Rotverschiebung

forever 31 sometimes incorrigible doomer, puts the he in they

[teaboot]

A friend has once again brought it to my attention that it is unusual to have an intact chronological memory of life prior to age 12 and you know what’s weird to ME is that the rest of yall forgot how to sing the clean-up song

[teaboot]

Other shit:

The crotch-and-chin destroying hell of a toddler’s carseat

How fucking scary stairs are when you JUST figured out walking. “You can stand up” nah fuck that these steps go up to my knees and I’m top-heavy I’m gonna scoot down on my ass thank you

Walking alongside fucking giants whose legs are bigger than your whole fucking body and trying to keep up

Not knowing how to blow your nose and everyone expecting you to just figure it out by holding a tissue and saying “blow” like WHAT DO YOU MEAN CLOSE MY THROAT? Just an absolute snot waterboarding

People describing how to make sounds with your mouth but you can’t see inside their mouth when they do it so you kind of just guess over and over while they tell you you still don’t got it

Not having a full grasp of language but fully understanding CONCEPTS so you say shit like “are we going to the park later?” When you mean TOMORROW but all you can come up with is shit like “the next time we have lunch, not today but after today, after that” like a fucked up game of verbal post-brain injury Pictionary where people won’t let you get mad about it

Just. Mucus. Mucus and chapped skin, all the time, chin and upper lip. And you’re not supposed to lick it cause the spit is the PROBLEM but it’s fucking OBNOXIOUS. “Just keep the skin dry” wow thanks I’ve been aware of this mechsuit for about ten minutes and still haven’t fully mastered not falling into the toilet but yeah I know how to stay on top of that, cool

FALLING INTO THE TOILET

Trying to eat at a table where the surface comes up to your chin but not being able to get high or close enough cause you can’t scoot your chair in and your hands still don’t coordinate good so you end up just spooning tomato sauce onto your lap like an asshole. Like yeah mom my bad, have you considered though that I ALSO don’t want me to be covered in sauce? Cool

Adults being WAY too excited about shit that straight up is not worth the hype

Carpet burn. Constant carpet burn. Crawling, tripping, shuffling between toys on the floor. So much goddamn carpet burn

Knowing exactly what you’re talking about and zero people understanding because they think you’re too dumb for what you’re trying to communicate

Being told to wave at or hug complete strangers. And they always smelled kinda weird but you weren’t supposed to say it

The feeling of meeting an older kid and they act like they’re your manager or something

Encyclopedic knowledge and name of every single person in your grade 1 class, and their interests

Stroller rides. You could zone out at the ground for hours I swear to god

Dropping something while buckled into a carseat or stroller and not being able to get it and just resigning yourself to a life in hell

Dropping something while you’re in a carseat and it goes UNDER YOUR ASS and you can’t fucking GET IT

Other children getting away with just absolute war crimes. Imagine if Sharon showed up to the office potluck and offered you a cookie and after you ate one revealed that she licked it. Imagine if Gord took your stapler and put it down his pants so you couldn’t get it back. Imagine if for no reason at all your coworker told you your dad was stupid and then put your laptop in the garbage

Not remembering what different foods are called and getting pressured into agreeing to food you were NOT FULLY AWARE OF. How the FUCK is a chicken wing different from a chicken strip you ask? “Well, one just has a bone in it!” You fool. You fucking idiot. They might as well be from different animals entirely. But now you gotta eat it cause we don’t waste food (hell)

[teaboot]

Yes I’ve talked about this before and yes I’m going to talk about it again because every single person on earth should be fully and viscerally aware that being a kid feels like every description I’ve ever read of recovering from a stroke and we all grow up and forget and talk about childhood like it was magic.

Yeah some of it was fun and all but don’t you remember FALLING DOWN CONSTANTLY? You don’t remember needing help putting a shirt on cause you got your arm stuck and couldn’t get out and panicked so bad you started crying? You DON’T remember being just CONSTANTLY STICKY? Ohhh my good, pissing yourself. Pissing yourself was the worst. Christ alive, and being put in the playpen with a weird kid

[wainswright]

Why were you falling into the toilet?

[teaboot]

I WAS LIKE TWO FEET TALL

[chronologicque]

I actually have some pretty distinct developmental memories too.

