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How are you all going with the pandemic?

Can you tell us what's been happening with your love life?

Omg ok so, I spent about 6 months (as in March - Sept 2019) really working on my self-worth and self-esteem and trying to be kinder to myself after a terrible relationship. I didn’t go on any dates, didn’t have any crushes, I was just me and it was wonderful. I re-downloaded tinder (yes ya gurl uses tinder - no judgement we all have needs) and met someone amazing. He is from a different state but is travelling around Australia in his car - incredible, right! While he was in Melbourne we literally hung about every day for 1.5 months and went on so many dates - I felt like I’d known him forever. After a month he left to go to Tasmania, and I cried and we hugged for a LONG time. He came back early cos he was ‘bored’ but I think it was low-key because he missed me. And he stayed with me for a week before he began his leg to South Australia (ya’ll might need to whip out a map of Australia if you ain’t from here and don’t know your geography). It’s been just about 4 months since I saw him last and we talk every day. I am flying over to Western Australia to meet up with him and travel for a while, LITERALLY. I’m very exciting what’s to come from this and to where it goes. I am also nervous about how we’ll make things work because long distance is actually the definition of horrible and he’s from another state. I hope to clarify some things when I see him next just about what we are even doing - like we’re together and you guys know how paranoid girls get without the clarity of ‘what are we’ - I guess we never really spoke about it, we just were together. But I’m very excited to tell you I’m VERY HAPPY :D I’m falling for him big time. And I’m pretty sure he’s the same.

If you follow my instagram you’ll be able to follow our journey lmao x

There’s a boy who I’ve known for 4 years and I’ve had a growing crush the whole time. He thinks I’m a lesbian though because I’ve dated other people in that time period, all of them girls (I’m pan. He’s pan). We’re best friends and. I am. So in love w/ him. I know he cares about me a bunch and I don’t wanna bottle my feelings up, but I don’t wanna fuck up our (hella awesome) friendship. Any suggestions? (^^;)

Ah yes, I am quite familiar with this scenario and I myself lost a hella awesome friendship because of my feelings. But in saying that, you’ve gotta take the risk. Yes I lost that friendship but it also led me to where I am today and I've met someone amazing. You might even stay friends. What im trying to say after all this is to risk it and the universe will do the rest, no matter which way it goes.

Hey so today when I went to my crush Spotify playlist she had a playlist called pop icon and I saw that she had a song called brown eyes by lady Gaga and I thought that song was because of me cause I have brown eyes lol but I don’t think she thinks of me because I haven’t seen her in a long time. I guess she just likes the song. I’m just stupid to think that song is because of me.

It’s not stupid but also a lot of people have brown eyes. I have brown eyes.

You just miss her, that’s all xx

I need your help. I am 20 and I work at a doggy day care. I have developed a crush on this guy that brings his dog in everyday. The only thing is that he is 36. I know there probably isn’t a chance, but I don’t know what to do or how to carry on. What do I do?

I guess firstly try to figure out if its just a crush, crushes come and go literally all the freakin time. Second, suss if he has someone else in the picture. And if all above goes well maybe ask him out to coffee or something - if you get rejected you get rejected, it’ll suck but then you can move on. Look at what could happen - you, him and the dog at a cafe! Goodluck! xx

So I’m a (sophomore) section leader at band camp and I just met the sweetest freshman ever. I think I’m starting to have feelings for him and I think he likes me back too (we both keep flirting w/ each other) but I’m a little conflicted. Is it weird for me to like him when I’m soph and he’s a freshman? Ik its just one year but I’m scared people will judge me for liking him. Send help lmao - a confused gal with too many feelings

The only judgement you should be concerned with is your own! If you like him and the age difference doesn’t bother you, go for it! Personally, age difference doesn’t really bother me. BIG LOVE xoxo

There's this guy I really like and the only problem is we already dated and mutually broke up. The thing is now it's not so mutual and I don't know what to do. I don't want to make a huge for out of myself but, gods, I miss him.

I feel for you girl. But you guys broke up for a reason, even if it wasn’t mutual. Of course you guys are still going to have feelings for each other - that’s what makes breaking up so hard! But you can’t force anything and the truth is, he just doesn’t feel the same anymore. Take some time for yourself to mend that heart and pick yourself up girl, you do you for a while xxx

Advice?

Okay so I have a huge fat crush on this dude who’s in two of my classes and we often make eye contact so many times- but I want to talk to him and I don’t know how or what to talk to him about. I get nervous if he’s around other people because I too afraid to talk to him at those times.

