sunk my funking conk

☆ he/him ☆ 24 ☆ please bind safely ☆

[what-a-bastard]

Accepting identities I don't understand is actually extremely easy because I just go "this isn't about me" and move on with my life unbothered by someone else's identity, it's truly that simple.

[genderqueerdykes]

some info on topical Testosterone (T Gel)

we've gotten quite a few asks on what topical testosterone is like and if it's inferior to injectable T, so i wanted to write up a quick post on it, since i've gotten a lot of asks from people who think it doesn't work/doesn't work as well as injectable testosterone. i have been on topical T since 2019, and have also worked inside of a pharmacy, so I just wanted to provide some insight for curious folks:

it is the same hormone, just in a different method of administration- it isn't weaker or stronger than injectable. some people just respond better to certain routes of administration- topical medications are very bioavailable, as most people's skin is one of the most receptive places on their bodies to medication, next to direct injections. it's a very effective route of administration

your needs will depend on your body and your dose. communicate frequently with your doctor and ask for tests if you are feeling unsatisfied with how testosterone is affecting you, or if you feel like your dose is too low. if topical ends up not working for you, it is okay to switch if need be. some people also switch from injectable after a few years to prevent skin and muscle tissue damage from years and years of injecting.

if your dose is correct, topical T can still stop your periods, and give you the other desired effects of T. some see results from topical faster, some struggle to see results, it really depends on the individual. for many, there are very strong peaks and valleys (ups and downs) in their hormone levels after injections due to the body metabolizing injectable T so quickly- this can cause sudden fluctuations in energy levels, making one feel like they are/causing one to have mental health episodes, and so on. topical T is introduced into your system more gently and can help one avoid these issues, if the dose is correct. this can be avoided with injectable as well, it's just less commonly seen in topical.

in many states in the US, for some reason, injectable testosterone is often automatically covered by insurance for trans HRT, but not topical. if you run into issues at your pharmacy, if they tell you there are "insurance problems", talk to your prescriber about them sending over a prior authorization. these are usually required for topical T, for whatever reason. this is basically a note from your doctor stating why you need it. this should fix the issue if you are struggling to get it covered by insurance.

the strength will depend on your dose, which can be very painlessly adjusted- if you receive a bottle of gel, it will inform of you of how many pumps to take. if you receive small individually dosed packages of gel, you will take so many of those per day or week. when taking injectable testosterone you have to measure your doses yourself which can be difficult for people with hand tremors, low vision, etc.

do not take catch-all advice for administering your topical T once you have it- follow the directions exactly as they are listed on your bottle and in the informational paper/booklet included with the medication. different formulations and types of topical testosterone will need to be applied on certain areas of the body.

make sure you clean the skin before application with soap and warm water, or other products like bacteria killing wipes, alcohol wipes, etc.

the gel is alcohol based. it has a pretty strong rubbing alcohol smell, and can burn the inside of your nose/eyes or potentially overstim, so just try to keep it away from your face if you struggle with issues like that. it absorbs very quickly and doesn't rub off on anything or leave a greasy mess.

cover the skin you applied it to (upper arms/shoulders or abdomen, depending) with a shirt immediately and keep that shirt on for at least 2 hours. you do not want to risk someone else touching the sites you applied it to and getting testosterone on their skin, which can affect their hormone levels, and can also make it so you do not absorb all of the medication

do not shower, swim or spend extended periods of time shirtless for at least 2 hours after applying topical testosterone, to ensure you absorb all of the medication.

i will add more info to this as i think of it. i will also be including a scanned version of the informational paper that came with my topical testosterone, and other information for further reading. take care and remember, all forms of T are worth considering and are good. testosterone HRT is rad.

[wisdomsavingthrow]

friendly reminder since we’re less than a month from release that if I see anyone posting about the Hogwarts Blood Libel video game I’m blocking you on sight

[socialistexan]

I never want to hear another cis person talk shit about trans healthcare ever fucking again.

[socialistexan]

How many letters from a psychiatrist did this man need?

How many years did he have to live as his desired height (on stilts) before he would even have been considered?

