I saw a video today from a chronically ill woman about the fact you can feel so guilty when doing fun things.
She talks about how, as a kid, you learn to finish work before you can play and that you take this with you into adulthood. So you keep the mindset of having to finish 'have to' tasks/chores before being allowed to 'play'.
But when you're chronically ill, this is literally impossible! If you'd do that it would be all work and never play. That wouldn't be healthy at all. We need to remind ourselves of this. We don't need to feel guilty for doing something fun!
This is unfortunately not helped by people who ask you, "How come you're doing x fun thing when you couldn't do that chore I asked you to?" And it's very hard to explain to people that you couldn't do the chore because that would take up all the energy which you'd been saving up to do the fun thing, because you really needed something to help make life worth living.
















