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MBTI types and Stress

Tend to get nervous to other behaviour, go for perfection: ISFP, INFP, ESFJ, ENFJ

Get emotional and think that can’t manage situations: INTP, ISTP, ENTJ, ESTJ

Get anxious about anything, and have negative view and no solution: INFJ, INTJ, ENFP, ENTP

Stagnant and inactive thoughts, question the sense in what they do at some point: ISTJ, ISFJ, ESTP, ESFP

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The Alignments

Lawful Good: it’s a person who acts as is expected to act by laws. They help others, tell the truth, speak against injustice of the society, hate to see unpunished guilty. They are characterized by compasion and honor, want to improve the society even if something must be sacrificed for the good and order. According to them, society must be well-organized and efficient to garantee a better life for people, and this goes throught laws. Lawful good character are: Superman (DC comics), Luke Skywalker (Star Wars), Hermione Grenger (Harry Potter), Eddard Stark (Game of Thrones).

Lawful Neutral: it is a person who acts as law, tradition, or a personal code that leads their life. They see regulation as important, taking a middle area between good and evil. Good and evil are unburn, it’s law and order that give meaning to the world. They are respectful of peers and leaders, and like the stability in life. Lawful neutral can be descrived as resposanbile, loyal, methodical, and precise. Lawful neutral character are: Percy Weasley (Harry Potter), Judge Dredd (DC comics).

Lawful Evil: it’s a evil villain that methodically does his/her interest in limits of the law’s code: they use society and its laws to benefit themselves, shortly. They care about tradition, loyalty and order, but reject freedom, dignity or compassion. This depends on a an hand from their nature, on the other hand from what can protect themselves from those who oppose to them. They’re often called “diabolic” and rapresent methodical, intentional, and frequent successful evil. Lawful evil are cruel, malevolent, hostile, tyrannical, commanding. Lawful evil character are: Darth Vader (Star Wars), Dolores Umbridge (Harry Potter), Magneto (Marvel Comics).

Neutral Good: it’s a person who does the best a good person can do. They do what is good without minding if goes against or for the order. Laws and order are seen as tools for bringing happiness, peace to all individuals or creatures. They value personal freedom and adherence to laws, and there must be a balance between them: life and rights of all must be respected and equal. Neutral good are usually independent, but don’t mind being part of/cooperate with a group or make friends. They can be described as helpful, kind, respectful, firendly, altruistic. Neutral good character are: Harry Potter, Gandalf the Grey (Lord of the Rings), Spiderman (Marvel Comics).

True Neutral: it’s a person that doesn’t stay in one way or other when it comes to law vs chaos or good vs evil. They always prefer to stay in a neutral position, without extremity in things, they act naturally, without prejudice or impulsivity. For them everything exist as a part of the whole, with nothinh predominant or out of balance. True neutral are concerned with their well-being: they will act right with their friends,but without maliciously behavior with those who hurt them. True neutral are distant, diplomatic, fair and indifferent. True neutral characters are: Horace Slughorn (Harry potter), Tom Bombabil (Lord of the Rings).

Neutral Evil : it’s a villan that does whatever and/he can get away with. They have no mercy or emotion if they kill or hurt someone, as long as it gives profit or convenience. They commit evil for their own sake and advance others without regard for others. They search glory, position, wealth and anything that makes their life more comfortable. Neutral evil are unkind, unemotional, hateful, immoral, destructive. Neutral evil character are: Emperor Palpatine (Star Wars), Saruman (Lord of the Rings), Lex Luthor (DC comics).

Chaotic Good: it’s a person according to him/her will, with little regard in what others expect from him/her. They make their own way, but they are kind and friendly; follow their moral and value, that might not be that of society. Fot them, indipendence and freedom are important to life and happiness of everyone. Laws, order, social forms,etc are wrong because limit for self-recognition. They are good people, but can be selfish and greedy. Respite this, chaotic good will not tread to others to make their way, because others should pursuit their will as well. Chaotic good character are: Han Solo (Star Wars), Batman(Dc Comics), Robin Hood.

Chaotic Neutral: it’s a character that follows his will and individuality. They value their own freedom but doesn’t strive to protect others freedom. They avoid authority, resent restrinctions and challanges tradition. Good and evil are balanced arms: no one prevals or prefered. They indulge in everything, are predicable and indulgent follow their interest. Chaotic neutral are independent, confusing, anarchic, self-centred, individualistic. Chaotic Neutral characters are: Captain Jack Sparrow (Pirates of the Caribbean), Q (Star Trek), and Conan the Barbarian, Deadpool (Marvel Comics).

Chaotic Evil: it’s a villan that does whatever his/her greed, hatred, or lust for destruction. They have hot-temper, violence and are brutal. They combine self-interest and pure freedom; it rapresents the destruction of beauty, life and order of things. Chaotic evil likes to corrupt innocent and virtuous, and treats people like tools and manipulates them for his/her pleasure. Choatic evil are violent, uncaring, unfeeling, selfish, heartless. Chaotic evil character are: Gollum (Lord of the Rings), Joker (DC Comics) Lord Voldemort (Harry Potter).

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The Hidden Insecurities of Each MBTI Types

INTP : BEING THOUGHT OF AS BORING OR UNINTELLIGENT.

INTPs derive most pleasure from solitary activities such as research and acts of creativity. Their minds are always bubbling with ideas and  random sometimes hilarious cogitations. INTPs know that if someone were to glimpse the amusing contents of their thoughts it would be clear why they are so absorbed with their inner world.

