Slimmer Down

[timemachineyeah]

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[ampervadasz]

[tell-the-stars-hello]

this was cute until i realized the fish is probably trying to not get eaten

[killhitleragain]

A fish trying not to get eaten wouldn’t slow down when the “predator” slows down. It also wouldn’t constantly swim in a circle near the edge of the tank; It’d try hiding. Also a fish in a tank in a a public place that is constantly filled with people is not likely to see people as predators.

[darkwingsnark]

Animals, I think people tend to forget, also enjoy playing.

[bunjywunjy]

yeah that fish is absolutely playing with that kid, if it really wanted to escape it would just dive into the reef in the center of the tank!

(Moorish Idols are reef fish and naturally will seek shelter in the nearest nook or cranny if they get scared.)

many people don’t realize this, but fish aren’t stupid animals! most of them are on par with mammals like mice and squirrels in terms of intelligence, and they absolutely do play.

[i-need-glitter]

I was at an aquarium a few years ago and decided to sketch a fish. It came up to me.

I decided to flip the book around and pressed it against the glass. Fish lost it

Swam away then came back with MORE FISH

to this day I love those little sketches and I really love how I got the fish to bring me it’s friends

[alishaa-b-deactivated20250826]

a little life update...

hey guys, it’s been a while since I last posted, i want to say that i’ve just been so busy, an i’ve had no time, but honestly i’ve been a bit blocked in terms of producing content at the moment.

so i thought i’d give you an update on what’s going on in my life at the moment. as some of you may know, i’m working full time, so that takes up a chunk of my week, but outside of that i’m trying to walk more, get my steps in! lol, i have a target of 10,000 a day. which sometimes feels like so much, especially on the days i don’t manage to get out the house and i go to bed on maybe 3,000 on a good day. but more often than not i try and get more in. this has definitely helped me to sleep better as i tire myself out a little bit before i go to bed. so that’s a positive improvement! 

i managed to take a short trip to the beach, and got to wear one of my favourite dresses, it was the first time i’d felt nice about myself in some time. i got ready, did my hair, wore something that wasn’t pj’s! i kept a safe distance from people though dont worry!

i’m also trying to be more aware of what i put in my body. i’m not on a diet, but i’m trying to consume less meat, i already have a very minimal amount of dairy (lactose intolerant problems lol). but this is also something that makes me feel a lot better, somewhat lighter throughout my weeks. 

i’ve joined a self love group chat on twitter and that has helped me so much! daily we’re given small tasks to do, which help with things like letting go of our past etc. and it’s been so helpful for me. i’ve been taking notes and watching Amy Lee a lot on youtube recently, her self actualisation video was so good. i’m also taking more interest in manifestation and the power of now, and other self love/help videos and books. 

i’m taking control of my life, in such an uncertain time, where a lot of us can feel quite out of control with everything that’s going on around us, i’ve found this to be very helpful and beneficial. 

i hope you’re all keeping well and safe, 

                                         with love,                                                  Alisha  

[pottedfairies]

we should treat love as something to be built rather than found

[pottedfairies]

when we treat love as something sacred and rare, we miss opportunities to critically engage with it or even explore different types of love. when we treat love as sacred and something to be found, we are implying that the relationship and construction of love is perfect from its inception. that prevents open dialogue and transfer of ideas and definitions of what relationships are and what is desired from them

when we treat love as something to be built, we allow for the opportunity to love anyone we meet and the threat of finding The One fades. when we treat love as something to be built, we allow for nuance in any and all our relationships and for those relationships to hold more weight on our lives. when we treat love as something to be built, it becomes a communal act, rather than something we do alone

[assiraphales]

don’t hate urself, hate the system that made u feel insecure about every single aspect of ur life

[assiraphales]

to name just a few that I’ve personally dealt with

-it’s ok to be living with your family over the age of 18

-it’s ok if you’ve never had a relationship, and if you still haven’t had your first kiss

-it’s ok to have cellulite. it’s ok to not to work out

-it’s ok not to have a huge friend group, or a big social media presence

-it’s ok if you’re not “conventionally” attractive bc that concept is made up!!!!

-it’s ok if you aren’t good at make up, and don’t want to be. it is not lazy for a women to go bare face.

-it’s ok if you didn’t go to parties and drink excessive amounts during high school, high school is so glamorized in tv and it’s not a true depiction. high school is NOT the best four years of your life. neither is college. you did not miss out.

-it’s ok to not know what you want to do, or change your ideas 1000 times. if you want to go back to school @ 28, do it. there is no age limit on education

-it’s ok to have body positivity for others but not yourself. you are growing.

-most importantly, you have time. you have time

[kadywicker]

anyway be loud and obnoxious and fun with your interests. post abt nothing but them. make posts you’re gonna be embarrassed about later. draw fanart. write fanfiction. talk to your friends about aus and shit that makes you laugh. buy shit bc you want to look like a fictional character even if you’re going to be giving it away at some point in the future. let yourself enjoy things in a “cringey” way bc life is short dude and anything that brings you joy like that is worth doing as long as it’s not hurting people.