What was his mandatory wait time on top of that to make sure he "really wanted it"? How many asked him if it was reversable just in case he changed in his mind?

How many right-wing weirdos are threatening to fire bomb the hospital that it was rumored on mumsnet maybe did a procedure like that one time?

How many people have centered their personality (Height Criticals) around hating him and organize online mobs to bully and harass him?

[socialistexan]

A lot of people in the notes seem to be really missing my point (intentionally or not)

I'm not upset this surgery exists. The amount of fucks I give specifically about this surgery is less than a drop of piss in a hurricane. If anyone (cis, trans, nb, whoever) wants that surgery, great. I support you and honestly believe it should be free as should all healthcare.

What I care about is that he was able to get this surgery without having to deal with *any* of the bullshit that trans people do to get even considered to maybe be put on a list to be reviewed to get a referral to go before panel who will decide if they can begin to think about possibly beginning the mandatory wait period after extensive review (and at least 3 psychological evals in which one of the docs is from a specific part of Minnesota)

That's my issue.

Watch how quickly this surgery would be targeted for bans if even a single trans man thought about getting it. Think of quickly those gatekeeping "guardrails" will go up around this surgery. It would give you whiplash how quickly right-wing grifters will latch onto this and make it the next thing to use against trans people.

[gremlinbearn]

My biggest takeaway for top surgery recovery these first 72 hours is to lean hard into health, hygiene, and mobility aids if you need or like them. If you use them before surgery, prepare to rely on them a lot after. If you've ever had a passing thought about an aid or are on the fence about one, get it before the surgery. Trust me.

Take your cane or rollator or other mobility aid to the hospital with you. Get that pillow wedge.

Get a squatty potty toilet stool for bowel movements. Talk to your doctors and nurses about taking a long-acting laxative the day before to make the night after surgery easier.

Get a toilet paper wand or some tongs to wipe yourself with. Be prepared to not feel very clean down there for the first 24 hours.

Get a bed urinal or diapers if you have to get up a lot at night normally and it takes awhile to reposition to get back to bed. Sometimes the hassle of getting up and down is just not worth it.

Talk to your surgeon and doctor if you have chronic pain or illness so that they can help you get on a medication plan, because "breakthrough pain" is incredibly hard to define if you're used to operating at high pain levels or have a flare-up, and the 0-10 scale is useless. My surgeon giving me a daily schedule of low-dose meds is far more helpful than trying to determine what level of pain I'm supposed to be looking for.

Take your inhaler with you and/or tell every single healthcare person on your surgery team if you've ever felt out of breath while moving around, or have any asthma even if just exercise-induced. My anesthesiologist had to use mine on me while I was under.

Get back scratchers, long-arm grabbing tools, face and body wipes, water bottles with straws, the usual things people recommend for this. But don't forget the "grimy" aids either. Really sit with yourself and make a list of anything you've thought could make your life even a little easier, and consider getting it first.

[cow-fights-gender]

Howdy partner! I'm a crossdresser. Can I still bind my chest?

no clue when this was sent and if its even still relevant to u, but for sure!

most important thing is making sure ur doing it safely but if its something u want to wear and feel comfortable wearing, wear it!

if it turns out ur not a fan, stop using it!

[cow-fights-gender]

another thing abt my neice is that she recently has been Very Strictly distinguishing that there are some things that are for Big Girls and that is clearly not me

[cow-fights-gender]

theres a lot to catch up on but i got a niece shes two and the other day she kept calling me a "good boy"

[cow-fights-gender]

just like to start off this re-entering with

fuck off t🤨rfs, transm🤓ds, whatever tf

ur gender is ur own do Not come here w "u cant/have to do this otherwise ur not really trans" bs

your mom and whatnot

that being said if ur like a normal human being who stays in their own lane, slay ✨️

[cow-fights-gender]

been ages since i posted here but might post random shit again bc why not

tonights post is i feel like im pretty smelly rn with no hormones, u think ill get more or less smelly on testosterone

[hjartasalt]

Actually I wasn't born in the wrong body I was just born in my body and then it was up to me to decide what I want to do with that

[fallacious-faggot]

A fucking men

[sunfloodme]

exactly. im going to be a fucking men

[euphoria-kingdom]

I thought I'd post this here, since the drama with jk rowling is so depressing and hurtful. Just some light from people that actually matter lol

[nothorses]

Creating space for transmascs in the community requires more than just paying lipservice to the fact that trans men are men. We need a concrete shift in the way we think and talk about pretty predominant issues, and we need work both on the end of transmascs- to dismantle harmful patterns and ideas from within our own communities- and on the side of queer activists and feminists who aren’t transmascs.

