[babyphat05-deactivated20250613]

To your anon asking about how I got my six figure job- the secret is I work in tech. It took me a long ass time and hundreds and hundreds of applications to get where I am. Im rooting for you, it’s not easy at all. Dropped some tips below I wish someone told me!

1. I graduated with a non-stem degree. Tech companies are ALWAYS looking for non-stem people. Don’t ever discount your skills.

2. Working for big names matter. I used to not think it did bc I could do the same work as anybody else, even better bc I’m hard worker. It wasn’t until I interned for a big tech company that other companies started instantly looking at my resume. If you want to make good money, get internships/entry level roles in big name companies.

3. If you’re having a hard time finding roles directly at tech companies, USE A CONTRACT AGENCY. It’s short term, you get to put a big ass corporate name on your resume, make good money and still job hop if you feel like the industry’s not for you.

4. NETWORK WITH ALUM. Go on LinkedIn (it’s corny but an unfortunate necessity.) I got almost all my jobs from referrals.

Rooting for everyone always!

- post grad loneliness anon

^^^^^^^!!!!!!!

[theambitiouswoman]

Every relationship, romantic or platonic, is a lesson about yourself

You either learn… or you repeat the cycle

Every. Single. Relationship.

We don’t discover who we are in isolation

We find out through connection, how we show up, what we tolerate, what we fear, what we attract and what we accept

It’s not about who you think you are

Not who you say you are

But who you allow into your life. That’s the mirror. That’s the truth

Relationships reflect parts of you that still need healing, understanding or strengthening. Whether it’s your boundaries, your self worth, your attachment style or your communication, it all comes up through people

So instead of asking “Why did this happen to me?”

Start asking “What part of me aligned with this? What is this trying to teach me?”

Because once you get the lesson, you stop living the pattern and can learn the lesson and elevate

[theambitiouswoman]

My boyfriend of two years just broke up with me because he said I was too busy for him. It stings and hurts because he wanted a future with me and talked frequently about marriage, but is now acting all sorts of crazy after the end of the relationship. After only a few days, he started going after younger girls still in college (we’re in our mid 20s). He was insecure when my career started picking up this year.

I’m not going to change the ambitious, determined, bad bitch I am for any man, even if this breakup hurts like crazy. I work a demanding 9-5, own my car fully paid off, and even work freelance gigs to explore my creativity. I travel internationally regularly and pay for everything myself. I have a beautiful group of girlfriends that I love and I’m even thinking about going back to get my masters degree now post break up.

This isn’t going to break me, even if I feel so sad. Do you have any tips or thoughts on how to get over a break up?

As I read this I thought to myself wow she sounds amazing! It’s clear that this breakup hurts, but it also reveals how grounded you are in your values. Love this for you

What you’re going through also brings up something important... relationships require alignment, not just love. It’s about emotional maturity, values and how power dynamics play out. It sounds like you were more emotionally evolved and further along in life than he was, not just professionally but personally. And instead of growing with you, he got insecure. It’s clear he needed to feel dominant in the relationship, and when your light started shining brighter, he dimmed himself instead of rising beside you. That’s not your fault, nor are you going to water yourself down or settle, but it is useful information

Now, as for healing... take the time to grieve. We often think that just because something wasn’t our fault, we should be able to brush it off, but healing comes from letting yourself feel everything. Grieve the future you pictured, the version of him you loved and even the part of yourself that hoped he’d show up differently. Once you’ve felt it, learn from it. Take the wisdom with you, not the wound. Then focus on becoming even better and stay true to your potential and your own capabilities

I will say, and maybe this should be a separate post all together, but I would try to also understand why you chose this person, what your attachment to them was, and their overall qualities. I would also make a mental note to cover these type of things early on with the next person, so that you don't fall in the same situation. Like I said.. there is always something to learn about ourselves even if it was not our fault

Some breakups break the illusion that someone was capable of loving you the way you deserve. Let this be a chapter that reminds you of your resilience, not your ruin. You don’t have to make yourself smaller to be loved. The right person will match your pace and there are so many men in the world that can, will and absolutely will love you the same way you love

[hermajestyimher]

My approach to relationships? It's simple: I go where I'm cherished and celebrated, never where I'm merely tolerated. I'm never too much or not enough for the right people. I can be myself in my fullest self with those that are aligned and for me. I don't feel the need to perform or make myself smaller to be liked or accepted by the wrong crowd.

[hermajestyimher]

I'm going to hold your hand when I say this: get that degree. Teenage me only decided to go to college as an excuse to escape my city and start over. I didn’t fully appreciate the opportunity at the time because I was immature, naive, and convinced I could “make it” in life through other means like starting a business, chasing fame, becoming a content creator. I thought I was somehow special. But that kind of thinking didn’t come from nowhere; it was the result of being influenced by online voices selling the dream of “escaping the rat race” through showing only the highlights while glossing over the risks, instability, and long-term consequences and looking down on those who chose more traditional career paths.

Even if you know deep down that you don’t want to work a 9–5 or stay in the corporate world forever, at the very least, get your degree. Higher education broadens your mind. It exposes you to new ideas, people, and environments you wouldn’t have encountered otherwise. It challenges your thinking, refines your perspective, and makes you more intellectually equipped for life. And if you manage to get practical experience in the field while you’re studying or after graduating, you may even discover that you enjoy the field, or that the skills and credentials can be used later to build a business or pursue something more creative with a solid foundation behind you.

Most importantly, it gives you a cushion, a safety net, in case your alternative paths don’t pan out the way you imagined. Don’t let internet personalities convince you that college is a scam or that there’s no value in higher education. Don’t waste your precious youth chasing illusions when you could be laying down the pillars that will support you for a lifetime. Be strategic. Give yourself options. And don’t mistake noise for wisdom.

