i'm saying this as respectfully as i possibly can as well- people are allowed to like different adaptations of stories. look at things like dracula, which has about a million adaptations and has many that stay close to the source material and some that change little things...and some that change it entirely.
kiss of the spider woman is no different. each of the adaptations is vastly different. the broadway production is different from the 1985 film, both are different from the 2025 film, and all of them are vastly different from even the novel. no adaptation gets it completely correct and all of them change things.
god forbid a trans person (read: me) finds comfort and solace in each adaptation in a different way. the 2025 film does not spit on the work of puig if you view it through the correct lens. in fact, there are multiple moments where the 2025 film follows the novel closer than some of the other adaptations. i have my gripes with it, of course- but nobody is claiming it's the best thing in the world. if they are, perhaps it's through rose colored glasses. but some of the critiques read more as elitism than appreciation.
the one thing i will agree with is that the story is not outdated nor is it offensive. the one thing that i find comforting as someone who's gender identity is ambigous and fluctuating (basically unlabeled despite skewing a certain way, similar to molina) is that molina is never said to be transgender explicitly in the story. mind you, this does not change in the 2025 film either. there is one lyrical change to 'her name was molina' at the end of the film which to me is no different from molina referring to their friends and by extension herself as a bunch of women in the original novel, see below:
am i irritated that a lot of the material from the musical got cut? abso-fucking-lutely. do i think that what we got was also important, as a queer latino? also abso-fucking-lutely. and i'm a huge fan of the film from the 80s, which i initially watched because of raul julia because seeing a queer character played by a puerto rican man was eye-opening to me as a young one myself.
in the same vein i also appreciate that the 2025 film is just as unapologetic. there are many moments where tonatiuh's molina (who fun fact is the only latino who's played the fuckin' latino character in any of these adaptations that have been in the mainstream as far as i know) feels like the closest form to puig's molina that we have gotten. again, not a perfect adaptation and to be frank all adaptations barring the stage musical kind of dumb down the revolutionary aspect of the story, but as a trans person i felt that tonatiuh's molina gave me the same spark that reading the novel gave me in terms of relativity.
is it 'modernizing'? sure. somewhat. i won't even deny that. but demeaning the love and connection that people feel with either adaptation of molina as a character feels very ill-intentioned because at the end of the day there is a reason why people resonate with the character in each and every adaptation. there is a reason why people who have enjoyed the musical or the novel or the 1985 film have differing opinions ranging from negative to positive. the essence of the story is kept the same, and even regardless why are we policing how people (typically trans or gay themselves) feel about a story that they connect with?
also, critique is fine. not liking something is fine. but insinuating that someone has bad taste or something is 'bad' because of personal preference or a sense of elitism (read: 'i know more about this thing than you because i have this opinion on it!') is just a rude and mean-spirited way of thinking especially in regards to how queer people and latinos connect with a media that represents them just because they disagree with you.