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toxicspikes

wild how the greatest story ever told was written by a woman

toxicspikes

i am, of course, referring to fullmetal alchemist

#this is the truth #fullmetal alchemist

aximili

shoutouts to violet and klaus baudelaire for managing to keep their baby sister looking fresh as fuck in new cute lil outfits every day despite everything they go through

#tru #asoue #a series of unfortunate events #sunny baudelaire

oh-totoro

R.I.P. Isao Takahata 1935 - 2018

#isao takahata #studio ghibli

mcavoy

If I told you about her, the princess without voice, what would I say?

The Shape of Water dir. Guillermo del Toro

#this film is so beautiful #the shape of water #film

tatinotchatty

Reblog if you like your therapist

like, I’ve seen to much hate on therapists and therapy now. I can’t be the only one that likes my therapist

#not in therapy anymore but yeah #i miss my therapist she was the best

thepuppyclub

how insidious to make young girls buy hundreds of dollars worth of makeup, to force them to read up on its theory, to make them practice it for hours in order to escape mockery, to make them feel safe only when performing this hyper femininity, and then to even have the audacity to package it in feminist language so that they firmly believe it sets them free.

thisusedtoberum-deactivated2017

who called you out on your sloppy wings

thepuppyclub

I know you probably think you’re really witty, but I just want you to know that you, and all the other people who made that joke, prove my point exactly.

#the truth #feminism

grassprint-deactivated20240101

if anakin and padme had raised the twins

#yes! omg #star wars

honeybottledrip

i want to protect every young girl in the world being wrongly sexualized and forced to grow up way too fast

sespursongles-deactivated201906

The 13-year-old girl from Stranger Things:

Her 15-year-old male costar:

blackswallowtailbutterfly

JFC why can’t they leave that poor girl alone???

naomielizabeth96

What’s sexual about this? @sespursongles

cecaeliawitch

Gee i dunno, maybe the way they had her spread her legs and make an o-face???

bitter-badfem-harpy

She has to pose, he gets to play

theradicalresistance

Asking “what’s sexual about this” is almost insidous. Sure, she’s not naked and she’s not performing any sexual acts, but that’s not what sexualization necessarily means. The girl-child is looking longinly, languishingly into the camera. She has her legs in a short dress spread, her lips separated, and very much make-up making her look older. She is passive, for the camera/viewer, while the boy is active, joking, playing, relaxed and as a child, respected as a child. I’m sure someone might say, “but that’s you sexualizing her, with your gaze” but come on, who are we kidding here? We know the industry sexualizes young girls, we know this isn’t a coinscidence. We know this is the pattern, the model for woman according to the male gaze or woman performing for the male gaze, and we know she is 13 and that everyone knows she is. And we know this destroys girls.

martymartinloki

THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS

#feminism #millie bobby brown #this makes me so sad :(

vahshu

*・° ☆ Studio Ghibli : C o n c e p t A r t ☆ °・*

#studio ghibli #films #anime

niambi

I’m????

alarajrogers

Oh my God this actually explains so much.

So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem.

So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company.

So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not.

This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner.

So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodity… because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists.

The only way to fix this is to teach boys it’s okay to love your friends. It’s okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It’s okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolved… so men, this one’s on you. Women can’t fix this for you; you don’t listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers.

dollbeshop

The next time a guy says, “What? You don't want to be my friend?” I’ll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potential girlfriend.