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#I’ve reblogged this before but I need it to pin to my blog lol djdjdjd #junmyeon #save

Only you would be able to tell this for sure because you're the one speaking to them, but if it were me and she not only reached out to the other two but also let them meet the baby while not responding to me, then I'd take it that she's not my friend anymore and just doesn't want to tell me. Otherwise, why exclude me and me alone? I'm sorry that happened to you. I'd be so hurt.

Yeah it’s honestly such a weird situation and I’m feeling very lost. I feel like I’m being punished for something but I don’t know what. The last time I saw her was her baby shower and that was a lovely time where nothing bad happened and she seemed happy to see me. I feel like I must be at fault for “not checking in enough” or something but it’s not like I never did and I truly didn’t know what her boundary was because she seemed to be keeping her new motherhood private….

In a weird sense I feel almost angrier with my two friends that met the baby, more than her. I’ve been told over and over that having a new baby makes you act odd sometimes and to give my friend grace so I’m trying, even if it hurts. But something feels really off with the way my two other friends seem to be in deep and close communication with her in a separate group chat without me. I thought I was actually closer with those two particular women but apparently not if they actively want to exclude me and arrange plans to meet the baby deliberately around me.

Regardless, I’ve also been irritated because I keep hearing the advice to “go pop by and help my friend or ask if you can bring her a meal, be more proactive”. I’m two hours away on transit. I don’t have 4+ random hours available at any given time to randomly go help her. I could definitely 100% arrange a visit with her that was more meaningful but I literally cannot randomly pop by to do chores for her.

#anyway thanks for listening to my rant!#I feel so lost and like this is somehow my fault #and maybe there is some social cue I missed but I genuinely don’t know what and why I’m being punished so deeply for it #with her being SO silent and non communicative I figured she wanted space while dealing with her huge life change #and maybe I was wrong??? but I don’t know

i am in the weirdest and most unpleasant social situation with my main friend group right now that i don't understand the social rules to and it's making me sooooooooooooo upset lol

#honestly feel like i'm on the verge of losing all of them lol #(just for reference for this story we all live spaced out from each other. i don't drive so i have to take transit that takes a long time)#(like for this story i am about 2 hours away from my friend on transit)#so anyway she was pregnant and due to have her baby recently #i felt like i was appropriately excited and told her so in a group chat we all had #but then i didn't hear back for a long time #about a week #and assumed that she had NOT had the baby yet #then when i visited two of my other friends who are also her friend #they told me that she'd had the baby 5 days prior and she'd sent them photos #i was shocked and obviously a little disappointed and they noticed #but ultimately i figured maybe she was just dealing with new mom stuff #so then then a day or two later she finally posts pics into the group chat of the new baby #i once again warmly tell her how beautiful baby is and how excited i am #then nothing again #and now I've found out a week later that my first original two friends have visited new baby and i was flat out excluded #i'm baffled #i don't know what to make of it #i don't have a lot of friends with babies so I don't always know the precise amount of fawning or checking in i should be doing #like genuinely #i wasn't really aware that i was meant to be separately messaging her to be checking #especially when i honestly assumed she wanted space which was clearly incorrect but i didn't know that #but the thing is #we always used the group chat for everything #i don't even think i have a separate conversation going with that friend #so i guess i also wrongfully assumed that the line of communication regarding the baby would also be there #but i'm so off-put at being excluded and feel resentful #when i feel i was at best socially clumsy but tried to reiterate that i was excited about baby #so anyway

hylianengineer

There is one very important thing I need people without major dietary restrictions to understand: the distress caused by allergies, celiac disease, and other food restrictions is largely not about the food.

Do I miss some foods I can't eat anymore without getting sick? Sure, but that's not what really bothers me. What bothers me is being excluded from a huge portion of human social life of which food is a crucial component. What bothers me is the stress and social stigma of trying to figure out what I can safely eat. What bothers me is the amount of extra work and cost that is required of me to identify, obtain, and prepare safe foods. What bothers me is people treating my needs like a nuisance, as though I chose to be like this - as though their brief inconvenience to check an ingredients list is unreasonable, when I deal with this every day of my life forever.

I don't miss the food that much. I miss not having to worry about what I eat. I miss freedom. I miss when trying new foods and new restaurants was fun instead of a minefield. I miss not having to plan my entire life around the need for safe foods.

Food is such a basic human need, and a lot of people don't really need to think about it. When your danger foods can be anywhere and everywhere, suddenly your entire life revolves around avoiding them, and it massively sucks. You get used to it and it's not a big deal most of the time, but then you go to a new restaurant, or your office has a potluck, or you've been invited to a party and suddenly it feels just as miserable and exhausting as it ever has.

#I’ve been a ‘food allergy kid’ all my life #and lemme tell you it’s always been isolating. all the time #friends straight up saying to me:#’can you not come get dinner with us then and meet us later if you can’t eat at this place’#etc etc #I can’t travel because most other places don’t rlly understand my allergy #and I can’t risk it with the language barrier #and truly nothing worse than showing up to a birthday party #and someone says I know you can’t eat cake. so I got you an apple

Okay our collective man Denj be looking fine as hell here 😶😶😶

#people on Reddit complaining about it and I’m like LALALALALA I DONT HEAR YOU #csm #chainsaw man #denji #csm spoilers

you know I’ve had a really weird thing happen lately where I’ve had several of my friends randomly get into BTS and by extension kpop because they heard BTS’s new album, and to be clear this is not any sort of damnation on BTS because I’m a fan and I liked the album too but I’m sitting here like damn genuinely what the fuck. I’ve been a kpop fan/stan etc for about a decade now and I’ve genuinely tried to offer them kpop throughout the years, they know it’s like my special interest and I’m a huge fan with a massive kpop collection and multiple concerts under my belt but they’ve always resisted me on kpop or even made fun of me and said the music is bad or lame or weird. But suddenly out of no where they’re contacting me and asking me the most basic questions about BTS and asking if I’ve heard, like, LALALA by the Stray Kids before, and I’m actually genuinely sitting here like it was SWIM that brought you to this point???

