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Help a Black disabled trans couple thrive for Pride Month

happy pride edition of this post lol. wont bog down the post explaining our situation, but we still need consistent help affording all our living expenses. my wife works but her job pays shit and i am trying to find work to no avail. i have the usual pay apps, as does my wife. we also have other options (like our patreon for monthly bills) and our registry if u wanna support that way. please consider helping make two struggling black queer folks' lives easier this pride month 🩷

PLS DONT TAG UNLESS FOR ACCESSIBILITY PURPOSES 🙏🏼

stemmonade

6/3

$538.04/$1240.13 (2 days past due)

so. all the months of only paying partially and trying to make up the rest next month (and failing) have caught up to us which is why we owed so much more than we thought. we got special permission to sign a 2 year payment plan to avoid losing our housing, but we HAVE to make payments IN FULL every month or else we are cooked. we CANNOT do that right now without help. please, PLEASE. we are so close to being stable, help us get there.

stemmonade

Help a Black disabled trans couple thrive for Pride Month

happy pride edition of this post lol. wont bog down the post explaining our situation, but we still need consistent help affording all our living expenses. my wife works but her job pays shit and i am trying to find work to no avail. i have the usual pay apps, as does my wife. we also have other options (like our patreon for monthly bills) and our registry if u wanna support that way. please consider helping make two struggling black queer folks' lives easier this pride month 🩷

PLS DONT TAG UNLESS FOR ACCESSIBILITY PURPOSES 🙏🏼

stemmonade

6/22

$281.50/$1252.24 (due in 9 days on 7/1)

$0/$120 for meds

people are still just reblogging and not actually donating and my wife has still not received her last paycheck from her shit job and has to wait a couple weeks to start her new one. i still cant get any place to get back to me or not lie in my face in interviews about getting the job only to reject me days later. i also am having a hypomanic episode on top of health issues and have been out of my meds for almost a month. please stop assuming someone else will give. we NEED donations in order to survive.

My name is Bug, and my beloved kitty Spades is having some ong… Gunter Bug Hawkins needs your support for Help Spades Get His Liver Issues D

pls help my friend!!

9nabaca

VizuL 1: EMPATIA - Adventure in Nice Colors

free on itch | STEAM | pt brasileiro

shout out to @alconteh and Túlio

and so many others for all the help, full game is finally here!

Mirtilo is a very troubled girl. She left her home behind to search for her missing parents. That same morning, moments later, her cousin Garoa pays her beloved relatives a visit to find them missing almost without a trace! No one is around and there's some evil entity out there.Come along this whimsical, colorful adventure with the two cousins seeking answers at their own pace

features listed in more detail in the links above but overall, a bullet hell urban fantasy adventure with a magic system incorporated to the gameplay.

VizuL 1 is a game that resonates with mine and close friends' struggles, in hopes it reaches whoever it needs to 💙

here's the catch-all page for the project as a whole, enjoy the ost with bonus tracks and don't forget to support the two people i linked above, obrigada 🌺

9nabaca

VizuL 1: EMPATIA - Adventure in Nice Colors

free on itch | STEAM | pt brasileiro

shout out to @alconteh and Túlio

and so many others for all the help, full game is finally here!

Mirtilo is a very troubled girl. She left her home behind to search for her missing parents. That same morning, moments later, her cousin Garoa pays her beloved relatives a visit to find them missing almost without a trace! No one is around and there's some evil entity out there.Come along this whimsical, colorful adventure with the two cousins seeking answers at their own pace

features listed in more detail in the links above but overall, a bullet hell urban fantasy adventure with a magic system incorporated to the gameplay.

VizuL 1 is a game that resonates with mine and close friends' struggles, in hopes it reaches whoever it needs to 💙

here's the catch-all page for the project as a whole, enjoy the ost with bonus tracks and don't forget to support the two people i linked above, obrigada 🌺

#THE GAME IS FINALLY OUT #everyone play this NEOW #vizul #ainc #game release #windows #rpg maker #female protagonist #female writers #female rage #lgbt games #indie dev #bullet hell #pride month #trans pride #brazilian artists #brasil #jogo brasileiro

save-amal-family

AWAKENING IN AGONY AT 3:00 AM. AMBULANCE TO THE ER. I NEED HELP.

Imagine waking up at 3:00 AM in excruciating pain, with no option but to be rushed by ambulance to a devastated emergency room. This is my reality. My name is Mohammad Hasan, a 30-year-old in Gaza, and I am battling a severe kidney crisis with internal bleeding.

Our healthcare system is completely gone. In a place with no resources, clean bottled water has become an unaffordable luxury. Drinking contaminated water will destroy my kidneys completely.

