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High Maintenance tip: Create Desirability

Say what you want about her, but you can’t confirm it! Lori is one of today’s it-girls. She’s rich and beautiful and every guy in the industry wants her. Despite some bad choices, we can learn a lot from her. She knows how to create an air of desire and make a name without even talking. Meek mills rapped about her. He said she was on his wish list. (Free promo) After that everyone wanted her. You don’t need to be everyone’s type, but trust and believe if your the right mans type- the rest will follow.

She was engaged at 19/20 years old to a pro athlete. (The Diamond ring was gorgeous.) However, she didn’t just go through with it. Whatever her reasons were, we should adapt her ability to leave. There are women who stay for less. This added to her perceived value.

She gives trophy wife teas 🏆🤑💁🏽‍♀️. You won’t see her posting the men she dates but only what they do for her. These men flaunt her and let everybody know she’s with them. People speculate about her sexual history, but like a lady she keeps it private. She doesn’t confirm or deny which adds to her mystery. Most of the hate she gets is from men who can’t afford her, women who think they can’t get like her, and those who don’t understand.

[yourfavoritetrophywife-deactiva]

How to identify wealth:

The Cards:

The AmEx Centurion:

The AmEx Black isn't as exclusive as it used to be. If you charge over $150,000 to your card per year, are willing to pay the $2,500 yearly membership fee, and are a dedicated user of cards issued to you in the past by American Express and have moved up through the levels of American Express cards (Amex Blue, AmEx Green, AmEx Gold, and AmEx Platinum), you'll eventually be offered membership into the AmEx Centurion (Black) Club. I would consider the AmEx Black to not be a solid sign of extreme wealth because if a man has a net worth of $1 million, he's making $350,000 yearly, and he's spending $150,000 on his AmEx Card, he'll be offered an AmEx Black, it's as simple as that, it's a mid-level card that can be offered to men with lower level wealth but some very wealthy men do still use the AmEx Black because of the benefits it has.

The J.P. Morgan Reserve:

The Palladium and the Reserve cards are two cards that you can be selected to receive from J.P. Morgan if you have enough money in your accounts with them and you spend enough money on your regular J.P. Morgan card yearly. The Palladium requires a minimum of $30,000,000 and the Reserve requires a minimum of $10,000,000 held in accounts owned by you and protected and managed by J.P. Morgan. These cards can't be passed down and they don't flow with inheritance, they have to be strictly money in the account owners name and the account owner has to be able to prove that the money is not only legitimate, but also that they can manage it and not blow it away. You have to be a certain age (21+) to be offered a card and you do have to invest solid money with J.P. Morgan.

The Coutts and Co Silk:

This is a Private British Banking Card that the British Monarchy use and it's the most exclusive credit card in all of Great Britain. You have to already have been a client of Coutts for at least a year before you're considered, hold at least £5,000,000 in a single bank account managed by Coutts and be ready to place £1,000,000 of that in an account meant to fund your Silk Card, there's a flexible spending limit that's set once you've been evaluated and your spend analytics have been run, the assistance of a personal concierge comes with the card through Coutts to help you manage your money, and you don't pay any annual fees. This is a card that you're selected for, you can't apply for it, if you're a member of Coutts and they see that you've spent enough on their charge cards and are a dedicated enough customer, they'll offer you the card and bring you through the application and acceptance process.

The Stratus White:

The opposite of the AmEx Black. The Stratus is made by Visa, it's a card that you have to know a current holder of the card and be invited by said current holder of the card to be able to apply, your credit score has to be sparkling to receive the card, and it comes with more exclusive perks than the AmEx Black and was made with the idea in mind to rival the AmEx Black. The Stratus White comes with the opportunity to have exclusive and VIP access to events like the Cannes Film Festival and Monaco Grand Prix, you have to have at least $10,000,000 in your bank account of self made money to be able to receive the card, you can redeem your points on the card to receive free airfare on private jets, and you can use the card to get into airport lounges, use a personal concierge, and plan out all of your travel details ahead of time. Apparently, you have to charge at least $300,000 yearly to it in order to be eligible to continue using it.

The Visa Infinite:

A firm sign of mid-level wealth and newly available in the USA after having been available overseas for...a while, the Visa Infinite is a less exclusive but still exclusive card for people who I would consider to be New Money. The requirement is at least $300,000 in your bank account (in most areas) and $300,000 yearly income, charging at least $30,000 (10% of your yearly income in most areas), and a good credit score. It comes with benefits like a personal concierge, access to airport lounges, access to rental cards, premium hotels, premium venues, premium golf courses, and premium restaurants that come with reservations that can be accessed through use of the Infinite. It's a card that any successful doctor, lawyer, politician, or businessman is capable of receiving within a few years of being successful in his field, it's a solid card with good benefits that has that little taste of exclusivity that's so desired.