#like I actually feel furious lol #less so with one of my friends because she never made fun of me and is fairly open to music #I actually even took her to an Eric Nam concert once LOL #but I still am like…girl the golden age of kpop is OVERRRR #where were you all when the vast majority of kpop was GOOD #also asking me if I’ve heard basic famous kpop songs is crazy to me when I once attended a DKB concert that had about 80 attendees lmfao

komakim

Tatsuki fujimoto….

Awesome! No takebacks!

#my cutiesssss #asaden

butting-ston

I love these losers very dearly

#it could have been OUR Asaden 💔#they’re my everything #asaden

hometoursandotherstuff

#gold ship

aretheybisexual

Are they bi based on vibes?

Ryuji Sakamoto / Skull from Persona 5 (game)

Yeah, he's bi!

I could see it

No, but he is queer

Nah, he is straight

Gimmie the results

Voting ended onMay 8

Propaganda:

#absolutely 💛 my goat #ryuji sakamoto

the-polyhedron

How many people’s most beloved childhood stuffed animals are actually teddy bears, like I feel like that’s a thing someone made up. Reblog this and put what your longest owned and/or favorite stuffed animal as a child was in the tags, inquiring minds want to know

iridescent-birds

ok I wanna make a poll now

What was your most beloved plushie as a child?

Bear

Dog

(Domestic) cat

Big cat

Equine (horse/zebra/donkey)

Rabbit/bunny

Sheep/lamb

Sea creature

Other domesticated animal

Other wild animal

Fantasy creature

Not an animal

Voting ended onApr 15

(I know this isn't the most even way to represent animal groups but I tried to go off of what I saw mentioned most in the notes)

Reblogs for sample size appreciated!

#he's a beaver :)#I still have him of course his name is Billy #my second favourite stuffy is an old 1980's plush of ET. like the alien #so I guess that's fantasy creature

sadomiasochasm

Do you have an evil uncle

yes

Voting ended onApr 9

#ehhh…no. one of them is sorta off but def not evil #I have an evil cousin!!!

now mark has left NCT?

#damn what is going on in kpop lol

Ohhh

#tumblr snek

soup-mother

If you liked [Media] you'll absolutely love [worst representation of the genre ever that people keep suggesting because it's popular]

#me when people know I’m a kpop fan and then ask earnestly if I like kpop demon hunters #I’m like…no…#first of all it’s a kids movie and I’m just generally not into that #second it’s like the most bastardized version of ‘kpop’ ever #the songs are super bland and just sound like a mostly English conglomeration of each kpop genre/style #and I get so mad that the whole plot of the movie is like ‘be yourself!!!!💜’#when the kpop industry actively tries to crush that #ANYWAYS….

boltlightning

can everyone do me a favor and tell me your favorite thing to put on toast in the tags

boltlightning

i love this post so much. all the replies are like

"i'm so basic.....i just like a lot of butter or jam :(" (as though those are not god's best and most beloved condiments and his greatest gifts to mankind)

"FUCK health guidelines FUCK my cholesterol and most importantly FUCK diet culture i'll put a dumpster full of butter on my toast and not even GOD will stop me" (no notes. god would encourage this)

doxxing one's self by mention of polarizing regional delicacies (i am so curious about vegemite i must admit)

"does a grilled cheese count as toast?" (not for the purposes of this post)

"i don't like toast please don't kill me" (i appreciate the honesty but i fear this post is not for you)

people who put full ass meals on toast (based)

people who do not but eat toast as a full meal (based)

melty peanut butter (absolutely based)

"it's a guilty pleasure but...nutella 😳" (relieve yourself of fear and enjoy your dessert toast)

special shoutout to the pots-havers adding extra salt. also the one person who mentioned kaya. i see you and am in agreement

#toast is actually my biggest Autism Food #ive had the same toast for breakfast ALMOST every single day for 25 years straight #unless i'm very very sick or forced to go out to eat for breakfast #it's a single slice of toast with butter and nutella on it #very very important that the butter is completely melted and coats the toast from every edge #and the nutella must coat the toast as well #none of this piddly single swipe of spread shit #i would go to war for this food

cityelf

Hey satisfy my random curiosity

How often do you use an elevator?

Daily

A few times a week

A few times a month

Maybe a few times a year

Nuance/bald/trapped in a void before the invention of electricity

Voting ended onMar 28

cityelf

Okay, first off I was not expecting this to breach containment of my immediate following so that’s pretty cool

Secondly it’s hilarious seeing the tags go from “how the fuck is a few times a year winning I use one every day” to “I haven’t seen an elevator since 1962” every few reblogs

#actually yeah how the fuck is the first one 42% that’s WILD #every day #I live in an apartment and my work has one too

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