Welcome To My Ranting Page

Just another person trying to figure out who she.

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Don’t allow your wounds to transform you into someone you are not.

Paulo Coelho (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

I will not be another flower picked for my beauty and left to die. I will be wild, difficult to find, and impossible to forget.

Erin Van Vuren (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

If you know someone who’s depressed, please resolve to never ask them why. Depression isn’t a straightforward response to a bad situation; depression just is, like the weather. Try to understand the blackness, lethargy, hopelessness, and loneliness they’re going through. Be there for them when they come through the other side. It’s hard to be a friend to someone who’s depressed, but it’s one of the kindest, noblest, and best things you’ll ever do.

Stephen Fry (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

[positive-affirmation]

Negative Thinking

Types of negative thinking that add to depression

All-or-nothing thinking – Looking at things in black-or-white categories, with no middle ground (“If I fall short of perfection, I’m a total failure.”)

Overgeneralization – Generalizing from a single negative experience, expecting it to hold true forever (“I can’t do anything right.”)

The mental filter – Ignoring positive events and focusing on the negative. Noticing the one thing that went wrong, rather than all the things that went right.

Diminishing the positive – Coming up with reasons why positive events don’t count (“She said she had a good time on our date, but I think she was just being nice.”)

Jumping to conclusions – Making negative interpretations without actual evidence. You act like a mind reader (“He must think I’m pathetic”) or a fortune teller (“I’ll be stuck in this dead end job forever”)

Emotional reasoning – Believing that the way you feel reflects reality (“I feel like such a loser. I really am no good!”)

‘Shoulds’ and ‘should-nots’ – Holding yourself to a strict list of what you should and shouldn’t do, and beating yourself up if you don’t live up to your rules.

Labeling – Labeling yourself based on mistakes and perceived shortcomings (“I’m a failure; an idiot; a loser.”)

Ways to challenge negative thinking

Think outside yourself. Ask yourself if you’d say what you’re thinking about yourself to someone else. If not, stop being so hard on yourself. Think about less harsh statements that offer more realistic descriptions.

Allow yourself to be less than perfect. Many depressed people are perfectionists, holding themselves to impossibly high standards and then beating themselves up when they fail to meet them. Battle this source of self-imposed stress by challenging your negative ways of thinking

Socialize with positive people. Notice how people who always look on the bright side deal with challenges, even minor ones, like not being able to find a parking space. Then consider how you would react in the same situation. Even if you have to pretend, try to adopt their optimism and persistence in the face of difficulty.

Keep a “negative thought log”. Whenever you experience a negative thought, jot down the thought and what triggered it in a notebook. Review your log when you’re in a good mood. Consider if the negativity was truly warranted. Ask yourself if there’s another way to view the situation. For example, let’s say your boyfriend was short with you and you automatically assumed that the relationship was in trouble. It’s possible, though, he’s just having a bad day.

[dephus]

Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.

Howard Washington Thurman (via ohteenscanrelate)

[wheresmybubble]

Quote from Stephen King.

[psychotherapy]

Life is not primarily a quest for pleasure, as Freud believed, or a quest for power, as Alfred Adler taught, but a quest for meaning.

Viktor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning (via psychotherapy)

[coralwhispersmilkshake]

NOT A RANT:

So I know I sound like such a sad person, but I promise I’m not. This is just a place where I like to let loose and express how I feel, since I other wise would not be able to. But today has a been a really good day. I woke up and told myself that today, I was not going to think obsessively about things that have not even happened, or small insignificant things that should other wise not take up this much of my time. And I must say it is going pretty well,not to jinx it or anything. Yes, thoughts have come up, but I don't wan’t to say I suppress them because I am doing my best to acknowledge them, but after I acknowledge it, I move on. Instead of pondering on that one thing ALL DAY LONG. Because I must say, that is mentally exhausting and was really taking a toll in my emotional well being. I do see a therapist but I try to limit myself to going once a month, because I don’t feel I have the need to go more than that. My next session is coming up probably next week, although I like going, I’m sometimes scared about what she is going to tell me. Most of the things she does tell me, are things I already know, but haven’t totally accepted. Well, I guess this was sort of a rant, but I will continue to have a good day!

[coralwhispersmilkshake]

RANT NUMBER TWO:

We're back at it again, see it's funny, I want to say most days I feel okay but that's not true. Most days I feel sad and compulsively think about things that make me sad. I'll cry or vent and I'll feel better but later that same day that feeling just comes back. I still haven't exactly pinned point if it's my period that makes me emotional or if maybe I am just a little depressed. I want to make sure it is my period and I'm not just blaming it on it. If it is my period this sucks because it always starts 10-8 days prior and my actual period usually last about 5 days. Soooo that's two weeks every month that I feel like crying or upset. I don't understand because it'll go away and I'll feel perfectly fine but anything can truly trigger me. I'm tired of over thinking and feeling sad.

[coralwhispersmilkshake]

RANT NUMBER ONE:

I never realized it, but i’ve always struggled with expressing my emotions. The reason for this is that a lot of times I know I feel a certain way but I can’t figure out what is causing me to feel this way. The other day in my Social Psychology textbook I read that many times, people will say that something is making them feel a certain way but in reality, it’s not really that. Most of the time the cause of our feelings is rooted in our unconscious that people can’t pin point what’s causing their sudden mood. In a twisted way, this makes me feel better, because I know it’s not just me.

[coralwhispersmilkshake]

INRODUCTION:

I have used Tumblr before, but mostly just to reblog a  bunch of stuff. I’ve always had notebooks where I write when I am upset or having trouble expressing my feelings and I want to use this page to write some of my favorite quotes as well as just be able to rant about whatever happens on my day to day activity. So feel free to reblog, like, or whatever. 

[jess-amelia]

I worry that he’ll get tired of me, that the spark that initially caught his attention will flicker out with time. I worry that he’ll cross paths with someone more interesting and I’ll be left in the dust. I try to comfort myself by saying that if that happens, he never really saw my soul and true potential. He never really cared. But the words are empty in my mind and bring no comfort, much like a song you’ve sung a hundred times.

I’m not ready for another goodbye - Jess Amelia (via jess-amelia)

[iglovequotes]

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[kushandwizdom]

All a woman wants from her man is to be respected while she’s in his company, and when she’s absent from it.

Sonya Teclai (via kushandwizdom)

[psych-facts]

The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.

Steven Furtick (via psych-facts)

[psych-facts]

“Have some fire. Be unstoppable. Be a force of nature. Be better than anyone here, and don’t give a damn what anyone thinks. There are no teams here, no buddies. You’re on your own. Be on your own.”

— Christina Yang

( fuckyeahneuro )

[kushandwizdom]

you have to get yourself right before you can ever truly be right for somebody else.

Reyna Biddy (via kushandwizdom)