Strike It from your thoughts

[hello-nichya-here]

Lilo & Stitch 2025 did a racism (and ruined a great message about family)

So... Lilo & Stitch... the classic, wholesome movie about two sisters (two NATIVE sisters) struggling with grief after their parents tragic death, with the central conflict being the older sister's despair to step up as a mom not just because it's now her responsibility but because ALL THESE TWO HAVE LEFT IS EACH OTHER and being separated would make this already tragic situation EVEN MORE TRAUMATIZING for the both of them...

...That movie got a remake. In which the happy ending is the US government taking the little sis away because "it's too much responsibility for this young woman" and she can TOTALLY trust the system to take care of her family better than she ever could, and it's not like OHANA, or NO ONE GETS LEFT BEHIND OR FORGOTTEN is the heart of the story or anything. That's totally a much better message her meeting more people that become like family and help her take care of Lilo. "Just give up" is much better than "Have faith, accept help, and above all KEEP FIGHTING"

Oh, and would you look at that, the original movie has a super sad scene in which Nani is saying goodbye to Lilo the night before she's meant to be taken away against their wishes and trying to make sure she knows that she never wanted this and will always love her by singing Aloha Oe - the song written by the last queen of Hawaii, who was expressing her grief after the US government made Hawaii a state. And this same queen is mentioned by name in the song that Lilo is seen dancing to at the start of the original. Almost like this message was also important.

And Disney decided, in 2025, in the middle of a bunch of controversy and scandals about mass deportations, including of people that were in the country 100% legally, to change the ending of the movie so that it is a GOOD thing that the US government is taking this native little girl away from her family because "she can't take care of you like we can", which is a recurring problem for indigenous comminities. And they thought that'd go over well.

*deep sigh*

...BOY

WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK

IS WRONG THESE DUMBASSES?

[dandelionfeather]

I'm so fucking tired.

[hello-nichya-here]

why do so many ppl hate you? omg 😭 i think ur neat ✨️

It's the consequence of shamelessly admiting to being a freak

[dandelionfeather]

And you're such a lovely freak. ;)

[hello-nichya-here]

Going to the hospital for the surgery. Once the drugs wear off I'll let you guys know how it went

[dandelionfeather]

Good luck baby girl. I know you'll be okay. And I'll be waiting for you.

[potionorchard]

And finished with Val and Velvette <3 This was really fun <3

[hello-nichya-here]

What's wrong with ABA therapy? Genuinely asking.

It was literally created by a guy that did not believe autistic people were human - his words, not mine. It's not real therapy, it's just abusing autistic people (mainly children) until they associate doing any autistic thing (stimming, not looking people in the eye, giving only non-verbal answers, not being comfortable with hugs, etc) with stress and pain, so they "fix their behavior".

The entire thing is based on the completely bullshit assumptions that any trait of autism is inherently negative and has no real functionality, both to the person with the condition and to those around them, and that they can just learn how to do things "the right way" - hence the name Aplied BEHAVIOR analysis. It assumes we just "don't know how to act", like a little kid that hasn't learned to spell or how to eat using a knife and fork.

But the thing is autistic people behave the way they do for a reason. "Ordinary" things (like looking people in the eye, or always hugging their relatives and friends, or having to be in a crowded room, with a lot of people talking at once) are PAINFUL to us. Some of us can mask how much it bothers us, but it never stops being a problem. And on the case of stimming (saying the same word over and over, running around, flapping ours hands, biting on a toy, etc) that is what we do to self-sooth when something isn't going right.

ABA is abusive because it forces the patients to behave in a way that causes nothing but pain, just because that's how neurotypicals behave naturally. It's like punching someone in the face over and over, telling them that if they complain they'll just get punched again, and then using the fact that they're not complaining about being punched anymore as "proof" that you made them no longer feel pain - when it's pretty clear they're only not complaining because they'd be punished with more pain if they tried.

Not to mention: training a bunch of vulnerable kids, some of which cannot talk and don't even understand what's going on, that if an adult does something that bothers or hurts them, including touching their body without permission, it's their job to just sit there and take it and that if they turn to their parents for help they'll just get scolded for it because, again, the whole point of ABA is to go "This is all your fault actually, stop crying" is a HORRIBLE idea. It's practically grooming kids to accept that any and all forms of abuse (including sexual) are things that are supposed to happen to them.

