The Diary of a Manipulator

I am the female version of a womanizer. I am daddy's little girl, and i know how to get what I want. I use men for money and they use me for fun and affection. It's a fair trade I guess, considering neither last very long.

[diaryofamanipulator]

what should I tell my first pot my "general expectations" are?

You tell him what you expect.

[diaryofamanipulator]

Do you require tribute from your finsubs before you take them seriously?

There are 2 words that every sub knows to look for to spot a pro Domme from a fake one.Tribute and SessionSay those two words in the first conversation and they're out. They know your deal.The only thing I require from a sub to take them seriously is that they break one of their boundaries.If they're not into pain.They need to show me that they'll be in pain just to please me... If they'll cross their boundaries once they'll do it again and again. This is how you know you have control. This is how you get your gifts, tributes, money... Anything you want.

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hey, i'm interested in being a sugar baby, i was wondering if i could ask you a few questions about your experiences? if you don t mind,

Don't know how long ago you asked this but I don't log onto this account very much... I'm engaged now... But I'll be answering questions all week no matter the nature.

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Just stumbled upon your Tumblr. Love it! May I ask in more detail how do you write an ad for a body sponsor?

Talk about what you want to change with your body and what you need then hint that you'll share your new body with your sponsor.

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You posted about findom... I'm super into it and actually really enjoy it but I'm having trouble finding subs. Lots of subs who just want a dom but few that are into having their wallet dominated. Help?

When it comes to getting subs to spend you have 2 options. Find a sub who is turned on by spending money or find a sub with a good job who is obedient. The first kind of sub is a no brainer... However the second sub is a little bit of work but it's worth it. Think of yourself as a drug dealer... Dealing a very addictive substance. The first taste is free... Because they'll always want more.Step one: find out what this person does and if he would be able to support your habits.Step two find out his kinksStep 3 have a little fun... Test his obedience by making him do what you want... What you find entertaining then reward him with one of his kinks...Before he gets off... Cums etc... DisappearYou'll know it worked when he comes back for more.Be the domme of his dreams and pretend that you'll do it for free...This is what will make you rare and ensure he comes back... Because where else is he going to find that?String him along until he's proven his obedience... Eventually he'll spend the money you want him to because he's addicted and in his mind you're not a findomme this is a one time thing.But... Its not

[diaryofamanipulator]

I was talking to a "whale" a few weeks ago. He claimed to be a high profile guy living in Beverly Hills promising $20k plus a month, asked me what kind of car I wanted, etc. All this conversation went on via the site, never offline. I though it was weird him offering so much and we've never met before? The site showed him always "online" and he responded to messages relatively quickly... Idk what to think? Is he legit? If so, how can I reel him back in?

Think of yourself as a commodity. You're something special. Always act as if you have 100 options and he's just 1 of them. Don't be a snob, just don't act desperate. Be confident with what you want and show off your personality. Never beg for someone to come back if he goes cold and doesn't respond, so do you. It seems counter productive but he'll want to know why you're not hanging onto his every word like other girls do. It will make him curious. And it is the nature of a man to act on his curiosity.P.S. if a man is offering so much right away don't say yes to everything no one wants someone who never says no. As far as knowing if he's real or not usually when it comes to these things use your common sense and trust your gut. If it sounds too good to be true it usually is.

[diaryofamanipulator]

The Sub that turned.

          Recently, I met a really amazing sub that was so obedient and charming. He was very dorky and awkward but still attractive, and on top of all of this he is very wealthy and young (only 25). A wealthy sub at 25? How can that be you may ask. Well he is a programmer and he works for dare I say it on this blog AirBnB. You know that website that allows you to rent out your couch to tourists? Yeah... you can credit him and his team mates for that. He really reminds me of Mark Zuckerberg the way he is so factual and awkward and socially inexperienced. Anyhow... things were going great til we hit a bump in the road a week ago. Brace yourself because the story that is about to unfold is like some lifetime movie shit.

        So I met this guy via craigslist per usual and we came to an understanding that this would simply be an online thing for now unless I decided I was comfortable with meeting IRL. In the first week of meeting him and dominating him I got about $800 in gifts and way more than that via paypal. We even had to call paypal because they were inquiring about the amount of money being sent to me and put a hold on my funds. Which was a pretty awkward conversation because of all the messages he wrote when he sent the money. So this kept on for about 3 or so weeks maybe more I’m not sure time sure flies when you’re spending money. Any how one night after we did a teamviewer session my mouse started to glitch and for some reason it just kept scrolling up and down the screen. 

     I chalked this up to my computer getting wet from sitting near an open window when it rained earlier in the week. So, I just left it alone and figured it would be all dried out and the glitch would stop by the next morning. Well, while I was sleeping I left my computer open and I could have sworn I saw the mouse opening tabs and scrolling around in the middle of the night, but I was so tired I figured I was either A. Imagining it or B. dreaming it. But then a few days later my ex messaged me via Skype and we started flirting and being friendly. Very next morning I get a message from “Mark”. 

“So do you have any other subs? Are you single? Who else are you talking to besides me?” I was so confused and a little defensive too. I mean it’s one thing to talk on a cordial level with a sub but how dare you ask your Princess such personal questions! and in an accusatory tone? Oh Heeeelllll NAW! So of course I totally denied seeing anyone else and included that maybe if I was, it was none of his business. His reply: “Maybe it is my business because I don’t want to be serving a Princess who isn’t loyal to me and who would sneak behind my back and talk to other guys.” Now this was very eerie. I literally just spoke to my ex for the first time yesterday so how could he possibly even suspect something was going on. So then I started to ask him why he would ask me that... and he answered the question like a politician (skipping everything I asked and telling me what he wanted to instead). I felt a little guilty so I let it go. 

