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Hello! Welcome to my treasure trove of random =D

I post every now and then but if you want to see my actual art just search in my blog the "#Chance does doodles" I don't mind requests or asks but please do not be mean. also the art program I use is sketchbook if your wondering ^^

This is a fully safe-for-work blog so you don't have to worry about that and I mainly do ut/dr art ^^

Just as extra I prefer to go by they/them pronouns and would really like it if you don't go assume anyone's gender at all, whether fictional or not please..!

My old art that was when I was starting and testing my art style is tagged "#my old art". . .Not sure why you would want to look at that but go for it

I also have a YouTube channel where I make playlists and occasionally upload OST's (rarely), you can find it by searching "ChanceTried" or using the link

Btw you should check out @alliyazhya @spyret-the-shitposter @nopanfakemix2 @mnwary @squidpedia and @skylerfurmaniac-deactivated / @skylerfurmaniac @minneedssleep they are my close mutuals and do art too!!

lol just an indecisive weirdo who makes playlists because i usually dont like the stuff i find (oh yeah and i also have a unrelated tumblr w

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this is a safe blog, period (no nsfw, no discrimination, no nothin' like that)

I post deltarune and undertale stuff mostly

be respectful, don't misgender, don't discriminate, remember theres people behind the screen and be nice to them because we are all our own person. =]

Also I use they/them pronouns ^^

I do art basically 2 times a week and post a few reblogs, my tag is "#Chance does doodles"

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This is specifically for somebody who is very important to me. If you need help and can't get it by regular means, please, please refer to this. It's a list of websites that could help you (I hope), and anything more specific, please, come to me and ask. I will do the research and send it this way 1,000 times over again if it means you can stay safe and healthy and happy. https://www.helpguide.org/mental-health/wellbeing/self-care-tips-to-prioritize-your-mental-health https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/17018/no-one-cares-about-me/ https://www.seattletherapygroup.com/blog/when-questions-create-distance-and-what-to-do-about-it https://www.seattletherapygroup.com/blog/when-you-want-more-but-dont-want-to-change-your-partner https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/dissociativeliving/2019/10/persecutory-alters-in-dissociative-identity-disorder https://seffsaid.com/how-to-prioritize-self-care/ https://sageandsirius.com/wellness/prioritize-self-care-without-feeling-selfish/ https://external-content.duckduckgo.com/iu/?u=https%3A%2F%2Fi.etsystatic.com%2F19916512%2Fr%2Fil%2F94af3e%2F2167649316%2Fil_1080xN.2167649316_ddql.jpg&f=1&nofb=1&ipt=debc4bfeebf09c3c9f571dac78ece62b1b5fd554963c24638fe481589f81c2d1 https://www.wikihow.com/Heal-from-Emotional-Abuse https://www.wikihow.life/Deal-with-Physical-Abuse https://www.nami.org/recovery/six-self-care-tips-on-overcoming-abuse-related-trauma/ https://www.verywellmind.com/psychological-abuse-types-impact-and-coping-strategies-5323175 https://www.bolde.com/15-ways-to-respond-when-someone-deeply-hurts-you/ https://www.wikihow.life/Recognize-Signs-of-an-Abusive-Person https://www.scienceofpeople.com/love-yourself/ https://blairnicole.blog/how-to-learn-to-love-yourself-a-complete-guide/ If you would like me to add more, or if you want something more relevent, I won't take so long this time, and I will do the research and remember to actually save those cites that help people, instead of just doing it together but forgetting about it. I'm so sorry, thank you for being so patient, I miss you, and you're so so valuable to this world. Living is worth the effort, and so are you!! So don't give up, you're precious by just being alive <3

#mental health #mental illness

sandmandaddy69

woefully-undercaffeinated

This does not even begin to cover the weirdness of cathode ray televisions.

They are literally particle accelerators that you point at your face.

And for eighty years, Americans' favorite thing to do was turn them on and stare at them for hours.

If you overcharge them, they emit gamma radiation.

Servicing them is like disarming a bomb -- their capacitors are enormous and are usually charged to hundreds or thousands of volts, and most of them have no bleed system that drains that charge, meaning that they can still be dangerous months or years after the last time they were powered up. A discharge can not only electrocute you, it can cause tools to melt or explode.

A black-and-white cathode ray TV driven by an unmodulated analog signal is theoretically capable of resolution that would require a microscope to perceive.

jesuisloupseul

Old school CRT monitors had the same issues.

Back when, I worked at a small whitebox pc manufacturer. One day, a service tech brought back an older, gigantic (30 inch or so) AutoCAD monitor from a service call. The customer said "Made me feel nauseous"

So, we put it on the bench and fired it up. You immediately felt the hair on your body stand up, and my co worker put his hand up close to turn the power off, and his hand and forearm started spasming - I yanked the power cord from the wall as the tingle I was feeling began to feel hot.

