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Reading a book about the psychology of friendship (that, oh by the way, taps the ace and trans communities in its discussion not as clinical categories but by including anecdotes from people in those communities!!) and somehow it encouraged me to quadruple down on saying:

We literally do not have enough friendships. Our culture's obsession with romance over friendship is shockingly new (1850's on) and it is having a serious impact on our health across the board, specifically men. This problem has become sharply exacerbated in the last 20 years.

We need more friendships. We need more friendship in media. "But what if they kissed?" What if they didn't, and the love that was there mattered anyway??? Take my hand. Imagine this with me. A relationship unbound by law or expectation. People who choose one another again and again. To stay in each other's lives when there are no societal tethers holding them together.

Go read Platonic by Marisa G. Franco (PhD).

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Michael Malm

It's my cat's birthday (anniversary of me getting him) so I told him the story of his life while petting him real good

Highlights include:

For your first two years (when you were small) you lived in a foster home with people who raised you into a very polite young man. Two is like you plus me, that's what two is.

Some people adopted you before me and they called you Timmy (which is a stupid name) and they returned your ass almost immediately because you were so annoying at that age.

Like think about how annoying you are right now at seven years old, but way worse.

I'm better than them though, I don't call you Timmy and I wore earplugs to bed for three years because you love to scream at bedtime. Earplugs are like when I roll over and go back to sleep even when you are yelling so so so loud.

I got you at a time in my life when I was really sick (being sick is like when I'm up late because I'm throwing up and you are a very handsome good boy who sits with me) and they had to put me asleep for a procedure. A procedure is like what happened to you when they put you asleep and took your balls away.

Now you've lived with me for five years. Five is like the number of toe beans on one of your feet. When I clip your nails five is when we're halfway done. But we're hopefully not even halfway done with how long we get to be together. I'm gonna have to figure out new ways to help you count.

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Actually I've decided this is a poem

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This is getting notes so let me just say

Himb 💞💝💘💖💞💝

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The kindest thing that literature does is remind you that your little peculiar feelings have always existed. Someone, in some century, felt equally bewildered by love, bored by society, tired of pretending, and hungry for meaning.

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Philip Alexius de László (detail)

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not now mom I have to see what my mutuals with masters degrees are blogging about on tumblr

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Just found out that Jason Arday was found dead and I’m so fucking devastated.

Incase you don’t know Jason Arday was a Professor at Cambridge University, their youngest black professor ever. Recently he was the target of such immense public scrutiny and hounded by the media for accusations of plagiarism.

Now you might hear that word and think that’s he stole someone else’s work but that’s not the case. What had actually happened was Arday had made some mistakes during his referencing process.

But of course the right wing media didn’t care and they dragged his name, said he was only at the university because of “DEI polices”, they hounded him until he quit in the middle of an investigation.

And now he’s dead.

I don’t care if he stole the fucking moon he didn’t deserve this! We don’t even treat our most hardened and worst criminals in this country like this so why the fuck was he?!

And it’s all the fault of the British media they tore him down as if he had killed someone and now he’s dead…He was only 41, an accomplished professor and author with his whole life ahead of him and they destroyed him.

Where was this outcry for William O’Reily a Cambridge Professor who in 2023 was found to have stole 12 pages from a student word for word. No one gave a shit he’s still teaching at Cambridge so don’t any of you try and tell me it was about that.

It’s all because Arday was a Black British autistic man in a prestigious institution and the second he slipped up he was harassed until he took his own life.

It’s not the first time either and I know it won’t be the last.

This is our country this is a country that bullied a man into killing himself. This is a country where our politicians tell us our lives our worth less because of the colour of our skin. This is our country celebrating when England win and than spewing hatred against those same players when we lose.

A country where we kill a black man by public execution when he had committed not a single crime. And all the media are talking about how sad this is as if his death isn’t on their hands.