1) Guys gossip too. Guys have the ability to be toxic just as much as any female. It can be proven that guys are more overtly aggressive and females are more covertly aggressive (through social means, “drama” and “rumors” type stuff) but this doesn’t suddenly exclude guys or made them superior.
2) Of course gays can tell people your secrets. How the heck is this gender exclusive? This is the exact same argument as #1. I know so many guys who have spilled secrets of mine that they shouldn’t. And it’s been ugly.
3) Hell yeah they do. Everybody has their days. Most men I am close friends with are equally as moody as me, and many I know are much more sensitive and easily riled up (though I don’t want to use this as my argument, because this is not a generalization to all men, it is only my experience with many men, and I understand that). Boys can ABSOLUTELY be “super rude.” They have the capacity to be awful just like any other human being. This is also sexist and stereotypical.
4) Maybe they don’t try to steal the guy you like, but it’s not that simple. This comment is entirely heteronormative. And I have not met a single girl who has gone after someone a friend of theirs has been into. I am positive that this happens in the world, but it doesn’t seem common, and I’ve never witnessed it in my many circles of friends. This comment is bashing on girls: accusing all girls of being homewreckers and destroyers of relationships. It’s insinuating that if you have a close female friend, she’s going to try to undo you and wreck your life. What kind of friendship is that? That’s bullying; not companionship. This is catty behavior, not the bonds we form to be closer to other people. And this is definitely not reflective of female friendships.
5) They can easily be two faced. I don’t need to share my personal experiences with you. Check your own. I guarantee there’s some. I’m not saying all guys are two-faced, I’m merely saying that they all absolutely have the capacity to be, just like any friend you have of any gender. None of these traits are gender exclusive.
6) No. No, no, no, no. Stand up for you no matter what? Guys don’t do this, people do this. Good people. Friends do this. This is what people who actively care about you try to do. This is not exclusive to any gender in any way. I’ve seen so, so many girls stand up for girls in powerful ways. Not to mention that this comment is a bit skewed anyway, and that sometimes you can’t stick up for your friend if they’ve made mistakes and need to face the consequences. Love isn’t always blind loyalty, sometimes it’s caring about what’s best for a person and giving tough love because you want someone to be their best. None of this has to do with gender. NONE.
7) I don’t care. I’ll take nice people’s sweatshirts, regardless of gender. I’ve had girls give me many a comfortable, thick, warm jacket. This is so stereotypical and disgusting. It also insinuates that you as the girl are the constantly powerless and underprepared damsel in distress and that you should have a male friend to support you, provide for you, and take care of you. Sound like crappy benevolent sexism much?
8) Carry you when you get hurt? What the heck? No. I’m not a child, and I don’t need to be babied. I’ve never been in a situation where I was injured and had a man carry me somewhere that I can remember. This is again another ridiculous “have a guy take care of you” image, and is implying that men are strong and powerful and women are weak and powerless. This is also not a gender exclusive comment- just stereotyping. While I can’t think of men who have carried me, I can name a list of female friends who have. I’ve been carried from one end of a playground to the other just a few months back by a female friend half my weight because she cared about me, I was shoeless, and she didn’t want me to get splinters on the woodchips. Another time I watched a tiny-bodied friend of mine carried a girl across a parking lot on her back because there were bits of glass and painful gravel and she didn’t want this shoeless girl to be hurt. I’ve seen girls carry girls. It’s pure and caring. Just like any carrying is. This is ludicrous. Don’t teach girls they’re weak, don’t teach girls they can’t carry others they love, don’t teach girls small subtle messages like this. They add up, like water drips efface anything they continually splash upon.
9) No. No. No no no no no. No, no, no, no. NO.
NO.
HEAVENS, NO.
THIS IS NOT WHAT PLATONIC FRIENDSHIPS ARE ABOUT
YOU DO NOT GO SEEKING FRIENDSHIP FOR THE ASPECT THAT THIS NEW FRIEND MIGHT LOVE YOU. THAT’S CALLED COURTING, DATING. NOT BEFRIENDING.
You know what? You might fall in love with one of your friends. Cool! That’s awesome. That’s great. That’s not applicable to this at all. It is not every girl’s dream to marry their best male friend. It’s not every guy’s dream to get in the pants of their female friends. Not every guy longs for his female friends. Not every girl is going to eventually fall in love with their male friends. This is not the endgame. This is a ridiculous movie story about people who say that girls and boys can never be just friends, and this comment reinforces the idea that girls and boys can never be just friends.
Quit.
In conclusion, whoever wrote this deserves a medal for sex stereotyping. I’d also highly recommend they find new friends, and ask around about other people’s personal experiences with friendship. I can’t believe how widespread this post is. I’ve seen it multiple times on facebook, twitter, and tumblr.
Stop spreading messages that promote gender roles that are so toxic like this.
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