They do not particularly concern themselves with what people think of them but on some level they do realize that their penchant for being reserved and detached can lead other more extroverted types to assume they are boring, dumb, or arrogant. INTPs are sometimes torn between doubling down on their defiance of social paradigms or coming out of their shell to impress everyone with how witty and funny they can be. INTPs generally don’t feel the need to prove how interesting they are to anyone; it is enough that they know it. But when they sense they are being underestimated or labelled as dull, they may be compelled to unveil some of the brilliance they keep to themselves.

ENTP: BEING DISLIKED BY OTHERS.

ENTPs thrive on engaging in animated debates where they can flex their litigious wit. In the process, they can cultivate the reputation of a quarrelsome troll who will indulge in frivolous arguments just for the hell of it.

Others may quickly learn to avoid messing with ENTPs because of their skill with mordant retorts. ENTPs may sometimes be concerned if those even in their inner circle truly value their friendship. They want to be entertaining and amusing to others and they spend a lot of time trying to be charming and clever conversationalists. They can seem very airy and impersonal but they still desire deep and meaningful connections with people.

INTJ:  SHOWING EMOTIONAL WEAKNESS AND VULNERABILITY.

INTJs are not known for being soft emotional sponges nor would they want to be. Part of this is due to their disapproval of maudlin displays of sentimentality viewing it as a sign of weakness.

Having a bleeding heart does not jibe with the INTJ’s self-image, which in their mind would resemble a pillar of stoic strength built with the blocks of empirical truth. INTJs prize their independence and their sense of agency and self-sufficiency. Despite their phlegmatic demeanor, INTJs do experience a flux of emotions that threaten to destabilize their temperament, potentially sending them into fits of rage or into the pits of depression. They actively suppress the expression of these feelings choosing instead to examine their meaning intellectually. The realm of emotions is to them a messy and troublesome affair and INTJs fear baring too much of their soul at the altar of public scrutiny.

ENTJ: UNABLE TO SEIZE OPPORTUNITIES 

ENTJs are statistically the highest earning of all the personality types; a figure they would undoubtedly take pride in. They are enterprising and always casting their radar out into the ethosphere scanning for new horizons to explore. They are naturally competitive and know that there are always competitors who threaten to snap up an idea or opening before they can.

This is a source of stress for them and something they endeavor to mitigate by optimizing and refining their senses and ability to capitalize on good bets before others can. They can be so busy thinking ahead of the curve, that they overlook unexpected windows of opportunity that suddenly appear in the here-and-now. Being the ambitious high achievers they are, they would not want to miss out on valuable options just because they were too singularly focused on their predefined plans.

INFP: THEIR ABILITY TO TRUST AND FULLY OPEN THEMSELVES TO OTHERS.

INFPs don’t like getting burned but at some point in their lives, it’s bound to happen. When it does, the lesson can have lasting impact on future relationships making them more guarded and harder to get to know well. They can become very suspicious and distrustful of other’s motives for fear of being taken advantage of or betrayed again.Luckier INFPs may never experience the need to develop an emotional coat of armor but for many, it is essential for protecting their psychological balance. People who want to get past an INFP’s emotional barriers will likely first have to pass the battery of ‘character’ tests which the INFP administers through furtive observation of their subject over time.

ENFP: BEING VIEWED AS AIMLESS AND UNMOTIVATED.

Though often very talented, ENFPs at their heart may harbor some insecurities that they attempt to alleviate through achievement. Earning status, fame and recognition in the world may serve as tokens of validation for them and they pursue this end with charismatic chutzpah.

They accentuate their quirkiness and creativity like a peacock displaying it’s plumage. They contribute to the world through their unusual yet valuable and often spiritual insight. It would put a damper on their self esteem if they were viewed as typical or commonplace. They would like to fancy themselves as more than just another crab in the barrel but at the same time desire to uplift and inspire others.

INFJ: BEING TREATED UNFAIRLY.

For all their noble qualities, INFJs are apt to develop a persecution complex in response to criticism leveled against them. Their sensitivity to criticism and conflict can easily render them feeling victimized and beleaguered by others who disagree with their ideas or beliefs.  

In asserting their ideas they sometimes feel their back is against the wall as they contend with what they view as unfair treatment or willful misconstructions of their arguments by opponents. By their estimate, most of the problems INFJs face stem from a failure by others to properly understand them or simply a depravity of good ethical principles on their part. INFJs are inclined to cry foul when they sense the playing field is not level and often, the causes they take up are centered around equalizing it.

ENFJ: BEING ALONE OR OSTRACIZED SOCIALLY.

ENFJs may have the noblest of intentions but their lofty ideals can sometimes set them up for failure. Their desire to be everything to everyone leads them to become charismatic and popular moral leaders but sometimes come across as glib and disingenuous as well.

The effort to maintain the pristine saintly image they have built up can force them to conceal or deny the human flaws they share along with the rest of us. They fear disappointing other’s expectations of them or their idea of what others should expect of them. They want to be a belweather and shining example of decency and likability. ENFJs fear becoming a pariah and being cutoff from the social main and they can be quite officious in their effort to gin up their popularity and esteem within their community.

ISFJ: BEING VALUED AND NEEDED BY OTHERS.

ISFJs want to help others and derive much of their self-worth from how vital a role they can serve in this regard. They feel most secure when they are dutifully fulfilling a support function upon which others depend.

