I’ll be rewatching The Bear before June 25, and I’m fascinated to discover how my feelings about Syd, Carmy, and Claire may have changed. We’re constantly evolving, collecting new experiences and perspectives along the way. I’m not the same person I was yesterday, so I can’t expect to see the story in exactly the same way. There’s something exciting about that-the chance to meet a familiar story with new eyes and learn something about both the characters and myself.
I know i was gone for a while but I must say that I am so excited for the last season! I am happy that it is last to be honest! However, this will be the first time that i will not have any expectations, I will not wait for sydcarmy . All i am looking forward to is just criticizing the last season with its good and bad , lets see!!
This will be my last post here and in a way, it’s also a reflection on the final episode of Season 4 of The Bear.
But more than that, it’s the closing post of a little series I created, where I wrote down the things I noticed on rewatching The Bear , small details, moments that felt meaningful, or simply beautiful scenes that stayed with me.
This blog space has meant a lot to me , mostly because it encouraged me to write again.
That alone makes it special.
But when it comes to the final episode, I’ve decided not to comment on it.
Some things carry more meaning when left unsaid —and I think “Goodbye” is one of those things.
So this post will be my own small goodbye — to this blog, to this space, and to The Bear, at least for now.
Maybe, hopefully, I’ll be back here when Season 5 arrives, ready to write again.
But until then, I’ve decided to step back and focus on my own private space for writing ,, something more personal, more internal.
Still, I didn’t want to leave without saying goodbye here 🩷and without thanking The Bear for what it gave me.
And I especially didn’t want to leave without thanking the people I’ve met in this space.
I’ve come across some incredible people and posts on this platform - writing that genuinely surprised me and moved me.
I followed many of you and felt like I was part of something , a little community, honest and passionate.
That alone means more than I can explain.
So: thank you!
Every second counts, truly.
And I hope wherever this finds you, you’re spending your time meaningfully -on the people, places, and passions that keep your heart beating a little louder.
I hope this small goodbye post reaches you somehow - and if I ever touched your heart in some way here, please know that many of you have touched mine as well.
OMG OMG OMG I JUST WATCHED THE BEST ROMCOM EVER !!!!!!!
While You Were Sleeping!!!!
I love love loved it!!!
I already love all of Sandra Bullock’s romantic comedies, but this one holds a very special place in my heart. I saw someone mention it in a blog post here, saying it’s somehow connected to The Bear. I mean, yes, it takes place in Chicago… so I guess there’s a connection, though it didn’t feel like a direct one to me. But I wanted it to be connected. Because that love story touched me so much—it made my heart feel warm in such a beautiful way.
And I found myself wishing for the same thing between Sydney and Carmy. Unfortunately. I say “unfortunately” because I still don’t fully believe that’s where the show is heading. But let’s just say I trust the subtext more than what’s directly shown.
I’ll just make a very brief and surface-level comment. If there had been a kind of adaptation—if The Bear had truly taken something from While You Were Sleeping or ever plans to—this is how I would’ve liked it to go: Luca would take the role of the brother, and Carmy would be the main “Jack” character. Sandra Bullock’s character (Lucy) could go down the road toward marrying Luca, and Carmy would have to be okay with it. But then eventually, Sydney would realize her feelings for Carmy, and Lucy would step away from that marriage path. Of course, this would have to happen seasons later—I don’t think The Bear is going to show anything like a wedding theme anytime soon. But maybe we could see Luca and Sydney as a couple for a while, and then see Carmy’s reaction to that… I don’t know.
I don’t know. But I’m really glad someone mentioned While You Were Sleeping, and that I watched it.
Dude these writers are literally so good. I am just thinking about watching the earlier seasons, and I swear even up until 3x10 when I first watched it I was not on the Sydcarmy train. I was like it would be good if they stay friends, they obviously love each other, but it doesn’t have to turn romantic you know. I remember being on here then seeing people ship them and not getting it at all.