The chlorine-y smell of the cleaning products they used at one of the buildings I went to pre-K at

The exact moment in kindergarten when I comprehended the specific movement that made my eyes move independently in my head

Angrily kicking the passenger side dashboard in my parapro's car while she told me to stop or I'd trigger the airbags

The hours I'd spend on road trips in the backseat poring over our foldout state map

Having no concept of bragging until my elementary school classmates had to explain it to me

Getting my first Hotmail account around 2000/2001 and immediately sending my dad an incomprehensible email about John Lennon's killing

Wanting so desperately to be funny that I'd get absolutely incandescent with rage at people if I said or did something I wanted them to laugh at and they didn't

The first time I was ever made to take a shower, I'm pretty sure I cried inconsolably because I remember the water droplets feeling painful

Going through a phase as a toddler where I bit my toenails

Being taken out on family bike rides in the red plastic "tot tote" where my legs would stick to the seat in the heat and I'd be engulfed in static cling, but if I hung my head over the side I could catch the breeze, stare at the ground passing and let the tips of my fingers graze the tires until they started to feel hot and smooth (but also Hot Summer Rubber smell is one of the foulest odors in existence)

So much diesel and paint thinner

[boatgrave-deactivated20250901]

[mysteryteacup]

*Scrolls past*

*reluctant sigh*

*scrolls back up*

*rebogs*

[bundibird]

Trump is all like "Australians sell their beef to us, but they won't buy any of ours 😡"

Which.... yeah? Of course???? Why would we import external beef from so far away when we produce more than enough to meet our own needs??

Not to mention that USA still has both mad cow disease and foot and mouth disease, but Australia doesn't -- AND America has increasingly lax commercial-level health and safety standards, meaning the risk of pathogens like MCD/F&M spreading through the US are significantly increased, and we don't have either here in Australia, so of course we don't want to import beef from a country that could conceivably spread the diseases to us???

But even aside from that. There are not that many Australians. But there are a lot of Americans. AND Australians eat an average of 23.4 kilos of beef per year but we produce 2.2 million tonnes. We produce WAY more beef than our population eats. So of course we don't import much????? And of COURSE it's not from America, which is both significantly further away than our current importers (primarily New Zealand and Japan), AND which has significantly lower health and safety regulations than we do????

Meanwhile, Americans average aprox 37 kilos of beef per person per year, but produces around 12.4 million tonnes. USAs population is 12 times larger than ours but only produces 5 times more beef than we do, AND consumes more per capita than we do. Of course USA imports large quantities of beef. Because their domestic production doesn't meet their domestic demand. Meanwhile Australia's production vastly outweighs our domestic demand, so of course we don't import American beef?????

Thats...... that's how imports and exports are supposed to work???? You export excess of what you have to someone who has less of it, and in turn, they export to you the produce/products that YOU don't have. This is fucking basic??????????

"Waahhh, Australia won't import American beef 😭😡" yeah???? Of course we don't????????

PLUS!!!!! Overall, Australia imports 34 billion dollars worth of stuff from America per year. Meanwhile America only imports $16 billion from us.

Putting tariffs on a country that imports more from you than they export to you is uhhhhhhhhh, FUCKIN' STUPID. If america tariff everything we send to them it's on all of $16b worth of stuff. If we tariff everything of theirs then we'll be slapping taxes on more than double what they can tax us.

Trump is such a fucking moron.

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

Does this man not understand that the point of trade is to swap what you have an excess of for what you don't have enough of

Why would we export masses and masses of beef only to import large amounts of inferior quality beef from the same people we just sold beef to

Does he think the USA is exporting large quantities of oil to Saudi Arabia?

[dor-min]

why aren't Australians clamouring to receive such exotic US beef flavours as

disease

[chronologicque]

He's a child who wants Big Number Go Up. That's it. That's our president.

God we're so fucking cooked

[chronologicque]

I really went "I wanna connect more with my community" in December and then immediately after doing a couple volunteer shifts at the queer advocacy center got pegged to do a bunch of auditing work for my company and spend overtime shifts wading through hundreds of pages of state regulations

[grundoonmgnx]

Jeremy Frey, Observer, 2022

Ash, birchbark, sweetgrass, porcupine quill, and dye, 13 ½ x 10 ½ x 10 ½ in

[jareckiworld]

Lu Xinjian — Matrix: 2023 OEM_N100_NAS_ITX_F (acrylic on canvas, 2024)

[grungekitty-77]

Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

[grungekitty-77]

Fun fact, that was literally what inspired me to make this post!

[elodieunderglass]

👆note that the reason that shaming/guilt trips are common is not because the person “doing them” to others necessarily expects them to be effective. People posting guilt trip activism aren’t going “oh gosh I really hope this methodology will help people the most.” (Because it doesn’t.) but laying shame on others does give some feelings of power and control. And many times that isn’t bad. For people who are powerless and have little control, it is understandable! Shame is a shortcut button you can press to try to get people to stop doing stuff. Often the stuff they’re doing is horrible. It’s natural to reach for it.

