Demisexuality vs. The World
The definition of demisexuality: not experiencing sexual attraction without a strong emotional bond.
The world: That's what regular people do.
Reality: What allosexuals do is find someone sexually attractive and get to know the person, most likely via dating for a relative amount of time, to determine if they're worth a relationship and/or having sex with. Thus, the results determine the action, not the attraction, which was already there.
For a demisexual, the results of interactions with a potential partner determine the attraction, which was not there already. So things like flirting aren't really going to get our attention because we haven't established a sexual attraction for the flirter.
There's a "but" coming:
Even if a demisexual happens to develop a strong enough bond with another person, it doesn't necessarily mean they will become sexually attracted to them, but they might be more open to intimacy with them.
Personally, unless we have had an honest, engaging conversation that makes me interested in seeing you more often, I won't say yes to a date, even if I find you aesthetically attractive; and more often than not, I will be turned off if the conversation swings toward my body or sex. First impressions reveal first intentions.
