The PowerBlog

Queer cis woman (she/her), lover of all queers and zero TERF nonsense - into Science Fiction, weird vampire memes, cats, owls, any and all corvids, poetry, questionable fashion, and books. RWRB fic writer, slowly moving my belongings into Heartstopper territory. Parent of two voids with 3 eyes between them and one rapscallion who likes eating spicy crisps. RIP to the cat we all thought was immortal - your body is gone but your stench remains ❤️ Icon by Kidovna. I wish all TERFs a very 'get in the bin'.

[tomgirlhysteria-deactivated2023]

why did he say this

[clottedcreamfudge]

@tintagel-or-cockleshells tagging you so you’ll remind me of the context for this???

[tintagel-or-cockleshells]

SO allegedly this was a reference to two members of production staff on the show who were drunk and walking back home. They were stopped by policemen and one of them panicked and went “we’re just normal men! We’re just innocent men!”

And then the puppeteer took it onscreen :D

[victusinveritas]

[haunteddollsgeorg]

I thought I might share one of my new tattoos. A couple years ago, a dear friend and I coined the term “fish bag moment”

A fish bag moment might be sitting all alone in an empty new apartment after coming out and upending your life, or starting a new job in a brand new line of work because it’s closer to your dreams

It’s what happens when you take a leap of faith or make a hard decision for yourself, when the future is so hard to visualize and everything feels scary. You’re just a fish in a bag and you can’t see where you’re going

But you’re on your way to a bigger aquarium

[haunteddollsgeorg]

In honor of a relatively unexpected and sudden transition in my life, I tried my hand at sculpting my beloved fish bag. Let’s hope the kiln is kind ❤️

[haunteddollsgeorg]

It didn’t just survive the kiln, it thrived ❤️ to anyone out there who needs to hear it right now, rest assured: even if the path forward seems unclear, you’re on your way, and I’m proud of you

[murderbot101]

Discord Red Flags: Signs Your Community Isn’t Healthy

[Summary of this post]

This is a guide to common warning signs in Discord communities, including (1) toxic positivity, (2) gaslighting, (3) tone policing, (4) derailment, (5) groupthink, and (6) lack of transparency. It explains how these behaviours show up in online spaces, why they are harmful, and how to recognise when a server’s culture is becoming unhealthy. It may also help moderators and community leaders reflect on whether their server shows any of these patterns and consider healthier approaches.

Discord is a wonderful tool for bringing people together. Large servers can become lively communities where people from all over the world casually drop in – someone shares a picture of their lunch while someone else says goodnight. These spaces can feel familiar and fun.

But even in friendly communities, server culture can slowly turn sour. Sometimes people contribute to a harmful environment without realising it, genuinely believing they are helping. Other times, the harm is subtle enough that many members stay oblivious while a few begin to feel uncomfortable.

When you get to know people on a server, it can become difficult to acknowledge that something is wrong. You might find yourself becoming a bystander, or if you’re negatively affected, you might start doubting your own perception and feeling increasingly distressed.

To avoid that spiral, it helps to recognise early warning signs of an unhealthy server environment. Below is a summary of common red flags, based on personal research and guidance from Discord’s own Safety Center, as well as other sources.

[Red Flags to Watch Out For]

1. Toxic Positivity

Toxic Positivity is defined as the pressure to maintain a positive atmosphere by suppressing or dismissing negative emotions, concerns, or criticism, even when those criticisms are valid or necessary. (MedicalNewsToday, 2021; Psychology Today, 2025; Verywell Mind, 2026a) While a positive outlook is considered to be good for mental health in general, it can become harmful by invalidating the individual's genuine emotions, resulting in experiencing guilt and shame, leading to avoidance of authentic emotion (Verywell Mind, 2026a)

[Toxic Positivity in Discord Communities]

Negative opinions about characters, storylines, or community issues are discouraged or shut down.

Difficult topics (e.g., racism, misogyny, harmful behaviour) are avoided to “maintain civility.”

Criticism is reframed as “drama,” “negativity,” or “hurting the feelings of people who are there for fun,” sometimes using cutesy or infantilising language (e.g., “yucking someone’s yum”).

Triggers are sometimes dismissed as mere “squicks,” minimising the seriousness of someone’s trauma response.

Supportive‑sounding or therapeutic language is used to shut down criticism instead of engaging with the concern.

