What Doesn't Challenge you, doesn't change you...

Leah, 27, NYC, Singer, little/brat, taken, domestic violence survivorbdsm/ddlg enthusiast/learner. Visit my blog: informedbdsm.blogspot.com           My story: http://dealingwithiteveryday.tumblr.com/post/179906685439/my-story-updatedMy My mission is to inform others who are interested in BDSM so they can live a safe, happy, and healthy lifestyle. 

[dealingwithiteveryday]

Visit, subscribe, comment, and share my new blog. I am so proud to be opening up researched information and my documented experiences in the BDSM lifestyle. 

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[keeping-kinksters-safe]

Please reblog if you’re a BDSM/kink blog that does NOT support or allow minors.

Everyone who reblogs will be added to the Safe Space Support List! :)

[dealingwithiteveryday]

Violated.

Well, I just feel violated. Last night, I went to an event in NYC. I’m not going to name the event because I’ve always felt safe there and I see the DM’s doing their jobs. This was purely a mistake and most likely could not be controlled. 

My Daddy and I were in a scene and I was heading off to subspace. There were a few passerbys watching. I noticed one man was in the corner close to the cage we were in a for a while, but Daddy did not see him. I started looking on and I noticed I saw his dick. He had his dick out and was jerking off! I was mortified and horrified because I knew this guy was getting off on our scene. It’s okay to be attracted to it, but not to act on your thoughts sexually in front of people! Wtf! So, Daddy asks me if I’m focused because he could tell I wasn’t and I said no. That’s when I told him, but the guy had walked away. No one saw him but me. 

Now, I just feel pissed because no one actually saw what happened. They basically stated that next time, they’ll be more vigilent. I’m like... next time? So he’s allowed back in. I’m just feeling extremely frustrated. I don’t want to deal with people anymore. I’ve been so anxious and I’m seriously considering not going to events anymore. But, I don’t want to cut off my line of communication with all my kink friends. 

:( 

[onelittlekingdom]

The Way You're Doing BDSM Is Right For You

This is always correct provided:

A) Safewords are implemented

B) You help your partner back out of a scene and find themselves again with love

C) You don’t act like an amoral fuckwad along the way.

That’s right, beyond that, there are no rules. No one way to do it right. No strike zone. Have fun. Have so much fun.

Stop telling others they are doing it wrong. They’re not.

JerseyDaddy🌹

[thegoodvybe]

[thegoodvybe]

[feministism]

[dealingwithiteveryday]

I talk to my stuffed animals and they always make me happy <3

[daididom-deactivated20160118]

[daddyandhislittleprincess11102]

What ever somebody identifies as, they are not yours. Act accordingly.

[dealingwithiteveryday]

Yes. 👏 thank you. I’ve been at events and had someone ask me: have you been a good girl?... I’m not your little girl so you don’t need to know that.

[nisaexploresadhd]

adhd is: spends 3 hours trying to make a decision, spends another 2 hours trying to justify my choice. 

[asongoftearsandfandoms]

Helpful study tips!!

I am suspicious that I might have mild ADHD undiagnosed, so I looked up study tools to help adults with ADHD study. I came across this list, and as someone who never "properly" learned how to study or take notes, this list was SUPER helpful. I'll add the link at the bottom.

http://disability.illinois.edu/strategiestechniques-adhd

[dealingwithiteveryday]

Thank you. Thinking of going back to school soon. Also, my job requires so much mental effort everyday.

[rabbitloser]

It’s okay if you didn’t get out of bed, it’s okay if you didn’t do all the stuff you had to do. You did it great today, you survived.

[dealingwithiteveryday]

“Sometimes you have to go through the worst in order to get to the best.”

— - unknown (via quotelounge)

[dealingwithiteveryday]

“When I hear a couple arguing or hear a raised male voice, I freeze. I wait for the violence to start. I become almost catatonic, stressed out and very anxious.”

— Domestic violence survivor Karen (via theredheartcampaign)

[dealingwithiteveryday]

Literally just spoke to my therapist about this the other week.

[actualdogvines]

I cannot get over how cute this pup is

[dealingwithiteveryday]

I could watch this all day <3

[dealingwithiteveryday]

Reposting again… having a bad day and this puppy makes me sooo happy :)

[dealingwithiteveryday]

Reblogging again.. Lmfao when im sad this doggy makes me smile <3 sooo cute

[dealingwithiteveryday]

Again... lol

[babygirl-1972]

[dealingwithiteveryday]

Yes!!

[thegingerpowers]

SAFE SANE CONSENSUAL

Here’s the thing…if your partner (male or female) wants you to do something that makes you feel  very uncomfortable or unsafe, you have the right to say NO. I don’t care what your title/role is in the relationship. Your first duty is to your physical and mental safety.

Now I’m not saying that alphas shouldn’t try to help their subs overcome some of their fears or boundaries. That’s fine. But even then the goals of the couple should have been discussed and agreed upon beforehand. 

As for age being a consideration, do not make the assumption that an older alpha is obviously more experienced and knows what is best for you. That’s just crap on a cracker. No one knows your own body and mind better than you do. Pay attention if those red flags start flapping around your head.

My motto has always been “I’m a submissive…not your doormat. Go wipe your feet elsewhere.”

Stay safe, kids. You only have one life but if you do it right once is enough.

[dom9691]

Truth!

[kaldisrigger-blog]

Since we get lost so much in the fantasy of everything…..here is an anchor to tie off to and keep you from drifting too far….