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INTRO POST (WIP)

waddup. traumatised system of like 40? i think?? maybe DID maybe CDID who fuckin knows. we got amnesia so we dont hate you we just Forgor

WHOS WHO

🐦‍⬛ - all of us/anon

🔥 - liam

☢️ - tubbo

🐷👑 - techno

🏛️ - taliesin

💉 - seven

🌃 - jack

🦚 - mollymauk

🌓 - ranboo

🎲 - valentine

🕸️ - axel

🦋 - lucy

🌊- lorcan

⚙️ - marcus

🌃 - Ava

◼️ - arby

♠️ - V

🌿 - nina/alwyn

🌌 - nova

🌑 - ender

🪽 - cas

corvidae hoards = gedner

someone elsell fix it up later

#☢️#actually did #did system #dissociative identity disorder #intro post

ordinarytalk

Recovering from autistic burnout as a high-masking adult:

To recover, you literally need to manually learn skills that most people learn as a toddler

You need to learn what makes your body uncomfortable, and what to do to fix it

If you are high-masking, that usually means that you have learned to ignore every distress signal your body sends unless it is a distress signal that a neurotypical person would recognize. People have likely been unintentionally gaslighting you about your lived experience your entire life

If you feel bad or panicked for no reason, stop and try to pay attention to your body. Are you tense? You are likely feeling physical pain somewhere. If you've been gaslit about your pain your entire life, you might not be able to identify it.

Go through a sensory checklist.

SIGHT: Try closing and covering your eyes. If this gives you relief, the lights are probably too bright. You may also need differently-colored lights

SOUND: Cover your ears. Does this give you relief? If so, you may need earplugs or noise canceling headphones. You may also benefit from a neutral or pleasant background noise, like soft music or brown noise.

TOUCH: Are your clothes uncomfortable? Your chair? Your body? Do you feel greasy, like you need a shower? Do you need softer, sensory-friendly clothing?

TASTE: Do you need to brush your teeth or tongue? Would chewing on something help?

SMELL: Is there a strong or unpleasant smell in the room? Do you need to clean or empty a trash can? Would an air purifier help? Would a pleasant smell like a candle help?

INTEROCEPTION: Are you hungry? Thirsty? Tired? How is your posture? Are any of your muscles tight or sore? Scan your body slowly from head to feet, tensing and loosening each group of muscles. Going for a walk or doing a series of quick stretches may help a lot.

Learning how to do this stuff is not intuitive, if you've had an entire lifetime of gaslighting telling you that everything hurting you isn't a big deal and you're being dramatic over nothing.

This takes time, it takes work, it's not intuitive, and it's hard. Most people forget how hard it is, because they learned this as toddlers.

If you want to recover, you need to relearn your whole body. And get over your idea of "normal" and just wear the damn sunglasses and put on the headphones. If people stare, fuck em. You're disabled and they can deal with that.

deerrrrr

todsy it 's a very Specal day .. . Buecasr Itis,my birth- deer , : )

#happy birthdeer :)

jovishark

some advice for people entering their 20s:

-dont go to the emergency room with dental problems. go to the dentist

-bagged greens are cheaper than pre-made salads

-taco bell is NOT worth the money anymore. 1/4 cup mayo, 1/4 cup sour cream, 3 tblspoons pickled jalapenos+2tblspoons of the jar liquid, 2 tsp paprika 1 tsp cumin 1 tsp garlic powder 1 tsp onion powder salt+pepper. all in your blender. creamy jalapeno sauce

-dont quit your job unless you have a bunch of job interviews lined up immediately after

-use resources. food bank, unemployment, housing assistance, financial aid, etc. yes there will be paperwork. but Do It

-dont stay awake longer than 20 hours. you Will start to become impulsive and cranky. resting for 20 minutes is better than trying to stay awake

-for every 2 hours you spend looking up close at screens, spend 20 minutes looking at something far away from you. stretch your wrists a lot

-dont do that yoga stretch where you roll your head around your shoulders. youre grinding down the joints in your neck

-be nice to your friends, bullying them as a joke gets old. if you need a ride somewhere at least offer them gas money

-brush your teeth at any time of the day but especially before you sleep. dont snack in bed if you can help it. make your bed the Clean Teeth Zone. keep floss picks by your bed

-dont tell your boss youre adhd/autism/depression/suicidal. dont trust your coworkers with that. you NEVER know how people will take it and its none of their business

-train your pets to go to the front door when they hear a fire alarm

-get regular oil changes

type-blaze0

No seriously, get regular oil changes. Learned in shop class that about half of the people that come to us don't change their oil until it gets chunky. Chunky oil is really bad. Chunky oil is only marginally better than no oil. In some cases, it might actually be worse.

sailorzenin

To add to this - if there's something you want that is expensive - sleep on it- at least for one night but try for a week if you can. Most of the time you forget you even want it. Especially if you have ADHD!

Impulse spending will financially ruin you and it's really hard to get out of.

Remove your credit card from anything that lets you one-tap buy. Keep it physically in a place that is annoying to get to. I keep mine in a mini fireproof safe and the key in a seperate location. Adding those extra steps thwarts the ADHD brain.

