I, too, am found

27 yo. He/him/élMexican. MD.

[hattersarts]

lucifer lightbringer

[hopeidontgetaddictedtothis-deac]

Someone on the Sandman subreddit said there are stars on the lining of Dream’s coat so I had to see for myself. This is from Episode 2, "Imperfect Hosts":

And here's a freeze frame:

But that's not all. Let's slow it down.

Someone else on the thread pointed out the stars are not exactly moving in tandem with the coat's fabric. It means those are not just star prints; there are actual starry skies within Dream's coat! That is so beautiful and romantic. The amount of details in this show is incredible.

[don-tmakemepoisonyourfood]

If I had a nickel for every time an ethereal being realized they're in love with the person they've been dating for centuries but still refuse to acknowledge as their friend, I'd have two nickels. Which isn't a lot, but it's weird that Neil Gaiman did it twice.

[seravph]

I hope everyone who opposes abortion literally dies. I do not give a fuck I hope you fucking die

[jod13whittaker]

(Eta: there was an addition to this post that adds a bit more.)

I know the joke about Izzy is "human dropped into a muppets movie" but the tragedy is that he's a queer-coded character from some 1940s or 50s popcorn flick dropped into a pride parade in a floating gayborhood & he flat out has no idea how to deal with it. We learn he's a great swordsman in the most homoerotic way possible when he uses his skills to cut open a man's shirt. We see him react more openly and with less inner conflict when Ed slaps him on the back and says "I need you here" than when Ed implies to him, a minute earlier, that he could be a captain. When he's part of an overtly queer scene where other characters get the romance & he just gets the subtext, Con O'Neill's body language stands out even more—go back to the scene where Izzy tells Stede that Ed adores him, the way he strokes his fingers down the curtain dividing him from Stede. There is literally no straight explanation for this choice, but there is also no explicit acknowledgement that the character is queer; in a different, older show or movie, that body language would be the acknowledgment. He imbues the character with the looks and pauses that you would see in, like, Ben-Hur or something, where everyone knew a character was gay but nobody could say it out loud. Keep in mind that in the comedies where these characters would exist, the subtextually gay man would sometimes be best friends with a Strong Leading Man who got the girl in the end.

We hear him say outright that there's no retirement for people like Izzy & Ed, only death, which is itself a hugely loaded analogy next to the title statement "our flag means death" when you consider our history & our use of flags throughout. And Izzy's so focused on pure survival that he ends up nasty, manipulative, violent—the only way men like him can survive in his mind, or in the genre he's from, if they don't have a Strong Leading Man best friend like, say, a Blackbeard to protect him from the narrative. When Ed starts to live in Stede's world, Izzy is both losing his subtextual boyfriend and also acting as though Ed's going to get himself (and Izzy) killed if he keeps going down this path.

I will never be sane over this. Izzy is a Celluloid Closet case study who's been dropped into a Logo TV original, and so much of the conflict of his character comes from his trying to use the coping techniques from that world (including techniques used by queer coded villains! He's not healthy!) in a world where these techniques are actively harmful rather than a way to survive.

[san1tas]

narcissism/NPD recovery resources, because there’s like nothing good out there

Books and things to read:

Borderline, Narcissistic, and Schizoid Adaptations by Dr. Elinor Greenburg - Aimed at providers but apparently super great for self-help too

How Do You Develop Whole Object Relations as an Adult? by Dr. Elinor Greenburg - Tips on how to stop seeing yourself and other people as only either all-good or all-bad

10 Stages in the Treatment of Narcissistic Disorders by Dr. Elinor Greenburg - Goes through the stages of treating NPD

Rethinking Narcissism by Dr. Craig Malkin - A book about promoting healthy narcissism instead of unhealthy narcissism

Antisocial, Borderline, Narcissistic and Histrionic Workbook: Treatment Strategies for Cluster B Personality Disorders by Dr. Daniel Fox - what it says on the tin. May be best done guided by a therapist

Shame in patients with narcissistic personality disorder PDF - What it says on the tin.

Narcissus and the Daffodils - an essay about NPD by someone with NPD. Probably the best description I’ve ever seen

Things to watch and listen to:

Recovery FOR the Narcissist by Dr. Eric Perry - A compassionate podcast to provide insight, support, and encouragement to anyone who exhibits narcissistic tendencies. Very in-depth

Early Morning Barking - A YouTube channel by someone with BPD and NPD about coping with and educating people on BPD and NPD. He also has a Recovery from NPD by Dr. Todd Grande - A video about this provider’s experience with helping people recover from NPD

Misc:

Narcissism Self Help Therapy website - A daily program for people with NPD (may have some triggering aspects in Part 2 of the program)

NPD Safe carrd resources - More resources for NPD (I have not gone through all of these so I don’t know how good they are)

NPD Recovery Comics by The Ego System - A bunch of fantastic comics about recovering from NPD.

[coolfrogdude]

you may take it. ONCE.

[sofiaherzen]

- Wait… have you been in here? Patching the cracks?

- Oh that? No, no, no, no, I’m too scared…

[bruno-madrigal]

The face he makes when he takes his hood down, he’s trying so hard to seem friendly to her, trying to refute people’s idea of him being creepy and ominous

[werewolfinsheepsclothing]

Bruno showing Julieta and Pepa his rat telenovela:

[sweetpeauserboxes]

[levonsnape-deactivated20230929]

I love The Golden Girls.

[gholateg]

Ya’ll don’t have any idea how fucking brave and needed these plot lines were.

This was before Ellen came out.

This was before civil unions.

This was before Don’t Ask Don’t Tell.

