Nov 15th, 2016
christopher bollas recently wrapped up a one-week residency at UC Berkeley on the theme âunconscious perception.â it ended the friday before the election. those in the seminar read and discussed his work for a month beforehand and then sat with him for a few hours during each day of his visit. it was clear that the election was an implicit referent and that there was collective reticence to circulating trumpâs name, but this fell away pretty early on.
we started by talking about the âgroup mind,â which bollas approaches through his training in Group Relations (GR). GR employs a method by psychoanalyst wilfred r. bion called the tavistock method, which âconcentrates on the individual only insofar as s/he is manifesting something on behalf of the whole group.â in group relations what one person says is not treated as commentary on the individual per se but as a function of the group mind. instead of âsarah thinks thisâ a facilitator might put forward âthe group thinks thisâ or âwhat do we do with the part of ourselves that thinks this?â thus the person isnât isolated, and paranoia is kept to a minimum. i think it also brings to light unconscious material that may be shared but voiced by few. in groups, thereâs often the idea that the solution when someone does something we donât like is to eradicate them (e.g. the war on terror). there is also the idea that we need to find the perfect group, when bollas maintains that âwe have a group, but we donât want to be in it.â his point was that you canât purge difficult people from the group process, âthey are the group process.â
referencing the pre-election polling that had clinton slightly ahead of DT, bollas asserted many people in the US had gone the way of hate as opposed to its more difficult alternative, love. âthe group mind of the US is psychotic, we must have a way to reconfigure our group mind and find non-psychotic ways to relate.â the foundation for the seminar was really laid by this early conversation on love and hate. love is very precious, bollas maintained, because itâs not easy to come by and itâs not common. it takes an extraordinary amount of effort and time. but, if you want to hate you will have a companion for life. the childâs first powerful word is no, and with hate comes power; around ages 4, 5, and 6 that new power is intoxicating. hate is highly pleasurable, itâs more reliable, it can be generated individually because it doesnât require another person like love, and itâs easily transmissible. bollas said that hate is when the self begins to kill love, and as this happens it reduces complexity. paranoia and hate are mechanisms for simplifying and therefore feel pleasurable. love is harder because the price of connection is pain.
in this sense, the phrase âlove trumps hateâ is a misplaced ontological confidence, to quote @afieryflyingroule. itâs the kind of empty untruth that is partly to blame for the results of this election. the paradox of love is that it doesnât outpace or surpass anything. itâs constitutionally more delicate and easier to destroy. what is important for group life is that the compulsion to destroy is an investment in staving off pain. bollas argued that the flip side of the rightâs paranoia is the leftâs sanctimonious rectitudeâthe righteousness that is paired with having the correct answers and just pointing to or calling out whatâs wrong; neither is open to dialogue.Â
knowing that racismâby white subjects or othersâmight be an attempt to stave off pain does not warrant sympathy or forgiveness but rather provides an opening to those who might take it. âwhat am i trying to protect myself from? is it working? is an alternative more beneficial?â those harboring racism or protecting their right to accumulate capital are invested in separation (and/or destruction) because it is synonymous with ego enrichment. contrarily, many are invested in destruction or separation from the first group because their lives are at stake. as jina b. kim succinctly posted the other day:
Iâm also tired of âagreeing to disagree.â Your opinion means the disproportionate death of black, brown, poor, immigrant, disabled, and queer communities. My opinion means your white uncle doesnât get an extra boat this year. (via)
what many are staving off by âhatingâ trump and his supporters is deportation, incarceration, misery, impoverishment, and death. the stakes are entirely different.Â
iâm still thinking about what to make of the gap between the two. the acts of pointing that get us nowhere. responses to [un/conscious] ego enrichment that might shed light on similarities. and who this burden falls on because others refuse to take responsibility. jill gentile recently wrote a book likening free speech in democracy to free association in psychoanalysis, arguing that in neither case is the importance of free speech really explained. why do we value it? she says that the following passage from freud indicates that he had already detected the democratic process in free association, because he did not just value solipsistic speaking but named a hearer, a partner in the journey of free association:
âWords are the most important media by which one man seeks to bring his influence to bear on another; words are a good method of producing mental change in the person to whom they are addressed.â (Psychical [or Mental] Treatment,â 1890)
gentile argues that what is missing in the first amendment is a commitment to the process of hearing and translating. in a way, she suggests, the polis values speaking but not listening. âwe need to restore a good faith relationshipâ between listeners and speakers.
bollas and group relations would say: weâre in a group and weâre responsible for the group mind, whether we want this one or not. this is what i walked away from the seminar and into the election and now around inside of its aftermath thinking about, with extra attention toward openness that doesnât feel so pleasurable. i donât have a lot of answers and feel more uncertain than anything else. but how one might do something other than multiply paranoia or feed off hatred is on my mind. âthe broader part of love is to encounter hate in ourselves,â bollas said at one point. âto admit that is our ironic statement of love for people around us.â