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Listen to yourselves...Stress comes calling..Hello?

‘Help me’ ‘Are you listening?’ Have you heard such voices coming from your mind? Have you muttered this to your own self and seriously wanted somebody listening to it somehow. This is the feeling of helplessness! This is the worst feeling in the world.

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So people you are suffering from stress? Are you not? You can be, at some point of your life because Study by Government of India 2015 shows one out of five Indians are suffering from stress. (Reference: Financial Express)  So are other nations like in US about 77% regularly experience physical symptoms caused by stress!(Reference: Statisticbrain)

You know what, many cases go untreated and not even a single action is taken by the person suffering to change his /her lifestyle because they find it quite embarrassing not only to let other people know about it but even to accept themselves that they do suffer from stress.

A little info on stress.First let me quote the definition or stress in medical terms: “a physical or psychological stimulus that can produce mental tension or physiological reactions that may lead to illness.”

There are three kinds of stress: Acute, Episodic Acute and chronic stress. I am giving you some homework today ;) Study these 3 types and their symptoms here, just one page so don’t worry. It will make you better understand it: Different Kinds of Stress [Go ahead Read It Now]

Seriously Serious stuff ha..Time to smile ..err.. laugh just like them :):)

This all is just for your understanding of the condition you are suffering from, for it will make it easy for you to handle it. I have a firsthand experience of suffering from this dreadful stuff and coming out from it. And I am here to help you all. :)

My task for today is only to make you realize and accept the condition you are suffering from or can suffer from. That is why i am asking you to listen when your body asks for help and not ignore it. Acceptance is the key. Half of the work is done if you accept it and open up your problems to your close ones. Take help. Don’t feel ashamed.The person sitting beside you might also be suffering from the same, it is very common today for our lifestyle is very close to becoming hell.

Stress would never go unnoticed at least from your own self. You will definitely feel it when it dawns on you, when it takes you under its clutches. Now the only thing needed is initiation on your behalf. Which is talking to people about it, your family member, your friends. If and when even this is not enough or not possible, be open about visiting a doctor too. Yes our best friend! Make them yours. Disclose yourself to them. Go get a counselling session from a psychiatrist. Take your meds regularly for they work.

But take a note that these people can only become your supporters,motivators, counsellors, providing medications to help you fight internal physical battle with hormones, but only one who can really throw this stuff out of your body is.. no points for guesses :) “You”. Develop a habit of looking at self from the third person perspective, for this trick also helps a lot.

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I have experienced that even talking to doctors once made me feel a lot better. Even a single visit will boost your confidence a lot for fighting with stress. This my personal experience. I was on bed for 15 days. I knew something was wrong with me, I had stopped going to college, felt as if i always wanted to cry, that there is nothing positive in life till I met my doctor. And do believe that medicines work. But it is always that positivity and strength they talk into you that works a lot better for you to counter it.

So enough for today. In subsequent blogs I will try to put  a light on  causes of stress and how can you yourself take small steps in order to counter it. My next Blog would be specially dedicated to corporate people, who mostly suffer from it nowadays because our pathetic work culture. So keep following me people. :)

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Introductions Around...

I may not be a professional blogger…this being my first one but I have a lot to share with you guys. Let this one be only about my blog. I am a girl who led a life that most of the people live ‘a life full of monotonicity’, where I was engaged only with my life in terms of chores that I have to do. Having happiness come to me and not finding ways of creating a happy life.

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But then there was this bling and some moments of my thought process and reading some motivational, self-help books that changed my life.

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Now I live life for enjoying every moment of it, even working is a part of my happy time because I now do my job that I love doing. I am a girl who loves to celebrate every moment of life and so I bring to you all the tips and toes for living a life to the fullest. I believe that everything in our life affects how we lead a happy and content life.