But like a crack dealer, they may go so far as to stimulate this dependence in others by monopolizing their role such that no else may be allowed to conduct it for themselves. In order to satisfy their own need to feel needed they may attempt to make themselves indispensable by performing tasks to such a high degree and standard that others would feel loathe or unwilling to match it. It would be heart-breaking for them to feel that no one truly appreciated or needed them for anything.

ESFJ: BEING APPRECIATED AND LOVE-WORTHY.

ESFJs will go to great lengths to please those around them, sometimes doing too much and annoying others in the process. This is because they want to be appreciated and valued by others and will make gestures to engender gratitude from them.

They may occasionally feel their place in the hearts of others unjustly threatened by someone or something and they may engage in not-so-subtle attempts at winning favor with them. They may particularly engage in shameless self promotion making exaggerated claims about their abilities and qualities. Within a group, they may become stressed out as they are pulled in a million different directions, attempting to please everyone while also becoming extremely sensitive to others’ opinions of them. They are extremely concerned with being accepted and feeling liked.

ISTJ: BEING RESPECTED AND SEEN AS TRUSTWORTHY.

ISTJs are tradition-minded empiricists who look to be a firm and responsible figure in both their personal and professional circles. They seek to position themselves in a place of authority where they can make decisions and assert control.

In order to justify this, they make an effort to maintain an image of high standards, and ethic. They want to be seen as diligent and dutiful and will cultivate this image even to the point of appearing self-righteous and sanctimonious. They will seek respect from their subordinates even if they have to demand it sometimes resorting to dictatorial means. ISTJs may be very fair but strict and disciplined. They view their conservative temperament as essential to being taken seriously as an object of authority and repute.

ESTJ: IMPLEMENTING PERSONAL IDEAS.

ESTJs usually look to their experience and history to guide them in their decisions and methods. They focus on facts and data and value tradition and customs but they also have ideas of their own although they may not always be confident enough to rely on them.

ESTJs do not like being seen as unoriginal  and unimaginative and will at times try to convey an openness to new ideas and possibilities whether put forward by themselves or others. Of course, it would be ideal if they could take as much credit as possible for the ideas that really work. Their sense of pride and self empowerment compels them to occasionally venture outside of their comfort zone when necessary and be more inventive.

ISFP: BEING UNDER OTHER’S CONTROL.

ISFPs have no desire to control other people and simply want to be free to be who they are. They want to express themselves and their unique creativity authentically and unadulterated by arbitrary social constrictions.

A rigid, stifling environment is terrifying to this type. They are insecure about feeling imposed upon or beholden to others particularly within a power structure or hierarchy. They fancy themselves as free spirits owned by no one. They do not like feeling common and lowly and crave the freedom to express themselves like the rest of us crave water and air. This type needs to go out into the world and explore, discover and create without limitations, in order to feel like themselves.  They fear having their self-expression limited in any way.

ESFP: THEIR ATTRACTIVENESS AND SENSE OF SELF WORTH.

ESFPs live to perform, entertain and excite those around them. The spotlight is where they thrive and their idea of horror is a world in which nobody finds them interesting or entertaining. They live to explore people possibilities and the idea of those possibilities disappearing truly scares them. They want to be popular and well-liked and will often blend in to their environment to do so. ESFPs take special interest in their appearance and social image and are very aware of how they are perceived by others. They enjoy being the epicenter of attention and try to gin up excitement when they come around. They also dislike being seen as unintelligent and will take that very offensively. Just because the ESFP enjoys having fun, does not mean they are not intelligent.

ISTP: HANDS-OFF LEARNING

ISTPs  cognitive style lends itself to a more tactile approach to education. They are statistically one of the least academically inclined personality types because classroom settings and literature-based curriculum don’t stimulate or cater to their way of learning. The ISTP lives to understand the world in a direct, concrete fashion. They learn by tinkering, testing, experimenting and meddling. A world in which they are expected to blindly accept how things work is a world that they don’t want to live in. The ISTP needs to get their hands dirty in life – and being held back from doing so is a truly terrifying thought.

ESTP: THEIR PUBLIC IMAGE AND BEING ADMIRED BY OTHERS.

ESTPs are often attention seekers who would be malcontent in a modest life of obscurity. They want to be somebody and can be very ego-centric and arrogant in their pursuit of prestige, adulation and acclaim.

Their actions are often calibrated to achieve this end and their means may range from low brow prat-falls and slap stick-humor to prodigious accomplishments in the realm of academics and business. They fear the prospect of failure and being a disappointment in the eyes of others perhaps especially those of a parental figure. At the same time, it may be that they predicate their personal value on material expressions of value such as expensive property, accolades and titles of rank.

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13 Signs You’re A Classic INFJ

1. You’re always in search of a deeper meaning. At work, in relationships, with friends, and interactions with strangers you’re continually looking at life and situations in an obscure way to discover what’s beyond the surface.

2. Although people have an easy time connecting with you sometimes you can be a difficult person to really know. You value your privacy and often feel like you can only be your “true self” around those closest to you.

3. You’re a highly empathetic and sensitive person with an innate ability to understand what people are going through. Your care and concern for others is always genuine and you feel deeply for others.

4. You find it easy to connect with others and exhibit both introvert and extrovert qualities. You love meeting and interacting with other people and at times can be the life of the party but eventually, you have to go home and recharge.

5. Even beyond high school or college you enjoy learning, particularly about society, other cultures, languages, people, literature, and art. You’re always excited to learn something new and find your interests expanding as you get older.

6. You strive for the ideal in every aspect of your life. You have very strong opinions and are driven by your values. You will absolutely fight for what you believe in.