No idea what was wrong with the thing, but it was kicking out some serious electro magnetic radiation.

funnelcloudd

Remembering the almost imperceptible high pitched buzzing that let you know the tv was still on even when nothing was on the screen. Also putting your forearm near the screen and watching the hairs stand up

silvysartfulness

The little crackle if you touched the screen to wipe it...

effeminate-wastrel-deactivated2

Omg no one's even talking about the smell of the screen

horrorobsessor

This is both horrifying to read and nostalgic

aquawyrm

I liked to turn the back of my hand to the screen, right after it was turned off, and pet the static with the little hairs on the backs of my fingers. It felt soft and fluffy.

hms-no-fun

one of the reasons CRTs are such a hotbed of glitch videography is that unlike modern monitors that block irregular signals, CRTs don't have an opinion about the signal you feed into them. they will display anything. and if you've ever done glitch work with a video modulator or such, you know what it's like negotiating with a living beast. the images you can get are often unpredictable and impossible to reproduce even with the same settings on your hardware, because it's just electricity. there is something magical and strange about the cathode ray tube and when you play with them enough you really remember why The Ring fucked people up so bad. samara climbing out of an HD flat screen is a laughable image; but her climbing out of an old school boob tube? yeah man, i believe it. there's fucking demons in that thing

idxnrosbp

farvaduvet

I love how you draw Noelle!!! You make her so cute!!

yayy thank you!! im trying to figure out her dark world design

bitchesgetriches

As a teenager, life gave me lemons.

I ate the lemons—skins, seeds, and stickers.

Many years later, I wrote a guide to help others eat lemons.

This is a guide to leaving home before 18. It ranks among the most important and most personal things I've ever written. It's also one of our most popular guides of all time. So I updated and expanded it. To make it as accessible as possible, we recorded audio and video versions too. My lemon-flavored heart would swell with joy and citric acid to know it reached people who need it.

But it's a fight share it. Heavy topics like this get muted and buried on most social platforms. Even worse, this administration is deleting surveys and data about it; my .gov sources transmogrified into 404s before my very eyes. Gonna post this, and pray that Tumblr does what Tumblr does best.

How To Leave Home Before 18

Video Version 🍋 Audio Version 🍋 Text Version

turing-tested

hey so protip if you have abusive parents and need to get around the house as quietly as possible, stay close to furniture and other heavy stuff because the floor is settled there and it’s less likely to creak

covid-69

socks are quieter than bare feet on tile/wood and for the love of god don’t wear slippers/shoes if you can help it

climbing ON the furniture will disrupt the pattern of your footsteps and make it harder to hear where you are in the house

crawling will do the same and if you get caught crawling you can pretend you fell

the floor near the wall can be really loud if the floorboards/carpet is old and not completely flush to the wall

do NOT attempt to use a rolling chair to travel without footsteps. they are extremely loud and hard to steer

thegoodlion

Also. Breath with your mouth and not your nose. Your nose will whistle. Trust me. If you need to get into your fridge, jab your finger into the rubber part that seals the door closed and create a tiny airway. This will prevent the suction noise when you open the door. When drinking liquids (juice mostly), pour out your glass (or chug from the jug) and replace what you drank with water. If it was full enough in the beginning, no one will notice. DO NOT STEAL ALCOHOL. THEY WILL NOTICE IF IT’S WATERED DOWN. Bring a pillowcase for dried foods like cereal and granola. It helps to muffle the sound it makes when it pours.

If your house has snack packs (like gummy bears or crackers or chips), count them every day until you know the rhythm that they get consumed. (This took me a week and a half with my twin brother and sister). Then join the rhythm when you make your nightly visits. It will be that much harder to figure out it was you.

KEEP A TRASH BAG UNDER YOUR BED FOR WRAPPERS AND STUFF BUT DONT FORGET TO THROW IT OUT WHENEVER YOU CAN. BUGS YKNOW. Hope this helped.

silenthill

I might have some useful info to add.

-a jar of peanut butter is long lasting and easy to hide under a bed or in a dresser drawer. I lived off of jars of peanut butter and boxes of saltine crackers I would buy on grocery trips with my mom.

-two words: Slipper Socks. These are the socks that have rubber designs on the bottom for grip. They make no noise, and also keep you steady on slicker surfaces like tile and wood. You can find them cheap at Walmart. They also keep your feet more protected if you’re outside.

-if you’re secure enough in your room to have a small food stash, make sure you’re not too obvious about it (duh) but also move its location every few days. I kept mine in a shoebox under my bed, then switched it to a backpack in my closet, then wedged between my bookshelf and wall, and I would cycle locations until i moved it permanently to a false-bottomed drawer I installed in my dresser when my father was gone for a weekend. I would NEVER put food directly into my stash after taking it. I would keep it in pockets of my clothes and between books until everyone went to sleep, then I’d stock and stow my stash for the next few days.

-get a water bottle with a filter in it. I used to be able to reach my bathroom from my bedroom door down the hall using a huge step or minor jump/leap. If I was afraid of being caught at night, I’d fill up the humidifier tank we kept under our sink while I took a short shower, and would refill my water that way. It might not be the best option, but I kept a small stockade of water under my bed for emergencies.

-if you can, smuggle your garbage out in your backpack or purse. Dispose of it at work/school. I got caught twice by carelessly throwing away packaging.

-if someone knows the situation you’re going through (close friend/partner/etc) see if there’s a way for them to get food or other supplies to you at school or work or what private time you may get. A hidden first aid kit literally saved parts of my body before and I owe it to a close friend.

-try learning the building’s natural rhythm. The house I grew up in would creak and settle heavily every night for 3-5 minutes. That was my shot, and I had to be QUICK. I still got caught a few times, but learning the patterns in our floors and walls, when they creaked, WHERE they creaked, kept me going. Eventually I was sprinting in slipper socks to the kitchen and back in less than 90 seconds.

