bringing this back because it's pride month and people are saying i'm trying to "divide the community." motherfucker everyone in the queer and trans communities shit on transfems all the time and you want me to act like there isn't already a division? no one gets to pretend like everything's okay when the people who are supposed to be our allies are transmisogynists. everyone is already biased against us. do you know how sickening it is to see random people in my fucking community so easily and readily go along with any accusation against transfems, no matter how absurd or unsubstantiated? do you know how sickening it is that the people i'm supposed to lean on are the ones painting us as predators and monsters and threats for no other reason than "the vibes were off"?
i'll stop being biased for transfems when there's no longer a need. i'll stop when people actually treat us like people and not some fucking underclass they unfortunately have to include. hell, it would be a leap forward for aspiring allies to even so much as acknowledge that we're treated this way, instead of living in a fantasy that we're doing just as well or unwell as anyone else. so long as the status quo continues, the community is already divided. try working with us instead of pretending we're making shit up if you want me to stop being a bitch about it.
As if summoned to prove my point, in the last few hours i got a hearty handful of replies and asks calling me a dumb bitch, saying I'm evil/hateful/transphobic, saying I'm literally oppressing transmascs transmascs, and accusing me of being "male-brained". Every message I got touched on at least two of those points at once btw.
All of this because I said essentially two things. 1, transfems are abused by the rest of the queer/trans community. 2, I'm not gonna be nice about it until it stops. I've yet to find anyone who actually tries to argue that without demonstrating that they just don't like transfems. Every single time their support for transfems is conditional that we're passive friendly doormats who just go along with whatever the wider community wants. of course i'm fucking angry, that's the rational response to this kind of injustice and inequality. the question is why the fuck aren't more people angry with me?
SURE, I CAN LEGALLY MARRY MY WIFE RIGHT NOW, BUT IN DOING SO BOTH OF US WILL HAVE OUR DISABILITY BENEFITS CUT AND WE WILL THEN BE STRUGGLING FINANCIALLY.
THAT IS MARRIAGE INEQUALITY
WE, AS DISABLED PEOPLE, ARE PREVENTED FROM BEING MARRIED OR WE WILL BE FUCKED FINANCIALLY
and yeah as i add to all of these kinds of posts because a lot of people on this site assume it's an american problem - it's not! it exists in every country i've talked to someone from on here, which is quite a few
(and personally as someone from aotearoa nz it's not even just marriage, the second you admit to being in a relationship you get less money on the assumption your partner will support you, if you and your partner are both on disability benefits you get to have one benefit between you)
i'm already only paid half the national minimum wage as someone who cannot work at all, not even part time
if i am suspected to be dating someone my situation goes from 'just about floating along with my head above water as long as i don't buy many luxuries' to 'calculator out in the grocery store trying to eat'
disabled people do not have anything close to marriage equality
As a principled feminist I'm often tempted to say shit like "are men capable of higher thought" but then I have to remember not to perpetuate gender essentialism and change it to "why do men choose not to think about anything"
when you’re a gay lion and you accidentally tried to introduce your lesbian lioness friend to one of her own exes at a gay bar and she goes into the bathroom and bitches you out for not being able to tell her endlessly rotating cast of girlfriends apart which isn’t really fair because first of all they all keep dyeing their hair different colors and second of all she keeps getting back together with different ones at different times and meanwhile you’ve been “single” for like 8 months but are spending a lot of time with one specific guy who works at your old co-op and were going to excitedly tell her about it tonight but now you’ve ruined the whole subject of dating by trying to introduce her to her own ex at a gay bar (which is a watering hole. because you’re lions.)
call me crazy but i think public transportation should explicitly also be for actively drunk/high people. so they don’t, you know, drive under the influence.
i literally don’t care how afraid you are of drunk people. if they’re behaving well enough then there’s no reason to kick them off the bus.
if you can’t recognize it’s better for society for drunk people to have a way home that doesn’t involve them driving and potentially getting people killed then you just kind of suck actually.
hi! maybe you know me or maybe you don't. i'm an aging disabled genderqueer who has been living on this site for ages. i've shat posts, written poems, made music & videos too. i also host a few tumblr communities like my book club.
i have been unable to work for a while & am currently surviving in a low income apartment with help from family support, weekly plasma donations, commission orders & pawning old items. i am in a tighter spot than ever now with little help from assisted living services so far.
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