7. Sometimes you forget to take care of yourself. You become so passionate about certain projects or things going on with other people that often you end up exhausted and weary. When you’re so busy trying to take care of the world you must remember to take care of yourself as well.

8. You’re a deep and complex person but at the same time you also tend to live a very simple life. It really doesn’t take very much to make you feel happy and content with your life. You see things on a larger scale and put more emphasis on your relationships with friends and loved ones over possessions or money.

9. You can be loyal to a fault. You recognize everyone has flaws and you try to see the beauty in people’s weaknesses over judging them. The problem lies when others don’t give you the same courtesy and you end up feeling bitter or resentful.

10. You have a strong sense of idealism but you’re not simply just another dreamer. You realize and understand your goals can have a lasting impact and so you take the necessary steps to make your dreams happen.

11. The true feeling of success to you is based on the condition of your relationships with others and your own level of accomplishment.

12. Your insight is one of your greatest assets and it regularly helps you solve problems. You notice the small details most people seem to overlook. By being able to find patterns and meanings in the world around you you’re able to look at a problem in a number of ways and generate various possibilities.

13. You find joy and fulfillment out of expressing yourself through the arts. You likely have a talent for language and writing. Self-expression helps you release everything that’s going on in your head. 

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MBTI Types and the Population*

*it’s an very rough estimate and not quite perfect* ESTJ: 13% = 975,000,000 ESFJ: 12% = 900,000,000 ISTJ: 8.5% = 630,000,000 ISFJ: 7% = 520,000,000 ESTP: 10% = 750,000,000 ESFP: 11% = 825,000,000 ISTP: 6% = 450,000,000 ISFP: 6% = 450,000,000 ENTP: 4.5% = 337,500,000 ENTJ: 4% = 300,000,000 INTP: 2.5% = 187,500,000 INTJ: 1.5% = 112,500,000 ENFJ: 4% = 300,000,000 ENFP: 7% = 520,000,000 INFP: 2% = 150,000,000 INFJ: 1% = 75,000,000

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INFJ: 1% = 75,000,000 is me

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By that estimate, us INFJs are basically a larger group than the entire Chinese Armed Forces by a factor of 25.

Mind = blown.

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Types and Whether or not They Cheat During Games

Cheats and Wins: ENTP, ESFP, INFJ, ISTJ Cheats and Loses: INTP, ESTP, ESFJ, ISTP Doesn’t Cheat and Wins: ENTJ, ESTJ, ISFJ, ENFP Doesn’t Cheat and Loses: INFP, ISFP, INTJ, ENFJ

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Confession of an INTJ/INFJ

Every person has an aura. What we call “vibes.”

I may like you and adore you and admire you as a person, but I can’t be around you too much because your energy is just too exhausting for me. Because I am a mirror, my emotions try to keep up with yours.

But if you’re too different from me .. I just can’t. Be something I’m not. And I’m constantly going to clash within myself.

And I won’t know what to do with it.

I wish I had discovered this and came to terms with it in college. I would’ve avoided a lot of anxiety, stress, and the downward spiral I’m still trying to recover from.

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See. I think this is how INFJ/INTJs get vibes.

Our inferior Se pics up on some things about their appearance and actions they may have done and because Se is for the most part subconscious, we have a slight subconscious impression that they are a bad person or whatever vibe the INxJ gets. This also typically tags along with noticing a pattern with this person in correlation with others to get a certain impression of who they are.

Allow me to explain using a made up scenario.

you see someone walk into a public place with tattoos and a baseball cap. The Ni-dom may start to feel as if the person has an off vibe for the following reasons

1) other people they have met before that had tattoos have been mean/bad/whatever to them in the past (this could also be Si) 2) for INFJs, the simple connection (socially) that sometimes tattoos=tough which may equal violent 3) the general pattern for a stereotype with someone with tattoos is typically negative so the Ni user might get a odd impression from them.

This is obviously a very general scenario but I hope it helps someone with understanding the “vibe”

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Enneagram Type’s Childhood

Enneatype 1

Children with the One pattern try hard to be good. They have an unconscious feeling of needing to justify their existence. They became their own disciplinarians and often the discipliner of other siblings.

One or all authority figures are either inadequate, not present, or too demanding and punitive. When the parent is not present, they decide to make their own rules and moral code. When the parent is too punitive, they internalize these rules.

They feel deep guilt, intrinsic inner flaw, and try to cover it up with an identity of being good and responsible. They can perceive others as having less integrity, being lazy and messy.

Enneatype 2

Children with the Two pattern learn to put other’s needs first - to give in order to receive - and that love must be earned. They try to read the needs in the family and see how they could fulfill them.

They often learn to please the opposite sex parent and this becomes a special relationship, which causes a difficult relationship with the same sex parent. It also leads to a triangulation, which is often carried out in adulthood.

Enneatype 3

Children with the Three pattern do not feel valued for themselves. They get praise for what they do and become productive to get this praise.

They often unconsciously adapt themselves to become what the nurturer wants them to be. They often pursue a career that may make their nurturer proud of them.

They have a deep feeling of shallowness and deceit, their insides do not match the image they have created.

Enneatype 4

Children with the Four pattern feel different than their parents. They believe they are not seen by their parents.

There is the feeling that they were kicked out of the nest because there is something tragically wrong with them. Often there is some event that changes the family structure and stands out as the event that changed everything.

Some remember a time when everything was wonderful and a moment when they were rejected for no apparent reason. They spend their childhood trying to regain love by being special.

Enneatype 5

Children with the Five pattern feel unsafe in their families. They experience their families as intrusive and overwhelming. There is no privacy, no where to hide except in their minds.