XOXO,

Renata.

[thesugaringescort]

100 "Non-Allowance" Questions to ask your Pot or SD:

A few examples, and in no particular order:

1. What has influenced your decision to want an SB?

2. How long have you been searching for one, and which sites did you use?

3. Have you had any negative experiences with Sugaring? Either in your search for one, or in your previous arrangement?

4. Are there people that you don’t like? What characteristics was it about them, that you didn’t like/enjoy?

5. Where do you consider to be good places for an SD/SB to be romantic?

6. What are some ways that you get embarrassed in public?

7. Are you ever bored? What type of people bore you?

8. What are good leisure activities that you would like for us to try together?

9. Are you okay with me dating others while we are in an arrangement?

10. What is your definition of emotional intimacy?

11. Where and when did you meet your wife/girlfriend? What drew you to her?

12. What sort of future financial plans and goals do you have?

13. What is your biggest goal in starting an arrangement?

14. Have you thought about the ramifications of your actions on your family, co-workers and friends?

15. Tell me what precautions you are going to take to ensure that our arrangement is kept private?

16. What you would do if we ran into someone either of us knew, while out together?

17. What would you want me to do?

18. What are the most important things in life? What do you value?

19. What questions would you like me to answer?

20. What are your bad/good habits?

21. What is your opinion of me being a different nationality or following different religious briefs than yours?

22. What would you do to leave a positive impression on our first date? And future dates?

23. What would your perfect arrangement consist of?

24. What is your opinion of us abstaining from sexual intimacy within our arrangement, even though I am not a virgin?

25. Can you explain to me how a Sugaring arrangement is different than a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship?

26. Do you believe that its possible to have emotional intimacy without physical intimacy?

27. Do you still have feelings for an ex, wife, girlfriend or previous SB?

28. How long did your previous arrangement/relationship last?

29. Do you regret any of those intimate experiences with that person?

30. What are your expectations of intimacy and sexual relations with me? How do they differ from your previous SB etc.

31. Should I be fearful, jealous or envious of any of your previous arrangements, and the different opportunities that you have shared with them?

32. Do you usually follow your heart or your head?

33. What is your opinion about me hanging out with other Sugar Babies and their SD’s, or in places that SD’s frequent?

34. Do you think that someone’s past matters in a current arrangement?

35. How would you react if I told you that I can not meet your daily needs for communication?

36. Do you believe in privacy, even while being open with each other in an arrangement?

37. Do you have any opinions about me working a part time job? What if it takes my time away from you?

38. Do you have any hobbies that you’d like for us to share?

39. Have you ever experimented with legal/illegal drugs? Do you currently?

40. Do you have children? What do you think the impact would be on them if our arrangement was made public?

41. What communication methods do you prefer? What are the most private and effect modes?

42. What is something weird about you, or that you’re afraid to tell me?

43. Tell me something about your work, that isn’t common knowledge.

44. If your friends or co-workers don’t like me for some reason, is that a deal breaker?

45. Have you ever had a one night stand? If you did, do you regret it? Would you do it again if you knew you wouldn’t get caught?

46. How long would your ideal arrangement last?

47. Do you have a criminal record, or any contraction of diseases?

48. I don’t, but would it change your opinion of me if I had one?

49. Are you willing to lose time from your family and friends, in order to see me?

50. How did you discover Sugaring?

51. Do any of your friends have Sugar Babies?

52. What do you think about continuing the search for an Sd/SB, after you’ve recently started an arrangement with one?

53. Do you think love within an arrangement is possible?

54. If your job (or wife) started to have a negative impact on our arrangement, what would you do?

55. How do you handle feelings of jealousy or resentment?

56. Do you have any regrets in life or in past arrangements?

57. What is your ideal vacation/weekend get away?

58. Will we be taking any together?

59. What are your expectations of my free time and our time spent together?

60. If you are allowed to do just one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be?

61. What are some things that you take pride in?

62. What is the most difficult component for you, in an arrangement?

63. What happens if we exchange pictures, and down the road decide not to continue our arrangement? How will they be used, shared, kept or destroyed?

64. Would you be ok with me making plans with my friends, on a night that you are free to see me?

65. Will you be OK with me hanging out with you and your friends?

66. If you could change something about females in general, what would it be?

67. What is your opinion on the arts? Do you want to visit museums and galleries together?

68. Do you read the newspaper? How do you stay up on current events?

69. What are you looking for in the long term and short term?

70. If you had three Sugaring rules, what would they be?

71. Which aspect to Sugaring scares you or makes you the most nervous?

72. Are you typically late to events and dates, or end up rescheduling at the last minute?

73. Who has been the most influential person for you so far in life?

74. What are some places that we will definitely need to avoid being seen together?

75. What are some places that we would be safe to visit/experience together?

76. What is the best advice you ever received?

77. What advice would you give to me, regarding Sugaring and life in general?

78. If you had a previous arrangement, why did it end?

79. Are you still friends with that person?

80. Without getting too personal, what were some good moments in that relationship?

81. What were some of the craziest things that you’ve done with her? And some of the sweetest?

82. What will you have accomplished at work one year from now and within our arrangement?

83. If you/we could go on a road trip where would you chose to go? Would I have a say or just be expected to come along on a whim?

