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Magari un giorno ti renderai conto che le risate al tavolino di un bar poi rimangono lì e non te le porti a casa.

Magari un giorno ti renderai conto che chi ti trova simpatico, ti cerca solo quando ha voglia di svagarsi un po’.

Magari un giorno ti renderai conto che chi ti dice che quella maglia ti sta bene addosso, ha tanta voglia di togliertela.

Magari un giorno ti renderai conto che quando qualcuno ti chiede come è andato il tuo fine settimana è solo per poter raccontarti il suo.

Magari un giorno ti renderai conto che chi ti dice che le cose cambieranno, non lo pensa nemmeno e lo dice solo perché è stanco di sentirti ripetere quanto tu sia insoddisfatto.

Magari un giorno ti renderai conto che nessuno sa quale canzone canti quando sei spensierato, quale felpa indossi quando sei a casa, dove tieni i tuoi ricordi, cosa c’è appeso alla tua parete, in quale posizioni dormi, se quando ceni tieni la televisione accesa, quanto impieghi a fare la doccia e tante altre cose che sembreranno insignificanti ma ad un certo punto sentirai la necessità di far sapere a qualcuno.

Magari un giorno ti renderai conto che la felicità non è ovunque ma sempre un po’ troppo lontana.

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thewitchystuff

Forgot to upload this here, a full moon calendar for 2020 for the northern hemisphere, I’m making the one for the southern hemisphere too <3

Full moons are perfect for charging your crystals or utensyls, to make moon water and to focus on your special intentions.

The Wolf Moon already lurks in the sky, do you have anything planned for it?

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Nicolaus Wegner - Stormscapes 2 | gif by FD

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Classic Books List

“Why read the classics? A classic is a book that has never finished saying what it has to say.” These are a few recommendations, books everyone should read. Don’t let yourself be convinced they are good: read and decide for yourself!

(no particular order intended)

Don Quixote - Miguel de Cervantes

The Grapes of Wrath - John Steinbeck

North and South - Elizabeth Gaskell

Hard Times - Charles Dickens

The Karamazov Brothers - Fyodor Dostoyevsky

Wuthering Heights - Emily Brontë

The Waves - Virginia Woolf

Pride and Prejudice - Jane Austen

Great Expectations - Charles Dickens

Sense and Sensibility - Jane Austen

Hamlet - William Shakespeare

Richard II - William Shakespeare

Little Women - Louisa Alcott

The Great Gatsby - F. Scott Fitzgerald

The Picture of Dorian Gray - Oscar Wilde

Emma - Jane Austen

Anna Karenina - Liev Tolstói

Jane Eyre - Charlotte Brontë

Romeo and Juliet - William Shakespeare

The Age of Innocence - Edith Wharton

Of Mice and Men - John Steinbeck

Lord of The Flies - William Golding

One Hundred Years of Solitude - Gabriel García Márquez

Persuasion - Jane Austen

War and Peace - Liev Tolstói

Macbeth - William Shakespeare

The Tell-Tale Heart - Edgar Allan Poe

Dracula - Bram Stoker

The Facts in the Case of M. Valdemar - Edgar Allan Poe

Frankenstein - Mary Shelley

The Metamorphosis - Franz Kafka

Moby Dick - Herman Melville

Mrs. Dalloway - Virginia Woolf

King Lear - William Shakespeare

The Fountainhead - Ayn Rand

Nineteen Eighty-Four - George Orwell

Jean Barois - Roger Martin du Gard

Wives and Daughters - Elizabeth Gaskell

Brave New World - Aldous Huxley

To Kill a Mockingbird - Harper Lee

The Catcher in the Rye - J. D. Salinger

Crime and Punishment - Fyodor Dostoyevsky

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ahhthelegend

not said enough.

thelegendarybender

100% needs to be said more. Especially to the gay community. As a culture we tend to trivialize sex and its emotional & physical power over our hearts & mind

straightpeoplereceipts

stop gendering body hair

straightpeoplereceipts

stop gendering facial hair

straightpeoplereceipts

i mean yeah guys stop gendering hair in general but i hope its clear that this sentiment isnt just something we are all saying for casual progressive fun and that hair—body hair, facial hair, the hair on your head—is extremely politicized for marginalized people.