They experience the emotional needs and expression of their parents as invasive. Some create an inner fantasy world.

Enneatype 6

Children with the Six pattern experience their parents as inadequate and unable to protect or care for them well. Early in childhood they feel safe, as they get older something happens that makes them perceive their parents as inadequate.

Usually this occurs during the phase of separating when they need a strong parental figure to show them what is and isn’t safe about the world. At this time they experience parent(s) as inadequate - absent, unavailable, weak, etc.

Enneatype 7

Children with the Seven pattern feel cut off from the nurturer, causing frustration and anxiety. They feel there was not enough love for them in the family.

Sometimes there is someone needier who requires more attention. Sometimes the nurturer is distracted by emotional pain to give to all the children.

Their role is to be positive, not need much, and help everyone be happier, particularly the nurturer. As adults they often have a close bond with their mothers.

Enneatype 8

Children with the Eight pattern grow up quickly for a variety of reasons. There is violence in the family or around the family. The protector is missing and they must protect and provide for the family at a young age.

They survive in bad neighborhoods - survival issues are important. It is not safe to be gentle or giving, that seems weak and soft. They feel rejected/betrayed and learn to be tough.

Enneatype 9

Children with the Nine pattern feel overwhelmed by their families. They try to disappear and/or make peace. They dissociate from drama by becoming invisible or mediating.

They are very low maintenance. They learn that having needs, getting angry, or having difficulties is not acceptable. They lose energy and become listless.

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MBTI: reasons to live

Okay so this is a bit more serious than my usual posts which are literally about memes and procrastination, but I thought it would be sorta nice to give each type a reason why they should stay alive. These sorts of things are important :)

INFP: there are so many books left for you to read

INFJ: you see things differently and the world needs people like that

INTP: live for that discovery you’ll make a decade from now

INTJ: you haven’t truly left your mark yet

ENFP: there are animals who need you

ENFJ: who will campaign for change without you?

ENTP: you’re gonna do something big, just wait

ENTJ: you are the one thing holding some groups/organisations together

ISTP: you haven’t visited every continent yet

ISTJ: the world needs your innovation

ISFP: there’s so many beautiful things you haven’t seen

ISFJ: trust me, your friends need you

ESFP: you brighten up the lives of everyone you meet

ESFJ: one day, you’ll be so in love that you’ll be glad you’re alive

ESTP: there are so many experiences left for you to feel

ESTJ: you may not know it, but people are relying on you

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the types as social media apps

isfj // pinterest // how to be a crafty housewife

istj // google+ // how to get shit done

esfj // facebook // how to be a social butterfly

estj // linkedin // how to be the boss

intj // triviacrack // how to be clever. competitively

intp // reddit // how to have an opinion

entp // twitter // how to tell everyone your opinion

entj // tweetdeck // how to tell everyone your opinion, efficiently

isfp // deviantart // how to have an aesthetic

esfp // vine // how to laugh at anyone

estp // tinder // how to fuck anyone

istp // 4chan // how to troll the world

infp // tumblr // how to have an identity

enfp // instagram // how to share your identity

enfj // youtube // how to be a teacher and a student

infj // goodreads // how to be well-read

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Things the Types Need to Hear

ESFP: Look, I get it, you leave people in the dust because you know how crazy and all over the place your life can be and you’re also crazy scared to let somebody in just to have it end up with you accidentally leaving them and both of you getting hurt, but emotional intimacy and real depth in friendships are 100% worth it in the end and it’s the struggle and fight of a lifetime to keep them in your life, but it’s also the greatest gift and you can’t keep denying yourself that intimacy and friendship. 

ISFP: I know you have a lot of great desires and wonderful dreams and they might seem too far off and too crazy and too beautiful to come true, but you have them for a reason, and you gotta stop paralyzing yourself with fear and take that first step and throw yourself into the unknown, and that’s the scariest part, I know, but we both know you’re braver than you look, and that your passion can make it happen. 

ENFP: I know that the moment you hit an obstacle or two when you first start working towards that far off dream, it’s scary and it makes you want to crumble and run away to a new thing like you think you always do, but don’t! You’re miles more tenacious and capable than you give yourself credit for and you’ve got to discipline yourself and trust that your talents and optimism can and will propel you through whatever is keeping you from your goals. 

INFP: I know it’s hard to feel understood and it’s easy to let yourself become bitter by the ways of the world or whatever’s happening, but closing yourself off to others isn’t going to save you the pain. You have a natural capacity to understand others that’s hard for the other types to grasp and when you stop yourself from using that talent, or use it for selfish reasons, you’re doing yourself a massive injustice. 

ESTP: Listen, I totally get that the world is full of fun and interesting things and you want to experience them all, but you’ve got to remember that for a lot of the people that come along with you, they’re there to experience YOU as much as they’re there for the thing itself. Don’t let yourself forget that half the fun of anything is who you’re doing it with. 

ISTP: I know you generally don’t mean to yell or be rude when your irritated and that it’s really just a passing thing and you don’t generally care all that much, but just apologize to people after you’ve calmed down! Explain it to them and that you don’t mean it! Admit to yourself that you care enough about them to try to make amends, even when you’re just being a little crotchety; it means a lot to the feelers lol. 

ENTP: You’re a genuinely fun person to be around and you usually rack up a reputation for that, but just because you’re funny and witty and damn smart doesn’t mean you don’t have feelings and problems that need to be externalized, and trust me, the right people will be more than willing to talk about what’s really happening in your life one minute and go back to elaborate jokes the next without a problem. Don’t stunt your emotional growth for the sake of brevity. 