Can't tell you how many times that those added steps have prevented me from spending money

babooshkaa

new adhd/mental illness/disability hack for your next semester

instead of focusing on getting shit done, focus on studying for at least 10 (20/30 whichever sounds easy to you) minutes a day. not even like the 5 minute rule, not to get started, but literally only 10 minutes a day. you won't get everything done this way, but you will do at least some part of it by the time it's due tomorrow. you're probably still gonna have to work your ass off on the last day, but it's gonna be a few hours, not the whole night

I find it so discouraging to focus on the task, it feels like it's gonna take so much time and it stops me from even starting, so when it's due tomorrow I literally have to start from zero and do the whole thing, when I stop focusing on the end goal of completing it, it looks... like it's a thing I can actually do, yk. and things actually start getting done somehow

again, it's not to get started, not to trick your brain into starting, it's to do at least something

just. literally. 10. minutes.

may it help you in the new year

caedisinian

Fantasy Special Interest Coining Post!

A flag for those who have a special interest in fantasy. This could mean preexisting stories, or doing your own world building, or playing ttrpgs, or whatever the user wants.

Made using @daybreakthing’s template!

Coined for @the-true-werewolf as a request.

Taglist (ask to be added): @radiomogai @sillyssillies @someguyswithwings

inchwormcircus

Lime summoning ritual (aka caterpillar season)

pluraltv

We've been working on fully moving our system logging over to Obsidian! It's not entirely done yet (would like to create a better description format + we have some misc. information to move over), but here's how it's looking:

We don't currently plan on making a template version for others to use, simply because we're not great at explaining how this all works and we don't feel we could really offer support, but here is the list of plugins we use:

The databases that show all the members are simply Obsidian's built in Bases feature

File Color is used to colour our files and folders in the file selector, to make it easier to navigate

Iconize is used for the file and folder symbols in the file selector

Pretty Properties is used for coloured tags, as well as the icon, banner, and big image next to properties on CC's page (yet to set it up for everyone since it's not really a priority lol)

Super Simple Time Tracker is what is used for our front log

corvidae-collective

how did you set up the front tracker? do you have to manually type in alter's names? also does it save a log? we've been moving everything over to obsidian too but y'all definitely have it more organised.

thingswithantlers

By Small Creatures

identifying-deer-in-posts

European fallow deer (Dama dama)

ryan-sometimes

As an autistic/adhd person going through the job search process I’ve learned to phrase my autistic/adhd traits as corporate friendly things. Here’s some examples:

I have trouble reading between the lines and picking up on implicit information? Actually, I’ve learned the importance of giving and receiving precise, specific instructions in order to avoid time consuming miscommunications.

I’m easily bored with only one task? Actually, I have a curious mind and thrive in places with a wide range of tasks as I prefer dynamic environments where I can contribute to many projects.

I have trouble with white lies that are merely social niceties? Actually, I prioritize a transparent work environment where we can tackle issues head-on.

This way I don’t have to lie, but rather just spin my truth in a way that’s palatable to them.

assassin1513

💙✨💙Falling Stars💙✨💙

autistichalsin

Reblog and tag with the earliest hyperfixation/special interest you can remember having

#dora the explorer

cardboard-cut0ut

[freeze frame] yeah, that’s not me. I don’t know who that is. [unpause]

corvidae-collective

@funnier-as-a-system

elli0ttt

oh to live in a castle

#innerworld

fibromyalgicaf

One of the best changes I've made to my day since becoming more disabled a year ago is how I start my day.

I used to start the day focused on productivitiy, checking my calendar, already stressing about my to-do list, feeling almost frantic with the pressure to 'seize the day' (and fill it with as much activity as possible). Now, I start the day by assessing how I'm feeling and what is possible.

I think it's really important to accept my limitations right at the beginning so I don't over-commit my limited energy resources or strain my body and increase my pain. I have to meet myself where I am and then carefully decide how I can proceed through the day.

I scan my body and notice where I have pain and how bad it is (especially important because I have a tendency to ignore my body until it's really bad). I assess how much energy I have. And it's only after figuring out those two that I consider what needs to be done. Most of the time, I can't do everything I need or want to do so I have to consciously plan how I can balance my day. I consider what is realistic and what support I need to ask for, what accommodations I need to make. Some days I can get up fairly quickly and get a few things done. Some days I need a slower start. Some days I realize I'm probably not getting out of bed much at all.

It's been difficult to adapt to this disabled life and accept my limitations but the shift in thinking is life-changing.

purlturtle

This is so so helpful! I track this in a journaling app, too: how long and how well I've slept, any unusual thing that happened in the night (such as migraines or something), and most importantly, energy and mood. Putting it down (as a number in this case) really helps me keep it in mind, and also it has shown me that I usually gain both energy and mood over the day - not much, but I usually feel a bit better in the evening than in the morning. And all that is good to know!

Paper journaling works too - give your energy and mood a value out of ten, or a percentage or something, and then see and track what you can get done on a 40% day or on a 1/10 day, and the next time one of those rolls around, it'll be a bit easier to remember what you're capable of (and what not), what to prioritize, and how much grace to give yourself.

shae-la-hyene

Mornings are the worst for me since it's after so long laying down and the nightmares do numbers on my mental health. So if I trust my just out of bed self about what I can do that day I wouldn't do shit. Usually try to be nice to myself, rest, take breakfast and tea slowly and calmly, and if I'm patient and gentle I find out that I have a lot more energy and motivation during the day when I gave myself the permission to not productive at first. Not to go against OP, just to add up that your brain lies to you sometimes and you gotta take time to really be alive for a moment before you trust it

fibromyalgicaf

Great addition, thank you. You can't always assess things at the beginning of your day.

I try to do it at the beginning because my tendency in the past was to jump straight into things as soon as I'm awake. But everyone's different. And I still need to reassess as the day goes on a lot of the time.