Collector's Edition: The Lost Essays
Upstairs Gallery | Chicago, IL | 8/8/14
For his final Collector's Edition piece at Upstairs Gallery, Rick talks about his favorite song of all time.
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Alright, this is the last piece I'll be presenting up here, so I just want to take a second to tell you about my favorite song, my very favorite song. It's not How Deep Is Your Love by The Bee Gees, it's not Coyote by Joni Mitchell, it's not God Only Knows by the Beach Boys. My favorite song of all time is by Janet Jackson and it's called Together Again. Together Again was the big #1 hit from The Velvet Rope, the only Top 10 hit off this amazing album, my favorite album of all time, and when I was 14 years old I didn't understand why that was. I had only just began to pull myself away from all the rap rock and nu metal I listened to in middle school, and Janet Jackson songs like “Go Deep” and “I Get Lonely” had a particular draw. These songs were sexy and moody and stylish and edgy, qualities of pop music that were totally new to me at the time. But when I heard “Together Again,” I didn’t get it. It felt flat to me. I kept thinking it sounded like a Disney song - the beat was so pleasant, Janet Jackson sounds happy the entire time, and like many 14-year-old boys who attend karate tournaments in malls, I just didn't trust pop songs like that. I always assumed the smile was put on. At age 14, I didn’t think songs like that couldn't truly be about anything.
But I was wrong. The liner notes to The Velvet Rope reveal that Together Again was written and dedicated to the friends that Janet lost to AIDS-related complications. But the song doesn’t mention AIDS at all. She names her friends in the liner notes, but not in the lyrics. Janet’s just smiling and singing and dancing like she always has. So what’s this song even about?
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First we have to step back a bit and get some context. We’re all aware of HIV/AIDS, and pop culture has taken a strong voice promoting this awareness - we’ve all seen the charities, the billboards, the celebrity ad campaigns. We’ve all seen Rent.
Despite this, HIV/AIDS is virtually invisible in popular music. There have been several charity singles released to benefit AIDS foundations, but none of them were actually about the disease or the people living with it. In fact, most of these singles were new recordings of songs written before anyone knew what HIV/AIDS was.
Songwriters have written about AIDS, sure - Lou Reed, Elton John, Cyndi Lauper, Pet Shop Boys all have album tracks about AIDS. But these are album tracks, these songs weren’t released as singles for a popular audience. What’s more, these songs are miserable. They aren’t about coping with AIDS, they’re about coping with someone who’s dying from AIDS. Here are the opening lyrics to “The Last Song” by Elton John:
Yesterday you came to lift me up As light as straw and brittle as a bird Today I weigh less than a shadow on the wall Just one more whisper of a voice unheard
So just think about this for a second: at the height of the AIDS crisis there weren't any popular songs that were actually about AIDS. Soft Cell's version of "Tainted Love" got some extra airplay because people interpreted it to be about disease, and that’s as close as it got. There may have been songs about AIDS, but there weren’t songs for people living with it.
Exactly two songs have ever entered the American Billboard top 10 that have anything to do with AIDS - “Together Again” by Janet Jackson and “Waterfalls” by TLC. These are the only charting singles whose content makes any kind of reference to AIDS, and it's worth noting that they're both performed by black women, the demographic with the highest HIV infection rate.
I know that statistic because I like to read about HIV. I know this because I like to talk to doctors about sexual health, I get tested regularly and I think of new questions to ask every time I go in. I like feeling informed, and for a guy just sharing articles on Facebook I do pretty well. I actually enjoy learning about HIV/AIDS, and there’s a lot to keep up with. Treatment and preventative measures have advanced rapidly over the past several years, and these days it feels like there’s more good news every other week. Medicine has advanced. But medicine can’t fight the true evil of HIV/AIDS: This is a disease that preys on love and trust, and is spread by uncertainty.
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I learned that a friend tested positive for HIV, and I was fine with that. I knew we had been safe together. I could look back at my behavior, I could compare what I did to know, and I felt fine. I went to a clinic that same day, I smiled when I told the receptionist that I’d like to get tested for HIV. I took my clipboard and I sat down, and I felt very calm, but I felt it, right here, it was a lump in my back of my head, and I tried to ignore it, but I knew it was fear. Not of the disease: I wasn’t scared of having to work a little harder to maintain my health. I was scared of the assumptions that would be made, I was scared of having three dates at a time, I was scared of people apologizing to me for nothing for the rest of my life.
My name was called, I took the test, and as we waited for the results, the doctor asked me: If you were to test positive today, do you have friends to talk to? Do you have support?
That question has always stuck with me. But I’m here to tell you about my favorite song. (radio edit version)
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Together Again is a disco song. It’s important to consider this: Disco is a genre built by radical queers and ethnic minorities. Disco was created as proof that, when cornered by a public that thinks people like you are dangerous, that think you're sick, you can still create the most joyous dance floor in town. Disco music uses joy as an act of rebellion. The sad irony of the AIDS epidemic is that it was declared in 1981, just a few years after disco "died," and could you imagine how different things could have been if those afflicted had disco music to listen to?
There may have been songs about AIDS, but Together Again is a song for people with AIDS and for the people they love. I can’t tell you if Janet intentionally chose disco as the backdrop for this song, but she nails the attitude with deceptive ease. On The Velvet Rope, before this song comes on, there’s a brief interlude where Janet delivers this line:
You don’t have to hold on to the pain to hold on to the memory.
When I was 14 I didn’t think this song was about anything, and god, I was so wrong. Janet lost her friends Dominic, George, Derek, Bobby, Dominic, Victor and Jose to one of the greatest evils on this earth, so she wrote a disco song for them. Janet faces a fear that, for me, for anyone who has gotten that long text message, for every songwriter before her who has tried to write about this, has been impossible to truly overcome. She faces this fear and crowds it out completely with a disco beat that refuses to slow down, with unrelenting positivity. You don’t have to hold on to the pain to hold on to the memory. This is one of the absolute most difficult things to do in life, and Janet demonstrates it, for five minutes and one second, without ever breaking her smile, without a single mournful aside. That’s incredible. Let me be clear, that’s incredible. That’s a super power.
To answer the doctor’s question, I have a lot of fantastic friends that I could talk to if I needed support. A lot of them are here tonight. But this is a kind of wisdom and outlook that you can only acquire with your own strength, and this song is about equipping people to do that.
That’s why Together Again by Janet Jackson is my favorite song, thanks.















