Queefer Sutherland

I’m 38 and bi pronouns she/they tme formerly hamvendor

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[alittlepraise]

who wants to take me to an aquarium and spend a whole day there listening to me say “wooowwww” and “they look so cute” at every fish

[coughloop]

if you were a skilled glassblower what bong would you make that doesnt currently exist

I THINK I COULD CREATE THE BONG OF CHANGE

[strictlyquadrilateral]

and this isn't even getting into harm that's genuinely necessary! i read a book recently that was intended to educate people in healthcare about medical trauma, written by a medical professional who found that there weren't existing resources to help her cope with the aftermath of the extremely traumatic c section that saved her life. the whole tone of the book was "i know you've never thought about this before, but walk with me through this case study" and it's aimed at other medical professionals! it's aimed at the people who are doing this harm, and so many of them think that people aren't allowed to find it harmful just because it's necessary!

[strictlyquadrilateral]

so many trauma resources assume that your trauma is from a specific person or people who treated you in a way that society deems unacceptable. if your trauma doesn't fit that profile then you're left sitting there like. idk i dont think most of this stuff applies to me. where are the resources for people like me.

[strictlyquadrilateral]

if you were ever scared or in pain and were told that you had to grin and bear it because it's necessary for you to do the thing that scares and hurts you, you are allowed to say that that was traumatic. you are allowed to say that you were scared and in pain and that even if this was the least bad option, even if it was lifesaving, it still was not okay. something being necessary does not inherently make it okay.

[the-real-seebs]

i think i still have mild trauma from a dentistry-related thing some years back, and it was completely voluntary and i wanted it, just, the experience was actually really upsetting. like, totally worth it in overall outcomes, just. wow, yeah. i do not want to ever do that again.

i have more than one thing that saved my life and traumatized me.

[finelinesignattwo]

I'm a juvenile diabetic: relatedly, I used to be crippled by CPTSD. it turns out, infants dislike needles, and having your primary caregivers administer them daily can be bad for those relationships. I had no sense of trauma as the etiology of my issues for a while, because I couldn't find any 'abuse' in my history.

I remember talking to a psychologist: guy was like "are you absolutely sure you weren't abused as a child? I am literally a therapist, so you can tell me". when I demurred, he was like "truly? because you really really come across like you were, and I meet a lot of people with that history".

it was only after a parent mentioned that I'd go quiet and waxy during injections (tonic immobility, in retrospect) that I started to consider whether the lifesaving medical care I received had negative psychological effects.

[fittingoutjane]

This is a common gateway to pseudoscience. People experience trauma from receiving, or from seeing a loved one receive, lifesaving medical care and aren't able to find the space to process that it was necessary, the alternative was worse, AND it was really and truly awful. People who are afraid to go back. People who need accommodations to make necessary medical care less stressful and scary, and can't get them.

[samsincerely]

EVERYONE get in the tags rn and tell me your favorite cheese

[ymutate]

Keith Haring, Grace Jones, Eartha Kitt

[qadmonster]

dream blunt rotation

[gothvince]

i talk about transitioning and all anyone ever says is "I hope you don't regret it" what if instead we said I hope you love it. I hope it's everything you ever wanted. I hope you live the rest of your life in utter bliss. etc etc.

[gothvince]

I hope you transition and I hope it's the best thing you ever did and I hope you never look back and I hope you finally feel comfortable in your own skin

[mapsontheweb]

US state borders but they are based off rivers and mountains

[dessa-banks]

[supreme-leader-stoat]

@blinded-by-love

[medicinemane]

I think we should do this but leave Colorado alone so there’s just an extremely jarring rectangle in one part of this

[supreme-leader-stoat]

I like how you think.

[cannibalcaprine-deactivated2024]

[notajerusalemcricketd-deactivat]

enough. to the Box with you

[thebonewitch]

At the end of the day, my thoughts on job hunting are that it's incredibly stupid how every fiber of our current socioeconomic structure is screaming that you MUST have a job and nothing else matters because you MUST be working and that's the only thing of true importance so never forget that you MUST have a job, and I'm like damn okay so I'd like a job, can I have one? And the answer is No

[barstoolblues]

high at trader joes buying all yellow groceries

[funnelcloudd]

I feel like a lot of AuDHD people who consider themselves “low support needs” would actually be more like medium support needs if more help was available and it was considered acceptable to take advantage of said help. Myself included lmao

[funnelcloudd]

“You people can’t do anything” more like I *can* do it but it exhausts me and makes me feel like my skin is on fire every single goddamn day and eventually I melt/shut down and it makes people strongly dislike me

[funnelcloudd]

I feel like a lot of AuDHD people who consider themselves “low support needs” would actually be more like medium support needs if more help was available and it was considered acceptable to take advantage of said help. Myself included lmao

[eptck]

you have to be kinder to people with memory issues.

you have to be kinder to people who are slow processors.

you have to be kinder to people who don't understand your jokes.

you have to be kinder to people who forget important dates.

you have to be kinder to people with cognitive decline.

you have to be kinder to people who were always this way, too.

you have to be kind. you have to be kind.

[funnelcloudd]

Not to harp on outdoor cat people all day but if you reblog a post about the issue with “we don’t have coyotes where I live this is so US-centric 🙄” as if you don’t have foxes, hawks, owls, diseases, dogs, and/or cars you should probably kindly think about how fucking stupid you sound.

[funnelcloudd]

I hate this particular strain of cat owner so much lmao. “My little huntress” more like your little invasive species you affected acting fuck.

I caught my dog getting into a rabbit nest once and I was horrified. I immediately took the surviving babies to the wildlife clinic, I wasn’t like oh wow great job eating those baby rabbits Holly. And cottontails aren’t even a protected species like native birds are.

If you shot a heron you’d go to jail but letting your shithead cat kill one is perfectly acceptable and “part of nature”. The way these people fetishize their animals’ killing abilities is so fucking bizarre.

[funnelcloudd]

I think part of the problem is how we view the lives of non-mammals. Even the mammals we eat are looked at more fondly than birds and lizards and bugs and whatnot. Bird deaths are routinely played for laughs in various media and I’ve met so many people who viciously hate them for no reason. Even more who simply don’t care about their wellbeing. Look at the comments on any post about window collisions or turning your lights off for migration season. People get pissed at very suggestion that you do something to help birds.

[shortbreadjamandtea]

MICHAEL ROBINAVITCH

The Pitt - S1E1: 7:00 A.M

[gaysquaredwrites]

p0rn w/ feelings is so funny it’s like I’ve tricked you into reading this fic by offering you smut but as soon as you get there I pull out a chair, sit backwards on it, and say “hey, pal. you wanna talk about abandonment issues?” and then you have no choice but to listen

[mylordshesacactus]

#what is the POINT of porn if it’s not also a character study