[gloupblog]

a gentle reminder

[capstellium]

oh btw also when it comes to fatphobia one of the most insidious lies that society tells fat people is that losing weight is “easy” and “totally doable” if you just commit yourself to it. literally nothing is harder than losing weight when your body doesn’t want you to. the entire act of weight loss is based on the idea that you need to burn more than you consume, essentially that you need to be starving yourself for a number of weeks or months to get yourself down to a weight that is often unnatural for your body to maintain. the people telling these lies are mostly skinny people who have never even had to lose weight to fit into society’s standards of an acceptable person in their lives. to them, “it’s easy to lose weight” really means “it’s easy to be skinny, because i am skinny and i didn’t have to work at all to become this way.” i can tell you rn there is not a fat person alive who hasn’t attempted to lose weight once in their lives and realized it is one of the most difficult, unhealthy, and unnatural processes you can try to put yourself through. skinny ppl would do well to remember this when lecturing fat people on their supposed “health” while having to make no real effort to maintain their own size due in large part to genetics alone.

[eddiediaz-buckley]

my anatomy professor said to us once that the way our bodies are shaped - whether that be skinny, fat, or in between - is something that is genetically encoded within us. fat people are fat and skinny people are skinny because that's how their genetics are, as implied above. it is extremely difficult to essentially "retrain" your brain while trying to lose weight and make it think you are supposed to be a different size.

which is why weight loss is so difficult. your body is literally telling you that you are what you are supposed to be, so it resists change.

skinny people need to get it through their fuckin heads that there is nothing wrong with being fat, and that being fat does not mean you are unhealthy. you can be unhealthy at any size. we need to stop telling fat people that they are worth less as a human because they are bigger than others. that's fucking disgusting and its what leads to countless eating disorders and and self-esteem issues

[sharketypes]

You know what?

I am annoying sometimes.

And that’s okay. It’s not the death sentence I was led to believe. People will love me even if I can’t read their signals sometimes. Not understanding is forgivable. I don’t have to hold myself back so I don’t annoy anyone ever.

The people who love me know I get excited. And I am still loved.

[space-fey]

Well shit

[mercedesbenzodiazepine]

What do u want to be when you grow up

Me but better

[elonmusksdickcheese]

Why is it ok for trans people to hate themselves? Why is it ok for trans people to want to be anything but trans?Why is it ok to hate your own tranness?Why is it expected for trans people to want tear their bodies apart?Why is it ok for trans people to be ashamed of who we are? Why must we hate ourselves,our bodies and identity? Why is that ok? Why is that an expectation? Why must trans people have a depression or distress with themselves to be considered vaild? Why must we suffer and be in pain 24/7 to be vaild? Why can't we love/learn to love ourselves,our bodies,our identity?

[inkflowergarden]

Something new is coming into bloom. Blooming within the mystery. You are expanding and growing beyond what you thought was possible.

Let yourself be pulled into the orbit of what you desire the most. Practicing forgiveness and unconditional self-love. Cultivating inner peace.

Birthing a new reality. Return to love. You are safe.

It’s time for you to bloom.

[everythingstarstuff]

“Embracing The Present Moment” by Adrian Borda

[prsephonies-deactivated20200815]

when i was a teenager it felt very revolutionary to be cruel to myself. like some kind of slow passive protest against how much everything hurt. i starved myself of sleep and food and tenderness because it felt right. it felt sharp and angry and radical and i wanted to be those things. adulthood is the realisation that the world is already working to cut into you well before you learn how to do it yourself. caring for yourself and others is the real protest

[friedegg]

[friedegg]

[whats-your-name-man]

[thecringeandwincefactory-deacti]

LISTEN.

[iprobablyneedcoffee]

Being kind to yourself is rebellion.

Learning to be kind to yourself when society tells you that you’re not worth the effort takes time. It’s frustrating. It feels like an impossible task. But start with little rebellions. Little rebellions win wars. Brush your teeth. Move onto eating something. Give yourself a bedtime. Stick to it. That voice inside your head that tells you that you suck? Talk back to it in a snarky voice. You don’t have to do this all in one day, but little by little, it helps.

[giraffeter]

I would add to this that as I get older (I say this like I’m So Old but I’m in my 30s which feels Tumblr Old if nothing else) I often encounter people who see a young person being exuberant or idealistic and want to “take them down a peg” or make them “toughen up and face the real world,” and if you ever feel that way about a young person (or anyone, really):

Stop.

You don’t need to take anyone down a peg. Life will do that for them. The “real world” will make itself known, without your help.

Encourage the young people in your life to care deeply, about each other, the world, and themselves.

[flowerais-deactivated20211031]

soft reminder: one day you won’t carry heaviness on your shoulders. you’ll get through the day without constant worrying and stomach aches. you will heal and make your mind a safe, peaceful place to be, not something you want to escape. it’s all possible. you can make it through this.

[damesho-deactivated20210114]

part of becoming confident with yourself is just… posting it anyway. writing it anyway. even if you feel like it won’t be recognized, the process is just as important as the results. if you like what you do and who you are that validation will come naturally. shit won’t feel forced either.

[snackwizard]

adults, while forcing all children above the age of 5 to sit still, be silent, and obey orders for 7-8 hours a day with minimal breaks, reducing their exposure to fresh air and sunlight to almost nothing, forcing them to alter their natural sleeping patterns to increase productivity, and repeatedly telling them their self worth depends on their being able to follow these instructions perfectly for 13 or more years: kids these days are so lazy! they never go outside! they never want to do anything! clearly it’s not because of us!