That's why one of THE most repeated phrases by autistic people who speak out against ABA and organizations like Autism Speaks, an AWFUL hate-group pretending to be a charity and that adores things like ABA or trying to to blame everything from vaccines to milk for the "rise in autism cases" (which isn't actually real), is "Nothing about us without us."

The overwhelming majority of treatments and charities that claim to help autistic people are only doing things that are either useless or downright harmful to us because they all start from the basic misconception that we don't understand our own condition, that we cannot possibly know what would help us, and that we need someone else to "decode the mystery" that is autism to "save" us.

Entire decades of wasted effort and money, as well as abuse being pushed as a solution, could have been prevented if non-autistic people would fucking LISTEN instead of speaking over us just because we act "weird." It's all based on "Your condition bothers ME, therefore I'm the one who decides what is or is not a problem for YOU." It's the most condescending bullshit ever.

[hoepunkausta]

It's probably been said a thousand times, but I really feel like the series of female-led PS2 horror games really were digging into the main experience of being forced to grow up too fast, of having roles and maturity forced upon girls at the crux of their adolescence.

It's really chilling how a lot of these games are about the death and loss of innocence from childhood because of duty like in Fatal Frame 2, processing the cycles of abuse delivered to and from other girls like in Rule of Rose and the maternal expectation forced upon women like in Haunting Ground and Silent Hill 3.

These games just really touched upon the fear and experiences dealt by a lot feminine people throughout their lives and I really miss it. I think we just need more female-led (trans included obviously) horror games again.

[dandelionfeather]

Have you ever seen or played Outlast Whistleblower?

It also presents a very visceral horror surrounding aspects of femininity and the concept of motherhood and birth , but from the perspective of a male.

I always felt that the characters of Outlast always had a lot in common with female protagonists in horror media, as the characters *explicitly* Cannot fight against the horrors coming their way. They can only run, hide, or die.

[hello-nichya-here]

What do you think of celebrities like Ariana Grande and Dave Grohl being cheaters? Should people still support them and their works, or only the works, or neither?

All I think is "Damn, their poor spouses" (and "damn, poor wife AND BABY when it comes to guy Ariana cheated on her husband with).

But I'm not gonna be up for crucifying them. I don't know these people. They don't owe ME anything. They gotta sort that shit out with their own families.

They're still gonna be rich and famous if everyone stops buying their music, and said music will still sound good to the fans even if they are not as "perfect" as they imagined.

Cheating is a shitty thing to do, but lets face it, most celebrities are cheaters, or had a phase where they were cheaters. They're rich and famous. There's ALWAYS gonna be HUNDREDS of people willing to fuck them, and some of these people will be their type - and equally as rich and famous. It strokes their egos, and is just plain basic math of "If you're tempted all the time, sooner or later you're gonna give into said temptation." Add in the fact that most of them aren't used to consequences, and it's hard to be shocked by any of it - especially when half of hollywood is involved in genuinely MONSTRUOS stuff

Celebrities are people in a WEIRD position. You can admire a few of them, but they're not role models. Stan culture breeds nothing but disappointment. They WILL say/do stuff you don't agree with. They WILL fuck up. It's inevitable.

[dandelionfeather]

Pure facts honestly meu amor.

People forget that celebrities are people, and think about it. About the people you love the most. Who you're close with. Your parents, your siblings your best friends.

Theyve all disappointed or made you mad at some point right?

Why would celebrities be different.

[void-mori]

[direwoman]

he'll do things to dicks you cannot conceive of

[dandelionfeather]

Good old dick warlock. Very infused into the Halloween franchise.

[hello-nichya-here]

you like teen titans? what are your favorite ships? 👀

The show was my main obsession before I rewatched Avatar.

Robin X Raven is my absolute favorite ship, but I really like his romance with Starfire too, it was fucking cute and led to lots of funny moments.

I did kind of like the two or three ship bait moments between Raven and Beast Boy, but the fans are insufferable so it really ruined the ship for me. His romance with Terra was already better anyway.

Also I ship Slade with Jail.

[dandelionfeather]

Legitimately one of the very few disagreements Nichya and I Have is about ships for teen titans.