[Why this matters]

This becomes harmful if the fandoms use "positivity" as a shield:

to protect specific characters, narratives, or server members above others

to avoid all forms of conflicts including those that are necessary (discussion) for growth or constructive change

to maintain a curated image of harmony

to silence marginalised voices

to avoid acknowledging harm

2. Gaslighting in Groups

Group gaslighting happens when a community dismisses or reframes someone’s concerns in a way that makes them doubt their own perception or emotional response. (Verywell Mind, 2026b; Healthline, 2024)

[Group Gaslighting in Discord Communities]

Concerns about racism, misogyny, or unsafe dynamics are reframed as “overreacting,” “misinterpreting,” or “being hostile.”

The group insists that “everyone else is fine,” implying the issue lies with the individual.

Moderators demand excessive “proof” while ignoring the context or lived experience behind the concern.

People who raise issues are subtly pressured to apologise, soften their words, or doubt their own interpretation.

[Why this matters]

Group gaslighting can make someone feel isolated, confused, or ashamed for noticing a problem. Over time, it can cause members to:

suppress their own discomfort

stay silent to avoid backlash

internalise blame

leave the community quietly

This is one of the most common early warning signs of an unhealthy server culture.

3. Tone Policing

Tone policing occurs when the focus shifts from the content of a concern to the way it is expressed. The person’s tone becomes the issue instead of the problem they are describing. (Business Insider, 2020; Verywell Mind, 2026c)

[Tone Policing in Discord Communities]

Moderators focusing on the speaker’s tone rather than the behaviour or pattern being raised.

Prioritising group comfort over the validity of the issue raised.

Expecting marginalised members to express concerns in a way that feels “palatable” to the majority.

People who express concerns are told to “assume good faith” in situations where harm or bias is being named. They are labelled as troublemakers, accused of bad faith.

[Why this matters]

Tone policing silences people by shifting responsibility onto them rather than addressing the issue. It discourages honest expression and reinforces existing power dynamics.

4. Derailment Tactics

Derailment refers to conversational strategies that shift attention away from community issues being raised. Instead of engaging with the concern, the discussion is redirected, minimised, or reframed so the original point is never addressed. (Derailing for Dummies, 2010)

[Derailment in Discord Communities]

Questioning the motives of the person raising a concern and suggesting they are acting in bad faith.

Asking for excessive proof in a way that stalls or invalidates lived experiences.

Redirecting the conversation to unrelated topics to avoid addressing the issue.

Focusing on small details instead of the broader concern.

Reframing the concern as a misunderstanding or overreaction.

[Why this matters]

Derailment prevents communities from resolving problems. It can silence people, shift responsibility onto the person harmed, and create an environment where raising concerns feels pointless.

5. Groupthink/Group Behaviour

Groupthink occurs when a community values agreement and harmony more than honest discussion or critical thinking. Members begin to follow the dominant viewpoint, and disagreement becomes uncomfortable or discouraged. (Janis, 1972; Psychology Today, 2026) According to the Federal Bureau of Investigation (2019), online environments can intensify groupthink by increasing social pressure and making dissent feel risky.

[Groupthink in Discord Communities]

Moderators or long‑term members consistently reinforcing each other’s views on community behaviour and norms, creating the impression that their perspective is the only acceptable one.

Difficult topics being avoided to preserve a sense of unity or positivity.

A clear divide forming between an “in-group” and everyone else.

Members feeling pressure to agree with the dominant viewpoint, even when they have concerns.

[Why this matters]

Groupthink makes it difficult for communities to address problems. It can silence individuals, reinforce power imbalances, and normalize unhealthy behaviour. In fandom spaces, it often appears when criticism of characters, storylines, or community norms is treated as a threat to the group’s identity.

6. Lack of Transparency

Transparency is essential for trust in any Discord community. When moderation happens behind closed doors or rules are applied inconsistently, members are left confused, anxious, or unsure of what is actually happening.

[Lack of Transparency in Discord Communities]

Inconsistent penalties: similar behaviour receives different consequences, and the reasoning isn’t clear to the community.

Rules enforced unevenly: some members are corrected publicly while others are handled quietly or not at all.

No reliable place to raise concerns openly: channels meant for feedback may be locked, closely monitored, or discouraged, leaving members unsure where they can speak.

Posts or messages about concerns being removed: this makes it hard for others to know an issue was raised at all.

Moderators directing all issues to private channels (e.g., tickets, DMs), which prevents the community from seeing patterns or understanding outcomes.

