healing but it's ~realistic~

Ronja, 23, Germany, she/they, queer. This is a space for all who are healing from trauma or other mental illnesses. Message me if you need something tagged!

[chaotic-recovery]

About (WIP)

Heyo, my name is Ronja! I'm 23, German, and currently doing my Masters in Media-Sociology. I'm recovering from cptsd and eating disorders. I'm very socially anxious, but I still love to get messages! Please be patient if I don't answer immediately.

I've created this blog as a way to practice positive thinking and I'm hoping that it might help you too.

Negative stuff, like vents or personal issues, will be tagged #negative.

Trans-, ace, and neurodivergent people, you are save here. Only love and kindness in this house.

Enjoy your stay!

[akindplace]

Liz Fosslien  

[the-irrelevant-trumpeter]

uhh i know i needed to hear this earlier, so here it is in case someone else needs it

it's okay to quit things. whether it's because you don't have the time, or you're not passionate about it anymore, or it's affecting your mental health in some way, or you just don't want to. whether it's a project, or a team, or anything. it's okay to not keep going. you're not weak or lazy. you don't have to feel guilty about it, or feel like you owe an explanation. it's okay.

[kingbugprincess]

"I could make that abstract art, anyone could" then make it. Unironically. Go buy some paints. Do a mild googling. Do it, make the same art. See what it feels like. Find out what it inspires in you. Back in high school one kid was pretty disparaging of Jackson Pollock's art until we MADE Jackson Pollocks and it became his THING for the rest of the year. You could go into the art room on break to find him picking out colors and preparing space to make em. Try on the abstract art and let yourself forge a genuine connection to it, coward.

[alagaisia]

This is a great point. Maybe seeing a painting and thinking "I could've done that" should be inspiring instead of disparaging. Like, if a simple abstract painting is considered Art, then maybe the takeaway isn't "wow, art is dumb," it's "wow, I could make art"

[selfcare-journey]

My brain, having a meltdown like a toddler: I just can’t do it! I don’t want to !! I can’t!!

Me, parenting my tired toddler brain: Take a deep breath, it’s going to be ok. We don’t have to do everything today that’s overwhelming you. Let’s pick the most important thing to work on, ok? What’s the smallest step we can do to work towards that?

My toddler brain, wiping away tears: Um, I think we should…open up the important spreadsheet and look at the first row.

Me, parenting my tired toddler brain: Great! Let’s do that, and then we can have a popsicle, ok?

My toddler brain: *nods through drying tears, upset, but cooperative*

[flowerquotes]

[miseducatedmelanicmuse]

🥴🥴🥴🥴

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Give me less "being kind requires zero effort" and more "being kind is worth the effort it takes."

[akindplace]

You don't have to earn food. You don't have to be burned out to finally allow yourself to take that nap. You don't have to be "sick enough" to ask for help. Don't wait to give your body the things it is asking for immediately. Don't punish yourself by denying your needs. Don't be afraid to seek help. Your body is amazing the way it is, so nourish it, care for it, let it recover, even if it isn't the way you wanted it to be.

[soft-lovely]

pretty red book covers

[deanwinchesterapologist]

sundays are fun because you get more scared with every passing hour

[solarcitrus]

┏( >o<)┓I may be human who makes mistakes but I am not a mistake!  And neither are you!  I’m not sorry!!!  I am thankful for the people who support me!!!!!

[sadiepickles]

The biggest scam your brain is telling you is that everybody else is human and allowed to make mistakes but that you yourself have to be perfect and flawless to deserve their company

[lukasspookas]

Who cares what society thinks relationships should be like. Don't be afraid to have strange and unusual relationships with the people around you. Ask someone if they wanna pretend to date for fun. Kiss your homies goodnight. Buy your friends flowers and nice things. Who cares. Love your friends. Be a flirt. Be a whore. Be silly. Be free.

[warm-suggestions]

Things you don’t need to feel guilty about: eating, how you look, standing up for yourself, relaxing, sleeping in, taking a mental health day, saying “no.”

[and-how-to-heal-from-it]

psa if you relapsed

Take a deep breath. It’s going to be okay.

Just because you had one setback doesn’t mean your efforts are ruined. Recovery is not linear. Today is a new day.

You’re still worthy of love and respect.

Remember: you’re amazing for even attempting recovery, no matter how difficult it might be. 

[survivingfmandcfs]

One of the best things I've ever learned is that a meal doesn't have to consist of "matching" foods. Today for lunch I had a spoonful of peanut butter, an orange, and a bowl of cereal with soy milk. I ate the first two while in the kitchen prepping my cereal and coffee, and then I finished the meal in my bedroom. And that's okay. Whatever keeps me eating. Whatever it takes to keep putting nutrition in my body. Your food doesn't have to match. It's okay to eat bits of your meal before you've actually sat down with it. Whatever works.