuff 🎨🎭 I had gotten back into a folder and noticed I was missing a few. I’m glad I did too because this time I might actually get into the school and be able to talk face-to-face with the teachers and pick up the art myself!
Been doing some un-neglect for myself and my things by unfurling and putting up my embroidery threads on the wall so I can start the next # MoonJoyJune project which is embroidering onto a t-shirt which I’ve been meaning to do practically since I got it! Also listened a lot to Everybody’s Worried About Owen which I’ve really been enjoying this evening! 🎶🎤
June days of productivity 2-9/30 “
-> stretched +4
-> exercised +14
-> card punches x8 credits 26/835 ”
HUGE fan of this recent thing we're doing where Adrian is, physically speaking, wayyyyyyy out of Rocky's league.
Like what do you mean of course they have the most gorgeous voice ever which to sound-based Eridians is basically the equivalent of why-the-fuck-arent-you-a-supermodel.
Of course they had sooooooooooo many mating/courting offers and gifts and love letters sent to them while Rocky was away (but they of course stayed faithful and weren't having any of that shit).
Of course Rocky forgot to mention to Grace their size difference and that Rocky is by Eridian standards a tiny little twink and Adrian is a giant also so when Grace meets them he's looking UP because they're less of a rock and more of a boulder.
Straight up The Bride And The Ugly-Ass Groom-ing it. We're all insane. I'm obsessed. Love love LOVE it
It is surreal to think that I’ll be defending my doctoral dissertation this month. Right now I’m resting for several days until I get my corrections back from my advisor. I definitely needed this break. I can like actually catch up on hobbies and breathe and sleep without having dreams and nightmares about my word documents. I literally was having a dreams of the freaking chapter where I’m editing lines!! That’s how bad it was.
I am already dreading having to return to editing after my advisor’s comments. I’m terrified that they’ll say it’s not good at all. But I am trying not to think about that.
flying as a hijabi (alone this time) and the guy next to me is talking really loudly about bin laden and killing terrorists and making deliberate eye contact with me the entire time
alhamdulillah safely home and very appreciative of the kind flight crew who looked after me
but i do want to take a moment to remind everyone that people with the intention to do evil or make their hate known almost always go after those who are perceived as vulnerable. it’s no surprise to me that things like this happen almost exclusively when i am alone and an easier target. hijabis especially, being so visible. to my hijabi girlies, remember to stay aware of your surroundings and practice safe travel habits. to my friends on here, it pays to be vigilant as well and to help watch the backs of those around you if you’re able
this stuff happens a lot more often than you’d think, unfortunately, and the most we can do is to try and be as safe as we can and watch out for each other
If you experience someone ranting at a fellow passenger, one great non-confrontative strategy is to act like you know each other from way back when and are having a chance encounter. Like "Ooooh, what a surprise to see you here! How are you doing??" This will also allow you to brush past the aggressor.
someone has done this for me before and it really does work! de-escalation is always safest for both you and those around you if it’s manageable and this is one of the best ways to do it!
In case anyone wants to learn more bystander tips and deescalation techniques , Right To Be (formerly Hollaback) has good resources and trainings, covering the 5Ds:
I finished the conference poster today!! Oof. I thought I'd never arrange it. It isn't "done" done bc it still needs my thesis supervisor's approval, but until Monday - which is when I'm seeing him - I consider it done
I'm giving the very last presentation of the semester tomorrow and therefore wrapping up the silica project :) No more SEM I think, at least not in the foreseeable future
Left pic is all the material for this Friday's exam. I honestly don't know how to go about studying for it bc I have absolutely no idea what to expect The professor is unpredictable
Currently reading A Room with a View; I didn't know it was this funny! I'm enjoying it a lot, definitely going to read more Forster
I feel like I'm in over my head at my internship but I need to remember its actually a summer school (but I'm getting paid) and that its okay not to know things. I'm also like the only physics PhD with 2 applied mathematics PhDs, 1 engineering PhD, and 3 computer science PhDs and my experience with simulation development is so much less than everyone else... and I know I'm there to be a physicist but then I feel incompetent at that 😭 my mentors are actually really nice and I know I'll figure it out but it doesn't make the anxiety go away. it mostly sucks because I get migraines from stress/anxiety and that makes everything harder 🙃 nevertheless we move forward, wishing everyone a good rest of the week!
STOP assigning pre-modern characters the trait “would commit tax fraud” without understanding how hard tax fraud was back in the days when a tax collector would physically come to your estate and assess your sitch. Do you have any idea how easy kids these days have it? You can just claim a few fake deductions or lie on a form and be a tax criminal. Your ancestors and fantasy faves had to work for those pennies.
Look at this house. This house has no mortar so it can be collapsed or moved to avoid taxation. That’s the sort of innovation I need to be seeing before you can call anyone in a feudal society a tax fraudster. They need to be hiding warehouses of goods, shoving grandpa in the basement to dodge the censusman, starting small regional wars, fleeing their villages in a constant semi-nomadic race against the forces of government, registering twins as a single child, or putting their life on the line to sell blackmarket bread. Come back when you have some tax fraud I can respect, not just a guy who looks kind of sleazy and sometimes does paperwork.
Due to my weird childhood and my weird brain, I have this very unhelpful compulsion to conceal Everything I do from Everyone. I Cannot be observed performing any action, no matter how mundane. My nervous system is convinced I'm gonna, like, Get In Trouble for eating food at dinnertime or sleeping in my bed at bedtime.
I've taken to asking myself, "Okay does this task actually require subterfuge or am I stealing a balloon on Free Balloon Day"