Glittery Dumbass

Ace/Aro Safe Space, he/him, 31yrs old, spoonie,nonbinary trans man, gay , episcopalian, deconstructing christian, No TERFS, TWERFS, Gender Critical Feminists, or REGS of any kind

[crowslunasidhe]

One problem of being someone who makes rosaries as a hobby is that you eventually accumulate more rosaries than is reasonable for you to actually keep.

I make rosaries. I cannot sell them because I am on SSI for my disabilities. Selling them would mess that up.

So I normally give them away. I have considered maybe offering to ship them to folks in the US who may need one who otherwise couldn't afford a rosary.

I started making them for the very purpose that I couldn't afford a nice rosary made by someone else. So I took to making my own.

So if any of y'all need one. Please just let me know. I'd be happy to send one out. I can't do custom work due to limited supplies, so it's only going to be what i can make with what i have. But it would make me happy to see them go to someone who needs them.

Here's some examples of the rosaries that I make.

[snorlaxatives]

happy annoy squidward day

[nerdyteaparty]

[chchchcheckitouttt]

Actually, Annoy Squidward Day is January 15th. Although the calendar doesn’t have the month written on it, if you continue to watch the episode, they’re competing for January’s Employee of the Month.

[oddmoderator]

I’ve been waiting all year to reblog this

[decompose1]

neovaginas can get wet naturally

a neophallus can get erect with an implant (this will either be a bendable rod or a device that inflates with saline at the press of a button, usually in the testicles)

both can feel sexual pleasure and experience orgasm

most neovaginas will be able to tolerate larger insertions with enough dilating/training

the nerves in neophalluses take a while to regrow but it is incredibly rare to experience no sexual nerve growth

both can look and feel "normal" if that's what you want, just take good care of your scars and look at your surgeons' results portfolio (and don't be afraid to be picky! its your genitals, you get to decide!)

in fact it's possible for many people to stealth and for their sexual partners to never know. even for phallo, some people with natal penises have erectile implants too, ED is common. neocaginas are often indistinguishable from natal vaginas

many surgeons are starting to offer preservation options for patients who want a more mixed look/don't want to lose what they have

YOU HAVE OPTIONS! demystify bottom surgery

[despoinanyx]

How long before we start seeing cases like these for just being queer? Do we have to get to that stage for people to start to mobilize against this loudly? We can't let the fight against internet censorship and puritan outrage against NSFW content be another controlled narrative by the right wing grifters.

[itsabear]

it's probably already happening to queer creators but also that it's happening to porn creators is enough already. This is already way too far.

[genderkoolaid]

the problem with the idea that we can bully cis men out of toxic masculinity is that toxic masculinity is fundamentally about bullying people seen as men into "proper" behavior. the patriarchy is absolutely in love with casual cruelty and shame as a way of modifying behavior. and whenever i see people trying to use toxic masculinity tactics but for feminist aims it makes me want to bite the walls. oh wow you are telling depressed boys that if they feel bad about themselves its all their fault for being a whiny bitch? are you also selling a $200 get rich quick scheme and sawdust supplements by any chance

[genderkoolaid]

I wrote this explanation for someone in the notes but I want to add it here:

i am saying that toxic masculinity functions through targeted and casual cruelty, especially in group settings, to coerce people seen as men into certain patriarchy-approved behavior. this shows up, for example, in the idea that men need to be tough, not emotional, rational, extremely capitalist, appropriately sexual. there is an idea that there is such a thing as “real men" and “fake men" and being a “fake man" is embarrassing, a moral failure, and a social death. my point is that people often use these ideas for feminist goals. for example, people who mock misogynistic men by saying they have small dicks and can't get laid and are lazy freeloaders. this is a case in which feminists are agreeing with the patriarchy: there ARE real men and fake men, it IS embarrassing and bad to be a fake man, and your manhood IS defined based on whether or not you are appropriately sexual and successful in capitalism. now, people don't always INTEND to agree with these ideas, but if it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck, we might as well call it a duck. audre lorde famously said that “the master's house will never dismantle with the master's tools." by continuing to engage in toxic masculinity, feminists forgo our own ability to critique toxic masculinity and root out patriarchal ideas in our minds and systems. it also means that we fail to provide a meaningful alternative vision of gender to men, which is not beneficial to us in the slightest since inter-gender solidarity is vital for not just feminist goals but ALL liberation.