I desperately need your help

Your donations will directly provide:

Life-saving bottled clean water to flush my kidneys and stop the bleeding.

Specific medications and urgent medical follow-ups.

Please don't look away. Every single donation is critical to keeping me alive.

Donate here:

My name is Nia and I am based in London and I have helped to set up this page to raise funds to support a dear friend and his family who hav

save-amal-family

Hello my friends I ask all of people of mercy to help us by sharing & Donation🙏 to help my family from this war

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murderbot

it is the final day for ammar's injection again, and though we were able to complete the payment for everything needed last week and they were finally able to return home, i am concerned as we have very little raised in preparation this week

please let's make sure we have everything he needs raised in time by 4 pm tuesday gaza time - the most ideal would be all of this money, but we need $1133 at the very least

this will allow him to take his digoxin injection, and this absolutely cannot be delayed beyond tuesday

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murderbot

$1204 / $2540

we have reached the deadline of 10 am wednesday in gaza for ammar's immune globulin injection. while he still is able to be alright until 10 am tomorrow, thursday, and only will need iv fluids if we do not raise the money in time then, there is a problem

though the hospital is not currently under active attack, israel has made it clear that crowds / gathering together is prohibited at the hospital - if there are such crowds, they have said they will strike without warning

therefore, waiting in the hospital courtyard for ammar's injection is banned and also extremely dangerous for them.

we really need the remaining $1336 raised as quickly as possible so that they do not have to linger, lest israel use this as an excuse to bomb the hospital again

the deadline is in about 21 hours, as ammar will need iv fluids then, but it would be most ideal to get this as quickly as possible

kiirodora

stemmonade

Help a Black disabled trans couple thrive for Pride Month

happy pride edition of this post lol. wont bog down the post explaining our situation, but we still need consistent help affording all our living expenses. my wife works but her job pays shit and i am trying to find work to no avail. i have the usual pay apps, as does my wife. we also have other options (like our patreon for monthly bills) and our registry if u wanna support that way. please consider helping make two struggling black queer folks' lives easier this pride month 🩷

PLS DONT TAG UNLESS FOR ACCESSIBILITY PURPOSES 🙏🏼

stemmonade

6/10

$564.13/$1250.13 for rent (9 days past due)

$0/$45 for negative bank balance and food

have not been able to update in like a week due to being very busy and then very very ill. we still aren't even at halfway, please please contribute if you can 🙏🏼. im also in the red from paying for stuff to prep for potential job interviews, and need to be able to eat this week. anything folks can spare helps.

autogynophelia

One of the ways transmisogyny manifests is in default-uncharitable interpretations of ambiguous meaning.

Last week I was at a meetup where I was the only transfem. I checked the groupchat when I arrived and there was a message from the organiser: "We have a newcomer called X, can you look out for him if you get there first?" I located X, introduced myself, sent a message to the chat say, "I have located X," and continued to talk to him until the organiser arrived. When the organiser arrived, she was not happy with me. It turned out my phone had autocorrected, "I have located X," to, "I had located X," which the organiser interpreted as me passive aggressively telling her that I had already done the thing she was asking about. Her conclusion: I was unreasonable and aggressive in responding to her reasonable request. My explaining what had happened didn't convince her otherwise.

A different occasion last week: in a local trans groupchat, a trans man sent a link to a drag event happening in our town. A few people said they were already going, some said they might go. Then a trans woman replied saying, "Thanks, but I don't really like drag." Her tone was immediately called into question. Her words were assumed to communicate: "I think you are a terrible person if you like drag," even though she never said that. Several non-transfems who had never even heard that drag might not be universally-beloved by everyone were upset to discover that fact. A trans woman simply saying she didn't like this thing became A Big Deal.

Meanwhile, at a different event again, a trans man told a group that he was straight and attracted to women, but he wouldn't feel comfortable bringing home an "AMAB woman" (yes he actually said that). It was quickly brushed over, and after he had left even trans women tried to defend him by saying "he probably didnt realise people would be offended" etc etc. In contrast to the examples above, he is not even aware that anyone was upset by what he said, never mind worrying about what consequences he might face.

Whenever I go to an event, I often spend the next 24-48 hours ruminating over every single thing I said to check if I did anything at any time that could even vaguely be construed as annoying to anyone. I have often put this behaviour down to severe anxiety, but I think I am realising that it is actually a rational response to a world where even the slightest social misstep could be blown way out of proportion and result in my later social exclusion. It's one of those things that existed long before I was aware of my own transness but while I was nonetheless transmisogynised by society, a crippling fear of the slightest imperfection that I assumed everyone else felt too but apparently they don't. I guess when other people go out of their way to smoothe over the damage your words or actions might cause, you don't need to stress about that damage because there are no consequences to it! It sounds very nice to be able to live like that.

autogynophelia

A perfect example of this happened a few hours after posting it.