But later on in the day my gut was telling me that something was up so I pressed him on it. I mean... how the fuck could he have known? He tried to gaslight me and make me feel as if I was paranoid that he would know something because I felt guilty. But sidestepping his Jedi mind tricks I got to the point and told him that if he did not tell me I was done. So finally he gave in and sheepishly sent me a few screenshots of MY SKYPE CHAT WITH MY EX!

....

My heart could have jumped out of my chest it was beating so fast. I was scared, and shocked and angry... and so confused all at once.

How? How... that’s the only word that kept scrolling through my mind. HOW!? To this day I have no clue. But I figured it had something to do with teamviewer and the glitchy mouse and probably some hacking shit. I asked him more about how he got into my Skype and what else he had been getting into and he admitted to looking through my Facebook, my Instagram, Tumblr... pretty much everything.

At this point I just cut him off cold turkey and blocked him from everything possible and cried my eyes out. 

I told you this was like some lifetime movie shit.

Anyway flash forward to this week and I kind of got over it. He apologized and apologized and I realized that blocking him probably wouldn’t stop him from accessing my social media if he really wanted to anyway and besides... we had a good thing going. What I learned from this is NEVER and I do mean NEVER underestimate your benefactor. They may seem harmless and clueless at times but sometimes they can even be smarter and more manipulative than you! 

Happy Sugaring,

-The Manipulator

[diaryofamanipulator]

I’ve started findom as a hobby

For me findom is more relaxing than yoga. I feel so at peace after I’ve dominated a sub and I don’t have to be fake or anything. I’m 100% myself and raw and real and if I want money or gifts I force them to send me money or to buy me things. It feels amazing to be honest. Also I have a sub that I am kind of into. He’s very very smart and in the vanilla world he is a computer programmer/web designer and he’s kind of addicted to my presence. We talk literally everyday even if I’m not using him. If we don’t he feels something is wrong or he’s been a bad sub so I’m punishing him. He’s also very very handsome. I’m really enjoying this. I’m not saying findom is for everyone because it certainly isn’t. However what I am saying is... if you have a dominant side and you get off on having a powerful man serve you and kiss your feet... think about it. It definitely beats having an old man bribe you for affection.

[diaryofamanipulator]

How long were you in the bowl before you got your first SD?

I wasn’t in the bowl at all. I only discovered the bowl after I had my second SD. But if you’re asking how long it took to find my first SD maybe about a week...

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In front of sugar daddy: $1,000 dinner bill *Yawn* In front of Financial Aid Office: I don't even know what $1,000 looks like. *Sobs*

Yung Sugarbb: The different acting we do 

Hahahaha the realness of this post though!

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So body sponsors.... I'm really new to the whole sponsor thing and would love some tips if you could? Like what kind of benefits you offered and other kinds you didn't, and what to look for in an ad website (or examples if you have any?) please and thank you 😁😁😁😁😁😁

First off... you have to know yourself and know what is the best option for you. I was willing to be sexual with the person who was going to sponsor my body are you? It worked out very well for the two of us because I lost about 54lbs and he got to sleep with a very hot and toned young woman. But you have to know your boundaries and limits. Then, decide on what it is that you want and put it out into the world and see who is willing to negotiate with you. That’s basically exactly what I did. I wanted a better body, a trainer and healthy food, but I didn’t want to spend the money. What do you want?

Good luck and happy sugaring,

-The Manipulator

[diaryofamanipulator]

your blog is my favorite and your blog name is the story of my life.

Oh well thank you! Always glad to help! :)

[diaryofamanipulator]

So glad I found your blog! You're hilarious! Love everything you post! Keep on shinnnning! Xx

Thanks Love! 

[diaryofamanipulator]

Hey there. Love your blog. I have two questions. I have a date with a doctor in a few days. We connected on Tinder and it's not specifically a POT date. Do you think it would be possible to get him to be an SD? How would you suggest I do this? Also, have you ever met any potential SDs on Tinder, Okcupid, or similar sites, or do you use SD websites exclusively? Thanks!

I do not use SD websites exclusively no. I like to use Craigslist, Omegle, sometimes chatroulette and most recently Tinder as well. When it comes to a situation such as the one you are in it all depends on how good you are with manipulation. You can easily turn this date into an SD arrangement if you know what you’re doing. Step 1. Make him like you. Be real, be natural be yourself and pretend to be into him. Step 2. Wait for him to show you he’s very very interested in you as well. Step 3. Be the damsel in distress. Ut oh! suddenly you lost your job and rent is due. Or... you have to pay some bill or fix your car and you don’t have the money. Your guy who is very much into you will gladly front you the money if you were convincing enough. ;) 

Good Luck and Happy Sugaring,

-The Manipulator

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Has being an sb ever been dangerous or life threatening for you??

No not really. I’ve been lucky and smart enough to know when something is too good to be true. Also I am very, very careful when selecting potential dates. The number one thing that I learned from one of my guys I call coach is TRUST YOUR GUT. If it seems too good to be true it is. And don’t get caught up in the money. A promise of 1k sounds nice but if it’s a first offer and you don’t know the guy it could be a trap.

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Do you use a fake name/address/location or have you used one in the past? I want to get into sugaring but I want to keep my personal life as far away from it as I can.

Yes I use a fake name, a p.o. box or if that is too much just use a trusted friend’s address, a fake email and a relative location don’t tell you person exactly where you live but maybe one of the surrounding boroughs/cities/towns. These are all safety precautions. Also be sure to remember your name as if it is your own.

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