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hey ive been noticing a lot of randomly flagged posts, please follow me on bluesky in case i die. mutuals can ask for my discord.

demonsteapot

if ur on them, follow me on itch.io, or neocities, or fuckin youtube. remember my damn name. i will not be forgotten

#bernadette rambles

demonsteapot

sorry i take the shittiest tiniest tag screenshots known to man also sorry for lying about being sorry for that because i'm not

demonsteapot

i wss bored yesterday

demonsteapot

feeling aimless 2day

did you know there are bisexual flowers and they’re perfect

boganjunkrat-deactivated2017011

it says so right there in my bio textbook i would never lie to you

thefaginogion

perfect (bisexual)

negrocops

reblog if you are a perfect bisexual, support perfect bisexuals, or just really love flowers

demonsteapot

"may your death benefit all beings"

alkemylabz

sometimes trying to be more social and talk to people u know are already in an established friend group feels like

#me every Single day of my life

daughter-of-sapph0

"you shouldn't speculate on a dead person's gender"

no one needs you to protect the inherent assumed cisness of someone who very obviously didn't fit the mold of what cis men are expected to act like, who died far too young and never got the chance to tell us how they identify as, who ended their own life the way so many trans women closeted and otherwise do due to transmisogyny.

instead of getting mad that someone said Kurt Cobain was a trans woman, instead ask yourself why being a trans woman is a fate worse than suicide in your eyes.

i-am-cybersmith

That's a really bad idea, OP.

What's good for the goose is good for the gander; do you want people speculating that YOU were not actually the gender you say you are when YOU die?

Respect people's privacy and dignity. Let the dead retain what they chose not to share in life.

Kurt Cobain was a cisgender man, to say otherwise is to violate the pirvacy of someone who has no means of fighting back.

daughter-of-sapph0

1) if i died of suicide before i was able to fully come out, and the people who knew me best understood that while i might not have had the language to describe i probably would've been a trans woman if i had lived longer, then i would 100% with them posthumously calling me a trans woman.

2) people speculate on dead people's gender and sexuality all the time. there are people throughout history who, while not using the exact words we use today, would have been the equivalent of gay, lesbian, asexual, transmasc. why is it only offensive when people talk about someone possibly being a trans woman?

3) "no means of fighting back"? being a trans woman isn't an insult or an attack. if anything its a compliment and a mark of pride and honor. what does it say about you that you think someone is lesser for being labeled as a trans woman?

4) i think cybersmith disagreeing with me just proves my point even more

i-am-cybersmith

1: if you died of suicide, that would be a choice. I would respect the decision you made to take any private doubts or secrets with you to the grave.

2: some people do. I don't approve of that, this isn’t a double standard; I don't like it when people say that Achilles or Oscar Wilde were attracted to men, I think that is also wrong.

3: that's an opinion the drad person might not share.

4: Ad Hominem!!!

daughter-of-sapph0

1: so if i didn't publicly state "i am a transgender woman" anywhere publicly, but i implied as much privately to my friends and expressed wanting to be a woman, you would misgender me even in death?

2: so why is cishet the default in your eyes?

3: then thats part of a larger societal issue of systemic transmisogyny. maybe instead of conforming to it, start to work on your own internal biases.

4: lmaoooooo

red-mercer

Why would anyone argue with HPG? He's HPG, he's already lost. Or else it's someone pretending to be the original HPG, which is so sad as to beggar belief

daughter-of-sapph0

idk. its funny ig?

plus if other people see this post and get mad that i called Cobain a trans woman (which she is), they have to contend with the fact that they're siding with him.