Members feeling vulnerable in private channels (DMs or tickets), where moderation happens out of sight and they have no safe place to document or share their experience.

Members “going quiet” without explanation: timeouts, strikes, or bans are not communicated, so it appears as if people simply left on their own.

[Why this matters]

When moderation is hidden, members cannot understand what is happening or why. This creates an atmosphere of uncertainty and fear, and it allows harmful behaviour, including from moderators, to go unchallenged.

Conclusion

These signs don’t always mean a server is malicious, but they do mean you should pay attention to how the space makes you feel. Healthy servers make space for concerns, listen when something feels off, and adjust when needed. Unhealthy ones often repeat the same patterns, dismiss feedback, or protect the status quo instead of the people in the community. If you recognize several of these warning signs and attempts to speak up are met with defensiveness or silence, it may be a sign that the environment is not willing to change.

In those situations, the safest and most peaceful option is often to step away without fanfare. You do not need to justify your feelings or convince anyone on your way out. Your well‑being matters, and you deserve to be in spaces where your voice is respected.

Reference (for further reading)

Business Insider. (2020). Tone policing is a little-known microaggression that's common in the workplace: here's how to identify it https://www.businessinsider.com/how-to-identify-and-help-stop-tone-policing-in-workplace-2020-8

Derailing for Dummies. (2010). Derailing for dummies: A guide to derailment tactics. https://www.derailingfordummies.com/

Discord Safety Center. (n.d.). Ban evasion and advanced harassment. https://discord.com/safety/ban-evasion-and-advanced-harassment

Discord Safety Center. (n.d.). Facilitating positive environments. https://discord.com/safety/facilitating-positive-environments

Discord Safety Center. (n.d.). Transparency in moderation. https://discord.com/safety/transparency-in-moderation

Federal Bureau of Investigation. (2019). Dangers of groupthink and the internet. FBI Law Enforcement Bulletin. https://leb.fbi.gov/articles/featured-articles/dangers-of-groupthink-and-the-internet

Healthline. (2024). Gaslighting: Signs, Examples, and How to Protect Yourself. https://www.healthline.com/health/gaslighting 

Janis, I. L. (1972). Victims of groupthink: A psychological study of foreign-policy decisions and fiascoes. Houghton Mifflin.

Medical News Today. (2021). What to know about toxic positivity? https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/toxic-positivity

Psychology Today. (2025). Toxic positivity. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/toxic-positivity 

Psychology Today. (2026). Groupthink. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/groupthink 

Verywell Mind. (2026a). Why Toxic Positivity Can Be Harmful https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-toxic-positivity-5093958  

Verywell Mind. (2026b). Is Someone Gaslighting You? Look Out For These Red Flags. https://www.verywellmind.com/is-someone-gaslighting-you-4147470

Verywell Mind. (2026c). How to Be Direct Without Being Perceived as Rude. https://www.verywellmind.com/being-direct-vs-being-rude-8739387

[divorcedwife]

studying history is like. here's to another beautiful day of not being pregnant and of having no obligation to ever be. thank you women who fight for abortion and contraception and independance from men for another beautiful day of not being pregnant and of having no obligation to ever be

[bennetsbonnet]

Pride and Prejudice (1995) + Text Posts (7/?)

[redstonedust]

unexpected benefit of having to use a vpn is sometimes i get ads that are entirely in french, which makes it like 200% easier to ignore them. cant advertise to me if i dont understand a word of it. life hacks.

[decompose1]

ohhhh shit. target is recalling their up & up baby wipes (fragrance free & fresh cucumber scented) because they're contaminated with Burkholderia cepacia complex and Burkholderia gladioli, multiple people are reporting discoloration & infections. i just got a call about it cuz i had purchased those but i've already gone through them 😅 so no refund for me. but im fine. if you have these they're saying you need to immediately stop using them and bring them back to target for a full refund. this bacteria can cause life threatening infections in children/infants and people with compromises immune systems (ESPECIALLY cystic fibrosis!!) and i know lots of other chronically ill people follow me!!!!

[decompose1]

Hold on i should've been more specific.

First: THIS RECALL IS NOT STATE SPECIFIC. IT IS NATIONWIDE.

here are the specific products and dates:

FDA page on this:

Target Recalls Up & Up Fragrance Free and Fresh Cucumber Scented Baby Wipes Due to Potential Microbial Contamination

Target is voluntarily recalling Up & Up Fragrance Free and Up & Up Fresh Cucumber Scented Baby Wipes following customer complaints of produc

[dr-otter]

If you use baby wipes go check them NOW. A lot of Burkholderia bugs are antibiotic resistant so infections can be really difficult to treat.