84. Are you prepared to respect, and are you comfortable with accepting my school and study schedule?

85. Have you thought about using code names, or certain apps that will keep our communication/contact private?

86. Can you tell me 3 good points about me?

87. What are your expectations of me in our arrangement?

88. What happens if I can not agree or live up to all of them?

89. Have you ever wanted something really bad and then later, not so much? Do you get discouraged easily?

90. Is there anything I could do to make you think that I am an ungrateful or selfish person?

91. What would you do if our communication and dates were limited to set days and periods of times during the day/week/month?

92. Do you like to go window shopping, or are you the type who needs to buy an item?

93. After I had asked you for our first date, was there any part of you that wanted to say no? Why?

94. What are some activities or places, that you would like to do/go on for dates that you haven’t been before?

95. What are your views on open arrangements? Do you know what an open relationship is?

96. What are your future/5 year plans with your wife or girlfriend? Maybe more kids, more travelling etc. How can I help you to achieve this?

97. Is money more important to you or are the relationships you share with people more important?

98. What are some things that you are either passionate about, or anger you?

99. Do you believe that long distance arrangements can work? What about those that are not long in distance but long in the duration between dates?

100. What are your thoughts relating to Sugar Babies as Sex Workers?

This isn’t an end-all-be-all list, as it would go on and on forever…but rather just an idea to get the ball rolling.

Please add on if you want!

[dirty-like-diana]

"Emotional reasoning is more powerful than logical thinking."

This concept describes my relationship with men, and is one of the reasons why I have many great experiences, as well as, only a few sexual partners, while still having extreme financial support, gifts, and travels. If you followed my previous blog, you may recall me once making a long post about the Art of Seduction, 48 Laws of Power, and psychologically connecting with people, as well as, manipulation.

A few months ago, I had planned to go into great details with how the concept has positively affected every one of my relationships, however, of course I won’t now. That post was a mini novel in tremendous details, and I planned to post it around the time tumblr drama ensued. I still would love to share tidbits since I wasted so many days on that post and may help some girls. 

Men (people) are emotional creatures. Once emotions take over, logical thinking goes out the window. Which is why many people become foolish when they love or care for something, and typically do not realize their naivety until that bond has been broken. I was reading an article about the effects religions and beliefs have on people, and someone wrote about how religious people are so emotionally connected to their religions, that scientific evidence stating otherwise is greatly ignored, no matter how logical it is. Not to mention there are thousands of religions, and everyone greatly believes in their’s. Some people even fear questioning religion because of the emotional hold, even at times when things doesn’t make sense.

In the sugar baby tag, many girls have successfully utilized a skills that come more natural for men, which is being able to have unattached sex, in exchange for personal gain or money. While I find that an art and have utilized the skill a few times, providing sex shouldn’t be your only way to get the things you desire from men. Not to mention, most situations don’t require sex at all. Simply charming, seducing, or manipulating someone can be far more lucrative. They become so intrigued or delighted by your company, that any of your shortcomings, flaws, or lies are easily excused. You can say the dumbest thing and they will try to make sense of it or laugh it off because it’s “cute.” You can get caught being deceitful but your excuse would be reasonable enough for a second chance. Take the time to learn how to manipulate or seduce someone without sex. 

What impact do you have on men? What were you doing or how were you acting when this happened? Were you being a bitch? Vixen? Innocent girl next door? Do men lust over your bubbly personality and friendly smile? Or do they find your crude sense of humor intriguing? Do they admire your dominance? Embrace whatever it is about yourself that intrigues people and use it to your advantage. Of course not everyone will be intrigued by you, and that’s just find. Go after the men who are. Manipulation or seduction isn’t your thing? Fine, then simply learn to provide a stimulating conversation and make people feel comfortable around you. Learn to connect with individuals on deeper levels and make them want to be around you. You don’t have to manipulate someone, but just make them comfortable and intrigued. A skill that could be used throughout life. There are many sugar babies who didn’t necessarily manipulate their sugar daddies, but made them feel comfortable and enjoy their company. Some still get financial help even after the relationships have ended. 

While sex is still anticipated in most relationships, it would be on your time and their enticement with you because of the seduction or manipulation, makes the mediocre sex you provide feel like heaven. Any little thing you do is magnified. Many escorts have voiced that it’s not all about sex with clients, yet, a connection and sense of comfort. Some men don’t pay 1k-3k an hour just for sex, especially when great sex can cost $200/hr, but an enchanting experience with an intriguing woman. 