I remember throughout season 3 hoping Carm actually talks to Claire, reaches out, being misled by all the Claire pining. I remember watching Syd and Luca interact in 3x10 and squealing about them and thinking they would look so good together and that they had great chemistry. I still think they do, that scene in 4x05 of them talking about chives is peak chemistry, but season 4 has literally altered my brain chemistry and now I can’t stop seeing every way in which Sydney has been Carm’s match and complement right from the start.
Now even if I’m wrong, even if I’m delusional, even if the writers go in a completely different direction, I will never stop feeling that they belong together. S5 is going to make or break me. I watch this show so damn carefully now that when I started S4 after S3 letting me down a bit, I watched it casually. Because I had forgotten what this show is like, how much you miss if you’re not actually really looking. And Syd Carmy lies completely in that. I rewatched pretty much every episode in the first half because I feel like I missed so much not watching, that by the time I got to 4x06 I was like wait I need watch the first 5 all over again. So I did. And boy…..there is no way you can convince me that the writers aren’t loading subtext in Sydcarmy scenes.
Do you think aydcarmy kiaa will happen in next season of the Bear?
I think it might , not sure.
Maybee, like this??⬇️
Another chaotic day in the kitchen. Later on, syd is left alone in the kitchen with Carmen. Syd looks tired and, shaking his head, says, “I’m just really tired, Carm.”
Carmen replies, “I know,” and leans her head against syds.
Syd does nothing. She is so tired that he can’t even be surprised enough to say, what are you doing? Or maybe, in part, he doesn’t say anything because she is actually happy about it.
Then they look at each other, and just as carm leans in to kiss him, Richie walks into the kitchen.
3.Albert - Ebra meets ; “I want to create opportunity”
4.”You are not joking huh?” “Not since Kuwait”
5.Carm observes Marcus.
6.Syd does not pick up dad’s calls.
7.Carm helps to Richie for the surprise.(Only you know song plays)
8.Carm holds the handle of the fridge door. (Haunted song plays)
9.He gives up taking the train and goes back to Claire. Runs…
10.Marcus makes desert with Cherry.
11.”I was not telling those words to you when i was in the fridge”
12.”I am sorry” to Claire. (Remember Tina’s advice)
13.”Good luck with finding the quiet , whatever it means to you…”
14.Carm calls Pete, updates the partnership agreement.(Finest worksong plays)
My own interpretation for this episode
Quiet = Syd
To be able to find Syd , he needs to leave . Even though Syd is right in front of his eyes. He still can not admit it to himself, so he decides to find himself first.
Ending song , it is an awakening song. it’s a call for a conscious, awakened life where you take charge of your destiny.
Why is it an awakening song?
• “The time to rise has been engaged.”
This line, almost like an alarm, calls out: “It’s time to get up and act.”
• “Take your instinct by the reins.”
It advises you to seize control of your own intuition rather than letting someone else decide for you.
• “It’s the finest worksong.”
Metaphorically, it represents the highest form of labor—the effort of those who question, think, and awaken.
What's this whole deal about Syd and the scrunchie and where it appears or doesn't appear? What was the purpose of it's appearance and disappearance? Is it just a piece of clothing or does it have some symbolism attached to it? What game is being played here? What magic trick? And why Syd?
I'm looking at this, as usual, with the theory that Carmy's mind in part at least influences the visuals of the storytelling, including and particularly the way some of the characters present. Why did the scrunchie have an era? Was it just a time marker or does it mean something more?
The scrunchie makes it's first appearance in "Braciole". Before that, Syd either wore her hair loose in a scarf or tied it up with her own braids. "Braciole" was also the episode where we really see that Carmy had a sentimental and emotional attachment to Syd and that they were more than just co-workers who got along. It was the episode with this;
And this;
The scrunchie was made such a part of Sydney in season 2, it's almost a character of its own. You could not not notice them on her- The colors, the patterns, the way she wore them was really beautiful and interesting.
There's also a little disappearing act magic with the scrunchie in "Bolognese" where a second different scrunchie appears on her wrist (so she's wearing two scrunchies at the same time) in her first interaction with Carmy that disappears for the rest of the episode.