[hermajestyimher]

Reframe it. Don’t look at the road ahead as a challenge. Don’t cloud what’s to come prematurely. If you tell yourself that you are capable of doing something and that it comes easily and naturally to you, then that is exactly what will happen. Don’t limit yourself before you’ve had the chance to try it out first.

Perspective is everything when it comes to how we view our goals and how realistic they may seem. What we perceive as realistic is ultimately what we will bring forward in the end.

[hermajestyimher]

What I’m not about to do is shrink myself just to make others comfortable. I’ve done that before, especially in dating and social situations—toning myself down to seem more easygoing or likable. But the truth is, I carry myself with confidence, and that’s not something I’m willing to suppress just to fit into spaces that were never meant for me. It’s not my job to ease other people’s insecurities by pretending to be someone I’m not.

When you’re feeling lonely, it’s easy to fall into that trap because the need for connection can be strong. But when you know who you are and stand firmly in it, your perspective changes. You stop worrying about whether people like you and start asking if you actually like them. The right people won’t be put off by your presence. They’ll appreciate it, respect it, and be drawn to the very things that set you apart.

[babyphat05-deactivated20250613]

More of Toni Childs fashionable looks from S1 part 2

[radfemsiren]

Internalizing the message of these 2 posts will save young women ❤️

[hermajestyimher]

The key is to NEVER idolize a man or a group of men. I'm going to need you to stand up, take a few deep breaths, and compose yourself. Do you realize how bad you look thirsting or worrying about whether or not you are desired by a man of any kind? You represent female royalty, it is in a sane man's best interest to gain access to YOU, not the other way around. You relinquish all your power and leverage the moment you let the spirit of desperation make you pursue after ANY man. At that point the spirits of foolishness and clownery may also be involved.

You shouldn't idolize anyone but God, and when it comes to who to put on a pedestal, it should always be the best version of yourself. Look after other high-value women who can teach you things and help you grow into that ideal version of yourself. Decenter men from your life and understand that they come as a nice masculine additive to our lives, don't ever think that they are the thing that should keep us awake at night. You are the one who is coveted and wanted by them, never the other way around. There is no shortage of desirable men who are after us. Read that again.

[butchfagminotaur]

sex is supposed to be gross and silly and have weird noises and silly laughing moments otherwise you’re just doing a performance for each other tbh

[classycookiexo]

[babyphat05-deactivated20250613]

what are some hobbies you have lined up for the summer? I need inspo

I'm curating my summer to be as eventful as possible lol.

I'm training for a 5k race. In preparation, I'm setting running goals every week. I'm a super beginner so I'm looking into joining a running group this summer to keep me motivated.

I'm taking my ballet hobby up a notch. I've been back into ballet for a year now and want to start challenging myself now that I've familiarized myself with everything. There are some masterclasses at Alvin Ailey that I really want to take.

I'm challenging myself to read 10 books by the end of August/beginning of September. I curated a summer reading list so we'll see if I get through it all to keep me on track with my yearly reading goals lol

I'm taking in-person French classes. I can not for the life of me learn French by myself. These classes are only once a week, but I highly believe that physically going to these classes, and having a set module that I have to follow on top of being consistent with Duolingo will help me get the basics down pact by August.

I'm pushing myself to be outside this summer. Not in a 'clubs and bars' sense but outside in a 'day parties, networking events, Sunday farmers market, live music, trying new restaurants' way. I think everyone should take advantage of the nice weather and not be in the house 24/7 this summer. I do a lot of activities solo, and it's so much fun to keep this momentum going by planning activities that I can have fun doing by myself.

[boyfriend-beater]

i genuinely believe the a big part of the reason men are on average so much uglier than women and aggressive as shit (besides testosterone) is that they were able to rape and molest their way through the gene pool for centuries. if women had been allowed to select mates we'd live in a utopia of pretty men. male pattern baldness would be gone. they would be mild of intelligence and temperament. never forget what they took from us

[babyphat05-deactivated20250613]

GIRL, did you hear about Saweetie allegedly sleeping with all of them rappers and cheating on Quavo with Chr*s Br*wn! She is NOT the woman she claimed to be! Idc idc smh

Unfortunately, there are a lot of beautiful women who preach about having high standards but their self-worth is in the gutter. Saweetie tricked us all. She fell right into the stigma of a typical female rapper who dates dusty men. Granted, it seems like ever since she broke it off with Quavo, she hasn't been the same :/ ALSO not to defend saweetie but Quavo and Ch*is B*own aren't any better in terms of sleeping around.

[goodbyeeveryonee-deactivated202]

I’m not interested in life narratives that are entirely about discipline and eschew any sort of fun. You’ll regret working so hard when you get older—everyone I know over 40 who refused outings, drinking, fun, friends, relationships, etc. is now effectively miserable because they didn’t let themselves be human. Moderation is fine. Enjoying yourself is fine. Do the work, but don’t let the work become all you have to show for yourself.

[eve-was-framed]

after learning about the Korean telegram chats where thousands upon thousands of men watch and enjoy the torture of women and girls, many of whom were blackmailed because men in the chats had access to all of their personal information, I think that Korean men should be thanking their lucky stars that the women in the 4B movement are only refusing to date, marry and have children with them rather than get revenge.

the vast majority of women on earth have zero desire to see men and little boys be sexually tortured and violated no matter how badly men have treated us, we just want liberation and safety. but sure, keep telling me how misandry is just as bad as misogyny.