It always boils my blood when I read women advising other women that the key to money, gifts, and travels, lies within their willingness to sleep with any man willing to provide those things. That concept couldn’t be any more false and only provide short term luxury because anyone can provide sex, better and cheaper. Long term success lies within the art of being charming, personable, intriguing, seductive, manipulative, sultry, ect., things that are suggested less and less as more blogs appear supporting the art of a quick fuck, instead of simply being a sultry woman and getting money with a selective play on words and visual allurement. Be a brilliant woman, not just a sexually free one. Often times when men grow tired of the sex, which many quickly do, the relationship ends and they find another. Or they start to provide less and less for you. Don’t let sex be the only thing you have to offer or that he’s interested in. Unless, of course, you strictly want something NSA and wouldn’t feel used or abandoned if he abruptly ended things without thinking twice. 

The truth is, the art of manipulation is something that can be used throughout life. Yes, looks fade, however, some of the most desired women in history were not the prettiest. They knew how to connect with men, get in their thoughts and dreams, and get them to give them whatever they wanted. Men have started great wars over seductive women. Their connections went far beyond beauty and sex. And there is a huge lack in effort to mentally seduce or manipulate men in the tag, when ironically, sugar daddies are certainly manipulating sugar babies.

Sugar daddies are using words such as “love”, “spoiled girlfriend”, “wife”, and “relationship” as ways to manipulate younger girls into “dating” them for little to no allowance. Some of these men know exactly what they are doing with the “I want a real relationship” concept and are not confused. More and more girls are becoming spoiled girlfriends, when the spoiling is subpar. And it’s not just manipulation being done, but also reverse psychology: planting a seed into a sugar baby’s head that she’s special and he really wants to be with her (within a week of knowing her), causing her to feel proud about her womanly charm and seducing a wealthy man, when in reality, the man is creating a faux relationship to compensate for his unwillingness to give. Not to mention, some girls develop a fear in asking for more money or gifts because they want to keep that supposedly hold on the man, and asking would cause him to question their motives or deem them unappreciative. If you are truly a spoiled girlfriend, asking for reasonable things you desire should not cause you to fear the downfall of your relationship or be referred to as a gold digger. I find the manipulation to be brilliant, honestly. Men have always tricked women into believing they are special, especially for one night stands, so the sugar world is no different. I love reading about sugar babies becoming spoiled girlfriends, however, this seems to be the new request among men, even married men. And in most situations, I can’t help but think it’s a way for a man to have his cake and eat it too, but at little cost.   Food for thought from a real spoiled girlfriend with an allowance. 

-Next post will possibly be how to exactly seduce and manipulate after you find that characteristic about yourself that lures people in. 

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Very good!!

[ninthwardjawn-deactivated201902]

Sucking dick

Disclaimer: I have received several questions on this and I finally decided to make a post. In no way am I claiming to be an expert or whatever. I’m simply explaining my methods and what has worked for ME from experience.

1. Hands On! - Yes sucking dick Is mainly about how u use ur mouth but don’t forget to use ur hands! Use ur hands to stimulate the head and the shaft of the dick. U can go up and down in a steady rhythm or u can use a twisting motion. Niggas love that shit. Get creative.

2. Get it wet! - If u are wearing makeup, don’t be afraid to fuck that shit up! If ur hair is long and it gets in the way, tie that shit up and get to work hoe!!!!! Get that shit wet. Sloppy blow jobs are the best. Slob and drool all over that dick!!!!!!

3. Noises! - Some niggas are not only into visuals but they are into sounds as well. They want to hear u choking and gagging on the dick.  They want to hear u gasping for air. Just don’t be extra and fake.

4. Deepthroat! -Practice ur gag reflexes! Put the dick in the back of ur throat as far as u possibly can.

5. Ball is Life – Don’t forget the balls! Often times we are so focused on the dick that we forget the balls! The sacks need love to. Massage them with ur tongue and gently suck on them (they are sensitive) and watch him moan like a little bitch!

6.  Change ur rhythm and speed! Don’t keep the same ole rhythm and speed while sucking his dick. That shit gets boring. Switch it up. Alternate between fast and slow. Keep it interesting and fun.

7.  Eye contact – U don’t have to make eye contact with him but imo, it enhances the experience. My favorite thing to do is tap his dick on my tongue and make direct eye contact. It’s a bold move but the pay off is worth it.

