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Causal blogger from Brooklyn. Follow my side blog for views of the city @igotanewcamera IG & Twitter Sir_Ridyl

[raunchily]

Nelly for Time photographed by Matthias Clamer, 2004

[poemswords]

[trewddyy]

I always say how nobody fw tumblr but if tumblr every became as live stream as twitter I’ll be mad cause everyone here has a understanding that we all are hurt , horny , and occasionally go on rants that aren’t meant for everyone to see or acknowledge. I truly love it here

[deadassbee]

Yeah I hate this fucking app, but I wont lie that it really did teach me things.

[deadassbee]

hola

[chvrlieherbs-deactivated2022021]

I have this reoccurring dream that I actually have a valentines and he goes all out for me

And right when i tell him how i feel i wake up

[deadassbee]

I have recurring dreams where me and my ex and stuck in a blank white room, everytime we talk about our relationship the room adds a piece of furniture before the blank room looks like a completely white house.

[theuserboxfactory-archive]

[This user believes platonic love is just as important as romantic love.]

for anon

[aidashakur]

So far this was the lowest year of my life. I pray 2020 holds nothing but happiness.

[globalriseofblackpeople]

[deadassbee]

To my ex

[lmm-43]

You never realize how fucked up someone treated you until you explain it to someone else.

[miiriya]

[hail2theprince]

[deadassbee]

The fucked up thing is my ex had flaws I saw and was content as long as she worked on them. Communication and honesty was the main ones. She just couldn't put in the effort. So she for lack of better words...dipped.

She liked Bojack alot too, ironically it had alot of the same lessons that I tried putting into her. I didn't see it as lost until she ... "left" now I just don't know how to feel about her.

[miiriya]

[hail2theprince]

[jules-hoard-of-stuff-deactivate]

Okay but

How do you tell the difference between red flags and paranoia due to previous bad relationships

Like, what's the difference, someone please tell me, I struggle in relationships now because of this exact factor, I can't tell if it's my anxiety and rsd going "EVERYTHINGS WRONG THEY HATE YOU" or if it's ACTUAL shit

[deadassbee]

@localramblinghouseplant you need to love yourself. I know it sounds condescending and ignorant, but this is coming from a guy whose ex literally couldn't be vulnerable with me because she thought I would leave only to ruin our relationship with her overthinking.

You got learn what you like and dislike, truly. Then you can set boudaries. Because not only do you know what you wouldnt put up with, you know what you wouldnt do to someone. Which comes expectations that you hold you and anyone you're intimate to.

It takes some time, it requires dedication and self-awareness. You have to learn to be critical of yourself without taking it "personal" you have to be alittle bit better everyday. Constant growth.

People who matter will match your effort, only expect what you put in. If you want more, put in the work. Always match energy, talk in person not over the phone. Learn to enjoy conflict, learn to express emotions. People are raw and unfiltered and you should be able to experience the entire range of emotions.

Don't not be yourself. Always be 100% honest and true. You'd yourself a disservice if you aren't.

This is getting long tbh, I hope this helps.

[saedii]

I hate texting… I wanna see you

[black-culture]

[okayysophia]

[jehovahhthickness]

Ask for everything ***

[deadassbee]

Only ask for what you are capable of returning.

[jee-q]

the most exciting part of meeting and liking someone new is getting to know them. not simply just as a friend or potential partner but as a person period. Learning about the weird shit they do, learning about their upbringing and favorite candies..everything that makes them who they are basically.

[deadassbee]

People don't get this at all.

[niabra-deactivated20210424]

Recently, I’ve learned not to interrupt when people tell me what they’re going through. If we’re in person, I wait until they’re finished talking. If we’re texting, I don’t start typing until they stop. I don’t rush to compare my experience to theirs, even if they’re similar. I don’t offer unsolicited advice. I’m practicing listening to understand, not to respond. Sometimes people just need someone to listen. Even if your intentions are good, give them that time and space.

[incrediblydope98]