INTP: It’s okay to not know what to do in an emotional situation. Like, it’s genuinely okay. If somebody’s opening up to you, half the time your presence and you listening is 95% of what they need in that moment. Don’t avoid the situations just because it causes writer’s block emotionally. Emotional availability comes with experience. You’ll learn. Just, be your goofy self and the rest will come with time. 

ENFJ: You’ve got to realize that although holding yourself to such a high standard is noble and praiseworthy, that it sometimes eclipses your ability to be a good friend when that was the goal in the first place. You’re human and can’t do everything for your friends that you’d want to be able to do when they need help, and profusely apologizing and beating yourself up for it just shifts the focus off of helping your friend and turns it to you. Accept your humanity, and just do what you can. They appreciate the help, I promise. 

INFJ: I know you have a tendency to feel misunderstood and want people to show you that they love you and care about you, but you don’t get to say you’re fine AND disappear on people. Either say you’re not okay and pull back, or say you’re okay and stick around long enough for somebody to see through the BS. In my experience, y'all have a habit of making things a self-fulfilling prophecy, and that doesn’t do you any good! Be forward, be honest, and just be vulnerable; they care more than you convince yourself they do. 

ESFJ: I need to be straight with y'all. Learn how to talk about something other than your 4-5 current fixations. In my experience, N’s have a crazy hard time being close with you because you keep bringing the topic back to one of your current Favorite Things™, whether it be the semester abroad you just got back from or the first date that’s scheduled for two weeks from now. Expand your area of interest and you’ll find people will be much more authentic with you. 

ISFJ: You have this really amazing ability to notice the small things about people and that helps you show them you care about them in these really great and meaningful ways, but you can’t let yourself overthink the small things you notice about people. One of my good ISFJ friends started poking around trying to see if alcoholism ran in my family after noticing I’d been drinking wine a lot recently. You might have an intention to help, but overthinking/overanalyzing like that and trying to involve yourself in helping can hurt your friendships. 

ESTJ: Your presence is powerful and intense and that’s great at times, but you’ve got to let out your goofy fun side more, and hoe we’ve all seen it before, you’re a damn riot after a beer or two. People, in general, care more about fun than having every plan go right during the night/event. Be willing to be fun more, you’re so good at it. 

ISTJ: I know you get frustrated with yourself because you want to do new things and get out there and be a fun person, but the thing is, you’re so much better at being a responsible, caring person. Befriend the chaotic, crazy, lovable rascals and let them bring the fun to you (or more often than not, drag you kicking and screaming to where the fun is). 

ENTJ: Look, I’m an INTJ, so I know how hard this is to swallow, but showing you care about a person sometimes isn’t so much giving them solutions to their problems or trying to correct an issue; a lot of the other types literally just want you to listen and hear them out. And you gotta do that sometimes, babe. And shut your damn mouth while they’re telling you everything, okay? Just. Let them finish. 

INTJ: For the love of all that is holy, just cry already. Cry alone if you have to, or better yet, just go to the person you’d literally murder a thousand people for and freakin’ cry about all the crap you’ve been bottling up for the past two months and accept that you can have razor-sharp rationale and be a damn human at the same time. And just admit that you’re insecure about your relationship with that person because you care about them so much and you’re not the best at trusting people.

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MBTI types when they're with someone they hate/dislike

ESFP: They sense the whole room's vibe go down. Being the fun loving people they are, they ignore the person giving bad vibes and try to get the mood up by suggesting a game, challenge, etc. They hate to dwell on the negative

ISFP: They distance themselves as physically possible from the person and look for comfort from friends. Like the ESFP they don't like to dwell on the negative and prefer to look on to their close friends to bring up their spirits

ESTP: Tries to avoid the person but is tempted to do a prank or joke on them for fun. They obviously don't mean physical harm, but just a fun opportunity for them

ISTP: Has their "introvert mode on" at max. They are very snappy if the person talks to them and doesn't really consider their feelings when replying. They prefer to escape the situation to save their sanity

ESFJ: Being the kind hearted soul they are, they try to treat them like any other person. However whether they like it or not, they low-key give passive aggressive comments disguised with a "caring and happy" expression

ISFJ: Much like ESFJ except less noticeably passive aggressive. They actually may trick the person into thinking they're okay with them, but then ISFJ blows up to their close friends when they leave

ESTJ: Tries not to let their personal dislike to the person get to them, but it low-key does. They are more picky, impatient and dry when watching the person do something. Constant questioning them why they did what they did and how they SHOULD'VE done it. Actually they'll probably kick them out for being "irritating" or "slowing others down"

ISTJ: Pretty low-key about their distaste for the person. They silently criticize and judge what the person does but doesn't let them know. They believe heavily in karma and they are most likely to wait for the opportunity to screw with them at the right time

ENFP: Their happy-go-lucky mood is instantly dropped. They wish to not confront or come in contact with the person and may hide within their friends. They will try to keep up their normal behaviour but those close to them will notice their change in mood.

INFP: They may physically act very uncomfortable but will try and keep it together. They may be silent, almost as if they were daydreaming or trying to get their mind on to something else. As natural kind-hearted people, they wouldn't want to do anything to that person and will try to be civil with the person if confronted.

ENTP: They'd probably to just ignore that person's existence. They believe they don't need that kind of person near them and will do everything they can to just shut them away from their line of sight. Out of sight, out of mind.