And it's not even like it's a big disagreement. I just prefer Bb/Rae while she prefers Robin/Raven. Lol

[hello-nichya-here]

What has been your opinion on the Zucest works that have been written in 2024. I have heard a lot of people say that the community is entering a new golden age thanks to works like Fire Lord Iroh, Death of the Phoenix and Through Flesh and Metal, and so I would like to know the opinion of someone who has been the head of the community for years.

I unfortunately haven't had time to give many new stories the time for a proper read, just a few quick looks, but so far it's been pretty neat to not only see so many people interested in the ship, but going out of their way to make content for it, and from what I've seen for myself (and heard from others) it's been quite good! It's wonderful that the ships finally been getting some justice, and I'm two seconds away from begging my boss/aunt for a vacation so I can catch up on my reading and commenting without sacrificing what little time I still time for writing and relaxing.

And I am forever grateful that "Evil Azula forces poor, innocent Zuzu to sleep with her because she's crazy, and he hates every second of it" has offiicially died down. Even the noncon/dubcon fics nowadays in which Azula is the agressor feel far more creative, fun and engaging than the old ones that practically felt the need to scream "I hate Azula! She's a bad person!" every other line.

Also... holy shit, it HAS been years since I became queen of Zucest by default. Time is broken as fuck.

[dandelionfeather]

Heh. Bow down to the Queen.

[badley]

themes commonly found in international friendships

- ‘u dont have (insert food/music/restaurant here) over there??’ - ‘wait what time is it. shouldnt u be asleep’ - alternatively: timezoned/clockblocked again - ‘do u need a hug. have a virtual hug’ - weird slang terms - ‘i will fight everyone thats mean to u. i will fight them rn’ - vague embarrassment regarding ur accent - ‘dont maKE ME COME OVER THERE’ - ‘oh yeah i have a friend who lives in (insert country here) and apparently’ - no real hugs :(( - suffering - fahrenheit vs celsius - the measuring of things in feet fucks one of u up, probably

[zipstick]

AND DONT FORGET

“i made food do you want some”

“yes”

[dandelionfeather]

Yeah this basically

[jennypen]

“Ew you’re an adult why are you in fandom” Kid, if being mocked for fandom shit wasn’t enough to stop me when I was an actual 15 year old, hearing it from a 15 year old when I’m 30 is genuinely hilarious

[can0n-fodder]

It is kind of amusing when teenagers think their highschool peer pressure shit is going to work on adults. Like, lol you have no power here fetus. My mortgage is a bigger emotional threat to me than you are.

[ruby-white-rabbit]

Cringe culture no longer works on me. I was PEAK cringe. You know nothing of the early days

[psycho333-s-vent]

You merely adopted the cringe

I was born in it, molded by it

[ydhsbhsnf-deactivated20210613]

newsflash for everyone in this thread: minors are allowed to be uncomfortable with adults in spaces they frequent and it’s not a personal attack against you when a minor in fandom spaces in uncomfortable with adults in those spaces

[minkookiebun]

Then they can leave the space?? They don’t own that shit.

I’m not gonna stop posting fandom shit at 23 years old bc some 14yr old feels “weird” about it, brat can hit the block button and get off my blog lmao

[ydhsbhsnf-deactivated20210613]

you, a 23 year old, reblogged this from a 15 year old onto a blog with “smut” in the url

fuck off, creep. follow your own advice and get the hell off my blog.

[sexysexyman]

adults leave children alone and let us have our own space please

[octopuscato]

Well, then go away? Leave fandom on tumblr, AO3 etc. and create your own space? Because as much as you don’t want to hear it, adults created fandom, and it’s kids who then came and wanted in.

[1000roughdrafts]

The entitlement coming from you minors on this post makes me feel sick. Block people you don’t wanna see, use the screening option ffs. Get off your “I don’t wannnnnaaaaa seeee addults wahhhh” high horse, damn

[slytherkins]

Adults: *in their own lane**created the damned lane**happily cruising along at 69 mph**waving to other adult motorists as they pass**having an all around pleasant drive*

Minors: *in their ‘student driver’ vehicles, blasting onto the highway you built, merging without right of way, forgetting to use their turn signal, cutting you off* Get off the road, grandma!