as @killeronmain said, “This is not about how people react to what you do, it's about what you're actually doing." I am also specifically talking about feminism as a form of social activism, not just Being A Woman. not all women are feminists and not all feminists are women, and identifying is (to me) about taking on the RESPONSIBILITY of advocating for gender liberation. Feminists are not bullying cis men by holding them accountable or critiquing their behavior as individuals or as a class. But when we DO engage in toxic masculinity style bullying, that is bad and unhelpful. I think part of the problem is that pop feminism is structured as such that it's less about theory or organization as it is a general vibe people adopt, and so there's a lot of stuff online that is vaguely feminist but also has the plausible deniability of being “just someone talking" so that way we cannot actually critique how certain trends are detrimental to feminist action.

it IS against the dominant narrative to reject toxic masculinity. rejecting toxic masculinity is not just “being nice to men," it's part of questioning and resisting the way patriarchy orders us to engage with gender and people in gendered ways. toxic masculinity isn't just a problem of cis men, we are ALL taught to engage in it just like we are ALL taught to engage in various misogynistic tools. we can be angry and critical of men AND refuse to engage with toxic masculinity when we are. feminists need ways of harnessing the frustration and pain of cis men into anti-patriarchal action. like it or not, feminism is the strongest anti-patriarchal force right now, so we need to be the ones being loud as fuck about how much we reject ALLLLL of toxic masculinity, not just the parts that affect women. even if there was a revival of the men's liberation movement, it would still need to be deeply intertwined with feminism and, again, we should not be using the master's tools. im not saying this to say we should beg chads and incels to care about women against their will; we need consciousness raising for cis men and i want a world in which young cis boys has a sense even just vaguely that feminism is For Them, and that they should be personally invested in resisting the patriarchy and the liberation of women and trans people. we need to model that another world where there is no such thing as a “fake man" is possible and already being formed. it is not every feminist’s obligation to focus their efforts on men's liberation, but it is every feminist's responsibility to not utilize patriarchal tools like toxic masculinity.

[genderkoolaid]

we need more stories about high femme prom queen types who become weird faggy guys. you haven't seen Behaviors until you've seen a repressed closeted tboy holding on to socially acceptable heterosexual femininity by the skin of his teeth

[thatflutefaggot456]

Me before I came out, when I did pageants and modeling.

Me after I came out, cut off my hair, bought comfortable clothes, and decided to actually wear my glasses because fuck contacts.

[crematedequally]

This was me the day of my junior prom. The dress weighed around 20 lbs, was the first one I tried on, and my makeup was done by someone who still thought brown lip liner looked good on white people. I spent the entire day being photographed and generally hating how I looked and wishing I could figure out why, when everything was technically perfect.

And this was me about eleven years later- two weeks after I started T in the first photo, and at around 5 months on T in the second. Much happier, married to the love of my life, and finally looking like myself!

[sampersander]

Me before coming out, very much trying a lot of styles bc nothing felt right and I couldn't figure out why

Me now, happy father and husband. Honestly do not blame people for not recognizing me anymore lol

[crowslunasidhe]

Me when I was still in heavy denial of my transmasculinity. Overperforming femininity as a form of armor.

Me now.

[movementnudge]

Movement nudge!

Source

[wizard-council-bureaucrat]

How to appease the wrathful bone snake in an old wizard accessible way

[evilkaito]

i dont think whites understand how being white makes literally everything easier.

it effects everything.

being trans is easier when youre white.

being gay is easier when youre white.

being disabled is easier when youre white.

being a woman is easier when youre white.

being autistic is easier when youre white.

oppression is eased when you are white, as you get extra privileges, and your whiteness is seen as a positive characteristic that in some ways counter-balances your other forms of being a minority. whiteness controls everything.

you are automatically way more innocent in your own oppression as a gay, trans, disabled person because of your whiteness.

never forget this.

[raccoon-piss]

three things:

1. it’s true

2. white people get pissed when i bring this up/wear this shirt

3. the comments to this thread melted my fucking eyeballs seriously why the fuck are y’all like this

[lady-hibiscus]

white people you don’t need to say you’re white when you reblog this btw. you don’t even need to mention it btw

[prokopetz]

In a recent conversation, I had remarked that the reason for those "no animals were harmed in the making of this film" disclaimers isn't to avoid pissing off PETA, but rather, that back in the day, if filmmakers wanted to depict a horse falling off a cliff, they'd achieve it by actually chucking a horse off a cliff. Later, I got to wondering what the real inciting incident for the Humane Society getting involved in filmmaking was, so I looked it up, and apparently it really was a film where the producers chucked a horse off a cliff. I genuinely thought I was exaggerating for effect.