8. To Spit Or To Swallow? – There are two type of muthafuckas in this world. Spitters and swallowers. Which one are u? to determine this. Ask urself, what does this nigga’s diet consists of? If all he eats is big macs and soft drinks then u are guaranteed to have a horrible swallowing experience. Trust me!!!!!! Don’t do it! If he eats relatively healthy and drinks water, his nut should not taste like sewage. If u do decide to swallow, to enhance his experience, keep sucking a few moments even after he nuts. he will be like ‘got damn this hoe is nasty. ‘

9. Remember! Never do anything that u are not comfortable with. U have the right to stop or say no at any point and time! U have the right to change ur mind. U are not obligated to suck his dick and make him nut. Only suck his dick if u actually want to!!!!! Don’t be afraid to get creative babies!!!! Act a fool on the dick!!!!! :-)

[pennsylvaniasugar-deactivated20]

HIV

Babies!

Oraquick is a kit that tests for HIV. There are other cheap ones but I trust this brand the most.

It can be purchased at Walgreens for $50.

You swab inside the mouth of whoever you are testing, place it inside the fluid and it gives you results in 20 minutes.

One line = negative result

Two lines= positive result ( watch for faint lines)

Please do not believe any mans HIV result on paper because a lot of men fake it. If you are going to believe it call the clinic and ask if your client/SD came in to test on that particular date and if the result was negative.

Even at that, what if within a one month period he goes in for a test your SD sleeps with someone who has HIV?

Super Rich SD will want to have sex without condoms if they are going to shell out big big bucks. They believe they are in an actual relationship and are exclusive hence the request but may want to sleep with other women behind your back. Test as much as you like!

Do not allow any man or SD to “set up the kit for you to save time” to avoid tampering with the kit.

I test my SD every month with oraquick but then again I’m a hypochondriac. I test my boyfriends and anyone I want to fuck too.

Even if you are giving a blowjob and you swallow his cum you are still at risk for HIV.

Please be safe!

$50 is not cheap but look at it as an investment

Any man who refuses to do this with you has something to hide and is not responsible.

Refuse any sexual contact immediately!

-PennsylvaniaSugar

[byesugar]

“It’s crazy how you never run into your haters at the bank, black-tie events, dinner, airport, or shopping, only on social media. They can’t even afford to hate you properly”

—

[bronzedsugaruk-deactivated20170]

Sugarbabies and Unprotected Sex: (how to insist on a condom)

I’m sure you’ve been faced with the scenario and if you haven’t I can bet you know someone who has.

Scenario: You’re starting to get closer with your SD/boyfriend and he wants to become intimate. But there’s a problem, he wants to have unprotected sex. You don’t feel comfortable with this and he may be pressuring you or you may simply feel like you will lose your connection/allowance if you do not become intimate with him.

I’ve been in this situation myself. I was 3 months into my relationship with my first sugardaddy and he brought up the topic of intimacy. I adored him as much as he adored me and my comfort was of the upmost importance to him, but he explained to me how he had this deep rooted desire to go ‘raw’ (bareback, condom less, naked) with his partners. This freaked the heck out of me as he was a very experienced sugar daddy and he had disclosed how many sexual partners he had had. He tried everything to convince me, like saying ‘his dick was too curved to sit well in a condom’ … sigh … ‘he was allergic to latex’ …again, *sigh* …to downright just saying ‘it kills the intimacy and just doesn't feel the same’.

Now when I think back to this time, I feel like gagging in disgust but at the time I was new to the sugar bowl, this was the first man to really treat me like I deserved (minus the whole sex thing) and I was so conflicted internally that it stressed me out on a daily basis. After a week of persistence I made my daddy aware that I was afraid I would catch an STD given his number of partners in the past. He could tell that I was really bothered about this so he suggested that he get tested, to show me everything was okay.  I’ll tell you what happened at the end of this blog.***

First Things First

I’m always suspicious of men who are so quick to go without a condom. I’m a bit of a condom manic (I literally have about 50 condoms in my room and keep at least three in my handbag when I go on POT/SD/Vanilla dates) so I never want to put the trust of my sexual wellbeing in someone else’s hands. I like to take responsibility for my own sexual health.

Of course people have different views on this, i.e. if they are in a committed relationship, if a woman is using contraception and her partner trusts her, he may decide to stop using protection himself.

But as a sugarbaby, I’d be suspicious of a man, who, not knowing you all that well, or who is not exclusive with you (i.e. he has a wife or your relationship is NSA) is willing to say he doesn’t want to use a condom. If I was these men, I would be driven by so much flippin fear, that I wouldn’t even consider such a thing.

Ask yourself why this man is so willing to not use a condom, as that to me just suggests bad judgement and a lack of concern for their health.

The second thing I would think about is, if he really doesn’t want to use a condom (fair enough, everyone is entitled to their own preferences when it comes to sex), what are your requirements for him not to use condom?

For me, the man would have to be in an exclusive relationship with me and be getting tested monthly for me to even consider going there with him. But let’s be realistic here. For men, it really sucks to get tested. A lot of men find it unpleasant to have the swab put in their penis (if you don’t know what I’m talking about, just google it) therefore, I know the probability of me finding a sugar daddy that is willing to get tested on a monthly basis is very, very low.