-if you have stairs, or live upstairs. Sit as you go down them one at a time, or climb up them like an animal. It keeps you low/out of lots of motion sight, and also can reduce noise and creaking by distributing weight over more than 1-2 steps.

-You can use common hand sanitizer to remove the stains certain snack foods leave behind (coughs cheeto fingers) and a dry toothbrush can help scrub the color off your tongue. If you can get powdered toothpaste or toothpaste tabs to keep on hand, it makes a huge difference in sneakiness.

-I don’t recommend going for dried foods like granola or cereal unless you can sneak it to a secure place to get it. It’s too loud, it’s a gamble every time for something with less caloric intake than it’s worth if you get caught. Of course, there are times when that’s the only option!!

-if you’re taking milk, add water, but be SURE to shake/agitate the bottle to distribute the dairy fat with the water. I got into the habit of shaking milk jugs when I started sneaking it, and explained the habit as something I read in an old comic strip my father showed me. (Back when whole milk had a lot more cream fats and they’d separate, so shaking it would redistribute the cream.) I still shake milk jugs to this day.

-if your windows open or don’t have screens, eat leaning out an open window. Any food mess will be lost in the dirt. I was lucky I had bushes and birds outside that would catch my granola bar crumbs before anyone could notice.

-canned goods are tempting, but not worth it. It requires too many tools (can opener/strained sometimes/utensils/some need heat) stick to thinks like various nut butters (sunflower/peanut/almond), crackers, dried fruit, and easy to conceal food bars (nature valley/nutrigrain/etc.) dried ramen packets are good uncooked if you can stand the texture. Apple sauce and pudding cups are also easier to sneak and stash than one might think, and can be eaten with your fingers. The only canned foods I recommend are condensed soups and precooked pasta (spaghetti-o’s). You can easily mix them with a little bit of hot water from the tap and get something more sustaining than a handful of captain Crunch. The cans are cheap, sometimes recyclable, and drinking soup takes way less time than chewing solid food.

-if you menstruate, attempt to stash pads/tampons in a safe location. Sometimes shit happens. Pads can work as bandages in emergency situations. Sometimes shark week comes unexpectedly. If you can sneak a roll of toilet paper or paper towels, these are also life savers.

-plastic utensils from takeout containers can be hidden inside socks and will be worth their weight in gold when you least expect it. I bought myself a tiny plastic bowl from the dollar store and kept cheap trinkets in it on my desk so it didn’t seem like a bowl I was eating out of. You could try this with something like a mason jar, which is also useful for drinking out of or storing water.

-if you’re eating a crunchy or solid food, try soaking it in water. Mushy food can be repulsive in texture, but I could clock the sound of someone eating a nature valley oat bar from like 6 miles away. Dunking it in water (or using a secret bowl+water) can reduce noise, and also eating time since you don’t have to chew as much.

-keep a laundry bar or tide pen on you. Laundry bars are super useful, a little hard to find though. I washed a lot of stains out of my clothes with laundry bars in my bathroom sink as a kid. Not proud if it, but it kept me flying under the radar at school.

-clear rubber bands, plain twine or string, paper clips, and thumb tacks. Indescribably useful. I once rigged a system to open tricky cabinets and get objects from inside using two paper clips and a foot of plain string like a mock lasso system.

-if you’re pulling objects from tall cabinets, use your chest or stomach to cushion them. Let them fall into your torso and then into your hands cradled underneath. Not as loud, not as much grabbing, if someone sees it they can mistake it for it falling on you by the body language.

-get a bandana. Or four. Napkins, bandages, tool, and accessory all in one.

-get a tiny sewing kit. I’m talking 3 needles and a spool of thread tiny. Scissors if you can sneak it. See things into your clothes. Make hidden pockets or compartments. Threadbanger on YouTube did a video a few years ago about sneaking things into music festivals using tiny clothing mods, but they may be useful in sneaking money or medicine.

-on the topic of sneaking money. don’t take bills, take change. If your abusers don’t meticulously count their nickels and pennies, they’re an easy(ish) way to build up a tiny savings pool. I found nickels the least noticed coin I took, even more than pennies, and taking two every few nights from where they’d be tossed on our countertop soon built up to a semi-reliable fund I passed off to someone to get me food for my stash without having to sneak it from the kitchen. As soon as I became “independent” in my food storage, I was subjected to much less scrutiny. I managed to build up a solid 1-2 week ration supply after hoarding change.

-you can tape SD cards to the inside of book dust covers(the part that folds inside the actual cover of the book), if you have a sewing kit or zipper on it inside the stuffing of your pillow (trim a corner, stuff it inside, stitch it closed) or (this is final resort) VERY CAREFULLY remove the covering from your outlet and tape it to the wall stud before replacing the casing. I kept mine inside part of my wooden bed frame that I hollowed out using, you guessed it, take out silverware knives and 4 nights without sleep.

-THE FLOOR IS LAVA WAS KEY TRAINING FOR ME AS A CHILD. I learned to take pillows with me, climb on furniture to disrupt my flow of movement, toss a pillow down, and use that to cushion any rattle our living room could give off as I crept to the kitchen from the side entrance so my mom’s dog wouldn’t bark or alert anyone. I highly suggest crawling around on all fours like some sort of beast to stay out of sight.