#i know this is human pet guy talking but WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU THINK OSCAR FUCKING WILDE WASN'T ATTRACTED TO MEN

daughter-of-sapph0

ah yes, the false binary of everyone who is a trans woman, and everyone else who is not a trans woman.

just like the evil oppressive binary of gingers vs non gingers. or left handed people vs everyone else. or people from Baltimore vs people who aren't from Baltimore. or Ryan Gosling vs every single other human being on the planet.

you people lost the plot on why the gender binary is bad. you think that its oppressive because there's just two categories. not that its oppressive because its a symptom of the patriarchy to abuse women, promote misogyny, and punish nonconformaty.

you hate the number two, instead of hating oppositional sexism. you have no understanding of basic gender theory, and are identical to the common transmisogynist.

so of course you loose your fucking minds when you are presented with a short hand that means "people primarily affected by transmisogyny, which includes trans women, transfems, nonbinary people, intersex people, genderqueer people, both who have and haven't fully come out yet. VS. cis men. trans men. cis women. nonbinary people. intersex people. genderqueer people. closeted and otherwise. of all orientations. and literally every other person who wasn't identified in the first category"

dodykeahedron

People who hate TMA/TME, ask yourselves this:

Do you hate the disabled/non-disabled dichotomy or are you just a transmisogynist.

Do you hate the queer/cishet dichotomy or are you just a transmisogynist.

Do you hate the neurotypical/neurodivergent dichotomy or are you just a transmisogynist.

Do you hate the white/non-white dichotomy or are you just a transmisogynist.

Do you hate the intersex/perisex dichotomy or are you just a transmisogynist.

decompose1

girls i know accusations of racism can occasionally be falsely leveraged against trans women in order to discredit them and this Is Bad but this does notttt actually mean that you can just ignore the racism in the community like it doesn't exist. because racism exists in all communities and lately it is Nightmarish to be a nonwhite doll. i have experienced really glaring racism in several transfem spaces and there's been this really kind of awful attitude or like idea enforced that i shouldn't talk about it because speaking up could socially murder another tgirl. and that's really bad. that's really really bad. like it's really bad that i'm hesitant to even post this because of the scrutiny we're under. and yes the fact that it is so dangerous to speak up is because of the massive amounts of surveillance & transmisogyny we're facing but that just CAN'T mean racism gets a pass, okay? BIPOC girls are not expendable and you can't keep throwing us under the bus.

but i know calls to action without any kind of instruction aren't very helpful so here are some tips that i think you can easily do yourself with your own circles:

1) Staring off simple: Look around. Are there any BIPOC girls in your friend group, or are all of you white? Why? Do you often joke about everyone in your friend group being white? Why is that funny?

What to do: Examine why there are no people of color in your group. Examine why people of color may not be comfortable enough to hang out with you & your friends. Correct these, where possible. Do some reading on anti-racism. Talk to more people.

2) Examine how you talk about people of color & racism. Are you downplaying racism in your community? Are you treating women of color as dramatic or unreasonable for bringing it up? Do you find yourself only defending white dolls, always defending them from claims of racism, but never defending BIPOC dolls? Why?

What to do: Think about why you care more about accusations of racism than protecting the women of color in your community. Make sure you're making your space safe for BIPOC girls. Speak openly and loudly about anti-racism. Hold your sisters accountable- they should be apologizing when they say or do something wrong.

3) This one might sound silly, but as we often meet each other over fandom and roleplay- how are nonwhite characters treated in your circle? Are they always aggressive, angry, or antagonistic? Do you find yourself putting nonwhite characters in more roles like cops, dictators, sex pests, etc?

Additionally: If your circle shares sexual content, is there a lot of art where there's a pale/blonde character on the bottom, and a darker character on top? Are you and your friends always drawing darker characters as more dominant, more sexually aggressive, or promiscuous, while the white/pale characters are more innocent, submissive, modest, or clueless?

What to do: Examine how the way your group approaches fandom & art with nonwhite characters in it may make people of color uncomfortable. Examine why your art may make people of color feel unsafe or awkward hanging out with you. It's not wrong to have the occasional character of color be more antagonistic or dominant, but it's a problem when this is a pattern. If it's happening All The Time, question why!

4) Be honest with yourself: Did this post make you feel defensive? Does it make you feel defensive when people say something you did was racist? Why?

If a person of color tells you your actions were racist, they trust you to improve. I don't tell people they're being racist if i think they're going to hurt me for bringing it up. I know many like me. Don't prove us wrong- take these criticisms into account and work on it. You aren't cursed to be some kind of terrible bigot forever because you messed up- panicking without action is useless. Just be sure you examine the behavior in question and work to prevent this kind of thing from happening again. Okay?

I believe all these things are easy enough to check with yourself & your friends. Please work on making yourself & your group safe for girls who aren't white.