The final thing I consider is trust. Do you trust this man enough to believe that he is not having any other sexual partners? Girls, if you sugardaddy is married, do not trust him! No matter what, you need to always have your guard up. If he can cheat on his wife, what makes you think he won’t lie to you?

After reading the three points above, the majority of you will have decided (if you had not already seen the light) that you do not want to have unprotected sex.

So here’s how to broach the subject with your man.

“ I know it would feel wonderful and intimate to be able to connect with you in such a way but I really have to value myself and my health.  I’m not saying that I don’t trust you (ahem..lies) it’s just that things happen and I can’t put my health in somebody else’s hands.”  When you are saying this, make sure you put an emphasis on how you value the things he does for you and your connection but you value your health first. You cannot make compromises like this for any man just because he supports your lifestyle.

When not to bring this up: just before the act. Because the truth is when someone is horny, you are likely to get the least honest answer. But this doesn’t mean that you have to do it in a very serious manner either. I mean, I don’t want you going out to diner to discuss STD’s.

Ladies, a man will respect you more when you stand your ground in a classy way. A man will not value you if you cave into his outrageous demands just to build rapport with him or to keep your monthly allowance in check

And if he is scared off or stops your allowances because you refuse to have unsafe sex with him, then count your lucky stars that you got out of that relationship/ arrangement sooner rather than later. There are better men out there that will show a lot more understanding.

***What happened in the end… As some of you know I’m going to be a doctor in the future, so I started doing my research on STD’s such as herpes, gonorrhoea, HIV, genital warts.. you name it, I know the signs and symptoms.  So once I learned about this, the pussy basically went on lockdown.

*I ended the relationship with this SD a few months later and I’m so happy didn’t lose my virginity to him. A blog post on being a virgin in the bowl is coming soon, so be on the lookout.

Xxx

BronzedSugarUK

[ithotyouknew-deactivated2015051]

Pro-tip: If a potential SD asks “what you’re willing to do,” as in sexually, instead of flying off the goddamn handle like some of you do, just say something like “What I will or won’t do depends on my comfort level with the person I’m with. There are things I like that I haven’t done with certain partners and things I’ve never tried that I enjoyed with certain partners and not others. Trust and respect are what shape what I’m willing to do, so I can’t give you a definite answer on that. I am very open minded if I truly enjoy the person I’m with.” It lets them know you won’t be easy (but that they have a chance), and gets you out of talking sexually. Answer any subsequent questions at your own discretion.

[ladydeathinred-deactivated20150]

How To Be A Seductress

Never forget: You are a woman. You are a Goddess. You are in control. Make your move! If you want a good man, picture him in your mind and nurture the same qualities you wish to attract.


Self-awareness, self-improvement,and self-esteem are your keys. Remember, you must first become that which you hope to find. It’s not about a season, fashion, or fad. It’s about real love!


Here are a few tips to get you started…

. Genuine confidence begins with knowing your own body and mind.

. Knowledge is your ultimate love power.

. Develop good communication skills both in and out of the bedroom.

. Listen more than you speak, unless talk is related to both of you. Your conversation should always be positive and sensual.

. Be relaxed and self-assured. Think good thoughts about yourself.

. Know exactly what you’re doing and why. Learn your man’s mind, emotions, body, and sex organs.

. Appeal to all his senses: touch, taste, smell, sight, and sound.

. Find the right lighting for the mood you want to set.

. Create a romantic atmosphere. Arrange furniture to suit your sexual expression.

. Make him feel comfortable and relaxed in your environment. Welcome him with his favorite beverages, snacks, and music.

. Show enthusiasm when he speaks; have a twinkle in your eye. Flirt. Have fun!

. Value cleanliness. Both you and your man should be able to lick, suck, probe, rub, squeeze, massage every square inch of one another without hygienic concerns or inhibitions.

. Go slow with all thoughts and actions. Be gentle and tender. Savor every moment. Tease.

. Kiss your man as though it were the first time every time.

. Learn the art of massage — of both body and mind.

. Listen to his body language and sounds. He will tell you all you need to know even if silently. Do what pleases you both.

. Explore. Be adventurous. Find the things that really turn him on. If he doesn’t like something you’re doing, move on. If he does, stay with it. 

. Don’t be afraid to experiment.

. Relish every part of his body as though it were your “last supper.”

. Create your own fantasies and then live them.

Taken from Brenda Venus’ website. The only thing I can add to this is find out what YOU like also. To please yourself and to please him! Men love being able to sexually satisfy a woman. Find out by yourself, with him, or with other men. 

[ithotyouknew-deactivated2015051]

“I don’t want to send a picture yet.”

