left as an exercise to the reader

usually I'm the reader. You can come too, if you'd like. she/her - 20s - header image from @aaaaaarchive :-)

[clearestbluest]

[clearestbluest]

they got never before seen types of fish in here

[3liza]

no-dopamine baddies approaching every single list of tasks like "which of these things will cause the most amount of personal suffering to me if left undone"

[3liza]

guess who just read yet another list of "tools to combat decision paralysis" that was mostly reward-based and got mad

[3liza]

hey this is really insightful. do you have any advice about identifying the linchpin task? i mean obviously "think about it really hard" might be all there is to it. basically i think this concept is good and would welcome more commentary from you, if you have more to add

[ocean-again]

the trouble is that Thinking (or at least applying the Talking Brain to the task) is counterproductive here, because that's the voice going "we need to clean the kitchen, why aren't we cleaning the kitchen??" and in these circumstances, giving that sector of the mind more oversight won't help.

it is necessary instead to sit down and kinda try and quiet that voice, and then start with considering my physical needs, kinda mentally run through the maslow's pyramid from bottom to top as if I'm dealing with a little kid throwing a tantrum. like, did we sleep last night? have we had lunch? am I lonely? should I call my aunt? do I want to finish the book I've been reading? do I want to boil chicken bones today? what's bothering me? I'll then try out a couple of things that seem likely and while they may not be The Thing it's useful to build momentum anyways.

but like, if I give it space, the answer will float upwards into view and it's usually something I've been putting off for a long-ass time.

and it'll sound So Stupid to the Talking Mind, who has important tasks that it's trying to get done, but we're going to tell that voice that the kitchen will wait while we take down the Christmas tree, fold the laundry that's been in the basket for a week, sketch the idea, call my aunt, whatever it is, and inevitably the Linchpin Task will take about half an hour, and once it's done I can feel the weight lifted off my shoulders.

Linchpin Tasks are sometimes that it's time to deal with The Emotions At The Bottom Of The Pile, which is when a pile of stuff builds up to cover whatever is at the bottom being emotionally fraught. (letters, the shirt I wore the day my grandpa died, y'know, The Emotions)

I've gotten better at identifying when those piles are starting to accrete and dealing with them before they get bad, but like, you gotta be able to identify the pile of stuff your eyeballs keep slipping off because it feels too emotionally difficult to deal with right now, and like, learning to ignore the part of the mind that wants to assign task priority levels is a counter-intuitive way to get things done.

I hope this makes sense. basically, when it comes to doing stuff, do the thing that's most emotionally fraught first, especially if you can come up with a bunch of excuses to not do it.

[ms-demeanor]

How do you feel about driving?

I can drive, I am good at driving, I enjoy driving.

I can drive, I am good at driving, I do not enjoy driving.

I can drive, I am bad at driving, I enjoy driving.

I can drive, I am bad at driving, I do not enjoy driving.

I haven't learned to drive, I think I would enjoy driving.

I haven't learned to drive, I do not think I would enjoy driving.

I can't drive anymore, I was good at it, I enjoyed driving.

I can't drive anymore, I was good at it, I didn't enjoy it.

I can't drive anymore, I was bad at it, I enjoyed it.

I can't drive anymore, I was bad at it, I didn't enjoy it.

Remaining time: 11 hours 27 minutes

[indolentjellyfish]

boba for nembrotha

[imdrinkingmiso]

I am doing whatever the opposite of locked in is .

[taavicleric]

I am locked out. I am in the parking lot. The rain is coming.

[indolentjellyfish]

summer's coming so I made them some fancy little drinks

[b-beams]

#myproductiveafternoon here is my planner cover for may through august which ended up a bit scattered but started with the phrase “screw the ‘maybe’, feel the sunshine”

[batsandboba]

hi love you guys do me a favor. big big big BIG breath in right now all the way all the way breathe in feel your belly expanding hold hold hold.. hold.. now everything out like ur a deflating balloon. whoosh. whooooooooosh. imagine water streaming from the top of your head down your shoulders off the ends of your fingertips and toes. u are a reed in a river a beam of pure light a steady anvil solid and heavy. ok that was all thank u

[rockleaves]

i wish sugar free labels meant “exact same thing but less sweet” and not “even sweeter version that tastes worse and will give you a migraine”

[pollen]

happy Barely Keeping It Together Wednesday to all who celebrate

[diabloii]

no more puppy girls or puppy boys or cat girls or cat boys you have to start picking new animals and be adults heres an acceptable list of pickings

• velociraptor woman

• mantis woman

• boar woman

• oyster man

• seagull man

• humpback whale man idk why im putting all the men at the ocean

[clearestbluest]

[intactics-deactivated20250505]

from impossible to difficult to unfamiliar to familiar to easy to automatic

[intactics-deactivated20250505]

come up with hand positions to do for each step and then you can repeat this one silently, by the way. to cheer yourself up in the library without talking out loud

[intactics-deactivated20250505]

i am not a very good artist but you get the general idea

[angelmush]

lesbians will text u the most insane string of words

[footlongdingledong]

had a dream that there was this new tiktok trend called "scrubbing" where people would take images of fictional characters and put them in images of bathtubs and drag around transparent pngs of soap and brushes with their tiktok art tablets and like liquify tool their hair down to mimic giving them a shower. and people would get into flamewars in the comments of every single video over the types of soap they picked and if the images had decently removed backgrounds and if they got soap in their eyes. and it got onto the news because it turned out everyone doing the trend was doing it compulsively like they physically couldn't stop and each video was a solid few minutes long because they were just collectively obsessively recording themselves fake-showering these fictional characters and arguing about it online

[footlongdingledong]

for the record I have never used tiktok and like explicitly in the dream I learned about it secondhand from a discord server so there's that also which is funny I think

[hellsitegenetics]

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Closest match: Mya arenaria isolate MELC-2E11 chromosome 1 Common name: Soft-Shell Clam

[yesornopolls]

Can you drive a car well in your dreams?

(Despite being an approximately average driver, I can barely stay on the right side of the road in dreams, and I’m curious if it’s a common phenomenon in the same way as nonsense text in dreams, or if it’s just me!)

Can you drive a car well in your dreams?

Yes

No

Voting ended onMay 26

[rylandgraces]

there’s a friday ass vibe about this wednesday boys keep your wits about you