However…

That’s not to say it’s bad or done by bad people. Often it IS venting. Saying “shame on you” is cathartic. Many people posting guilt trip activism are beaten down or burned out. They might feel like shame is the only tool left in their box, or they might just need to vent. Calling out shameful behaviour is not an inherently bad thing.

But it’s important to remember that the impulse to shame others - especially if they listen, especially if they change - is a nasty rewarding little bastard. It’s rewarding, it feels good, it gives that person power and control. It’s a shortcut button! It’s an addictive one!

we can picture a parent/educator/leader who uses shaming too much as a tool, and we can understand how ineffective they are (and sometimes, how effective they are!) and the negative impact that they have on people. Leaning on the shortcut button is bad for your own character, too - it means you don’t develop your skills beyond shaming.

The trick is to disengage from that cycle of shame and reward; don’t let it become the only tool in your box! It’s bad for you as well.

Zooming out, shame is a dominance behaviour that relates to the rules of the society the person operates in. It’s tremendously ineffective to shame me for (for example) being bisexual, because according to my rules , it’s highly embarrassing and sad to be anything else. There are cultures with a framework that makes it extremely shameful to be bisexual, and people who are abused to make them fit into the framework; all of society is expected to participate in regular shaming and censure and guilting to ensure that nobody expresses bisexuality. Effective shaming requires there to be agreed-upon rules of what’s unacceptable; using shaming as a tool shows the framework of what’s considered unacceptable, and REQUIRES the framework to be in place.

It’s damn hard to kinkshame or bully furries on tumblr. Everyone has agreed that they aren’t doing anything shameful. But it is easy to shame them in an American megachurch.

But historically shame has worked, hasn’t it? How come you can easily picture a Victorian female activist shaming the powerful men of Parliament for their treatment of orphaned children? How come you can picture it working? Because they all operated in a Christian framework that stated children should be cared for, and women appealed to the religious authority as being above the authority of the state. Religious appeals have been effective in the past, offering a separate set of rules to control behaviour, hence the rise of right-wing attempts to consolidate religious power as well.

From this flow a couple of things:

1. a culture that relies on shame (and disgust and fear) to control people is going to be more oppressive than one that doesn’t. It’s also going to have very controlling, very detailed, very specific frameworks in place. To shame Gays, it has to be agreed-upon that it is Wrong to be Gay, so they’ll install a framework of Being Illegal to be Gay. You have to install the buttons in order to press them.

2. At any point, people can simply decide not to be ashamed. Despite tremendous social pressure in times and places, queer people have been proud. Despite knowing exactly what the public think of them, people practice hobbies, kinks, fashion, beliefs, and behaviours that other people don’t like. They always do and they always have. Shame stops being a weapon when people don’t care; they can simply decline to hold the button for you to press any more. Shame requires that everyone consent to the framework! Hence the anxiety about “normalising” queer liberation, or the existence of trans people - the fear is that if trans people stop being afraid and guilty, the buttons will break, and there will not only be more trans people, but they’ll be hard to control.

What flows from that are that people can resist shame effectively if they have a community that supports them. You can find this sympathetic (queer people support each other and resist shame) or distressing (a loved one falls down a conservative social media rabbit hole that turns them into a horrible person.) but it shows that shame wears off as a tool the instant that people decide to stop caring, especially if they have help. “Who cares if I lose YOUR good opinion, when that gives me THEIR good opinion?”

But finally - the reason shaming hasn’t fixed the world yet (by anyone’s definition) is because truly powerful people just don’t feel much shame. They don’t consent to the framework where other people’s opinion have any weight. They believe they’re in charge of society and therefore free of consequences or needing to care. Their first step when installing frameworks and buttons is to make a rule saying “I don’t have any buttons and nobody is allowed to press them.” This is what exactly why they sought the power to begin with. Shame requires that everyone agree that we are all social animals and our opinions of each other are worth something - powerful people do not think we are worth anything.

Conclusions: online activism using shame is ineffective for many reasons, including the fact that it’s a stopping behaviour and that people don’t really make positive actions based on it. it’s understandable why people do it, though. It’s one of the only real “rebalancing” tools for powerless people - if their society has frameworks that allow for the rebalancing of social power. Next, shaming feels good, especially when it works. It’s understandable to reach for it as a shortcut, but good leaders shouldn’t rely on it. Shame stops working when people stop caring about it. People can resist shaming with support, if they don’t care about other people’s opinions, or if they have enough power to insulate themselves. Powerful people have already decided that they do not care about being shamed.

[kandimouse]

to those of you who are moving here from tiktok, from someone whos used both tiktok and tumbr for years...

