#death2narcs

A creative project by the  #ALTBLAX collective xoxo

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“Within the lesbian community I am Black, and within the Black community I am a lesbian. Any attack against Black people is a lesbian and gay issue, because I and thousands of other Black women are part of the lesbian community. Any attack against lesbians and gays is a Black issue, because thousands of lesbians and gay men are Black. There is no hierarchy of oppression.”

- Audre Lorde, There is No Hierarchy of Oppression 

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#death2narcs, a playlist by Pauline on Spotify

dont hate the player. hate the Game xoxo

did u know that cats have the same mental health/brain as their parents!!!! dis is Arthur (in french).  my n-word is advannnnnncccceedddddtttt yalll and as i was typing this he turned up in my room..cheeky lil devil xoxo

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WAKE UP!!!! ATTENTION!!!! DEATH 2 RACISM = #DEATH2NARC

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You are your own teacher. Looking for teachers can’t solve your own doubts. Investigate yourself to find the truth – inside, not outside. Knowing yourself is most important.

Ajahn Chah

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Let go, or be dragged.

[wickedinside]

Until all of the emotions are accepted indiscriminately (and acceptance does not imply license to dump emotions irresponsibly or abusively), there can be no wholeness, no real sense of well being, and no solid sense of self esteem.

Pete Walker – Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving.

This quote perfectly separates healthy, vulnerable emotions, from unhealthy, attention-seeking emotions. Covert’s will attempt to become the biggest victim in the room, dump their emotions onto you, and say you “don’t care about them”(guilting/shaming, using your empathy against you) unless you accommodate, console, and take responsibility for their negative emotions.

   If someone is yelling/raging, physically/emotionally abusing you, and when you react hurt(rightfully so), they turn into a meek puppy(playing victim) and act like you hurt them? … it’s abuse.

   If they tell you it’s your fault, you baited their emotional outburst, thus you deserved it? It’s abuse.

   If they rage at you, abuse you, and tell you that if you don’t stay with them and argue it out, that they won’t feel loved? It’s abuse.

   If they attack, you tell them it hurt, and they suddenly drop to their knees acting like the victim until you console their feelings about “what a monster they are for hurting you”? And then your pain never gets addressed? It’s abuse.

   If someone is using you as a punching bag, and telling you that you have to endure their emotional outbursts, because “their love is just painful”? It’s abuse.

Coverts play the victim, and make you feel like it’s your responsibility to heal/fix/help them. But they don’t want help, they just want attention/compassion/love/care for being a victim, which they aren’t, but they’ll lie(REPEATEDLY), and gaslight(REPEATEDLY) to make it seem like you’re the aggressor, and they’re the vulnerable one.

They’re draining you dry, and they’ll never give back the same support and energy you gave to them. They’ll project, manipulate, and deflect taking any responsibility for the ways they’ve hurt you.

Even if you confront them, they’ll flip the conversation, or use the confrontation as yet another way to garner more negative supply. They’ll turn up the volume on how “terrible” they are for hurting you, and how desperately they want to do better, but “they don’t know how” and they “tried so hard” (even if they did nothing). It’s more victim play, they want you to feel bad for them that they’re “such a monster” for hurting you, and they’re looking for you to console them … again.

They’ll never actually see, address, or feel your emotions, they don’t care about your emotions. Run.

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STAY MAD!

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Please forgive me

Thank you.

I love you.

I see what you’re going through and

They understand you’re trying.

You had a touching, reconnecting moment.

A WhatsApp conversation with your cousin and Aunt.

She said you lifted her heart, Masha’Allah.

I am reminding you to have faith in your insight.

Coincidences are patterns.

Red flags/Intuition.

Energy never lies.

The Game: fear, manipulation, exploitation.

Do you get it?

“Don’t hate the player, hate the game” Astaghfirullah.

They’re proud that you are no longer a player my love.

Masha’Allah, you recognise that’s shit “banter.”

Sprouted by Bloody Vampires too!

What about “the game”?

“There is no ‘game’.”

“it’s just a bit of banter”

a Global Pandemic.

There can be no room for “hate” in

Life or Death.

But there is always room for playing in, and with

our Collective Consciousness

Alhamdulillah.

It’s easy to forget, but

always remember we are blessed with choice.

You never have to be a player.

In the second, fourth or eighth instance.

Choose love Insha’Allah.

“worry about yourself.”

so you’re better equipped with the

Capacity, to worry about your others.

We are, Collective Consciousness and so are They.

You must hold boundaries

and spaces of uttermost importance for your Self.

Allow yourself to be brave and feel

the healing of our Collective Consciousness.

Healing is a communal practise, a circular happening.

So,“Get in loser, we’re going Healing…”

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#death2narcs☠️💀☠️💀🧙🏿‍♀️🧙🏿‍♀️🧙🏿‍♂️🧙🏿‍♂️🧙🏿‍♂️🧚🏿‍♀️🧚🏿‍♂️ This is a call out for submissions for the creative project/ exploration/ poem titled #death2narcs (Narcissism). We invite you to share whatever you want to share, a photo, song , essay, poetry, recipes, paintings, words of encouragement, advice, food for thought that encourages DEATH TO NARCISSISM. #Death2Manipulation/#Death2Coercion/#Death2Gaslighting Why do narcs think they’re God? The intention of this body of work is to give life and love and give space for healing to those who’ve been parented by NARCS and/or who keep finding themselves with even more NARCS LOVE to connection, LOVE to kinship, LOVE to our bodies and our hearts As such we encourage safety, and we encourage #anonymous submissions if u wanna. We will turn this work into an online+print zine to be launched & exhibited in July/August featuring live performances from our contributors. Words that we’ve been thinking of from our experiences: Words of affirmation Tips for emotional self-regulation Care #Blackness Self Parenting #Sex #Intimacy Shadow selves #Balance Black parents #Celebration #Light #Depth Self mastery #Nurturing #Witch bitches LOVE #LOSS #colour #Sound Witch witch witch #Kindness #Queerness #Boundaries #Therapy #Grief #Empathy #Apology #Remedies #Skin #SelfCare #Forgiveness #Healing Submissions open till Friday June 19 2020. It’s quarantine and we want to give you (and low key us) time to put your submissions together in an organic and gentle manner that encourages your creative expression. We hate productivity capitalist bullshit. If you have any questions/clarifications dm: @urloveisdead/@itmenoni Email submissions to: [email protected] & for anonymous submissions head to our tumblr xoxo Art work by the magical Tessie @turningorange✨✨✨✨✨ https://www.instagram.com/p/CAMCNqZntGO/?igshid=fp7xn0d4cpak