[mister-christmas]

I’ll leave fandoms when I’m a corpse in the ground and not a moment sooner.

[eric-coldfire]

Well if this whole post doesn’t perfectly summarize the problem with modern geek culture.

Child: Get out of muh fandom, old timer!

Adult, who built and supported the fandom before the child was even born:

[tlaragihai]

What exactly makes those people “uncomfortable”? The sole fact that adults have hobbies and media they love and that they participate in fandom activities?

I am not talking about “staring conflicts”, “being rude” or worse things.

People are uncomfortable that other people who are older just exist in public space (and I consider fandom being a public thing)?? The fuck?

Wow, what an atrocity. Everybody knows that you should leave fandom when you’re 20 years old, no interests for you, no fun! (No, fuck this mentality actually)

[da-boy-o-kultur]

We were nerds in the era where that got you shunned and bullied, your baby tantrums mean nothing to us.

[alamuts-lair-of-madness]

What’s baffling for me about the modern fandom babies is their obsession with morality.

When I was a kid, moral guardians kept presenting every geeky thing as morally questionable at best, or downright amoral:

Computer games - inciting violence

Dungeons and Dragons - promoting satanism

Popular YA Literature - not “real” literature and various problems depending on the title (for example satanism with Harry Potter)

Cartoons - stupefying / toilet humour and/or inciting violence

Anime - sexually perverse and/or inciting violence

Comics - stupefying at best

Because of that nowadays, whenever a toddler starts a rant why Title X is morally problematic I automatically block out the noise, because I’ve been dealing with self-righteous bullies like them all my life.

[hello-nichya-here]

Does Azula care about the people of her nation?

Yes, absolutely - but she cares about it the way Azula cares about anything, aka with the "would this action please my father?" bias completely clouding her judgement.

To give a practical exemple so my point is clear: Azula never would have been banished if she had been the one in Zuko's place during that meeting, even though I can easily see her thinking it'd be a terrible idea to sacrifice young, healthy, loyal soldiers that could someday be absolute pros. Not necessarily because it'd be cruel, but because "it's waste of resources".

Why do I believe that was the case?

1 - She would not beg/argue with anyone to let her into the meeting in the first place. She'd constantly try to win her father's approval in other ways, so if she were there it'd mean she was already in his good graces and thus has more room to act/talk.

2 - Azula wouldn't have an emotional outburst like Zuko. It's not the behavior one expects from the princess nor the kind of thing that would make Ozai happy, and, like I said, her issue would be practical aspect of "It's a waste to sacrifice promissing soldiers just to lure the enemy to a trap" not the "This is an evil thing to do" so she wouldn't feel strongly about it in the first place.

3 - She's not getting up, snapping at the guy that had monstruous idea and calling him a traitor. She'll ask further questions about his plan, about the logistics of it all and why he's going for something as drastic as "lets deliberately get some of the people our side killed" when their nation doesn't really need to do that and has been winning nearly all battles left and right for a hundred years, so the guy digs his own grave with his answers.

4 - Even if it becomes aparent to everyone that this is a bad idea, she won't be the one to say he's not allowed to put that plan in motion - and more importantly, if Ozai decides that the plan is good, Azula will ignore all the evidence to the contrary and show unwavering support.

Azula is not fully devoid of compassion and she is really smart and competent in all things, politics and war very much included, but she is still an imperialist that was raised to think the Fire Lord can do no wrong, that the Fire Nation MUST reign supreme and take over the world. On top of that, she's also desperate for Ozai's validation.

She wants to do what's best for her nation and people, but her understanding of what "the best for them" even is is severely compromised.

[dandelionfeather]

I can very easily see this. Hell, it almost flashed through my head like it was an alternative episode of the show. Congrats on being awesome again love. Lol

[hello-nichya-here]

I don’t understand what way Ozai's story a "tragedy" if his fate was a result of his consistently conscious, deliberate wrong choices and hubris. His children on the other hand were manipulated into a mindset very hard to get out of, so much so they think they know what they want but aren't happy when they get it. They didn't get a say in anything that pit them their positions.

1 - A self-made tragedy is still a tragedy. He made terrible choices that led him to misery, and he COULD have a better life, if only regreted the vile things he did and chose to do better. But he won't, and thus is trapped in this miserable existence. That's tragic.