[depsidase]

[starqueensterlexa]

If you have ever known anyone with a kink for being hit, or beat up, or raped and you're okay with them, you also gotta be okay with the people who's kink it is to do the hitting, the beating, or the raping. At the end of the day, we're adults playing pretend, and that's it.

[starqueensterlexa]

With every single sub i have the first thing we ever do is establish the safe word (stoplight system), and the non-verbal safe word in case they can't talk for any reason. If I can't tell where the sub is at, I will ask them point blank what is their color, and if they can't give a response, we stop. The goal is to make the other person feel good, including pain, and the most important part us knowing your subs limits and LISTENING to them. I will *never* hurt a sub in a way that they have not explicitly expresssed interest in.

[steve-likes-robots]

Makes sense to me. The “getting hit” kink requires a “hitting” kink. It’s like Transformers. Megatron can’t exist without Optimus Prime.

[starqueensterlexa]

yes Steve, its exactly like Megatron and Optimus Prime from Transformers

[rohie-deactivated20191102]

“Years ago a friend of mine had a dream about a strange invention; a staircase you could descend deep underground, in which you heard recordings of all the things anyone had ever said about you, both good and bad. The catch was, you had to pass through all the worst things people had said before you could get to the highest compliments at the very bottom. There is no way I would ever make it more than two and a half steps down such a staircase, but I understand its terrible logic: if we want the rewards of being loved we have to submit to the mortifying ordeal of being known.”

— I Know What You Think of Me, Tim Kreider for the New York Times

[owlmylove]

after YEARS of seeing this quote online and finding it to be the most deeply and resoundingly profound writing i finally found the source article and absolutely nothing could prepare me for this opening paragraph

[bi-icon]

Okay but the whole article is really interesting and also contains this quote which I’ve never heard before but really like:

“Anyone worth knowing is inevitably also going to be exasperating”

[scramratz]

TERFs are weirdly obsessed with trans men having incontinence. I've been studying TERFS for like a year, and in the off chance they mention trans men, they always bring up the fact that testosterone MIGHT cause incontinence. Its weird and borderline fetishistic

[scramratz]

Oh yea TERFs fetishize trans men to an absurd degree. They’ll say shit that if a man said it, he would rightfully be ostracized. They’ll drone on and on about the fertility of young girls. Lament over the “lost beauty” of trans men once they start growing facial hair or balding. God forbid you get top surgery! They love to use the term “healthy breasts”. The “healthy breasts” of minors is a big concern for TERFS. it’s so fucking creepy.

TERFs aren’t feminists. Not only are they not feminists, they’re sexists and this may be an unpopular statement but I’d consider them sexual predators as well.

[ampervadasz]

[drtanner]

Love that you can see the exact moment that Enlightenment™ occurs for this little dude. Good job, you did it.

[r4cs0]

Right there

[thetursithan]

A nice surprise...

[redwooding]

Normally, you should NOT do this at a wedding.

However, when you get the bride on your side, it's a different story.

[xxziggystardust]

[dnotive]

HEY. HOW DID YOU GET SO BIG.

WHAT KIND OF DOG ARE YOU.

I HAVE QUESTIONS FOR YOU.

[krisiverse]

[video description: a Dalmatian following a horse that is white with black spots. end description.]

[weaselle]

this is, btw, probably extremely fulfilling for this dog.

Dalmatians were supposed to be hunting dogs at the founding of the breed, but what they mostly became bred and used for was carriage dogs.

A carriage dog is a dog whose job it is to run alongside a horse and carriage and prevent anyone from interfering with it. They were excellent carriage security. Nobody could reach up and grab the horses reins, nobody could try to open the carriage door - you could even park with peace of mind

This is also how they became known as firehouse dogs, because fire trucks used to look like this

and i imagine having a carriage dog was very useful to prevent even well-meaning members of the public from doing anything stupid to the equipment or horses while you fought a fire.

So the dog in the video is probably feeling very Job Well Done about his activity

[dragongirlteeth]

Dragongirl kidnaps a maid instead of a princess by mistake; comes back to her lair after a hunt to find the coins and gems in her hoard have been organized into neat piles sorted by type, value, and kingdom of origin.

[anormaladn]

Her princess is a little special but she'll keep her around.

[dragongirlteeth]

WHUH??? THIS IS SO CUTE???

[fractoluminescence]

Does it say something about me that rather than being rescued my fantasy is to be unexpectedly found to be useful :')