-can you run your house blindfolded?? If you can’t. Maybe you should try to learn. I suffered some heavy eye traumas growing up and had a collective 3-4 months just IN THE DARK. Eyes bandaged, left alone. It was terrible, but damn if I couldn’t navigate the whole place silently, without any visual cues. This helps a lot with the whole moving around in the dark thing, too. Listening is obviously key.

-if your parents start getting suspicious, or you’re suspicious they’re getting suspicious, watch out for traps. String on the ground that gets shifted when you walk on it. Baby powder or flour left to track footprints or doors opening/closing. My dad was partial to wrapping a bungee cord around my doorknob and attaching it to the closet across the hallway. I wouldn’t be able to open my door enough to get out, or if I did, I risked ruining the structural integrity of the wrappings he did, and he would notice.

-learn to tie some knots. Strong ones. They’ll come in handy at one point or another.

-remember that you’re not totally alone. There’s people out there for you. Wanting to make everything better. You don’t deserve what’s happening, it isn’t normal, and you will eventually find help. But staying safe is important, and you are important.

live-like-ghibli

It upsets me that people might need to know these but I know it could really help someone by reblogging

minty-marshmallow7

ALWAYS REBLOG

thnksfrthmania

Things that have helped me over the years:

•Keeping a $10 bill on the inside of my phone case for emergencies. My mother will search my wallet and bags but has not taken my phone case off when she takes my phone as of yet.

•stashing loose change I find in the soil of my potted plant. Very quiet hiding place for coins. All bills are quickly confiscated but coins I have managed to hold onto this way

•changing food stash locations constantly. A good stash I’ve found is buried in my mice seed mix. Small packages or granola bars can fit in there pretty easily and the wrappers are flushable (I know it’s bad to flush them but my trash is routinely searched)

• always deleting online traces in case of phone/computer search. This includes search history, forbidden apps, messages, pictures, notes, games, etc. I don’t know how many times I have deleted the tumblr app during the day only to re download it late at night to use it. My phone and computer are constantly confiscated and gone through with a fine tooth comb. I delete anything I might possibly get in trouble for after I use it and re download it when I need it again. Don’t delete all your browsing history though, they will notice if it’s suspiciously empty. Fill it with safe and approved stuff and remove anything you might get punished for.

•learning what each and every door in the house sounds like so I know who is where at all times without having to leave the room

•learning where those ‘sweet spots’ are in the house where you can notice anyone coming before they can see you or what you are doing

•always having a pre-approved cover. I use books and preaching videos as covers. I can hide a phone in a book or quickly switch apps to the one playing the video if surprised or discovered.

• always being aware of ‘the trail’. If I tell a friend something who tells their sibling who tells my sibling who tells my mom I get punished so basically tell no one and it won’t come back to bite you. This includes talking about tv shows/movies that are forbidden, forbidden foods/drinks, activities, apps, games, friends, political views, etc. Express an opinion and it’s bound to reach someone you don’t want it to.

•never take from your abuser’s personal stash of food or money. The family pantry is fair game to carefully pilfer from and so is loose change but never take from their personal purse/wallet, fridge, pantry, or stash. They WILL find out.

•beware of traps and manipulation . My mother will leave money and food unattended and wait for it to disappear. She will also act like she wants to do a good thing and help you out but in the end you will pay for it a hundred times over. Avoid this if at all possible.

• NEVER develop a false sense of security. I have made the mistake of not deleting an app (Pinterest) because there had been a few weeks between phone searches and I felt a little safer. I got caught and severely punished. ALWAYS COVER YOUR TRACKS. Don’t get too confident in your methods, eventually they will find something. Make sure it’s something minor.

nonbinary-hawke-deactivated2021

I just want to point out that when deleting apps, make sure to check that the app store you use doesn’t record what was recently installed. I know that the Google Play Store does this and allows you to delete things from your history, but I don’t know anything about Apple.

holyshotpost

Apple does, in the purchased section of an account, so don’t have a false sense of security for apple apps and always try to use websites with no cookies.

Apps for screeensharing to TVs (such as Samsungcast) also have search tools so if you clear your history you can also use that and make sure to clear it. Just don’t play a video or it might end up showing on the TV screen.

postmortem-depression

I feel so sad that so many of you guys go through this all the time. Rebooting to spread the word.

Stay safe my lovelies

alpine-insurrection

So, so unfortunately important. Reblogging because I would’ve loved to have had seen this growing up - I figured most of it out on my own, of course, but through an amount of trial, error, and traumatic consequences no child should ever have to go through.

rozanov1221

-if your bedroom door was anything like mine, there is a large enough gap from the floor to the bottom of the door that anytime I got out of bed or walked around the room, the door would jangle. Try putting a small but heavy object flush against the door.

-bring a large cup to pee in when it is not safe for you to leave your room or space. be sure to sneak it down a drain as soon as possible.

-other foods to stash away include trail mix, breakfast bars, fruits and veggies. a couple slices of bread and cheese aren’t as easily missed either.

-i have had luck taping paper money to the underside of our rug.

-be aware that you will likely carry the weight of this time with you for a long while. most of my nightmares still take place in my childhood home, where i haven’t lived in over five years.

