How do I turn around and choose myself
- the sun and her flowers - rupi kaur
Many people find it hard to put themselves first. Many people find it hard to choose themselves over anyone else. I find that it is a common problem among those who are not selfish and who care so much for others. It can become exhausting.
This can be taken into different context, depending on what you are going through in your life.
Let’s say, you are going through a break up, and all you want to do is go back to the other person, choose them over anything, over everything. Do anything for them, because your body is going through a ‘withdrawal’ and all you can feel is them and you want them, want to follow them, be on the same path as them. But that is not your path. If you are going through a break up and feel this way. It is the time to choose you. Choose your path, choose your well being, feel yourself and most importantly do anything and everything for yourself. They are gone, its time for you and only you.
This is difficult but it all starts with acknowledging and accepting that you are the most important thing and you should be choosing yourself over everyone else in this part of your life.
Now a person who is not going through a breakup and is not heart broken, will have a different story and a different complication.
A person who puts everyone else and everyone’s needs above their own probably, ask this question often or they are so occupied with others problems and others worries and taking care or being there for others, that they do not even know how to choose themselves. This person might avoid even having time to themselves or even caring about themselves. And this my friends is not good, these people are probably tired and have problems of their own but are afraid or are avoiding being alone and have some time or some peace. If you are one of these people, I will tell you straight up, go have a bath in peace, turn off your phone, lock yourself in a room away from the world. Relax, breathe, sleep, you deserve it. You deserve self love. You are allowed to choose yourself and to have days to your self rather than helping others or worrying about others. You need to prioritise you and your needs before anyone else, as that will help you mentally and physically. It will help you be strong and be able to help others and most importantly it will balance out your life. so turn around and go choose yourself!!!!!!
If you know someone like that then, send them this blog and enlighten them, that they should put them selves first once in a while.
Mothers. Mothers also deserve to choose themselves. Even though they are worrying about their children and about everyone else. Mothers need to choose themselves. Have a bath in peace once a week. Take care of themselves. Buy something for themselves, go out with friends. That is allowed and is fully condoned. In my opinion it is needed. That is the only way, to balance the stress of being a mother. The hard work and the sleepless nights and the constant trouble of worrying, needs to be stopped and you deserve a break. Being a mother is a full time job, so from time to time, take a break and put yourself first, remember you were you, before you were a mother.
Choosing yourself and your needs may not come easy to some people. No matter who you are, what your life is like, what you are doing, you should choose yourself, even if it is for an hour a week or so. Choosing your self means loving yourself and loving you is important for people, especially in the current world we live in.
Turn around and choose yourself.