INTP: you can tell by their unfiltered facial expressions they don't agree with that person being there. Depending on the level of hatred, they will either try to low-key troll them or just full on ignore them. They don't have much empathy left for that person so whatever they do, they won't regret.

ENFJ: Truthly ENFJs can be very vicious and might want to get back at the person. Of course they'd adhere to social rules and somehow turn the situation on to the person. It's easy for ENFJ to manipulate and sweet talk others into their side.

INFJ: More uncomfortable than usual around that particular person. They may want to immediately escape to be alone and calm down their thoughts. Then later go on a long rant to their friends about all the "stupid and dumb" things that person did and how it relates to them being a bad person

ENTJ: even with their scary reputation, they are probably more likely than ESTJ to avoid prejudice. They definitely will be a lot pickier and impatient, but will evaluate the person's actions and work objectively. Obviously they will be very high-key frustrated but will overall try to not let it get the best of them

INTJ: They will either go full "annoying nerd" mode or "don't breathe the same air as me" mode. They will continuously try to correct the person, trying to make them feel stupid or get annoyed by jusy their presence. They may not try to come after them but it will be clear when they would wish that person wasn't there.

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Enneagram: How to get along with the types.

Type 1

- Be responsible for yourself, so I don’t have to do that for you, too. - I’m hard on myself. Assure me that I’m good, just the way I am. - Tell me that you appreciate my advices. - Be fair, and attentive, like I am. - Apologize when you are wrong. This helps me forgive. - Help me loosen up a bit, and teach me how to laugh at myself. But please, listen to my concerns first.

(Most common type among ISTJs, ESTJs, and INTJs)

Type 2

- Tell me you appreciate me. Be specific about why. - Share your joy with me. - Do care about my problem, even if I’m busy with yours. - Let me know that I’m important and special to you. - Please be gentle, even if you have to criticize me. - In intimate relationships; assure me that you’re still interested in me. - Remind me that you love me. - Tell me I’m attractive, and you really like when people see us together.

(Most common type among ISFJs, ESFJs, ESFPs, INFJs, and ENFJs)

Type 3

- Leave me alone when I work. - Please give me honest, but not critical feedback. - Help me to organize, and to keep my environment neat. - Don’t burden me with negative emotions. - Tell me that you like being with me. - Tell me that you’re proud of me and my achievements.

(Most common type among ESTJs, ENTJs, and ENFJs)

Type 4

- Give me compliments often. They mean a lot. - Be a supportive friend, or partner. Help me to love others and to appreciate myself. - Please keep the power of my intuition, and foresight in respect. - Though I don’t always want people to cheer me up from my melancholy, sometimes you still have to bring back the light to my inner world. - DON’T tell me, that I’m too sensitive, or I overreact something!

(Most common type among ISFPs, INFJs, and INFPs)

Type 5

- Please be independent, not a puppy. - Talk shortly, and straightforwardly. - I need to be alone to think. - Remember, if I appear to be distant, or arrogant, that’s because I feel uncomfortable. - Show me that you’re happy to see me, but don’t ever overact because that makes me doubt your honesty. - If I have to repeat something I said, and I become irritated, that’s because it was hard to say for the first time even. - Help me to avoid big parties, loud people, overheated emotions, and the violation of my privacy.

(Most common type among ISTPs, INTJs, and INTPs)

Type 6

- Be straightforward and honest with me. - Pay attention to me. - Please don’t condemn me for my worry. - Let’s solve our problems together. - Assure me that everything’s OK between us. - Laugh, and joke around with me. - Lead me gently to new experiences. - Don’t overreact when I overreact something.

(Most common type among ISTJs, ESTJs, ISFJs, and ESFJs)

Type 7

- Give me company, kindness, and freedom. - Have stimulating conversations, and laugh with me. - Appreciate my ideas, and listen to my stories. - Don’t try to change me. Accept me for who I am. - Be independent. I don’t like babysitting others. - Please don’t tell me what to do.

(Most common type among ESTPs, ENTPs, ESFPs, and ENFPs)

Type 8

- Stand up for yourself… and for me. - Be confident, strong, and straightforward. - Don’t talk behind my back and don’t abuse my trust. - Dare to be vulnerable, and share your feelings with me. Notice, and admit that I have a delicate side, too. - Give me space to be alone. - Admit, and appreciate the things I do for you, but don’t try to dazzle me. - I often talk passionately. Please don’t take it personally. - When I rage, I break things, or I shout. Remember, this is how I work.

(Most common type among ESTPs, ENTJs, and ENTPs)

Type 9

- It’s not what you say, it’s the way you say it. I’m sensitive to pressure and expectations. - I like being quiet and to serve, but don’t take advantage of me. - Don’t interrupt me when I’m talking, not even when I digress a little. - Give me enough time for decisions, and tasks. But you can push me gently. - Ask, if something’s not clear. - Please tell me, if you like me. It won’t go to my head. - Hug me, and show me your emotions physically. This helps me to open up. - I like a good conversation, but not an argument. - Let me know, if I did or said something right. - Laugh with me, and share your happiness with me.

