Cheyenne Helps

Hello! My name is Cheyenne, and welcome to Cheyenne-Helps, your number one source for all your face claim, role play and story writing needs! Feel free to ask me anything; just be sure to check the tags before asking a question! Thank you! I am currently tracking the tag: #cheyenne-helps I NO LONGER ANSWER FC QUESTIONS FOR IAN NELSON OR KAITLYN DEVER.

[myboyfriendpetebuttigieg]

No one here seems interested in the grimy parts of mental health. Everyone wants to talk about mental illness as quiet introverts drinking tea and nervously stuttering over words. No one ever talks about symptoms like paranoia or hallucinations or hypersexuality or compulsions or homelessness or drug addiction or delusions or psychosis or violent urges. Every time a clearly mentally ill person commits a crime, and someone says, “Hey, maybe this is a sign that we need to improve mental health awareness in this country,” everyone goes to screaming: “This isn’t about mental illness! Mentally ill people aren’t violent!”

But yes, sometimes mentally ill people are violent. Sometimes we are bad people. And even those mentally ill people are in need of advocacy, maybe even more so.

When you post “Protect people with mental illnesses at all costs,” do you mean all of us, or just the cute ones?

[aliform]

I get sick of tumblr’s version of self care, which 90% of the time threads into this beautifully: go pet a fuzzy cute animal! pile up your favorite blankets from childhood and watch disney movies! take a nap! play a game from this list of cute soothings games! 

More realistically: go take a shower because it’s been three days. Wash the dishes that have been in the sink since last Friday that you can smell as soon as you open your door because rotting food stinks. Pick all your clothes off the floor because that’s where your entire wardrobe is and you’ve already cried today because you tripped over a sweater and realized the cat puked on it. Call someone who can give you enough courage to pay that bill you’ve been ignoring. Put away the crackers because that’s all you’ve eaten for two days straight. Apologize to the friends who are worried sick about you, and if you can’t at least let them know you are ok and need space. 

One of the most empowering types of self-care is responsibility, but tumblr just wants to sit in a closet strung with fairy lights and read their favorite fic.  

"Cute" self-care for "cute" mental issues. That’s not reality. 

[cheyenne-helps-blog]

I AM MOVING

Hello followers and mutuals!  I’ve decided to move to underused-rph.  Feel free to follow me there, if you’d like.

[blackisflawless-deactivated2014]

Black pride is not white hate.

[mirrepp]

Some harsh but very very true words

[howtonotsuckatgamedesign]

When people let me review their portfolios (on career day or open days at my game design school) I explicitly ban them from commenting during the review… …because otherwise they will follow the impulse to downplay everything I see in an attempt at being humble. "this is an old image…"

"I’m not happy with that one…" "this is just a sketch…"

"I did this really quickly…" "there is better stuff on later pages…" It’s totally understandable to have those impulses. The quality of art is not empirical data and therefore impossible to measure. Good art, bad art, it all comes down to standards. And you don’t want to come off as naive or self-absorbed. But just don’t do it. Don’t talk yourself down in front of others. In the best case you have someone supportive who now thinks “damn, this person needs to be prepped up all the time. Do I really want to work with somebody like that” or in worst case “now that you say it, yeah, this is kinda lame/rushed/unfinished/lazy, go away.” You can only submit what you have. If that is not enough, then it’s not enough. Your attitude will not change that. But if it is enough, you can do serious harm by not being confident of who you are now. This means appreciating what you are able to do right now and have a clear vision of what you want to learn, be confident that you will learn it in time.  Be proud.

[naamahdarling]

This is really important.  Eliminate this urge.  Eliminate it professionally, when having contact with people in a position to buy your work.  Eliminate it socially, when you just share your work for fun.  Destroy this urge as thoroughly as you possibly can.

Because when you have done that, you’ll find that you feel at least 25% less shitty about your own work.  You lose the urge to do it.  You stop reinforcing those negative thoughts, and they retreat.  They may never go away completely (although they might!) but this is good practice for ignoring those thoughts flat-out.

Don’t shit-talk yourself.  Even if you can’t be SO PROUD, don’t ever try to influence anyone’s opinion toward your work in the negative.

Try to love your work.  Try to see what you learned from each piece, even if it’s a failure.  If you feel that you learned nothing, appreciate the fact that just spending time on it is honing your skills and giving you valuable practice.

i used to be super not-confident in my own work.  When I stopped pointing out the flaws in my own stuff, I felt better about it almost immediately.