-but above all else, this time won’t last forever. you will make it out. i’ve got faith in you.

five-chaotic-beans

Hey @mrsmamarhodey idk if you’ve seen this but it’s good advice? I hate that anyone would have to go through this but I feel it may help Honey? ~ Foxy

Bee I will protect you with everything. ~ A

mrsmamarhodey

For all of my kids in unsafe home situations. I love you, be safe.

rwagzwriting

Also, for those of you in situations where you are not believed: as tempting as it is do NOT try and prove it with your phone. Especially if they search it. Please, please don’t do that. Find another way if you absolutely must prove the mistreatment.

-Avoid plastic and paper. They russle a lot, especially when you’re trying to be quiet. As stated above pillowcases are a godsend.

-If you can access the kitchen during the day (and not get caught doing this) move things you might need, granola on the shelf you can only just barely reach? Pull one bar out and slip it to the lowest shelf in the whole kitchen. Put it somewhere no one will check.

-The bottom of a trash can is NOT a good hiding spot. Tempting I know. I’ve hidden a secret stash under a trash bag. Played it off a few times as being a good kid and taking out the trash. But you would have to be the one to always take it out if you did this. Always. You can’t rely on ‘probablies’.

-Self aid. Go to your school nurse and ask for Band-Aids. School computer lab have alcohol pads so you can clean off the mouse? Take some. They will hurt and burn but a clean wound is so much better than an infected one.

-For those of you with allergies to the Staples (peanut butter, bread, cheese, the like) Beans are your new best friend. They suck but hey, they work.

-AVOID SWEETS. This sucks I know. But sweets leave more behind than a chocolate colored tongue, including a sweetened breath (I got busted so badly once even after scrubbing my tongue.)

And finally,

-Find people you can talk to. My messages are always open, @mrsmamarhodey is here for people as well, and many other blogs will listen. Even if there is nothing else we can do. We will listen. We will believe you. We will be there for you in what ways we can. Please, be safe. Stay alive.

song-of-fairies

I can’t believe that there are actually kids who are forced to live like this. It makes me so upset. I am now very concerned about the people on this site. Please, all of you, stay safe.

momokiiicos

there are things in the list that i personally also have to do, some i don’t have to, and tips i could definitely take for the unknown future. anyways, reblogging this in hopes that it could offer a chance for some of you to stay at least a bit safer. remember, we’re all fighting this together

obligatory-name-change

oh, god.

phantomhive-blue-deactivated201

I know it’s the log-off protest but just before I left the app I saw this.

chemicaaaaaal

This was a pretty helpful post, but i do hope none of my followers need this..

pyriteplates

can i adopt you guys???? nobody should have to go through this, and it breaks my heart :/

just know that it WILL get better. maybe not now, maybe not for years to come but this will not last forever. ily ♥

louanaisana

I always kept a plastic container with a lid to catch blood or any other fluid when it wasn’t safe to go to the bathroom to properly wash up. I hid it in an old backpack in the closet and cleaned it whenever the coast was clear

Most obvious hiding places are in the closet, under the bed, in the bottom of drawers and under rugs.

You can tape small items such as a metro card, prepaid phone, plastic bag of money, birth control or other medications, etc under a desk or even better: open the top drawer of your dresser and tape the item to the bottom of the dresser top. Make sure you can open and close it securely without jarring the item free.

You can also hide bills in an old DVD case if you are 100% SURE no one will open it.

If you can get your hands on some good concealer, use it to hide scars and bruises. Abusers will try to isolate you even more if you are a walking display of evidence. Don’t give them any excuse to not let you go to school.

On this same note, avoid making drastic changes to your appearance (dramatic change to hair cut/dye, tattoos or piercings or wearing any makeup/accessory/clothing that might be deemed “different” for you) Your abuser may perceive this as you acting out or seeking attention, and they do not want you to receive any kind of attention as it may give you an outlet to expose what is happening at home.

Don’t write things in codes that are obviously codes. Your abuser will not like this if they find it and you will be punished or forced to reveal the code but most likely both. If you can, make a code that would look like something else if found by someone. For example: If hiding say, your email password so you won’t forget, make a list of things beginning with each letter of the password. Draw pictures of your passwords. (Ex. Draw 4 red dogs, your password is RedDog4.)

Evernote is a great way to hide a digital diary/notebook/photos/contacts that you can delete from your device quickly before a phone search. If you fear you wont have time to delete before a search there is an option to hide your private notebooks so that you can only find them by searching their name and load up some class notes so if your abuser asks about the app you can say it’s for school.

This is a bit expensive but if you can manage it use an external hardrive for anything on your computer your abuser wouldn’t approve of, from photos and videos to games to creative and programming software, etc.

I had a friend whose dad didn’t let her talk to boys at all period so if she ever had a group project and the boys would try to text her she assigned them all feminine names in her contact list (Ex Louis became Louise etc) so she could still save their number.

ownerofidaho

Thank you so much for this.

anatrash17

This doesn’t really match my blog theme but it doesn’t matter. I have some things to add:

To walk completely silently, even barefoot, start on the outside of your foot and roll off your big toe. This takes practice though. Your bare feet will also be quieter if you have calluses on them, so you want to walk barefoot as much as possible.

