an occasional burst of castanets

Stephanie, 31, working adjacent to graphic arts and parallel to straight up manual labor, writing when I can, blogging and reblogging what I find beautiful, clever, and/or relevant to my interests. Enjoy and Ask if you wish.

[notallmensheviks]

Jupiter Now Has 69 Moons

Our local gas giant has two more natural satellites added to its roster

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[aubrey-plaza]

RECORD STORES IN FILMS Rock of Ages (2012) Scott Pilgrim vs The World (2010) Pretty in Pink (1986) 500 Days of Summer (2009) Cloud Atlas (2012) High Fidelity (2000) Empire Records (1995) A Clockwork Orange  (1971) Hearts Beat Loud (2018) Before Sunrise (1995)

[halloweenskellington]

[schizybun]

Addams Family said eat the rich

[glumshoe]

The other thing about the word “queer” is that almost everyone I’ve seen opposed to it have been cis, binary gays and lesbians. Not wanting it applied to yourself is fine, but I think people underestimate the appeal of vague, inclusive terminology when they already have language to easily and non-invasively describe themselves.

Saying “I’m gay/lesbian/bi” is pretty simple. Just about everyone knows what you mean, and you quickly establish yourself as a member of a community. Saying “I’m a trans nonbinary bi woman who’s celibate due to dysphoria and possibly on the ace spectrum”… not so much. You’re lucky to find anyone who understands even half of that, and explaining it requires revealing a ton of personal information. The appeal of “queer” is being able to identify yourself without profiling yourself. It’s welcoming and functional terminology to those who do not have the luxury of simplified language and occupy complicated identities. *That’s* why people use it - there are currently not alternatives to express the same sentiment.

It’s not people “oppressing themselves” or naively and irresponsibly using a word with loaded history. It’s easy to dismiss it as bad or unnecessary if you already have the luxury of language to comfortably describe yourself.

[skeletrender]

There’s another dimension that always, always gets overlooked in contemporary discussions about the word “queer:” class. The last paragraph here reminds me of a old quote: “rich lesbians are ‘sapphic,’ poor lesbians are ‘dykes’.” 

The reclaiming of the slur “queer” was an intensely political process, and people who came up during the 90s, or who came up mostly around people who did so, were divided on class and political lines on questions of assimilation into straight capitalist society. 

Bourgeois gays and lesbians already had “the luxury of language” to describe themselves - normalized through struggle, thanks to groups like the Gay Liberation Front.

Everyone else, from poor gays and lesbians to bi and trans people and so on, had no such language. These people were the ones for whom social/economic assimilation was not an option.

The only language left, the only word which united this particular underclass, was “queer.” “Queer” came to mean an opposition to assimilation - to straight culture, capitalism, patriarchy, and to upper class gays and lesbians who wanted to throw the rest of us under the bus for a seat at that table - and a solidarity among those marginalized for their sexuality/gender id/presentation. 

(Groups which reclaimed “queer,” like Queer Patrol (armed against homophobic violence), (Queers) Bash Back! (action and theory against fascism, homophobia, and transphobia), and Queerbomb (in response to corporate/state co-optation of mainstream Gay Pride), were “ultraleft,” working-class, anti-capitalist, and functioned around solidarity and direct action.)

The contemporary discourse around “queer” as a reclaimed-or-not slur both ignores and reproduces this history. The most marginalized among us, as OP notes, need this language. The ones who have problems with it are, generally, among those who have language - or “community,” or social/economic/political support - of their own.

[dailybipuns]

Okay, hot take? Bisexual and pansexual are functionally synonyms, and the decision to ID as one or the other comes down to personal preference and interpretation, and any attempt to further separate the two is driving a wedge between two communities that should have nothing but love and solidarity for one another. 

We have more in common than not, and the words for our respective identities should not be pitted against each other. 

[swordshapedleaves]

Yeah with overlapping identities like this I just go for whichever one I like the pride flag the most.

[dailybipuns]

That’s so valid. 

[love-geofffree-deactivated20190]

There is a distinction between pansexual and bisexual but it is a very fine line, so fine that people who fit the definition for pansexual better may ID as bisexual instead for a variety of personal reasons and vice versa. But there is a distinction and acting like they are perfect synonyms can be quite invalidating.

Bisexual - attraction to multiple genders where gender is a factor within the attraction, and can include a preference for one gender over another, or attraction that feels different when it’s directed at a specific gender.

Pansexual- attraction to people regardless of gender. Gender is not a factor, you’d expect a blanket sensation of attraction regardless of which gender it is attracted to, and no sense of intuitive gender preference (though perhaps a logical one).

Notice that neither of these definitions actually exclude transgender or non-binary people and arguing otherwise is biphobic and transphobic. But there is still a distinction - practically, the issues they face and the relationships they will end up in are the same, but emotionally and subjectively they feel different.

[j-erin]

Me reading the first post: I totally agree 100% quit telling me that calling myself bisexual means I’m transphobic

Me reading post four: OH I never heard that distinction before. Being attracted to masculine ppl DOES feel different to me than being attracted to feminine ppl. It never occurred to me that pansexual people experienced attraction different from me in that way. Today I have learned something.

[ebonyheartnet]

Okay, so this is a better explanation than I have seen before, and I’m really glad it crossed my dash. *throws love and support @ my bi and pan friends across the globe bc they’re all valid*

[03josten]

[fullmetalfisting]

Some guy today mentioned he was in a band to me and I watched him get visibly uncomfortable when I didn’t ask him anything about it. He kept trying to bring the conversation around to his band and I wasn’t budging.

[khaleesi-mother-of-fandoms]

POWER MOVE: Complete and utter disinterest in men’s obsession with their own mediocrity

[postmodernismruinedme]

every appearance of Steve Rogers in the MCU

Captain America: The First Avenger

The Avengers

Captain America: The Winter Soldier

Avengers: Age of Ultron

Captain America: Civil War

Spider-Man: Homecoming

Avengers: Infinity War

[formerprincewille]

Oh my GOD this is a Holy Post™️

[daenerystargaryensass-deactivat]

@itsgonnabeacoldwinter-soldier DYING

[on-your-knees-darling]

But where is the lie?

[dawngrl]

it’s a cold and it’s a broken hollaback girl 

[nicollekidman]

now that’s the mood

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[skywalkers-daughter]

A moodboard!

[grawly]

[karilotl-deactivated20240706]

this is the co-creator of D&D 5e. i just want to point that out, this isn’t some random guy tweeting this. this is official staff.

[owk]

bisexual culture is being very specific with the men you’re interested but having absolutely no type when it comes to girls because they’re all so beautiful

[ofcarnivora]

But it’s mine???

[ongwink]

if u have pets, reblog this what u call them besides their name

[heavyweightheart]

the line between not going out as an act of self-care and not going out as a symptom of depression is but a gossamer thread

[jasonttodd]