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But it’s not only about being content in life but more about living a happening life coz that is what creates the best of memories. It’s only on your death bed that you can think am I satisfied with my life, did I live it with to the fullest? Till then every day is a new day, a new challenge may be to which we need to find solutions. Don’t ever think of being satisfied with your life because that is when you lose all the chances, opportunities to discover wonderful moments that you might haven’t imagined of. The way you dress, the way you pamper yourself, your health, you making memories all along the journey, is what keeps you engaged with your life. What you require to enjoy every second of your life is to be carefree, love yourself, be forgiving and that is when you need to become playful and bold at every stage of your life. Live it on your own terms. Be bold. Be cheerful be always playful even when facing serious crisis this will what will make it a lighter and may even find some ways to create good memories. It’s when you dress powerfully, it is when you eat healthy it is when you live carefree about the world is when you LIVE your life.

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So my Blog is all about Fashion, Beauty, and Life, where I would be engaging you with all the stuff you need to live a life that you would love. Your feedbacks, questions are all always welcome.:) So guys keep a watch on my next blog…’You don’t dress yourself, you dress your Day!’

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Loved the intro.. Counting on upcomings

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You don't dress yourself, you dress your Day!

You don’t dress yourself, you dress your Day! Have you ever felt a difference when you dress up to something that make you feel ‘how gorgeous I am looking’ and have you felt that discomfort and lack of confidence when you really believe that you aren’t looking good that day and the cause is that one lousy outfit on your body? Yes it is the most observed phenomenon of everyday life but we still ignore it..why lots of reason for not changing your wardrobe or the way you ignore your dressing regime…firstly procrastination, ignorance, fear of making ‘excessive’ expenditure, or maybe lack of confidence about your choice of clothes or even much flawed believing that it just won’t change anything. There are far vital reasons to change your wardrobe “now” than you think because it will be changing each and every day of your life in a very positive way. There are always some small things which leads to some big changes in your life and this is surely one of them. I have my own experiences on it. I used to be a so called geek in my college days, feeling proud to be one of the high scorers and beloved by teachers but there was always this one thing being a girl that used to pinch me . I focused on only showcasing my exemplary scholarly abilities and not my personality. Other girls who were famous as Gracy Queens shouldn’t were somehow making me feel uncomfortable. I think it’s the basic ‘Female Nature’. I wanted to be a complete package as I knew that this was somehow lowering my confidence. This became more prevalent when I joined Masters course in Business Administration where your outside makes a lot of difference. This was not only affecting my mood for the whole day but also making me lose my focus. I think there was always this little discomfort and a ‘pullback force ‘which was not letting me enjoy my days with my friends some of them there only to make me feel envious. I didn’t wanted to go for parties nor outside get-togethers as i always doubted my dressing style which is i wasn’t comfortable or it made me think i am not looking good at all.

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Oh my procrastination, ignorance or whatever it took me a long time to bring that change. As change is very difficult. There are always these thoughts coming will people accept the ‘changed me’ or am i making a right choice. But don’t make that mistake people.Learn from other’s experience. It is the fastest and simplest way you can grow out to a positive change. As I mentioned in my previous posts this was that bling that came from my own thought processes, my reading books on self help, personal grooming, following trends that had made me what i am today. Ok no more of ‘me’ now. Let’s start with some simple examples, you know them but still highlighting some common realities, read it carefully because i am gonna provide you with some tips as well. You are invited to your birthday party bash one night earlier. And maybe you are not a party girl but you have to for it is your Best Friend’s party! you open up your wardrobe and then…..you spend 15 minutes just looking to find a party dress…for all you may have is casuals and some ethnics.oh thank god you find a dress you might even not be remembering when you bought it. Then you dress up only to find you have no accessory or no good to go with footwear…big dilemma…

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Conclusion: you go to friends party feeling all low, dull embarrassed looking at other girls even though you might be looking good by chance. But the lack of confidence, discomfort will always spoil the fun or at least take some part away from it. Same situation can even occur when by luck your boss gives a chance to present your project to others in a meeting. Certainly looks, your dressing style will not only boost your confidence but also present you as positively potential person. When you look good, you feel good and you perform at much higher level in your personal and professional life. Research of University of Queensland shows actually we demand many things from clothing. We can use them to change our mood and indeed we do. If we get up and aren’t feeling great try to put on something that would brighten you. Also clothes can help you mask your emotions as well. If they actually not much brighten your mood at least they would give you the appearance of being bright and airy. This positivity would be reflected back to you by other people in so many forms such as compliments, smile etc that actually it will make you cheerful. I would like to end up with a very realistic example: Have you felt or observed that wearing night gowns or your old sweatpants throughout the day makes you feel more lethargic and you end up lying on sofa most of the times.