Someone reblogged my week-old critique of Devon Price. They said I was wrong to describe Price's transition as [something I never even said]. They said I was ignoring Price's non-binary identity, all while they used the wrong pronouns for Price throughout. They implied I thought non-binary people were not trans, and then they came up with a nonsensincal analogy which positioned me as a biphobic lesbian and then they reprimanded me for being biphobic (a crime committed only by their own fictional version of me that they made up).

But their username was green, so I thought (stupidly) I should give them the benefit of the doubt and not instantly block like I usually would someone like that. I went to their blog to see what kind of person this was.

I found a vaguepost about me where they called me "binary trans". OK, great, the person who misgendered Devon Price while defending it is also misgendering me based on something they made up in their own head. I've been non-binary for over a decade, I've talked about being non-binary on here before, I have "they" in my bio. It's not surprising that people refuse to allow transfems to be genuinely non-binary while vigorously defending a non-transfem's right to be so (in fact, that is exactly what my post about Price was talking about), but it is annoying that someone with a green username is doing it.

Then, in a later post, they describe my committment to not misgendering Price as "passive-aggressive". They say it's worse for me to be scrupulous about recognising non-binary identity if i "misrepresent nonbinary existence to this degree".

So, to summarise, they:

Pretended a trans woman said things she didn't.

Misgendered both her and the person they were defending.

Made up a story about a trans woman and got mad at her.

Called a trans woman "aggressive" for the crime of...using someone's correct pronouns.

When I am not misgendering someone, I am not doing that passive-aggressively. I am literally just saying what I mean. There is no secret implied sinister meaning beneath a trans woman's words that you can discern and criticise while ignoring the actual substance. Please just read what I say and respond to that, not what you reckon I meant based on your mental image of an aggressive irrational trans woman.

kayla-denker

I don't know if there's a good term for the opposite of "benefit of the doubt" but that's what transfems are subjected to literally every single second of our lives by everyone around us. The negative impact that this has on our mental health cannot be overstated.

stemmonade

Help a Black disabled trans couple thrive for Pride Month

happy pride edition of this post lol. wont bog down the post explaining our situation, but we still need consistent help affording all our living expenses. my wife works but her job pays shit and i am trying to find work to no avail. i have the usual pay apps, as does my wife. we also have other options (like our patreon for monthly bills) and our registry if u wanna support that way. please consider helping make two struggling black queer folks' lives easier this pride month 🩷

PLS DONT TAG UNLESS FOR ACCESSIBILITY PURPOSES 🙏🏼

stemmonade

6/10

$564.13/$1250.13 for rent (9 days past due)

$0/$45 for negative bank balance and food

have not been able to update in like a week due to being very busy and then very very ill. we still aren't even at halfway, please please contribute if you can 🙏🏼. im also in the red from paying for stuff to prep for potential job interviews, and need to be able to eat this week. anything folks can spare helps.

rexykai

Help with my Grandmother's Chemotherapy

Hello everyone, most of you probably haven't heard from me in awhile, I am returning to tumblr to ask for help in paying the copay for my Grandma's medical treatment. For context about a month ago My grandma went into the hospital for kidney pain and in the CT they found masses in her liver and lung, those masses we now know are malignant and the doctors suspect that without treatment she won/t survive to the new year, unfortunatly, even with insurance the chemotherapy she needs for even a chance to survive is 7000$, Im not sure how much traction this'll get but any and every cent that anyone can spare will help. so if you can spare even a dollar that would be immense, and if you cant i ask you reblog, albeit without tags.

paypal.me/KyleP171

https://ko-fi.com/rileykai92387

https://account.venmo.com/u/Kyle-Pierce-110

rexykai

Still currently at $20 out of $7k for the copay so that my grandma has a chance to survive into the new year, but many more notes, every reblog and like is appreciated and even just One Dollar Donated will be just as valuable

Update: 06/06/2026

stemmonade

Help a Black disabled trans couple thrive for Pride Month

happy pride edition of this post lol. wont bog down the post explaining our situation, but we still need consistent help affording all our living expenses. my wife works but her job pays shit and i am trying to find work to no avail. i have the usual pay apps, as does my wife. we also have other options (like our patreon for monthly bills) and our registry if u wanna support that way. please consider helping make two struggling black queer folks' lives easier this pride month 🩷