[charoite-deactivated20161231]

Visit Original Link

[crystalisedmoonlight]

PRESS PLAY AND SING IT

DO NOT PRETEND YOU DON’T KNOW THE WORDS TO THIS

//reblog.

==> Hear first syllable

==> REBLOG AT THE SPEED OF LIGHT

[yaachel-deactivated20210206]

I’ve never fucking heard this before

[haybop-86-deactivated20160823]

What is this?

[obsessivelygalahad]

Must be an American thing.

[coolfeels]

I DIDN’T KNOW WHAT IT WAS AT FIRST BUT THEN

[paradoxwizard13]

What is this

[fab-4-lyfee]

#whiteout is for mistakes sweetie :)

[cheyenne-helps-blog]

this would be me if my  school burned down 

[telepathyamongmoths]

this blog 100% supports #BLACKOUT Friday

[cheyenne-helps-blog]

Since I’m moving to a new blog, should I upload my gif hunts and graphics to my new blog or should I just reblog them and put them under the “mine” tag?

[cheyenne-helps-blog]

Since I'm moving to a new blog, should I upload my gif hunts and graphics to my new blog or should I just reblog them and put them under the "mine" tag?

[katiebishop]

[alwayssthehourss]

FOR THE LOVE OF GOD SOMEONE TELL ME WHO THIS GUY IS

[katiebishop]

RUSSELL HOWARD

[hey-bitch-jerk-assbutt]

Russell Howard is a national treasure.

[aima015-deactivated20200402]

Russel Howard for Prime Minister

[cheyenne-helps-blog]

I AM MOVING

Hello followers and mutuals!  I've decided to move to underused-rph.  Feel free to follow me there, if you'd like.

[anightmarefantasmic]

[chewymochi-deactivated20230210]

i never noticed how strong that penguins braid game is

[shumbus]

thats a raccoon

[thisbitchyellsback]

My feminism will ALWAYS include trans women, sex workers, women of color, disabled women, fat women, intersex women, poor women, neuroatypical women, and all the other women who are often neglected

[astrowitchcraft]

the signs most to least likely to be serial killers

1. cancer 2. sagittarius 3. taurus 4. gemini 5. aries 6. capricorn 7. virgo 8. scorpio 9. pisces 10. leo 11. libra 12. aquarius

[kpopaphobe]

when white people change ‘black lives matter’ to ‘all lives matter’

[fvckintiredofit]

Lmaoooooo

[revysprite-deactivated20170502]

Lmaooo

[sanctimonious-virgins]

Awesome protests erupted in my school today. Our student council planned a “fun” game for valentines day. They handed out paper hearts to every girl at the beginning of the day. Only the girls. If a girl speaks to a guy through the duration of the day, she has to give him her heart. Guys get five raffle tickets for every heart they collect. Girls cannot collect hearts, they only have one to give away, and guys do not have to give away anything. A gay male asked for a heart to give away to participate and was told no.

Some girls have taken this as an invitation to say things such as, quoted from twitter, “keeping the whores from talking today haha.” And boasting about “keeping their heart and not being a whore.” This has turned into an excuse to shame each other for talking to guys. And for what? A valentines game?

Rather than writing their names on the hearts and giving them away, many girls have written notes of protest on the paper hearts and are wearing them proudly as they associate with whoever they please and refuse to give the heart away.

Proud of some of the people in my school today.

[davekat-deactivated20130315-dea]

males are rewarded for collecting female “hearts” and are encouraged to collect as many as they possibly can, but females are only allowed to have one heart to give away, and when they give it away they’re not allowed to play anymore

the correlation of “hearts” to how virginity/sex is treated in society is kind of eerie and definitely sexist

[curefloraofficialarchives]

This is a really big deal! My elementary had us do this for Valentine’s Day one year. Girls were given a prize if they kept theirs, boys were given a prize if they got one. The boys would harass us - verbally, getting into our personal space, or pulling our hair - until we told them to stop and then they would get to take the heart. A lot of us were pretty mad about it at the time, and now that I see the implications of it, I’m even angrier.

[lacigreen]

ALL THIS COMMENTARY AND ALSO SOMEONE GIVE THESE KIDS A METAL

[riennynn]

Double standards, sexism, misogyny, and oh what a great message to send to kids growing up…sigh.

[karadin]

I’ve never heard of this silly game before, I hope it doesn’t go elsewhere.