[fluffyplushiesworld]

Happy Pride Month Tumblr ✨

[messengerofmechs]

Hey everyone. There's a new youtube feature that rolled out just yesterday that's raising some privacy concerns.

Expanding ways to share on YouTube

People in the U.S., U.K., Brazil, and Singapore can now share videos and chat with friends directly within the YouTube app. The update bring

This post talks about a new DM feature in youtube. What it fails to mention is that as part of this new feature is that when you send someone a link to a video, and they open it in the youtube app, they will see who sent them the link. Specifically, your channel name.

If your google account name is your real name, so is your channel name by default.

This means the new default behavior is that everyone you send a youtube link to will see your full name if they open it in the mobile app.

To turn this off:

Go to your youtube app settings

Go to Privacy

Turn off "Channel visibility for shared links"

Trimming the source id (the stuff after the '?' in links) will also prevent this from happening.

[capybaralovers]

[ambidisastrous]

People who work within a system: okay so studies show that the normal system works 90% of the time, but because it’s very bad when it doesn’t work, we’ve set up a process to manage those outliers. We need six well-trained workers to run the system 100% of the time without any serious incidents.

CEOs and politicians, every time: Well i just saw it go right twice in a row which means the normal system which you say works 90% of the time actually works 100% of the time. We’re cutting the team down to one person pulling 18 hour shifts without breaks

[shaydh]

"why did you write that"

my fetish

my friend's fetish

not my fetish but it fits in the story so i threw it in there as a treat. you're welcome.

[ckret2]

4. the character's fetish and i'm committed to portraying them with absolute accuracy

[capitulism]

The largest mass shooting in American history was a hate crime against gay people. Don’t ever forget that.

[exmellivorinae]

June 12, 2016. Putting a date on this for when it gets reblogged months from now by people who think the post is about something from 30, 40 years ago.

[butch-reidentified]

I am a survivor of the Pulse nightclub shooting, having grown up in Orlando and just turned 20 a month prior. If you didn’t know, there were several families who refused to claim the bodies of their relatives due to their sexuality. One family even had their relative’s name removed from the memorial. Murdered by the same hate with which their families reject them in both life and death.

Many, many people celebrated Pulse. We were told we deserved it. That it was God’s punishment for our sin of loving the same sex. We are sent messages like these I received in 2018:

We in the community often call the victim count 49+ to include the survivors who couldn’t live with the pain.

The event was never officially declared a hate crime or targeted homophobic attack and is rarely listed as one in databases.

At our vigils for those slaughtered, Extremist Christian groups showed up to protest, holding signs like this:

ID: Me kissing a woman I was casually seeing in front of an angry looking man with a “Sodomy is Sin” sign.

Please understand how much more than just a mass shooting this was. We are still to this day harassed and told we deserved it by some.

This year was the sixth anniversary. The first couple years I received dozens of messages checking in on me on 6/12. Year 5 got enough news coverage for people to think to reach out to me. This year it was my therapist, the woman I kissed in that photo, and a couple of other gun violence survivor friends. People are forgetting already.

[butch-reidentified]

With the 7 year anniversary <2 weeks away, I figured I’d reblog this

[seyumei]

How I simultaneously avoid and indulge in dumb internet drama.

[seyumei]

I dont understand like 90% of the fandom acronyms people are using in the tags, but I’m glad it seems like many people from different walks of life can relate to this. I feel like we’re kindred spirits in a way.

[memory-of-stargazing]

“It just means you have to work double as hard as most people!”

Well maybe I don’t WANT to work double as hard as abled people!! Maybe I deserve a BREAK!! Maybe I’ve been working MORE THAN double as hard for MY WHOLE LIFE and it’s led me to immense burnout & caused me to develop several MORE disabilities!! Maybe I should be ACCOMMODATED so I don’t have to KILL MY BODY AND BRAIN over trying to do what abled people can do!! Maybe I DON’T have to work double as hard!! Maybe if there’s the option to let me NOT work double as hard, I should have it, because I’m already working double as hard JUST TO SURVIVE!!

Why do you think disabled people deserve less rest than mentally & physically abled people?

[wherethereareoctobers]

If you could instantly be granted fluency in 5 languages—not taking away your existing language proficiency in any way, solely a gain—what 5 would you choose?