let trans women forego things like full body shaving without accusing them of being men

let women have professional lives that do not hinge on the removal of their body hair

acknowledge the racialization of facial hair on women

acknowledge how hair is politicized and gendered on men as well—and while its important, not only in senses of “let cis men have long hair if they like it” or “let trans men have long hair without misgendering them” but also: men of colour with long hair are targeted for this

american christianity has a long history of deeming men of colours long hair as too woman-like and therefore anti-christian, and.. in the case of residential schools, forcibly cutting native mens hair. native men have been historically sexualized over and over by american historians wrt this.

and this is true of white historians with other peoples as well. men of colour with long hair have been historically sexualized and demonized in turn by white people for presentation that was gendered in the eyes of white christianity.

the gendering of hair is the politicizing of it and genuinely tied up in violence... antisemitic violence, racial violence, sexual violence.. like... i hope we are all earnestly acknowledging the pain of this beyond the obvious when we read posts like this

bauliya

so women are supposed to grin and bear the books, the comics, the movies, the plays, the tv shows, the stories, the sci-fi, the translated ancient poems, the fucking millennia of men writing about their self inserts torturing women and it being declared as High Art by other men, we’re supposed to read it in our free time, study it in classrooms, include their styles in our own writing, accept their cultural influence as natural, watch it in the cinema, write about it, talk about it, accept it, aspire it, but men can’t tolerate three seconds of female wish fulfilment of a woman snapping the wrist of a creep without feeling personally kicked in the balls.

darkshrimpemotions

This reminds me of something I observed in college while I was doing my honors thesis on women in modern horror films. I watched a LOT of horror during that time as part of my research, and sometimes that was done with my family around.

And my dad and brothers? Were deeply disturbed by the movie Jennifer’s Body. I was flabbergasted. It’s not scary! It’s not even that gory. But they were horrified by it. These men who grew up on 70s slashers were legitimately shook by 90 minutes of Megan Fox eating a few teenage boys, mostly off-screen.

Similarly, my all-male reading panel for my thesis? Were so disturbed by my synopsis of the film Teeth that they couldn’t even talk about it. One of them said he couldn’t look at his wife for a week after reading it.

Again, grown-ass men who study and teach media for a living. Who definitely watch and enjoy horror movies. One of whom was a huge Tarantino buff. We watched and read worse in his intro to mass media class! But one movie about a girl whose vag could bite was enough to haunt him.

Then of course you have things like the Gone Girl backlash–men yelling that Amy Dunne is evil and women clamoring to assure everyone that they know she is not someone to emulate–the backlash against Carol Danvers, and, more recently, the griping from MRAs against the upcoming film Hustlers, which is about strippers scamming their Wall Street clients.

My conclusion? Most men–at least most straight, cisgender men, who are both my sample population and most of the ones whining that Carol is a “villain”–are perfectly fine with, and desensitized to, media where men do violence to women (horror movies), or men do violence to men (horror and action movies). They’re even sort of fine when women do violence to women (“ooooo cat fight!”).

But they get intensely uncomfortable when women are depicted doing any kind of violence to men, especially in films that tilt the balance of power to the other side of the m/f gender binary beyond a single moment or scene.

So woman as flesh-eating monster with men as her preferred cuisine? Woman who responds to unwanted sexual contact by biting it off? Woman who frames her cheating husband for murder? Woman whose response to harassment–behavior that many of the loudest whiners know is both creepy and reflective of their own thoughts/actions–is to break something?

Too scary. Unacceptable. Disturbing. These men hate being presented with the idea, even in fiction, that their position of power is socially constructed, that it could easily be flipped the other way. It terrifies them.

In feeling that terror, they experience a tiny modicum of what living, existing, moving, being perceived as a woman in the world is like.

And they flinch every time.