2 - "This character's fate is a tragedy" is not the same as "This character is sympathetic/someone we were rooting for/someone we felt bad for." It literally just means "This is kinda sad if you think about it."

3 - Before being an abusive adult, he was an abused child. Before being the one further brainwashing people into imperialism, he was the one being indoctrinated into it. He is the fallen hero of his story, and the villain in pretty much everyone else's. He USED TO BE an innocent person who didn't know any better. He used to be Zuko, now he's Azulon.

I hate Ozai. Always have, probably always will. But the whole point of Avatar is "EVERYONE has the potential for great good and great evil." Ozai made his choice. He made the wrong choice, and that destroyed his life and family and he has no one to blame but himself - and that is the DEPRESSING, or, ya know, TRAGIC, reality of it.

[dandelionfeather]

A phrase I've seen pop up recently is, Hurt people, hurt people.

And I think all of us can agree that unless a child is shown to be actually evil and remorseless their entire life... The most of us can believe that even the most evil people in existence used to be children with the potential for good and evil in equal measure.

The problem with ozai, is that he consciously, regularly chooses to do evil. If ever there was a setting where an honest attempt to be a better person would be honored, it would be the world of Avatar the last Airbender. But despite the chance to show remorse and become better, ozai refuses , and doubles down.

That's what makes it tragic. The lost potential.

[hello-nichya-here]

Could metalbenders meddle with a person's body since there is metal?

I mean, bloodbending is already only possible during a full moon and a stronger bender can counter it. Considering there's WAY more water in the human body than metal, and that metalbending is only possible in the first place because of the bits of Earth in it, I'd say that if the chances of a metalbender being able to mess with someone's body would be either zero or so slim and depending on very specific set of circumstances that it might as well be zero.

[dandelionfeather]

One of the scenarios I'm thinking of involves one of the X-Men movies where Mystique doses a guy with an excessive amount of iron in his system to give Magneto access to magnetic materials in prison.

[singing-not-sleeping-beauty]

Not really a fan of Bridgerton, but I am a fan of Nicola Coughlan's response to everyone shitting on her for being "too big" to play a love interest

[dandelionfeather]

What the actual fuck? She's fucking gorgeous. And those tits are fantastic . Lol

[hello-nichya-here]

If sadism isn't a psychological disorder, what is it?

A trait anyone can have. It can mean everything from "This person likes BDSM" to "This person is a bully that likes tormenting people" all the way to "Axe murderer that laughs like a horror movie villain when killing their victims."

And it's exactly because it's too broad that it can't be considered a personality/psychological disorder by itself - unlike, say, sexual sadism, that is explicitly about getting sexual pleasure (duh) from inflicting pain on someone who did not consent, which is far more specific and thus an actual pathology, instead of a trait anyone could have, and handle either well or poorly.

In case the difference isn't clear, trying to pass off sadism as a disorder by itself would be like claiming anyone that is ever a little vain, or even VERY vain, suffers from narcisisit personality disorder. Or that someone that tends to get sad easily suffers from clinical depression. Or that being short-fused is the same as having anger issues.

A bitch of a "strict" teacher that is a bit too happy about kids in her class being so terrified of her that they'll cry when she yells at them IS abusing her authority even if she never hits them, and so are those weird parents that are WAY too fucking proud and even eagger to "discipline" their children by beating them a lot and making them feel pain for days - but they're not the same as as a criminal that kidnaps people and tortures them in his basement. They can still be considered sadists though, because they're getting a form of satisfaction from inflicting pain (not even physical pain in the teacher's case) on someone else.

A guy that enjoys consensually spanking and whipping his girlfriend before sex is not the same as a guy that enjoys raping people and hearing the victims screaming and pleading for him to stop. He's still a sadist. A well-adjusted one, that is capable of compassion, decency and basic respect for other human beings.

Sadism, by itself, even when crossing a line, is not enough to mean someone MUST be mentally ill/have a personality disorder - that's why psychologists have dropped the term "Sadistic personality disorder" a long time ago.

[dandelionfeather]

Precisely. I'm the kind of guy who finds whipping, smacking, or slapping my girlfriend around (with her consent) to be hot as fuck.

But the concept of hurting someone unintentionally or *really badly*... It makes me feel *sick*.