Then he’s going to stop talking to you. Send a goddamn picture of your face.

“I’m not ready to meet yet.”

Then he’ll find someone who is, fucking meet up.

Why do y'all hate success? My most generous sugar daddy to date messaged me (on WYP), bought me a plane ticket and was taking me out to dinner in Phoenix (I lived in Houston) within 24 hours. Step ya game up.

[saturnaliaxcrescent]

What turns you on?

When guys ask “what turns you on?”

I say,: “good food, good wine, convo, with a good man that makes good money”

They respond: “I mean in sex”.

Me: “I know, thats the only way I would even want to have sex”

Its honestly the truth cant fake it***

[thesugaringescort]

What protection do you use while giving oral?

I’m don’t want to tell you specifically which methods I use, with whom and when, in case someone follows my exact methods and puts themselves at risk. Not that I’m openly at risk, but I’m not there to say which method is better for their situation at hand, thats all. But I can give you a few examples of the most common oral sex protection methods that I have used at various times.

Remember that oral sex includes the penis, vagina and anus.

1) Dental dams.

2) Glyde dams. (Flavoured).

3) Plastic wrap - (In a pinch but with caution).

4) Condoms. (Cut and whole).

Here are some great sites for using dental dams and other barrier methods to use:

http://m.sexualityandu.ca/?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.ca%2F&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.sexualityandu.ca%2Fstis-stds%2Fhow_do_i_protect_myself_from_stis_stds%2Fdental_dam

http://www.glydehealth.com/dams.html

http://std.about.com/od/sextips/ht/safecunnilingus.htm

http://std.about.com/od/prevention/ht/safefellatio.htm

[thesugaringescort]

Do you use protection for oral sex ever?

Yes, of course I do!

It is possible to get an STI (sexually transmitted infection and disease) from having oral sex.

As much as I request that my SD and Clients give me updated sexual health checks, there are never any guarantees in life. Trust me, I am a lot of things, but one thing I try not to be is naive.

Take for instance the fact that each man that I currently sleep with have all asked me if they are the only “one that I have sex with” and I have answered them all with a “yes”. For two reasons, I don’t want to hurt their pride and its really none of their business. What’s to say that when I turn it around and ask them if I am the only one that they have sex with, (besides their wives), that they won’t lie to me, like I’ve lied to them? I’m sure they would want to protect my pride and they know its none of my business as well!

So, as much as I really do believe that I am the only one that my Clients and SD are currently sleeping with (aside from their wives), I have no concrete proof of this. So I like to stay on the side of caution, because I don’t know and I never truly will.

Even if I was the only “other” girl that my Clients are having sex with, it wouldn’t change my opinion of practicing safe sex, because I have no way of knowing if or with who his wife may be having sex with behind his back as well. Add all of that up, including using no protection, and suddenly an already sticky situation can turn real muddy, really quick. No thank you.

The only thing that I do know and that I can control in these situations is:

1) Who I have sex with, and

2) What protection I use while doing it.

Maybe his wife is faithful, and he occasionally likes to see other Sex Workers. I’ll give you another example of why I use protection, even WITH clean sexual health checks:

* Let’s say that I remind him that its that time again and he needs to get another sexual health check done, or we cant sleep together, yadda yadda. Off he goes to the health clinic and gets tested on Monday. Then he decides that he’d like some “dessert” with someone other than me and his wife on Tuesday. Which is all good as he has that right, just like I do. So finally he gets his CLEAN sexual health check results back on Wednesday and calls me to set up a date for Thursday. I happily agree to this as he has his results, which are great. All while being unaware that he had sex with someone in the time in between when the test was actually taken and then with me at that moment. The test results would not have been able to check for whatever “new” condition, he may be carrying. That in a nutshell, is why I prefer recent/current sexual health checks, PLUS the use of various methods for sexual protection.

For more information on oral STI’s and the various types of protection to use while performing or engaging in oral sex, check out these links!

http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/std/oral/

http://std.about.com/od/prevention/ht/safefellatio.htm (How to give a safe blow job)

http://m.wikihow.com/Have-Safer-Sex

http://m.news24.com/health24/Sex/Need-to-know/A-guide-to-safe-oral-sex-20120721

The links above will be useful, but always check out a few other sources too ;)

[hathor77]

How to keep him when you’ve already given it up?

How you perceive his dick game is crucial to keeping him hovering around. I don’t care if he busted it open and made you cum three times or if he came after four pumps and disappointed you—play your position! His sex game was “aight” not mind blowing or wack. This man has neither sprung you nor disappointed you; that’s your talking point going forward. Men are controlled by ego. If he didn’t hit you the way he wanted to, he’s going to want more, but as I said before, it’s not mandatory, which means he can cut you off tomorrow. You must guarantee a rematch by challenging his manhood, but there is a very specific way to accomplish this.