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This is where the beauty of social media/texting comes into play - sending him a message on here before talking to him in person may ease your nerves and make it a bit less of a surprise. Use it to your advantage and have some confidence! BIG LOVE xoxo

#submission

There's this guy who i liked for 4 years, he knew through his friend who told him about my feelings. Nothing happened, we never interacted and I really want to talk to him but he has no interest in me. and now we are in the 12 grade and I messaged him online and told him my side of the story to clear up some misunderstandings. After that, it was just limited interactions such as avoiding contact etc. I want to talk but i dont want to seem like I'm desperate by randomly messaging him. Help me.

If he’s not interested, he’s not. And we don’t want to force a relationship now, do we? The thing is, not everyone is going to like you the same way you like them! It absolutely sucks, but that’s just how it goes sometimes unfortunately. My advice is to try and move on! xxx

Hey, so I was looking for decent advice blog and yours seem nice and cute. So my advice. I have this friend, were not really close but she told me about a boy in our class she has a crush on, i never really noticed him in class till she mentioned him. So the first time I saw him properly, we made intense eye contact, movie type shit. And then during a seminar I noticed him looking my way few times. Now I'm all like oh fuck he's super cute. Am I wrong to feel this way? Should I stop. Readers ???

You’re not doing anything I wouldn’t do - the way I see it, if he’s not dating anyone, and if your ‘friend’ isn’t actively pursing/flirting with him, GET IN THERE. BIG LOVE. xoxo

I have to go to bed my lovelies, but leave some q’s for me - see you in the morning xoxo

Heyy, so I have a huge crush on a guy i don't know why. We only see another on Tuesday and Thursday afternoons at college. I was the one to add him on insta and I'm the one starting convos online, he always replays after hours. I did noticed him staring at me in the beginning but not anymore. Before I had a crush on him I always got a gut feeling that he wanted to talk to me and I still get that feeling now. Btw were both shy. Does he hat me? What should I do?

I don't think he hates you at all. You shy guys and girls make simple things difficult sometimes! (lol who am I to talk thats so me)

I think you should approach him in person - and I know that seems TERRIFYING. But then, you’ll know for sure, how he’s feeling about you :) I hope this helps, GO GIRL YOUVE GOT THIS. BIG LOVE xoxo

I approached my crush first and he ended up asking me for my number an texting me like an hour later and he was asking me lots of questions and stuff about my life and how school is and stuff... but now when we text it’s always me initiating the conversation and he texts kinda dry and always is “busy” when I ask him to hang out, then in person he is really fidgety and nervous, but laughs at practically everything I say and his eyes get wide and stuff... I’m rly confused please help :(

I don’t think he feels the same way as you do - which sucks because he kinda lead you on - maybe after asking you about life and stuff, he thinks you guys just don’t fit right and that’s okay, there’ll be other guys and other conversations. BIG LOVE xoxo

Are you ever sitting across the bus aisle from your crush, and they're talking about how they're the only one in their friend group who doesn't have a chance with anyone and your trying reallyyyy hard to not make any sort of facial expressions that would show that you're listening?? Yeah, me either

yeah, me either

-but not super strong they’re still there tho I look at him in class and the few interactions we’ve had I felt like we could still be friends and chill like before but I haven’t taken the opportunity to start a conversation or anything again and I’ve noticed he has a “thing” idk what it is but he’s taking to another girl rn and I still think about him al the time and just want to be friends like we were before but idk what to do :/

I honestly think it would be better off to move on! I know that’s not what you wanted to hear from me! It feels as though you’re kinda clutching at straws - i.e. holding onto or trying to improve a difficult or unsatisfactory situation, even if it has little chance of success. I know you want to ‘be friends’ but I still get the sense of ore intimate feelings present. I hoped this helped and doesn’t make you hate me! BIG LOVE xoxo

Hii so there’s this guy in my grade and we had a class together last year and we became friends like talked in class and snapped back and forth for a bit and this was close to the end of the year so we didn’t get close but I started liking him and we had a few convos over the summer but nothing special and he has a rep for having talked to a lot of girls like that but he’s so sweet and we have another class together this year and we talked once and everyday I still look at him and have feelings-

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Hi. So i have a problem. I'm a senior in high school (18/F) and he's a freshman (15/M). Is it okay for me to like him? I feel like it's wrong of me. We met at a family gathering and he is a relative of some cousin girlfriend and we ended up talking all night and we are similar to one another. I'm really torn. I really want to get to know him, but the three year difference is kind of bothering me. Anyone has any advice? -Nina

Hey Nina! I TOTALLY understand this on another level. At the same age I had this thing with a 15yo boy at school and we flirt but nothing eventuated. I guess it depends on what you are looking for. Personally, the age difference doesn’t bother me, its more the stages of life you are at. He’s probably less mature and is still stressing about math homework and you are also graduated with so many life choices ahead of you in the next few years. It’s just a lot to consider! Also, to deal with what other people think too. But it honestly, is all about what you think about it! If you aren’t comfortable with the age difference, things won’t work out! BIG LOVE oxoxo

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