[nyasm]

[killcupidos-deactivated20260510]

possessive femmes. femmes that marks you up. loud femmes. jealous femmes. thick femmes. i love all femmes!

[birdbyt3]

im bored i need to annoy somebody into pinning me to a wall

[prettyinfloral]

yes sir

[honeyluvsw]

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[cherrysky-femme]

i’ve been thinking about that clip going around lesbian twitter with the group of mascs and the older butch and also a tweet i saw from a “femme” asking if other femmes would get jealous seeing their butch being gentle or chivalrous towards other women.

maybe i’m not the most academic lesbian and i’m not adding anything new to the conversation, but it made me pause. at first i thought it was just a younger sapphic thing, but seeing older mascs agree with it made me realize it’s something deeper.

i think we keep misunderstanding terms. either we strip labels of all meaning so anyone can fit into them or we fall back into stereotypes thinking we’re honoring our history.

butch and stud identities get reduced to aesthetics all the time, when they’re more than that. not every masc lesbian is butch or stud and that’s fine. and being masculine doesn’t mean you can’t be soft sometimes. the problem is this idea that deep down every woman or afab person is feminine, when that’s just not true. you can be a woman and be masculine without needing to soften it and you can present yourself in a masculine way without having to call yourself butch or stud.

in my opinion, this all ties into how we think about care. when a butch is gentle, attentive or chivalrous, that’s part of their butchness. wanting care, love or affection in whatever way they're comfortable with doesn’t make them “feminine” and it doesn’t take away from what makes them butch.

and if care is part of butch/femme dynamics, then it’s also worth remembering that directing that care towards others who aren’t our partners or interests shouldn’t feel threatening. if anything, it should be a green flag. we should want more of that between us. we really need to stop treating kindness like it only belongs inside attraction. this goes to those fems who preach being girl's girls and call themselves femmes just to act like the opposite of everything these things imply.

wanting affection, care or to be taken care isn't feminine or something that should be kept only for those you want and desire. they’re just things that should be granted in a community. and part of that care is understanding that being yourself doesn’t mean taking from others identities or labels. learning, listening and undertanding is also a form of care.

idk, maybe i’m wrong, but this is something i keep coming back to.

[crystalfemne]

i met so many butches and so many femmes lately and I'm so happy about it I love my community I love being a lesbian I love having lesbian friends I love being with people who truly understand me

[sp1tjar]

white shirts with a visible bra are so chic to me

[crystalfemne]

making friends on tumblr is so funny because one minute they're here and the next they're not like omg babe where did you go

[crystalfemne]

[prettyinfloral]

i love possessive butches so much

butches who buy you a necklace with their initial on it, butches who leave hickeys all over your neck and refuse to let you cover them up, butches who have to hold onto you while out in public so everybody can see that you’re theirs, butches who aren’t afraid to give a nasty look to somebody who’s been eyeing you a bit too much for their liking, butches who-

[infinityberry-deactivated202603]

okay fuck i like height difference okay? I like it when im on tip toes but i still cant reach your cheek to kiss you(⁠-⁠_⁠-⁠;⁠)⁠・⁠・⁠・

[powderfemme-deactivated20260401]

a lover that’s like a puppy. big and strong and heavy yet insistent on being a lapdog. nudging between my legs and curling up on my chest, completely unaware of how they’re simultaneously smothering me and drooling everywhere. a lover that bares their teeth when they see me interact with anyone else. protective and scary. soft only for me. send tweet 🫶

[blackfemmediary]

i absolutely adore a nerdy awkward butch.. oh my god especially when they’re bad at flirting

[rotjobbly]

most romantic thing I've seen is butchfemme couples with perfumes that compliment each other's. like oh my god yes please tell me about how you smell like a princess and your butch smells like a knight who slays dragons. that's so fucking sweet.

[powderfemme-deactivated20260401]

“i want a mean femme” “i want a bossy femme” happy for you!!!!!! but where are the butches that want a sweetheart. how do i find the lesbians that like their girls kindhearted and gentle. thanks

[thatfloralfemme]

where's my jealous, possessive butch boyfriend who's obsessed with me?