This was when your ass could be fired, blacklisted, and shunned with no legal protections for even being hinted at being gay.

And the Golden Girls said “Fuck you, Fuck this, we’re doing it anyway.”

[silenthillmutual]

I think it should be noted that Blanche’s quote about AIDS is also “It is not god punishing people for their sins” and that the episode also deals with slutshaming.

[darkravn]

I don’t know if people realize how much activism these women did for gay right and during the aids crisis. If you think about it they were all long established in Hollywood and Broadway. They had tons of friends personally affected and dealing with the aids crisis. Estelle Getty lost a nephew. I think they helped plant seeds in people who watched Golden Girls that helped make things a little more normalized and mainstream.

[encanto17]

I hope this is my legacy. I took We Don’t Talk About Bruno and put it through all of the languages featured on that video via Google Translate, then put it back into English. And I didn’t fix the weird spacing. I left it exactly how Google Translate gave it back to me, punctuation and all. Here’s what happened. Good luck following along.

…

[Chorus: Paper]

I don't mean Bruno.

We're not talking about Bruno. we are talking about him

[One. Poetry: Page and Philis]

it's my wedding day (Today is our wedding)

they were made

and no clouds in the sky (No clouds allowed in the sky)

Bruno (Toner) laughed happily.

Are you talking about that or are you talking about me? (Sorry, my life goes on)

“It's going to rain,” Bruno said. (Why do you say that?)

It filled my brain. (Grandma, buy an umbrella!)

Marriage Confusion (Fortunately, But Still)

[See: Page and Felix, Dolores]

I don't mean Bruno.

Don't talk to the brunettes (hello)...

[2. Poem: Dolores and Camilo]

He began to worry that Bruno would stumble.

I can still hear your moan

Compare the sound of falling sand (ch, ch, ch).

I work hard with such humble talent.

He is looking for his grandmother and his family.

dream interpretations

Do you understand?

A seven-legged skeleton with a rat on its back.

Everything goes black when I call your name.

Yeah, dream dreams and fall in love with your screams (hello)

[See: Page and Felix, Dolores]

I don't mean Bruno.

I don't mean Bruno. (I don't mean Bruno)

[Father. Parties: Seth, Citizen 1, TP2 and TP3]

He said the fish would die

The next day he died (no, no).

He said he would grow up

as he said (no)

I lost all my hair

Look at my head now (No, no)

When your prophecy is read Your destiny will be determined.

[Four. Poem: Isabella Papua Dolores]

He said this was my dream life.

You promise that one day you will be mine.

He said that my power will increase.

While the vines were growing in the vineyard (hello Mariano on the way)

He told me he was the man of her dreams.

I can't use it, he promised someone else.

How can I hear your voice? (Hello Hyun)

I don't want your voice (as I feel now)

i feel now

[Five. Text: Mirabel, Camilo, Abra, Isabella]

Hello Bruno

to bruno

Here's what I really need to know about Bruno:

Tell me the truth and all the truth, Bruno.

Isabella, this is your boyfriend.

nighttime

[6. City]

[Camiro] Skeleton Hexapod Rat

[Pepa] Today is my wedding.

[Felix] Today is our wedding.

[Isabella] She said life was my dream.

[Dolores] I'm alive because I'm afraid Bruno will trip.

[Camiro] When I say my name It's all dark

[Pepa] Yes, in the cloudless sky.

[Felix] In the Cloudless Sky

[Isabella] She promised to be mine someday.

[Dolores] I can still hear your moaning and laughter.

Reminds me of the sound of sand falling w-w-ch

[Camille] Yes, he has a dream.

[Pepa] Bruno laughs happily.

[Isabella] Increase physical strength.

[Dolores] Work hard for devotion

[CAMILLE] She likes you to cry.

[Felix] Dietary Supplement

[Pepa] Are you talking about me or are you talking about me?

[Felix] I'm sorry for my life. please keep going

[Isabella] The grapes planted in the vineyard are beautiful.

[Dores] He always challenges Grandma and family.

dream interpretations

Do you understand?

Hello, this is Mariano.

[Pepa] Bruno "It looks like it's going to rain"

[Felix] Why do you say that?

[Camiro] The skull has seven legs and the back is a rat.

[Isabella] I said my dream life was promised. and one day it will be mine

[Dolores] A dreamer will never come true.

[Pepa] My head is flooded.

[Felix] Grandma brought an umbrella!

[Camiro] When I say my name It's all dark

[Dolores] You're engaged to another guy, another guy.

[Pepa] I got married in a hurricane.

[Felix] Today is a good day.

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[Everything here

[crystalwaifu-deactivated2022122]

Biggest D you've ever had ?

Depression

[mabel-loves-aces]

Hey y’all, just a reminder: it’s sex favorable, sex neutral, and sex repulsed.

Sex positive and sex negative refer to something else entirely and it completely changes what you say.

[mabel-loves-aces]

Sex favorable: “I would like to have sex”

Sex neutral: ranges from “I am indifferent to potentially having sex” to “sex? Involving me? Oh no thank you.”

Sex repulsed: “the very concept of sex is a trigger for me. I cannot consume media or participate in conversations involving it.”

Sex positive: “people should be free to have sex whenever and with whomever they like free of shame.”

Sex negative: “having sex makes you a shameful and dirty person. No one should have sex outside of a traditional hetersexual marriage.”

[magerightsyeah]

Just a non-binary meme for y’all

[nbkarkat]

good post, but let me raise you this

[whitepeopletwitter]

[hjarta-deactivated20260124]

i know the new year won’t magically erase everything bad happening in the world but i hope 2021 is kinder to you all and that it brings brighter moments and healing