(Most common type among ISTPs, INTPs, ISFPs and INFPs)

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An Obscure Hobby for Each Type

INFJ: tarot card reading

INTJ: lock-picking

INTP: star-gazing

INFP: origami

ISFJ: making mash-ups

ISTJ: model railways

ISTP: building robots

ISFP: making stain-glass windows

ENFJ: calligraphy

ENTJ: paint-balling

ENTP: ghost-hunting

ENFP: graffiti

ESFJ: scrap-booking

ESTJ: archery

ESTP: parkour

ESFP: cliff diving

[infjanon]

INFJ Confession #3052

Am the only INFJ who likes the idea of meeting another INFJ but only theoretically, because the minute it happens both of us, knowing that the other is an INFJ is going to immediately start analysing the other person and then both will get uncomfortable because both of us will realise what the other person is doing and somehow go on the defensive because both of us would be extremely private and very uncomfortable with the knowledge that someone is seeing through us the way we see through them? Or is it just me?

[infpisme]

INFP – The Dreamy Ones

INFPs are philosophers, artists, reporters, and catalysts. They have an open, flexible mind, able to reflect on any possible future or unknown event. Their minds are disorganized, associative, and creative. They can understand other people’s many possible intentions and meanings. They are always unique and quirky without any effort. They are advisors that can always give feedback on other people’s decisions. They are idealistic, always seeking wisdom, freedom, and peace.

Meet the INFP

INFPs are blessed with the perspective of a healer. Their primary desire to remain pure and true to themselves and their own way. Gifted with the ability of deep storytelling, they can introspect on people’s hidden actions, quirks, and intentions. INFPs are highly perceptive, and when they look at a person, they see more than most.

With skill, INFPs are gifted at telling people’s true intentions. INFPs constantly process social situations, experiences, art, and music with the goal to understand the true essence of living things. This skill can be boosted with emotional intelligence, making it quicker, and more nuanced. Gifted with the ability to on a finer level spot disharmony, conflicts, and dishonesty, INFPs have a more sensitive compass than most.

When it comes to social situations, INFPs remember more than most and silently process the many experiences they’ve had. With time, this can teach them alot about how people work. They can over time become very savvy with a culture, mastering it’s many hidden layers. INFPs walk around with their entire known world inside them, as well as the sum total of all the books they’ve read and all the dreams they’ve had and this helps them in every decision they make.

An INFP can feel if something is off with a person. They can spot a bad meaning in a choice of words, or in a social environment. But the more difficult question for an INFP is to find out what exactly is off with it. Often, the inner world of an INFP is highly complicated. They juggle many different, often contradictory instincts and impulses. Their mind is often highly visual, full of symbolism, metaphors, and analogies. But on the outside, they can often appear calm and emotionally contained. Only very little of an INFPs inner emotions leak out and can be seen on the outside. Most of the feelings, impressions, and experiences of an INFP occur first on the inside.

It’s often hard to give immediate, exact feedback with this process. Often an INFP has to process what they feel and what they experienced before they can talk about it. INFPs can rely on their gut judgement even to solve problems in traditionally logical fields, such as maths. While logic is often favored, remember that the gut represents your body’s and your minds more unconscious and subjective reasoning. What matters is that you get the right result, not how you get there.

This can make the type a potentially talented artist, musician, or writer, should they wish to develop those abilities. But INFPs are perhaps even more common in more evaluative and craftsy fields, where they can work on smaller social causes or missions. They are often functioning as the advisor of their friends, family, and coworkers. A hidden superpower is their unexpected knack for detailed and rigorous work, but this ability is often limited to a particular field they are passionate about.

Beyond the desire to maintain purity and harmony, is a silent call to go on adventures. Adventures are the primary source of growth for an INFP. An INFP who expresses their inner curiosity and who is open to new possibilities can truly go anywhere in life. As an INFP, if you find yourself dreaming about something, remember, your dreams are a reflection of some urge or desire in you.

If you explore these dreams, there is a high chance for growth and increased self-awareness. The main thing stopping an INFP from following this call is past negative experiences. INFPs can get stuck in the past and they can get too set in their blueprint of how the world should look and be. Things rarely go according to plan, life is messy, and that’s okay. Life can only move forward. But remember, you don’t have to change everything at once.

The INFP Subtypes

Explore the INFP subtypes.

The INFPs four intelligences

Heroic Artistic intelligence – Introverted Feeling (Fi)

You will spend your entire life exploring this function, and it will be important to you throughout your entire journey. It represents your ego, your dreams, your conscious experience of “you”. This function is about asserting yourself as a unique person in this world and walking your own journey, being true to yourself. This function is what you love.

Mentor: Extroverted Intuition (Ne) – Interpretative Intelligence

This is how you grow and how you improve as a person. Whenever you engage in this function, you’re taking on challenges in life. You’re adding pressure on yourself, and you are in the pursuit of growth and learning opportunities. This function also represents your expectations and the standards you set yourself

Sidekick: Introverted Sensing (Si) – Structural Intelligence

This function helps you bring balance between your expectations and what you aspire towards, and who you are and your most basic desires. This function also represents a secret superpower within a limited field, something you have an unexpected knack for as a hobby.

Rival: Extroverted Thinking (Te) – Systematic Intelligence

This function represents your opposing values, the things you find the most tedious and annoying, but which you must sometimes rise up to deal with even if you dislike it. Most of the time, you should avoid making this function a too big influence on your life and your decisions.

Source: http://www.erikthor.com/infp/

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Things INFJs won't ever admit

1. That they’re actually lonely.

2. That they’re tired of helping others sometimes.

3. That they need help too.

4. That they want people to put effort into understanding them, just as they put effort into understanding people.

5. That they don’t watch the news because it breaks their heart to know all the misfortunes that are happening around the world.

6. That they sometimes hate themselves and wish they were an extravert/any other common types so they could finally know how it feels to belong somewhere.

7. That they believe they’re going to die alone because they’re too complex to understand, and too demanding to love.