Asexual & G(r)ay-romantic

Who needs a king when you're an ace💁‍♀️ (she/her)

[playing-my-ace]

Why is it that ever since I started calling myself a lesbian I see the lesbian flag colors EVERYWHERE

[playing-my-ace]

I’m looking up cute nicknames and terms of endearment to use with the girl I’m seeing and I just have to say the ad choice is quite appropriate

[lirdgorl-deactivated20240419]

the sexual tension between me and nothing because I’m ace

[quinnfebrey]

something i liked a lot about a league of their own is how true to the time period it stayed? it wasn’t some feel good about how “if history was different…” it SHOWED history in its truth both positively and negatively.

segregation and racism was rampant, and they never pull some “oh but max can be on the peaches for this weird and historically inaccurate reason,” we instead see her happiness and community within the black community and friendships with specific white characters in which she forces them to acknowledge that they didn’t help her but doesn’t hold them to the standards of today

we don’t get a “homophobia doesn’t exist actually” or a “random nice police officer for some reason lets them all go,” but we do get to see the underground bar and how it provided a safe haven alongside bert’s private parties

jess was fined for wearing pants and that rule was never changed throughout the whole show, but being given back the fines afterwards was a period consistent way of showing how someone might have shown support and solidarity then

as much as colorblind rewriting of history both for racism and homophobia is a nice idea, it’s also so important to show how the actual marginalized communities found strength and togetherness in the time that they had to, and did, live in.

[soyalexnajera]

HAPPY BI VISIBILITY DAY TO EVERY SINGLE BISEXUAL OUT THERE 💖💜💙

[chilakillme]

friendly reminder that charlie weasley is an aro ace dragon-obsessed icon

and we love him

[literarymenace]

PSA for my fellow LGBT+ homies. It's perfectly okay if a label you're using now doesn't end up being the one you use later.

My sister said she was gay around age 12, later started identifying as bisexual for a couple years, then realized she's actually just gay.

I thought I was asexual panromantic for about 5+ years but then realized I was actually aroace about a year and a half ago.

The labels you use aren't going to be set in stone. It's perfectly alright to use different labels as you figure yourself out better.

[janesurlife]

People get hickeys while I, an asexual get weird mysterious cuts and wounds on my body which I have no knowledge of 😂😂

[luminalunii97]

That queer urge to swing between feeling lesbian and aroace!

[aroacefollower]

Heya!

Just an early-ish reminder that Asexual Awareness Week is coming up!

Ace Week for 2022 will go from the 23rd of October to the 29th! (23-29 oct)

[eepybubble]

im so confused??? allosexuals see someone's body and they're like "i wanna fuck that" ?????

when i see someone's body i go ooo they're so pretty i would hug them if i got to know them and i was their friend, or danggg you must go to the gym a lot good for you

[playing-my-ace]

Question for my fellow aces about non-sexual nudity:

Does it bother you? Whether seeing it in the media, being around (or imagining being around) someone else who’s nude, or being nude yourself around other people

Personally, I don’t care about seeing it but I get soooo anxious at the thought of other people seeing my body. I hate changing around people and avoid it whenever possible. And I refuse to go to the obgyn because even in a medical setting that thought causes me great distress. I’ve been trying to figure out if this is an ace thing or if I have some extreme body image stuff, or maybe even some other reason who knows. If anyone can weigh in I’d appreciate it! I know we’re all quite different in our comfort levels with things but I’m curious if I’m alone in this or if it’s more common than I think

[artificial-horizon]

spotted in my hometown 💚🤍🖤 whoever put this up, you're amazing! we aros are out here and we are never alone 💚

[playing-my-ace]

Little bit of a vent coming

I’m at such a conflicted point in my identity searching and I hate it so much. I’m 95% sure I’m asexual, and have been for years now. At this point I’ve accepted I like girls and I want to date them. But I don’t know if I even feel romantic attraction. I know you can desire and engage with romance even if you’re aro, the same way you can enjoy sex even if you’re ace. Because those orientations are about attraction, not action. I’m hoping I will feel romantic attraction since I want to have that type of relationship. And some parts of me hope maybe I’m not really ace either and I’ve just repressed and denied my sexual attraction to women because of internalized homophobia. But that also scares me because I’m really comfortable in my asexuality at this point too, and if that’s not who I am it’ll change everything. No one in my life understands what I’m going through and how this feels to not even know who you are and what you feel towards other people. Like I said sometimes I wish I wasn’t ace and I was just gay because it would make things so much easier and I’d finally feel normal and like there’s nothing wrong with me or missing in me. But at the same time, I just want someone to tell me it’s okay no matter what the outcome is. And even if I really am ace and never feel sexual attraction, that there’s nothing wrong with me and I’m allowed to be ace and gay at the same time without the assumption I’m just in denial

[aroaceconfessions]

Well, I just want to get this little story off my chest, so here it is.

I'm sapphic aroace now, but when I was younger all I was sure of was that I liked girls. That they were pretty as hell. But anyway, it never went past that, really. It always stayed on the "I want to be her friend so bad" area. I never questioned it, although I was conscious of not feeling comfortable expressing attraction to them. I wasn't sure why, but I always let it go.

It went on for God knows how long. Just me thinking some celebrity or random girl was pretty but never touching on the idea of kissing/dating/doing whatever with them (which later came the shocker that people actually do often have those thoughts about strangers [having intimate desires just because they found this random person attractive]). Basically, I never thought that doing anything intimate with a girl would be any better than being friends with her. And I would literally think that being married to them without having any of the intimacy (except friendship) would be actually super fun. I basically described a qpr, and I still didn't connect the dots to not feeling romantic/sexual attraction.

Now that I think about it, it was such an odd era of my life. Simply and utterly denying any romance but never realizing that, hey, what if I really don't want to date ever?

All in all, I'm so glad I somewhat know what I am now. And I am so fucking glad I'm aroace.

[bi-lesbian]

it doesnt matter what all of the intricacies of your identity are, if lesbian resonates with you, if lesbianism is where you find your home, your a lesbian through and through. you can have the most complex, confusing, or even "contradicting" gender and/or orientation, and youre still just as valid as any other lesbian! you dont need to worry about how others perceive you, or how others try to define words for the whole community, because they dont have an actual say in how you can identify or how anyone can use a word (bc words arent static and dont mean just one thing all the time and everywhere).

all queer labels can be open and fluid! all of them are available to the messy, complex existences so many of us fall into! just because we dont fall into cookie cutter molds that society wants of us, doesnt mean we dont exist, that we have to force ourselves to fit them- we deserve to exist in our own way and be our incredible, unique selves 💖

heres to every lesbian with complex identities, i love you and im here for you! 🌙🌙🌸

[intersexfairy]

❤ Aspec people are part of the queer community. Queer aspecs aren't invading queer spaces.

🧡 Aspec orientations & relationships (or lack thereof) queer and defy cisheterosexist relationship norms.

💛 Cis/het aspecs are not just "regular" cis/het people and they belong in the LGBTQ+ community too.

💚 Aphobia exists and aspecs aren't making it up to feel oppressed. Aspecs are already oppressed.

💙 Aspec inclusion does not make other LGBTQ+ look bad. Anyone judging our community based on aspecs is against us to begin with.

💜 Aspecs deserve to be able to have support & safe spaces in the LGBTQ+.

🌈 Aspecs deserve to have pride.