i still undoubtedly believe that rhysand abused feyre by withholding the pregnancy information from her. i do not care if he did what he did out of love. tamlin did what he did out of love, too. a lot of abuse is done "out of love".
what sjm said about her own experiences was raw and tragic and increasingly relevant politically (and socially) in this fucked up society. but, i am utterly lost as to how this explains or justifies specifically the lack of backlash rhysand faced after choosing to not tell feyre about the wings. from the IC and the fandom.
though repackaging it as devotion, sjm outright admitted it was a wrong choice made by rhysand. those who are coming out with "i told you so" attitudes are alarming me. told us what?












