If you have a trans friend..
A personal vent, though this probably goes for others as well:
-If someone asks you if your friend is trans, It’s not your place to out them!
-If someone asks what their birthname is and you know it, Don’t tell them! It’s not your or their business! Just say you don’t know!
-Ask who your friend is out to and what people know them by, stop assuming everyone knows they’re trans (personally everyone at my school knows me as my new name and pronouns but I’ve told very few people that I’m trans, half the people who know I’m trans are not people I’ve come out to.)
-Please treat me like any other student, i am not “inbetween” because I’ve had experiences presenting as different genders and i am not “basically a —“ because that is my birth sex
-If I am not correcting people who are misgendering me and you know they know my preferred pronouns, please know it is not because I’m comfortable with those pronouns
-You don’t have to give me a speech everytime you mess up my pronouns or name, just correct yourself, don’t make it seem like a huge deal
-Don’t tell me I would look better if i hadn’t transitioned. It is not a compliment AT ALL. If i had not transitioned i would feel worse than i could ever look.
-If you are not trans, it is not your place to reclaim slurs used against us
-Me being trans does not mean you can ask about my genitals, if you’re not sure when you can ask, act as if I’m cis and see if the question still seems reasonable. (STOP ASKING ABOUT MY GENITALS IN THE MIDDLE OF CLASS. WHY HAS THIS HAPPENED SO MANY TIMES.)
-Please respect me and dont act like trans is all i am
These are all based from personal experiences and conversations. Please make sure whoever you talk to is comfortable with what you ask. Treat us like humans, we aren’t oddities.
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