Don’t insult this dude by commenting on his penis size or how long he lasted, be aloof about what you did, or didn’t like. The positive is that you had fun; the negative is that you know he can go harder than that next time. Be a middle school teacher that rubs her student on the shoulder to instill confidence that his next science project will be better. If you praise a man too much, he’ll think he won’t have to work to hit again. If you put him down, he’ll become ashamed and not want to risk another bad performance. Find your balance somewhere in the middle, and this will create a new sense of want. His performance was a seven, better than your last (lie if you have to) but not as good as your best dick… yet. There’s room for improvement, and you know he can do it with the tool he has, so you desperately want him to show and prove.

one of the last things to remember is to get back to teasing him the same as you did before you two had sex. The first time was a demo, so when you speak about it, always add in what you can’t wait to do the next time he, “gets to see HIS pussy again.” If you only did missionary, joke about how you hope he can last as long hitting it from the back.

Ho tactics

[diaryofamanipulator]

Sugar baby obligations

There are certain times where you will be faced with things you have to do for your sugar dad even though you don’t want to. The same way he might not always want to take you shopping. I’m not talking about sex. No guy should ever make you feel like you have to have sex with them that’s unacceptable to everyone! But as far as a date, plans, if they invite you over, a hug, if you’re invited to be there date to some event and you really and truly don’t want to go. Or if you feel like you have to do something you don’t want to that is an obligation. Somethings you are responsible for and it is a  part of your job description.  Last night Ben was all alone and wanted some company. I did not want to leave my warm toasty robe and bed to go hang out with him but I did. Why? Not because I wanted to. (We all know I didn’t want to) But because I had to… that’s something that is in my job description as a sugar baby. Sex is not necessary but companionship is. I’ve known him for almost a year now and he is not one to say no to me. How does it now look for me to tell him “I don’t feel like it, I don’t want to!” Let’s be realistic here! Sure I could say that but wouldn’t that make him feel bad? Then the next time my tuition payment is due and he says I don’t feel like paying it, what am I to say? It’s just not a good look. They say your true friends come out when the weather gets bad… well he didn’t have a friend to be there for him so that’s what he pays me for!  Sure I bitched and moaned the whole way there but I went even thought I didn’t want to. I’m proud of myself for going… even if I didn’t spend the night I showed up! That’s just part of the job. What I’m truly trying to say is be a good sugar baby and hold up your end of the bargain. I honestly don’t think you should have the balls to say I don’t feel like going here or doing this or that (other than anything that compromises your morals or safety).. when this guy “pays rent”, and tuition and takes me shopping. That’s how you loose a sponsor. It honestly would make me seem ungrateful. To keep a long term sponsor however, be reliable, be on time, be presentable and sometimes you just go with the flow. Even if you’re not all into doing something. So long as it doesn’t compromise your morals or your safety there’s no reason why you can’t just roll with the punches. Whether you like it or not you better hold up your end of the bargain or don’t expect him to hold up his. Sure I may not think one night of staying home is that big of a deal but that could really hurt his feelings. So how would I feel if he decided… it’s only one week of no allowance… it can’t be that big of a deal! I would truly be hurt by that! Don’t expect to get something for nothing. If you offer companionship you better be a damn good companion if you want a damn good sponsor! If you make a promise to be there  be there otherwise don’t expect him to keep any promises to you. Happy sugaring,

-The Manipulator

[hathor77]

You Have To Ask

Incentive Buying. Start by suggesting your RM buy sexy lingerie. This is as true for a man courting a female RM as for a female who is dating a male RM. A man can ask his Rich female to surprise him with bedroom clothes in silk for both of them. Lingerie is “bait” because there is something in it for the RM.

Small Delights. Shift your suggestions from lingerie into other small requests and gradually, over time, increase the costs and the frequency of asking. Ask for surprises. Your RM has set a date with you, and you say, “Bring me a surprise. I love surprises!” 

Positive Suggestion. Try lighting up and saying, “I would love for you buy that for me.” or “I thought you might like to buy thus and such for me.“ 

Confident Tone. Do not ask for anything in a begging or whining or childish way. No Question About It. State your request rather than asking it. Creative Competition Between Your RM & an RM’s friend. Mention that one of the RM’s friends bought a Porsche for a lover. You want a Ferrari (or whatever it is that you want).

Withhold Sex. Remember, even though this is not a swap of sex for money— and you do not have to go to bed with someone after receiving a gift— you most certainly never go to bed with a person if you are turned down! (Your feelings are hurt) 

Reward The RM. Hugs, sweet kisses, praise, and even excitement are in order.

Be romantic beyond belief! Memorize travel brochures, study travel videos of exotic trips.

HOW TO MARRY THE RICH: The Rich Will Marry Someone, Why Not YOU?

SAYLES, GINIE