- right but men are statistically more likely to be murdered, so why can’t he talk about feeling insecure about walking at night when he’s more likely to be murdered than you are? Why can’t you talk about how you’re afraid to be raped and he talk about how he’s afraid of being murdered without you thinking he’s “talking over you without taking your side into consideration”? That kinda sounds like exactly what you’re doing to him. Why is your fear more important than his? And, also, because men are more likely to be attacked, that means his chances of getting murdered are greater than your chances of getting raped. Why is your fear of rape more important? And just because women are more likely to be raped, doesn’t mean men aren’t at risk of getting raped. Why can’t you both be afraid? Why does your fear have to be the bigger issue? And just because you’re afraid of specifically being raped doesn’t mean that rings true for all women and therefore feminism is necessary. I’m a woman and not specifically afraid of rape and I don’t understand why being specifically afraid of rape deserves a social movement. If we need social movements for these kinds of things, then shouldn’t men also get one for their insecurities about being specifically murdered when walking at night? Besides, being cautious walking alone at night is a good habit because criminals exist. And even though women are statistically more likely to be raped the statistical chances of you getting raped while walking at night are very low.
- no the fact that you see a man follow you and automatically assume he is going to rape you is not why you need feminism. I would say feminism would only make that problem worse because it perpetuates that kind of thinking. You just seem to have paranoia of rape and that fact that you automatically assume a guy is going to rape you is not a social issue, it’s a personal one. Most guys aren’t rapists so there’s no reason to live in fear of being raped.
- is that what your school said? Your school used some form of the phrase “you can’t wear clothes that reveal your shoulders because it’s distracting boys”? Or are you just assuming that’s the reason?
- well, i can’t speak to your family and why your mom does the things she does, but your family is not representative of the norm. I don’t know where you live or what it’s like there, but, in general, most parents would have some level of concern about their children going out alone at night, whether they are boys or girls, and would have rules about it and make sure they have some form of protection with them. It’s smart to carry pepper spray with you, whether you’re male or female. Besides, I would argue that it’s feminism that created this problem in the first place and would only make situations like this more frequent.
- no that’s not normal behavior for boys, it’s normal for kids. That’s what feminism told you was normal behavior for boys and that they aren’t taught that no is her final answer. Feminism does a huge disservice to men and boys in this area, thinking they aren’t taught about consent and all that but it’s just not true. It’s really unfair to just say this “normal behavior” for boys. Your experiences aren’t the rule. I’ve had experiences where I’ve told boys I don’t want to dance and they were very respectful about it. Your experience is not what’s normal. And it’s not because they are boys either. Some people will respect it, some won’t. This goes for girls too. It can be even worse with girls sometimes because feminism teaches them they will always be on the receiving end and won’t be the aggressor but it’s just not true.
- yeah i agree that what that dude was inappropriate and he was being a jerk and his family should have said something to him, but this is not a social issue. You’re using this to advocate for feminism as if this is representative of society and it’s not. There could be a number of different reasons why his family said nothing, and you’re just assuming well it must be because of the idea that “boys will be boys”. And yeah, in this instance it was a guy being a jerk. I mean do guys always barge into the room when you’re in the shower or was this a unique circumstance? Feminism is not the solution to this.
- how do you know they are raised to keep on going when someone says no? i mean do you literally think they are taught by the adults in their life that when someone says no, you can just keep going? I’ve known a lot of boys in my life and not a single one of them was taught that. I really don’t like it when people say boys aren’t taught about consent because, once again, it’s just true. Just because some people don’t respect consent doesn’t mean they weren’t taught about it. Maybe it happening to you and your friends every time you go out has something to do with the places you go and the environments there because that’s not representative of a societal norm. And you can’t use personal experience to argue that it is because everyone’s experience are different. You can’t just attribute something like that to men in general just because it’s been your experience.
I really don’t think any of this is sexism or inequality. And feminism is a movement that is full of double standards and really, in its practice, doesn’t do much for equality so I don’t know what it would accomplish in these instances. For the most part, I would say feminism is responsible for creating most of these problems in the first place.