I donāt know who needs to hear this, but please donāt break promises you make to yourself just because itās you the promise is being made to. You told yourself youād go on a walk tomorrow morning? Do it. You said youād get more consistent with your skincare routine? Make it happen. You promised yourself you would work on establishing boundaries regardless of whoās on the other side of them? Follow through with that. Donāt wake up the next day and go āwell I donāt HAVE to do thisā āit wouldnāt hurt to postpone thisā āthis isnāt a big dealā because it literally is. Every promise broken is another nail in the coffin of your self-actualization. Itās another major roadblock to developing healthy self-love and self-respect. Weigh promises youāve made to yourself the same way you would weigh promises youāve made to others.
I honestly tolerated such shitty behavior from other people before because itās like. I didnāt respect myself enough to go through w things I want, so how can I expect other people to respect me enough to consider the way they treat me w care? And then itās also so much easier to slip into the mentality of ātheyāre treating me horribly NOW but Iām sure theyāll do better in the futureā ātheyāre not there yet but they will beā because thatās what you tell yourself when you donāt follow through w things. Other peopleās subpar behavior towards you is acceptable because YOUR subpar behavior towards yourself is acceptable. I think this is what people mean when they say you have to love yourself in order to accept healthy love from other people. If you donāt think youāre worthy enough of following through w your own promises to yourself, why should you think that other people perceive you as worthy enough? It legitimately all starts w you.