An incomplete list of what ideas I personally have come to believe we need to normalize:

The patriarchy does not exist to benefit trans men

There is no such thing as “trans male privilege”

Trans men do not have meaningful systemic access to male privilege

Male privilege was created to benefit cis men in particular

The patriarchy punishes any deviance from gender roles and the gender binary- included by all trans and nonbinary people, along with with gender non-conforming cis people.

Transphobia comes, in part, from the patriarchy’s view of us as “deviating from gender roles”. 

Transphobia impacts all trans people.

Trans men are not seen by society as a whole, or on a systemic level, as men

Transmascs can and do still experience misogyny.

Misogyny as a system is built to include transmascs in the oppression of women.

That does not make us women- and as trans people, we additionally experience transphobia.

Trans men are not “socialized male”, we are “socialized” as trans men

Trans men should not be categorized as “women” regardless of overlap in experience

Trans men should be categorized as a marginalized gender

Spaces intended for all marginalized genders should include trans men- ideally using the words “marginalized genders” rather than “everyone but cis men”, as the latter diminishes the fact that we are also men.

Trans men’s experiences should not be compared to trans women’s in order to judge who has it better or worse.

Transfemme’s voices are necessary in advancing trans activism

Transmascs and transfemmes are not fundamentally at odds with each other. We’re allies. We’re going through many of the same struggles for the same reasons. We need solidarity.

Nonbinary voices are just as necessary, and need just as much support as transfemme and transmasc voices.

All of our experiences are different in as many ways as they’re the same. Those differences need to be spoken about and given attention.

I’m sure there’s more, but in the very, very short time I’ve been thinking and talking about this with other folks, these are the things I’ve noticed need changing. I’m sure this list will change if the community continues to think & talk about it.

[schizm-deactivated]

this is what being online does to your brain

[lesbx]

say it with me everyone: the trans experience is not inherently based on suffering and it’s not a competition where only the people that have suffered the most are “really” trans. i understand the pain of not having gotten the care or the support from family when u needed it, but what kind of world do you live in where you would wish that same harm on trans kids and think if they do have love and support they’re not a part of the community. you are misdirecting your anger at people that are just as vulnerable to bigotry from the world instead of the people actually perpetuating the issues that make trans people suffer in the first place

[sleepydebris]

shout out to my he/theys and she/theys!!! all my homies love he/theys and she/theys

[interactyouth]

If you missed Intersex Awareness Day yesterday, don’t worry! You can still share this phenomenal infographic made by our youth advocate @hannlindahl! Thank you so much for all the work you do for the intersex community, Hann! We are so proud of you!

[honeylovesapphic]

just a reminder that “being gay isn’t a personality trait” is just an evolved form of “i don’t care if you’re gay i just don’t want to see it”. no gay man thinks it’s their only personality trait, no lesbian thinks it’s their only personality trait, no trans person thinks it’s their only personality trait. you’re just annoyed by someone embracing a large part of themselves and being comfortable in their body and in a community of people like them.

[honeylovesapphic]

ok i’m going to make a more in depth response to this bc it unexpectedly blew up but i’m seeing a lot of responses and tags about babygays and i need y’all to understand something real quick. y’all need to realize that babygays being obnoxious is literally not harming anybody and we all know it’s a phase they’ll eventually grow out of; it’s really not that deep i promise you. cishet boys and girls can go through phases in their pre and early teens of being “boy/girl crazy” or being obsessed with performing their gender the way they want but when lgbt kids do it then or even a little bit later y’all suddenly have a problem with it. these are just kids, don’t come at them with your own internalized phobias.