One thing I did was getting well acquainted with the woods. If I needed to avoid people and couldn’t hide in my room, (the door doesn’t have a lock and the consequences would be SO BAD if I blocked it with something), I grab my bag, and try to avoid them + walk silently as I walked outside and hid deep in the woods where they couldn’t find me.

Never bring your phone (or any electronics) if you choose to escape to a friend’s house/the woods/etc. You don’t know what apps they hid on there, which could track your location.

When in the woods, I would bury my trash so if a family member decides to explore the woods one day/was actively trying to find where I kept hiding, they wouldn’t find traces.

About that bag I mentioned. I risked getting caught for this. I have it in my closet with the other bags so it wasn’t suspicious, but if I got the feeling they were suspicious about me, I hid all the stuff in the bag in different places temporarily. In the bag I keep a bottle of 90% isopropyl alcohol (disinfectant) that my aunt gave me as a joke, a small sewing kit (needle, string, scissors) that I stole the components of from my mom’s room, a knife that I also stole from my mom, and some granola bars.

You can hide things in boxes that appear to be sealed on your shelves. Choose a side, use the corner of your nail, or a small knife if you have one, to slit 3 edges of the plasic on the box on your chosen side. Carefully side the box open so as to not tear the plastic. If there is space, hide your item(s) in the space. If not, take some of the contents out and hide them elsewhere* until you can dispose of them where they won’t find them. Arrange the flap of plastic so it lines up properly (if box is cardboard or similar you can lick the edge of the plastic and place it down, it will stick moderately well and the fact it isn’t in tact will be less noticeable) and put box on shelf so that the cut side is against the back. (I have many time in the past taken a “sealed” box of playing cards and take the right amount of cards out so that after putting whatever I want in, it would weigh the same as a normal box of playing cards. This way if they pulled things off the self, unless they examined the playing card box carefully, it was unlikely that they would notice)

*if you have a coat/jacket with a liner, you can put holes in your pockets and stitch the liner to the jacket at the bottom so things you put in there will be at the bottom and it will seem like your pockets are empty. Don’t put anything bulky or potentially loud in, or your trick will be exposed immediately. Works great for papers though, and it’s one of the only ways to transport plastic wrappers without being loud. Not coins though.

Learn how to remove the screen from your window

Any social media or other restricted thing or anything they could use to stalk me if they found out I had it I use web for, my accounts are under different fake names with different email address I created with different fake names just for them, and my passwords are all long, secure, and MEMORIZED. And I delete my search history of any of those particular things.

I know how to give myself stitches. This has come in handy.

Leather = low grade armor. Wear it whenever you can. Then you can take a punch without it being quite so bad.

There’s a gate at the bottom of the stairs at my house that not only creaks, but the latch is LOUD. I climbed over the railing near the bottom instead, and then walked down the outsides of the last couple of steps.

How to climb over a railing silently: put hands on railing, swing one leg over so you’re sitting as if on a horse, and then carefully slide your already over leg down so it is touching the outside of the step and at the same time you swing your other leg over and carefully place that foot down.

If you close a door while holding the handle turned, like how you would if you were opening it, and use your other hand to guide it so it doesn’t hit the door frame, instead lining it up exactly where the latch needs to go, and then slowly rotate the handle back, it is near silent.

A fluffy sock jammed in the bottom handle-side corner of the door can keep the door from making noise as you walk around your room at night.

Hide things inside your pillows. Not just your pillow cases, but the pillows themselves. A lot of them have zippers where you can access the fluff, and you can hide things in the fluff. Stuffed animals sometimes have this too.

Semi-sheer, loose layers will be a lot less hellish and a lot less suspicious in warm weather but can still hide most older cuts/scars that are starting to become less garishly red.

If you close your eyes for 30 seconds before trying to navigate the dark your eyes will adjust and you will be able to see much better.

To anyone who needs any of the advice above or in similar posts: Good luck, stay safe, and remember that one day this will be over and you will be safe. I know it’s tough but keep going. If you ever need to talk, I’m here.

cokezerotokes

I absolutely wept when I read this. I remember being a kid and living at home, having to do most of these things to keep myself safe and alive. I’m so sorry that their are so many of you who are going through this. If this is something you’re going through and you just want someone to talk to about it all my inbox is always open. From one survivor to another.

dracogotgame

I am so, so sorry.

ipaniceverywherenotjustthedisco

i know ive reblogged this countless times, but this has some really important additions, please stay safe guys <3

togshitpost

I know this is not ToG related, but, if this can help …

genderfluid-and-confuzled

learn to sew,if you can do it well you can open up stuffed animals and fill them with whatever as long as it’s small and not likley to be notice

if you never turn a fan on you can tape ska stuff to the top of it, idk if it will hold if the fan turns on

if you have a trusted friend have them store stuff in their locker/get a lock and put it on an unused locker that way even if they know your locker they can’t get to your stuff

shapeofinfinity

for those who need it

cheese-greater-official

I would hope no one needs to use this but I know there are people that do this for you guys

justabsbutler-deactivated202105

We got you

Seriously

We’re here for you

Everyone is

slider-79-but-im-not-real

For everyone who needs this

slothful-rabbit

Stay safe please

strawberry-lemonade

i don’t remember seeing this on the list but during the day i go up and down the stairs and through the house to memorize all the creaky spots so i can avoid them at night