PLS DONT TAG UNLESS FOR ACCESSIBILITY PURPOSES 🙏🏼

stemmonade

6/3

$538.04/$1240.13 (2 days past due)

so. all the months of only paying partially and trying to make up the rest next month (and failing) have caught up to us which is why we owed so much more than we thought. we got special permission to sign a 2 year payment plan to avoid losing our housing, but we HAVE to make payments IN FULL every month or else we are cooked. we CANNOT do that right now without help. please, PLEASE. we are so close to being stable, help us get there.

rexykai

Help with my Grandmother's Chemotherapy

Hello everyone, most of you probably haven't heard from me in awhile, I am returning to tumblr to ask for help in paying the copay for my Grandma's medical treatment. For context about a month ago My grandma went into the hospital for kidney pain and in the CT they found masses in her liver and lung, those masses we now know are malignant and the doctors suspect that without treatment she won/t survive to the new year, unfortunatly, even with insurance the chemotherapy she needs for even a chance to survive is 7000$, Im not sure how much traction this'll get but any and every cent that anyone can spare will help. so if you can spare even a dollar that would be immense, and if you cant i ask you reblog, albeit without tags.

paypal.me/KyleP171

https://ko-fi.com/rileykai92387

https://account.venmo.com/u/Kyle-Pierce-110

rexykai

Help with my Grandmother's Chemotherapy

Hello everyone, most of you probably haven't heard from me in awhile, I am returning to tumblr to ask for help in paying the copay for my Grandma's medical treatment. For context about a month ago My grandma went into the hospital for kidney pain and in the CT they found masses in her liver and lung, those masses we now know are malignant and the doctors suspect that without treatment she won/t survive to the new year, unfortunatly, even with insurance the chemotherapy she needs for even a chance to survive is 7000$, Im not sure how much traction this'll get but any and every cent that anyone can spare will help. so if you can spare even a dollar that would be immense, and if you cant i ask you reblog, albeit without tags.

paypal.me/KyleP171

https://ko-fi.com/rileykai92387

https://account.venmo.com/u/Kyle-Pierce-110

stemmonade

Help a Black disabled trans couple thrive for Pride Month

happy pride edition of this post lol. wont bog down the post explaining our situation, but we still need consistent help affording all our living expenses. my wife works but her job pays shit and i am trying to find work to no avail. i have the usual pay apps, as does my wife. we also have other options (like our patreon for monthly bills) and our registry if u wanna support that way. please consider helping make two struggling black queer folks' lives easier this pride month 🩷

PLS DONT TAG UNLESS FOR ACCESSIBILITY PURPOSES 🙏🏼

stemmonade

6/3

$538.04/$1240.13 (2 days past due)

so. all the months of only paying partially and trying to make up the rest next month (and failing) have caught up to us which is why we owed so much more than we thought. we got special permission to sign a 2 year payment plan to avoid losing our housing, but we HAVE to make payments IN FULL every month or else we are cooked. we CANNOT do that right now without help. please, PLEASE. we are so close to being stable, help us get there.

rexykai

Help with my Grandmother's Chemotherapy

Hello everyone, most of you probably haven't heard from me in awhile, I am returning to tumblr to ask for help in paying the copay for my Grandma's medical treatment. For context about a month ago My grandma went into the hospital for kidney pain and in the CT they found masses in her liver and lung, those masses we now know are malignant and the doctors suspect that without treatment she won/t survive to the new year, unfortunatly, even with insurance the chemotherapy she needs for even a chance to survive is 7000$, Im not sure how much traction this'll get but any and every cent that anyone can spare will help. so if you can spare even a dollar that would be immense, and if you cant i ask you reblog, albeit without tags.

paypal.me/KyleP171

https://ko-fi.com/rileykai92387

https://account.venmo.com/u/Kyle-Pierce-110

stemmonade

Help a Black disabled trans couple thrive for Pride Month

happy pride edition of this post lol. wont bog down the post explaining our situation, but we still need consistent help affording all our living expenses. my wife works but her job pays shit and i am trying to find work to no avail. i have the usual pay apps, as does my wife. we also have other options (like our patreon for monthly bills) and our registry if u wanna support that way. please consider helping make two struggling black queer folks' lives easier this pride month 🩷

PLS DONT TAG UNLESS FOR ACCESSIBILITY PURPOSES 🙏🏼

stemmonade

6/2

$514.39/$1194.69 (1 day past due)

$0/$30 for food

trying really hard not to lose it. rent is still not even halfway, and our apartment complex emailed us saying we owe over twice what we should based on what we have been paying over the last few months. im also in the negatives and havent eaten since friday which is so cool. i dont know how else to stress the urgency, we need HELP.

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