[tomberi-no]

[pastelmoth-deactivated20120712]

“Please do not enter the garden area.”

[parakavka]

[saddestbpd]

someone I dislike: *likes something that I like*

Me: great, now, it’s ruined

[chessys]

im not trying my hardest but im very tired which i think should be taken into consideration

[the-galactic-pretty-boy]

You guys have been blessed on this day

[shatteredresiliency]

Do's and Don't's for helping someone through a PTSD flashback!

So personally I have PTSD. Everyone has different coping skills and ways of getting through their flashbacks, and these are some of the things that help me, personally. Feel free to add anything you think night be helpful and feel free to reblog to help those who also struggle with this horrible mental illness.

DO’s: *separate the person from a large group. Large groups personally make everything worse. Get them to a quiet, secluded area as quickly and as quietly as you can, it will decrease anxiety so fast.

*give the person an ice cube to hold. The cold is painful enough that it brings the oersons senses back to reality and out of their flashback, but it isn’t too damaging.

*talk to the person,if they are willing, about what they are seeing. Remind that person in soft and quiet tones that you are not their abuser, and that they are safe.

*ask for permission before you touch them!!! Personally if someone I don’t know touches me when I’m having a flashback I get so much worse. If I haven’t given you permission to touch me DO NOT DO IT!

*give the person a distraction. Be it a quiet cartoon, soft classical music. Something calming and not too overstimulating.

DON’T’S

*DON’T speak in a loud voice. This makes us think you are angry, or upset that we are having an episode. It will make an even worse and I will find the closest thing to hide under.

*DON’T raise your hands or move too quickly. My biggest fear during an episode is that I’m going to be hit so seeing raised arms or fast movements will scare me really badly.

*DON’T tell the person that it’s all in their head. This is not only redundant but it makes us feel even stupider and more vulnerable.

*DON’T panic yourself. I know that helping us through our episode can be stressful but please do not panic. It will set us off even harder. I feel more vulnerable and susceptible to others emotions and if you panic, I will too.

Just some useful stuff that personally helps me. As I said feel free to add to this or reblog it to maybe help someone else. C:

[azulons]

Reblog this if you want to go on a field trip with Zuko

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Someone recently told me that they have no interest in gardening or growing things, because they’re “too busy growing myself,” which was odd to hear as a person who gardens and who studies plants as part of my major. So of course being stubborn and contrarian as I am…

A few things that I’ve learned from plants:

Moderation & Balance; Plants watered frequently cannot extend their roots as they are never exposed to drought; when water is scarce, they will whither, while the ones that have grown accustomed to drought last throughout. Excesses in any one resource will only decrease survival.

Letting go; Plants will continue to grow so long as their enclosure increases in size. One that is confined will either remain small in its enclosure, or, depending on the species, will reserve its resources in order to search for more hospitable environments through suckling/runners/etc., abandoning its home and mother plant in the process.

Prudence & Patience; Plants are frugal in their use of resources and reserves, and will choose to abscise parts of themselves in order to conserve energy for growth when it is most opportune. A seed will disperse and sprout only when all environmental conditions are met for growth to occur. Timing is everything.

Adaptation: Plants that encounter obstacles do not cease to grow, but will use these obstacles as bolsters or break through them with the use of their root systems in order to expand and acquire more resources.

Cooperation; Plants employ the aid of other plants, animals, and fungi in obtaining nutrients, reproduction, dispersal, and acquiring protection (e.g. acacia trees). Cooperation increases rather than decreases as a result of more competitive environments with scarce resources.

[secretotaku]

[officialcrow]

dumbass with sword found dead with 2 gunshot wounds

[yulpup-deactivated20180604]

[goingtobed-deletedhahahabye-dea]

This is fake. HOWEVER,

This Chinese lesbian billionaire couple, is real. 

This is GiGi Chao (right) and her Wife, Sean Eav (left). Chao’s father was offering a TON of money to any man who’d marry his daughter, and she publicly responded saying she would marry a man when he does. #iconic. Read the links for more!

[fenrir-kin]

much better

[tikkunolamorgtfo]

Okay, but why would you use that picture when this amazing photo of Sean and Gigi with their dogs exists: 

[captainlordauditor]

OMG

[dollsahoy]

OK, this is the version I reblog.

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[berryterror]

psa

this isnt terribly new info but i wanna mention it anyway! ivanka trump’s clothing line was having trouble selling bc of the family’s huge drop in popularity, so they secretly renamed the brand Adrienne Vittadini

if you dont wanna support the trump family/ivanka, keep an eye on what ur buyin fam :)

[identificat]

a roadtrip where you get to see all the friends youve made online

[gabite]

what about your friends overseas?

[identificat]

[cptsdead]

170416/domestic violence

[deletedaccount2489]

depression: hi you're now addicted to anything that makes you feel better

[pirorii-deactivated20171231]

reblog if you would happily date/have sex with/touch/be intimate with/marry/have some kind of special relationship with/etc. a person who was sexually assaulted or abused

dont add on to this post please

[lora-mathis]

Emotional abuse works like this: You are screamed at, and then, not knowing any better, you stand up for yourself. You think this is a way of being strong. You think this is a defense tactic.But this only provokes more screaming. Going silent provokes more screaming too, but usually it keeps the threats to the minimum. It keeps it just at screaming and not: a shove down the stairs, or order to pack your stuff and get out. So you learn how to go silent. How to play dead. How to cry without making a noise. How to swallow noise. How to wipe your cheeks, get out of the car, and go about your day. You learn. And when the screaming has stopped, when the two of you are in the car or out to dinner and they’re all smiles, all asking for favors, all questions, you are still hurt and annoyed and want to ask them, how? How can you speak to me like that? How can you pretend you did not say those things? How can you have forgotten? But you’ve learned. So you listen to, “Can I borrow your key”s and “how was your day”s and you play dead. You swallow the noise. And sometimes it doesn’t matter who is speaking to you, it doesn’t matter if they’re a friend, it doesn’t matter if their criticism is constructive, it doesn’t matter. You’ve learned. Any sort of speaking, any raising of the voice, any insult and you play dead.

Good Girl, Lora Mathis (via lora-mathis)