4ngstyc00kie-deactivated2021101

stay safe guys <3

the-angry-ship-deactivated20220

@its-my-mental-breakdown

its-my-mental-breakdown

Thank you darling, I plan on using these tips for my.own hell hole of a house

ash-hamiltrash

This is horrible that people have to deal with and also I have a small tip: if your house has a radiator/heater (like mine), time how long it goes on and then when it turns on, RUN and get what you need. I love you all and stay safe!

lilbabypansexual-deactivated202

Sorry for the long ass post but as a child who deals with this, I’ve got a few things to add. -KEEP SOMETHING MINOR THAT YOU’RE NOT SUPPOSED TO HAVE. This may seem counterintuitive, but that way if your parents say you’re acting suspicious, you can turn their attention away from something bigger. Additionally, if they catch you nd you have to lie, DON’T go for the classic “I don’t know anything” or “I didn’t do that.” Take the situation and make it a little bit bad but not too much. Example: I had kept scissors in my room for sewing, which I wasn’t supposed to have. So what I did was I said that I had gotten a ponytail holder stuck in my hair and had to cut it out, but that I was scared they would get mad so I hid them. -As for money, I took a pad out of the wrapper and threw it out, and then used the wrapper to hold money and taped it shut. I kept that in my bag, as if it were a pad for emergencies, and they never suspected. -If you’re sneaking into the kitchen, fill up a glass with water and stand there for a few minutes drinking it until you’re sure no one is coming to check on you. That way if they do catch you, you can say you were getting a drink of water.

becausewedefinetheworld

Sjdvkhfufk this was super helpful thank you to everyone who added to this

eptck

if u have a vent on ur wall near the ceiling, u can clean the dust away n store things there

always have an escape route mapped out

always have an escape bag, just in case. mine has an extra phone charger, my wallet, a sewing kit, a re-usable water bottle, extra underwear, toilet paper, headphones, a grocery bag, and a small blanket

if u can, try to get a pair of boots that are good for navigating wooded areas

study foraging. u never know how useful info about toxic and non-toxic plants can be

stay safe out there, babes. hope none of u ever have to use these tips

oyaapeach

It hurts to know so many of us have had to use info like this just to survive. I’m by o means a popular blog, but I hope anybody who see’s this will either gain some merit from it or repost it for others to see. It sucks living like this, and it follows you well into your life, but sometimes that’s the reality.

Stay safe everyone. You can do this.

stardewvalleyquotesbutitswrong

I don’t know WHO needs this right now, but I’m going to reblog this anyway.

Idc that it’s not SdV related.

ghostieliving

Hate that this is stuff that people need to know, but it’s important that the people who need this information have it.

tiny-crecher

Idk if this will work for other people but sometimes I’m able to wrap a blanket around myself and hide stuff under it if my parents are in the way. I use it a lot to sneak food and water upstairs and I can just pass it off as being cold. I’m an absolute freeze baby so they’re not suspicious. Just be sure to make the blanket a semi-common thing, not just when you’re sneaking stuff around.

Oh and you can put things like crackers, pretzels, and cereal in clean socks (or just a small bag if you have one) if you can’t take the whole container. Just make sure to switch the socks around every now and then because crumbs are a bitch.

You can also hide food in bras if you wear them. Mostly granola bars for me. If it sticks out then try wearing baggy clothing over it.

aroacesafeplaceforall

Somethings I’ve done that I can think of rn -jamie

- use private/anon browsing when searching shit you don’t want to get caught for, search appropriate stuff on main

- always have a friend you can claim you were texting if they ask why are you typing on your phone. Someone who has an extensive history with you and your fam and they trust

- always have a friend you can call and claim you were talking to instead of watching something/calling other people

-after work, I would “take cash out for lunch as they don’t take card” usually only $20 a week ish but managed to save a good $1k ish in the end with this tactic

- hiding notes in books, they don’t tend to get searched much. Choose books you haven’t read/don’t read often, it’s less likely they’ll be confiscated or removed from your room

- stand on wooden unmoving shit, nothing with wheels and nothing made of fake wood (can break) or moving metal

- if your door doesn’t lock, look up different ways so you can lock it (different doors = different ways)

- if your not allowed to close your door, make sure your bed isn’t in immediate view of said door way. Move it into a more sheltered area, same with anything valuable or vulnerable. Gives them less ideas

- move your desk/study area to somewhere where they can’t immediately see you.

- never have both head phones in, I don’t care if you can study better, don’t do it

- never wait for them to call you twice

There’s more but I can’t remember rn I’m about to pass out I swear

its-target-official

my parents are assholes to me, but I thank god they’re not physically abusive

rb. even if it doesn’t match your “theme”.

barnes-and-noble-official

This is literally one of the most helpful posts I’ve ever seen on this website period.

deactivated-blog

it’s so heartbreaking that ppl have to deal with bad parents :(

pls rb this if u can

adopt-me-roblox

I should probably reblog here too

kurumbukaari

I don’t know who needs this but I ain’t taking chances. I didn’t know people could be this horrible, but since I’ve been proved wrong, I’d better help the right side.