This scene is very deliberate because they made sure she rolled her sleeves down so you didn't notice the second one too easily.
So why did the scrunchie era come to an abrupt stop? Well, Carmy giveth and Carmy taketh away.
The scrunchie makes its last appearance in "Tomorrow" in Carmy's flashback of friends and family, which means technically it makes an exit in "The Bear" episode. She also technically reverts to the old method of wearing her hair in "Next" which is coincidentally where the cracks in her relationship with Carmy start to show and their emotional withdrawal from each other starts to happen. This episode that starts the save it for later era of the show- the stuckness. We never see the scrunchie again. Well, until "Apologies".
In Apologies the scrunchie suddenly makes an appearance in the most unusual of places– Carmy's dresser. And the way the scene is shot is so interesting. He discovers Michael's prayer card in his suit pocket (which seems to have magically appeared as well, because he didn't attend the funeral) after studying the card he stares at a spot on his dresser for a while before placing the prayer card down. The camera pans to where he lays the card- next to a strange scrunchie. The shot also mirrors a shot from a scene of Syd's in next. Interesting that they made this exact visual callback.
The first time we see a strange hair accessory at Carmy's is in "Tomorrow"– a hair claw. Because he was just in a relationship it is very easily assumed that it belonged to his girlfriend, Claire. Except we never saw Claire wearing a hair claw– not in his moments with her, not in the flashbacks. We do, however, see Nat wear a hair claw through seasons 2 and 3. Nat also wears her hair mostly loose in S1 and in flashbacks.
Why Carmy is holding on to a claw and a scrunchie will remain a mystery for the time being but we can infer from the way the story is playing out that these objects hold some meaning to him the story. Apart from the literal logistics of how they got there and why, what is the symbolism? Nat also keeps wearing her claws in S3 unlike Syd. Maybe because Nat is a constant in his life? Because the nature of their relationship can never change. Nat also makes an appearance with the scrunchie in the S4 trailer but she's in bed with Pete and their baby and the romantic implication of that scene is as clear as day.
So, in "Apologies", we see the scrunchie again. This is the episode were Carmy contemplates trying to make things right. He tries to repair his friendship and get closer to Syd by inviting her to the Ever funeral but he gets stuck trying to have an honest talk with her. He also contemplates apologizing to Claire but is unable to.
So, scrunchie on his dresser must be pointing to the person he is thinking about and it feels really intimate and sentimental, therefore it must belong to Claire, his girlfriend right?
Wrong!
Claire has never been seen with a scrunchie. The scrunchie material looks in the exact style Syd would wear them. The show has made a point of making the scrunchie Sydney's thing and also Syd has been to Carmy's apartment a few times, so it must belong to Syd, right?
Well, Wrong!
Because, again , that's too easy. So, we have this:
This is from tomorrow a scene in Claire's nightstand. Notice what's beside the alarm clock? Looks like a floral pattern very similar to the scrunchie. But it doesn't look like a scrunchie. It looks like a handkerchief or something else. So what does this mean? What window is this supposed to open? Who really has the scrunchie? Is it Sydney's or it it still Carmy doing the transference thing? If Syd was wearing the scrunchie by the power of his mind, does it mean Sydney was but is no longer the object of his affection? Or is he saving it for later?
But the real question is why, of course. Why is it constantly looking like Carmy is torn between the both of them? Why are they (Storer and team) trying so hard to link and conflate these two women in Carmy's mind as much as possible if there's no romantic connotation to sydcarmy? Even if what's on the dresser isn't a scrunchie, great care was made to make it look like one. So it's a deliberate effort to keep us, at least, thinking of Sydcarmy. This isn't an accident. It's a carefully crafted plan. They want us to wait for it and watch for it for better or worse. Any other explanation is an absolute lie.
PS : I want to hear your theories. Mine is that the scrunchie is Sydney's and whatever doppelganger thing is on Claire's nightstand belongs to her cuddle mate, Kelly.