1. DO NOT censor your posts

dont censor sex, abuse, suicide, dont censor it. we dont have censors like tiktok does, you wont be banned for talking about these things and tagging them properly helps people avoid them (also, we dont have shadowbanning here)

2. we dont really have an algorithm

you follow who you follow, and you see posts from who you follow or what you search. the 'for you page' is basically useless here. this also brings me to my next two points

3. dont crosstag

we get it, on tiktok you have to crosstag for reach, but thats not really a thing here. just tag your posts properly (also posters often leave more info about the post in the tags!! and when you reblog stuff you can leave your own notes in the tags, kind of like the old "repost comments" on tiktok)

4. dont expect to go viral/be famous

"viral" isnt really a thing on here (at least not for the average blogger). your posts will probably get 2-10 likes and you wont get nearly as many followers than on tiktok. thats just how tumblr is

5. blocking is your best friend

tiktok is VERY discussion based, and while tumblr is much more discussion based than other social medias, its still not a good place for ragebait/discourse. dont interact, itll make your experience worse in the end, just block and move on

6. you cant go into someone elses house and start rearranging their furniture

this is tumblr, not tiktok. dont diss old tumblr users for how they use the site or try to change them, thats like going into someone elses house and trying to rearrange their furniture. we've been here longer and we're familiar with the site and its culture, either find your niche, adapt, or find a different app

[goingknowherewastaken]

Another important point

You need to actually reblog posts for this site to work as it should.

Liking posts only saves them in a spot that no one checks except for the user who liked them. Most people have their liked posts hidden.

Also, this site has a spam bot problem. One way we weed those out is to check the blog to see if it's actually being used to post legitimate content. If there is absolutely nothing on your blog you're getting blocked and some users may just straight up report you as spam as a precaution.

Not to mention that the posts you reblog will only be seen by you and whoever follows you. Tagging it "fyp" does absolutely nothing.

[chronologicque]

[queeranarchism]

If safety in your ideal society is entirely based on care by networks of affinity, and does not provide care for people who are not liked by anybody, then your society is actually even worse than the situation we are in now.

Pissing off people close to you or over-exhausting your social network or isolating yourself is often an inherent part of many mental health problems, addictions, etc. By the time people need care the most, they have often lost all their networks of affinity, and with some bad luck, any of us could find ourselves in that situation.

There has to be unconditional care available for the more unlikable of us, or there isn't really a safety net for any of us.

[chronologicque]

There are plenty of people who are fine with unlikeable people suffering who would never openly admit to it

[veryimportantpeopleshow]

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[chronologicque]

I think the thing that infuriates me the most about reactionary nostalgia is that on some level, I understand.

I understand being afraid of what the world is, and looking out and feeling like not a goddamn thing makes sense. As if every thing that could ever be good and just and real is dissolving into a miasma. I'm deeply and intimately familiar with that wounded animal instinct, and of that desperate clawing and grasping, and the subsequent hollowness, when structures and order you've relied on fail you.

In all of that though, I don't have the comfort of a mythical past where these problems didn't exist. I work hard every day of my life to remember that the human condition has always been varying degrees of debased and undignified. There is effort in turning away the allure of panaceas and silver bullets.

So there is a point where my sympathy curdles into pity, that so many would avoid confronting their fear and turn to shallow comforts at the expense of real people.

[jingerpi]

popular YouTube channels are great and informative until they make a video about a topic you're informed on and then the house of cards comes crashing down as you realize how utterly wrong they are about most things

[yurimartyr]

[chronologicque]

The notes on this post are such a progression of people who desperately want to claim expertise on literally anything just so they can participate. No, someone having a take you didn't gel with on a video game is not what this is talking about. It's fine to simply not have expertise in a hard academic field, I don't.

[chronologicque]

Neon Genesis Evankelmpion

Is this anything

[jareckiworld]

Lu Xinjian — Reflections - Jiang Nan No. 7 (acrylic on canvas, 2018)

[thunderstruck9]

Manuel Caeiro (Portuguese, 1975), Ensaio para um volume plano (#8), 2020. Acrylic and charcoal on C-Print, 149 x 112 cm.

[pipouch]

Visit Original Link

Berg : “Suite lyrique”, pour quatuor à cordes (III-Allegro misterioso - Trio estatico)

Schoenberg Quartet

Enr. 2001

[clawmarks]

Château dans la forêt - Georges de Feure - c.1900 - via Sotheby's

[thunderstruck9]

Georges de Feure (French, 1868-1943), Château dans la forêt [A Castle in the forest]. Gouache over traces of pencil on board, 35 x 50 cm.