book-of-whispers

I didn’t see it mentioned, but during the day and around your abuser, never avoid the creaky loud areas on purpose. Walk like you don’t realize they’re there. If you avoid the spots making noise during the day they could get suspicious that you’re navigating silently at night

fireflychaosdemon

I have definitely reblogged this before but I don’t see the tip I made before so I will say it again

know your way around your neighborhood

I’d say about 3km around your house in all directions

know where you could go if you need to leave and where your abuser won’t think to look

also my mom did this as a child because she wasn’t allowed to drink anything other than tea or water at her father’s house

but she hid some drinks in the tank of the toilet

not behind it, in the tank itself

most likely it won’t be checked frequently unless the toilet has issues

also

use websites if you can instead of downloading an app

for example I use tumblr and pinterest on google and safari, which i could delete from my history if necessary (it’s not)

milevenstancyendgame

For those who need this, my heart is with you. I’m a survivor too. One day you’ll get out of there.

asaltysquid

My situation was never thankfully as extreme as this but a couple of things that I’m just surprised no one mentioned at least in this version:

WRITE DOWN IMPORTANT INFO!

I’m talking

-emergency phone numbers of allies

-bus routes

-important addresses like libraries or community centers

-passwords

Keep this list hidden but in an accessible place where it can be easily grabbed and remember that the library is a free and safe way to get online and message important people and log into hidden accounts

If possible make sure to have copies of your important documentation such as birth certificates and IDs!

I always had at least one get away friend who was able to come grab me on a moment’s notice if necessary.

And few people already mentioned this but never ever ever let yourself be lulled into safety with your phone. Be on that phone history like a tick on a dog. I still have panic attacks if I wake up and can’t immediately find my phone next to me. If you can sleep with your phone charging under you so someone would have to move you to steal it at night (frame it like you just fall asleep using it).

bacolotl

Things didn’t get quite that fucked up for me but i figure the more the merrier, so here’s what i can think of:

- If you happen to have an old phone lying around because nobody bothered to toss or sell it, get a prepaid sim, get it booted up, save some emergency contacts but make sure they are saved on the SIM card itself if possible. That way you can take it back out, hide it, wipe all data off the phone and if someone turns it on they won’t know anybody touched it. If you put it back in (or into a different phone) you’ll have your contacts. Put the phone somewhere that’s quickly accessible but won’t raise suspicion (i.e. junk/electronics drawer). It’s still potentially a bit risky, but could be a lifesaver if they confiscated your phone and you need to get out

- If you do this, also use it to note down important information like bus routes in the form of contacts. You’ll have to get creative with it, but it’s a way to get some essentials down.

- Pretty basic but be weary of light from your room being visible outside at night. Double and triple check by leaving your room at night when the coast is clear, closing the door, waiting for your eyes to adjust to the dark and repeating the process with different lamps etc on inside to know which ones are safe. If there is even a sliver of light anywhere, see if you can block it somehow. A jacket or hoodie or blanket carefully tucked against the bottom of the door and some tape over the keyhole (it was a big keyhole) has worked wonders for me, you just need to remember to remove them in the morning.

- Scents can be your downfall. You might not notice your room smelling like food, they will. So make sure to air it out after eating, use air fresheners, spray deodorant etc. Just don’t overdo it or it’ll be obvious you’re trying to hide a smell. Preferably just keep the window open for a bit.

- If you’re able to hide it, have a lighter. I don’t think it’s been mentioned here yet but it could be a lifesaver at some point. Small ones can be easily hidden in the lining of jackets (see the tip about cutting a hole in your pockets someone mentioned earlier, which i absolutely second btw).

- Get literally all the first aid and medical knowledge you can! You never know when it might come in handy. Can’t learn too much.

- Hide emergency cash any place they won’t check, especially where it’s gonna be on your person whenever you go out. You need to assess how safe each option is for you, but here’s some more i’ve used that i can think of spontaneously:

- jacket lining secret pocket my beloved

- any secret compartment in your backpack (again, you can put a small hole in the lining somewhere it won’t stick out and stuff some bills in there)

- if your shoes have a removable sole, you can probably fit some bills in there. Also if they’re worn down enough, if you get lucky you might just happen to find a hollow bit in the actual rubber that you can access for extra storage. I had that once anyway

- hidden within school stuff, for example you could have an envelope taped to a page in your notebook. If you’re scared of them searching it, you could just have the envelope tucked away somewhere and write your name on it to make it look like something you might give your teacher, say it’s for a book or field trip or whatever they might be collecting money for. Again, could be risky depending on your situation.

- literally a pack of tissues. Carefully take one out, fold a bill or two into it (fold it the same way it was before) and carefully slide it back in at the very back. Then remember not to give anyone your last tissue.

I’ll add to this later if i can think of anything else.

Stay safe everyone, know that you will get through this <3

fromchaostocosmos

Things I wish I did: keep evidence of things. Memory is tricky and once you are out trauma can be difficult. If want to purse anything either criminally or civilly (suing for emotional distress etc) having records and evidence is important.

So if you can take photos, write anything in a journal about what is going and what you are dealing with, take the photos on your phone and send them a secret email account and then delete them off your phone or however that is helpful.

Hide your record keeping and evidence. If you have a friend you can trust who can keep in safe, somewhere in you school locker, wrap up in a secure manner from the environment and elements and bury it if need be. Hide it within in something.

If you are able to try accessing your local free legal services because you do have options and there is help.