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On other hand if you dress up in a nice pair of colorful top and jeans you will feel that boost in energy that is your outer reflection changes your inner attitude as well.

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For all the tips on answers to what this post brings to your mind and for all tips, tricks and trends of Dressing up follow my upcoming blogs.

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Must Read…This 5 minutes Might change your life!

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Great stuff

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Kalki Koechlin: The Printing Machine | Unblushed

Recommended for all ! ‘A MUST MUST SEE’ (specially Indians)! Catch the meaning people..it will leave you teary eyed.

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Objects hide their data behind abstractions and expose functions that operate on that data. Data structure expose their data and have no meaningful functions.

Clean Code

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" To be fully engaged, we must be physically energized, emotionally connected, mentally focused and spiritually aligned with a purpose beyond our immediate self-interest. "

-interest. "

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" To the Fathers of Men of the three faithful houses rich reward also was given. Eonwe came among them and taught them; and they were given wisdom and power and life more enduring than any others of mortal race have possessed. "

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" At the first rising of the Sun the Younger Children of Iluvatar awoke in the land of Hildorien in the eastward regions of Middle-earth "

-earth "

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" But he that sows lies in the end shall not lack of a harvest, and soon he may rest from toil indeed while others reap and sow in his stead "

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" They will love first the things made by their own hands, as doth their father "

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" Since they were to come in the days of the power of Melkor, Aule made the Dwarves strong to endure. Therefore they are stone-hard, stubborn, fast in friendship and in enmity, and they suffer toil and hanger and hurt of body more hardily than all other speaking peoples; and they live long, far beyond the span of Men, yet not for ever. "

-hard, stubborn, fast in friendship and in enmity, and they suffer toil and hanger and hurt of body more hardily than all other speaking peoples; and they live long, far beyond the span of Men, yet not for ever. "

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" But when the time comes I will awaken them, and they shall be to thee as children; and often strife shall arise between thine and mine, the children of my adoption and the children of my choice.' "

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" Aule made the Dwarves strong and unyielding. But fearing that the other Valar might blame his work, he wrought in secret: and he made first the Seven Fathers of the Dwarves in a hall under the mountains in Middle-earth. "

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" Behold I love the Earth, which shall be a mansion for the Quendi and the Atani! But the Quendi shall be the fairest of all earthly creatures, and they shall have and shall conceive and bring forth more beauty than all my Children; and they shall have the greater bliss in this world. But to the Atani I will give a new gift.' Therefore to willed that the hearts of Men should seek beyond the world and should find no rest therein; but they should have a virtue to shape their life, amid the powers and chances of the world, beyond the Music of the Ainur, which is as fate to all things else; and of their operation everything should be, in form and deed, completed, and the world fulfilled unto the last and smallest "

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" The one was deep and wide and beautiful, but slow and blended with an immeasurable sorrow, from which its beauty chiefly came. The other had now achieved a unity of its own; but it was loud, and vain, and endlessly repeated; and it had little harmony, but rather a clamorous unison as of many trumpets braying upon a few notes. "

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" Choice in the lower forms of life and activity, simply means yielding to the strongest desire, or aggregate of strongest desires, or average of strongest desires "

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" This deciding, choosing, determining faculty is one of the attributes of intellect and Self-consciousness superimposed upon the elemental will in the direction of guiding, directing, turning and restraining—it is the Ego at the wheel, directing the Ship of Life by the Chart of Reason, the motive-power being will "

-consciousness superimposed upon the elemental will in the direction of guiding, directing, turning and restraining—it is the Ego at the wheel, directing the Ship of Life by the Chart of Reason, the motive-power being will "